missing nyc deep in my bones for the past week
so hereβs a thread some of my fave film pics Iβve taken of the love of my life (read: New York City, yes) β¨ππ§π½ββοΈ
(turning these into prints soon!!!)
i read or watched somewhere that someoneβs grandma told them βdonβt be in a rush to find the love of your life. once you do, youβll never get to be truly alone, by yourself, enjoying your life only for you, ever again. treasure this solitudeβ and it cured me forever
will always remember the guy who sucked in every other way but taught me an insanely valuable life changing lesson when he called me out and said βyouβre not being vulnerable with me. vulnerability feels scary and hard. youβre just telling me stories.β
took me years to find out that every1 was constantly in relationships and i wasnβt not bc i was uniquely unlucky but because most ppl were like βletβs just see what sticksβ and i was like βis this the love of my life or notβ lmfao
every single flirt coaching client iβve received who is a man has a deep terrifying fear of making a woman uncomfortable. this fear is absolute and paralyzing
a shift that's happening w my female friends in my late 20s is that a lot of them are finally experiencing sex as worship and are simultaneously immediately swearing off casual sex. the only thing allowed will involve treating bodies as temples that are to be adulated,,, i win
in fact there is a limit to the amount of inner work you can do by yourself. we are human beings and the whole point of being alive is to love others. there is so much healing to do relationally!!!
almost a year ago my bf convinced me to date him seriously by saying "you don't have to do inner work by yourself, you can do it *within* a relationship" and he's soooo right. it's so much better actually
underrated sign of healing... when u simply can't be arsed because it literally doesn't matter that much anymore and u don't need everyone to affirm and validate ur feelings and role in that story.... not retelling the story precisely in order to receive the compassion u were