We seem to find ourselves here once again, at another turn around the sun. I guess that’s what they mean when they say time is linear, right? I remember someone once told me that time speeds up as we grow older. I’m scared because time already feels as if it’s moving so fast that I can’t keep up.
2019 was definitely a year. When I was asked to describe the year in three words, I said “challenging, growth, and home.” The first half of the year was definitely the most challenging part, as I struggled to find work that did not exhaust my body and mind. The second half of the year was challenging in different ways. I had found what I thought would be a perfect job on paper, but actually turned out to be mind-numbing admin work that bored me to tears. But, I learned how to exist in a new city where I knew very few people and was not fulfilled by my job. I started to figure out how to create a fulfilling life—the ingredients that when combined, would bring me the life that I would be most satisfied with. I know that this will be a lifelong process, but currently, my ideal life has a certain balance of work, travel, friends, food, books, learning, and adventure. I know that while my life needs to have some semblance of routine, I don’t want it to become boring or staid. I know that living in New York makes me the happiest that I could be right now. All the parts of the city that I hate, the crowds, the subway rats, the heat in the summer, I can bear because of all the parts of the city that I love—the view of Manhattan in the morning from the M train crossing the Williamsburg bridge, the museums filled to the brim with history and art and beauty, the endless amounts of new food that I can try, the way that there’s always something new to be experienced, both in New York, or very close by, to name just a few.
Although I still don’t have my life all figured out, in terms of the day-to-day that will bring me the most satisfaction and joy, I do know that it’s okay to be where I am. I am learning to not only embrace this liminal space, but to truly revel in it—to love the weird, scary, terrifying place where anything is possible. I know that I want to write. I want to write stories; I want to write about my life; I want to write about others’ lives. I want to share my words and my sentences. I’ve always been scared to say that so definitively, as if doing so will scare away the ghost of my success. As if admitting that I want to write is as good as admitting that I want to fail, since who makes it as a writer? I’ve realized that being a writer looks different for everyone. I’ve considered an MFA in creative writing, and know that I will be pondering this for a while. I am a creative soul and I want to do creative things.
For the past year, I made some resolutions that I kept and some that I did not. I did a good job with visiting museums and incorporating exercise into my daily routine. I read more published works, gave serious thought to what I wanted to do with my life, practiced my Spanish, worked on developing my personal style, and tracked my expenses. My goals related to creativity, of both the fandom and non-fandom related variety, did not work out as much. In making room for reading published works, I sort of drifted away from fandom.
I started dating, which has been an adventure in and of itself. I don’t know how I feel about it. It’s been interesting to meet new people, but I’m not sure what I want out of it, or what my intentions are, but I’m going to keep trying. I’m going into 2020 with an open mind. I actually wrote a piece that will (fingers-crossed) be published soon in an online publication.
For 2020, the new year and new decade, I’m not going to make a list with 20 resolutions, because 20 is a lot and I’m lazy. Instead, I’m going to write a bit about the things that I am looking to do in 2020:
I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by. I’m tentatively hopeful about what the next one will bring— I feel like my “adult” life is settling down into what it is going to be and I’m excited about the kind of life that I’m going to create. Happy New Year to everyone! Hope your year is filled with joy, inspiration, and lots of laughter :)