What does it really take to nurture a leader? Our Senior Consultant, Andy Lim, draws on his years in the youth and education space to unpack this question. In this reflection, he challenges the belief that “leaders are born” and instead shares stories and lessons from his own journey that highlight how leadership can be intentionally developed. From painting a vision to tapping on social networks and creating the right environment, Andy invites us to rethink the way we support young people stepping up to lead.

Senior Consultant
Leaders are not born, they are nurtured.
Where do you stand in this age-old debate? Are the outstanding leaders of our times born into greatness? Or do they have greatness thrust upon them as they grew and developed? Most of us know the answer to this and I'm not here to rewrite the narrative. What I'm hoping to do is to share my personal experiences on this topic and I do hope you would indulge me in my monologue.
Having been in the youth and education space my entire career, I’m a firm believer of the latter. A decade as a tertiary educator has given me sufficient data points to believe that leaders can be intentionally developed through a mix of personal, people and environmental factors. Allow me to share how these come into play through 3 separate stories. I'll leave you as the reader to decide how these will look like in your own leadership journey.
Unlocking the Leader in Everyone
In some sense, it does not discriminate against the basis of leadership. Regardless of whether you are uniting others for the purpose of personal greed and world domination, or to drive greater social impact and good in the world, you are a leader in your own rights. Influence, in this case, can either be positive or negative. It is up to the individual on how they choose to exert their influence and the radius of their influence. Once we are in agreement on this, it is then undeniable that everyone can be a leader as everyone has influence! The difference lies in how effectively we exert it.
As such, I have always felt the argument of needing prior leadership experiences as a prerequisite to stepping up as a leader is extremely flawed. While experiences are useful in helping us better identify ways in which we can be more effective as a leader, it should never be a limiting factor to discriminate against a candidate. Unfortunately, how often have we seen this belief being held in the schools or organisations we are in? How can we thus help young people denounce this limiting belief? How can we denounce our own limiting beliefs of young people? In my experience, if a young person is willing to step up to lead, there are 3 things we can do to support them in their journey.

The Endless Immensity of the Sea
This favourite quote of mine above comes from Antoine de Sait-Exupery, the author of The Little Prince. What is the “endless immensity of the sea” that you can paint for them such that students take action on their own? In most cases, students are accustomed to teachers telling them what to do. We guide them through the workings of solving a mathematical problem, or share with them the PEEL framework in crafting a paragraph for their essays. While these are great for helping them academically, it does not do much in developing them as leaders. So instead of breaking it down step-by-step, because honestly, I don’t believe in there being a recipe for leadership, how can we develop leaders?
I’ve had the honour of working with several sports captains during my time as a teacher and one individual whom I spent a significant amount of time mentoring. I shared with her the image of the leader I believed she could be, even though at that time, she did not see herself in that light. Even amidst the difficulties of managing her team and juggling her academic pursuits, I would like to think that my guidance gave her the courage to persevere and chart her path. This experience left a lasting impression, as it revealed just how powerful a clear vision can be when articulated well.
How often do we as educators spend time with our student leaders helping them articulate their visions for their leadership journeys? Do you find yourself defaulting to telling the child what needs to be done instead? While it might be the more “efficient" way, it doesn’t always derive the best results for the student.

Tap on Social Networks
What makes us human, more than anything, is that we are hopelessly social creatures. The world we live in necessitates interaction between others, and as John Donne expounded so many years ago, “No man is an island”. Even though this was published in 1624, it is still valid in today's context. Pairing this with the feeling of wonder — the realisation that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own, and we get a recipe for short-circuiting learning.
In my time as a teacher in-charge of the Students’ Council, I've often emphasised on the importance of being able to conduct proper handovers and having the time and space for the graduating cohort to articulate their experiences and share these with their successors. When left to their own devices, what I observed was that most seniors would share templates and other official documentations. These are definitely useful to help an incoming leader get a better sense of the work that they are undertaking, but it does not provide sufficient context. What I find vital in a handover would be the sharing of the thinking processes behind certain decisions made during their term. It is often these non-official processes that result in the project becoming a success and yet, these are seldom documented in formal minutes. These are the conversations that I would like student leaders to have with their juniors, to be able to share the wisdom they have accumulated during their leadership journey.
In the same light, these are also the conversations that we ought to have to short circuit our learning process. In the journey of becoming a better leader, a large amount of wisdom can be sought from those who have come before us. This is why it is vital that we are willing and able to tap on our social networks. If we don’t already have our own, it’s important that we tap on the systems that we are functioning within (e.g. schools, organisations) to be able to build such connections. Have those intentional conversations to better uncover your blind spots to your role and accelerate your development as a leader!

Create the Right Environment to Spark Great Leaders
The environment plays a vital role in nurturing leaders. How can schools be the space for us to nurture more students into leaders? Is there room for psychological safety? First coined by Harvard Business School professor Amy Edmondson in 1999, the benefits of psychological safety have been well established in the workplace. But what does it mean to feel safe in taking interpersonal risks, to speak up, to disagree openly, to surface concerns without fear of negative repercussions or pressure to sugarcoat bad news? How does this apply to schools?
Based on my experience, teachers must be willing to accept students’ failure. As educators, we are often accustomed to helping our charges succeed. We drill them endlessly to achieve the best possible outcome and we inculcate in them the fear of failure. While this is backed by good intentions, the road to success is plagued with anxiety, the unwillingness to challenge processes and the idolising of the phrase, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”. Thankfully, I’ve been blessed with supportive leaders who were willing to see beyond the risk of failure and embraced the opportunity to innovate on existing processes. This translates to the way I work with my student leaders and this has given rise to its fair share of failures, but also a good number of amazing outcomes.
A core memory for me would be in early 2020 when Singapore had to manage COVID-19. On the eve of JC 1 Orientation, the Ministry of Education imposed strict regulations on what is acceptable for social contact. This completely derailed the Council’s plans and the entire team had to scramble for a contingency. I was caught in a position where I could plan out the entire Orientation among the teachers and steamroll my Council into taking up my proposal, or to give them the opportunity to navigate this difficult situation. Till today, I’m thankful I chose the latter as my team of students rose to the challenge, creating a positive experience for the incoming students.
Rather than to avoid the possibility of failure, what I feel is more important is for teachers to set clear boundaries and allow students to experience their own successes and failures within those boundaries. It is vital that students are held accountable for both successes and failures, but as teachers, we should also be there to help them better process their emotions and translate these to learning. We ought to be there to prevent the “failure” from being too massive and to build in guard rails to mitigate the risks. Any further interference would just be us stymieing their growth.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?” - Marianne Williamson
We tend to limit ourselves based on circumstances, the way people see us, the way we see ourselves. This perpetuates the misconception that “leaders are born”. However, once we are willing to denounce our limiting beliefs, we will be more open to seeing how we can be nurtured to be leaders. But this journey is not one to be taken alone. It takes an entire village to raise a child, similarly, it will take a village to nurture that child into a leader. My hope is that if you’re reading this, you will be part of the village that nurtures leaders for the betterment of our society.
At Halogen, we believe in empowering youth to challenge their limiting beliefs and discover the leadership potential within. Through our leadership programmes and mentoring workshops, we instil positive beliefs and values in young people, equipping them to lead themselves, lead others, and lead change.
None of this happens in isolation. It takes a community — a true village, to cultivate this kind of growth. If you feel like co-creating opportunities and sparking transformation in young lives, we would love to collaborate.
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