We end up as we are
When we’re young, life seems much more random than it is.
When I was about twenty, I knew a girl who was ‘rich’ because her grandma left her $20k.
Another guy was ‘lucky’ because when he was working retail in London, a customer walked in who he recognized from the industry he was desperately trying to break into. He gave her his spiel and so impressed her that he received an awesome opportunity right there on the spot.
A third seemed like a loser because a girl rejected him at a party, he got overdrunk, later stayed over at the house and threw up on the corridor carpet, and as he cleaned it up he had to endure the sounds of his cooler friend making love through the adjacent door.
Those moments turn out not to matter very much. What matters is what you do afterwards. Not straight away, but every day, for years.
Repeated behaviour drowns out isolated incidents like these.
You can see it most clearly in areas where behaviour compounds over time.
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