Category Archives: PHILOSOPHY

If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.

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Imagine the whole world is one human body and each country is a muscle, a limb, an organ or a bone, each dependent on the other for survival, connected by tissues, arteries and veins, and now imagine if that person is you. What would you do if you fall sick? Would you seek out a doctor to find a cure, or would you remove or destroy that organ which causes you to fall ill? I would imagine most of us prefers the first option, but today, the world has witnessed one person severing the veins of his once good hands which comforted him, and went on to sever the veins of his once good legs that aids in his mobility. And now with his legs and hands, fingers and feet, muscles and bones and tissues all removed, can he still walk up to the stage, stand, lift up his hands and declares he is the undisputed King of the World?

I reckon that is what Trump did to himself.

Please excuse my impoliteness Mr President, but you should be made to understand that because I am Asian, I was brought up to view the body holistically, as a whole, because that is what Eastern medicinal practice is all about. We believe that one organ’s structure and survival is dependent on the other. That is perhaps the fundamental difference that sets us apart and it extends to philosophy, lifestyle, mindset, viewpoint, and approach. In the East we even care for your soul and it is us that gave you spirituality. Every recognised religion came from the East.

It is fine since our philosophy is different and you are more attuned to your gun slinging Cowboy mindset, drawing your pistol at anyone you considers a threat, or intends to rob, but it is beguiling how your allies up North, down South, the far East, and now the West?, have all walked towards the sunset and deserted you. That you should by now, be peeing in your pants. And since you like to assert your powerful Western ideology onto others, here’s a piece of advice from Dale Carnegie that you’d find useful and enlightening.
‘If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.’

  • Kris Lee 2026.

God

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If God is so magnificent, all knowing, and powerful
and we lowly humans are not, why then when we were made in his image and likeness, weren’t we gifted his magnificence, his all knowing ability and power, that we have to be born a helpless tiny tot through a grimacing mother in anguish, then grow up to toil under the scorching sun, armed with the littlest that we know of, sieving through dirt and mud, scouring through the forest and mountains, sailing through the rugged seas, to find ourselves classified into different tribes according to trades, birthplace and surnames, and have feuds against other tribes, spilling blood along the way as we explore, discover, and develop through our own initiative, effort and imagination, inventions and methods that could gradually transform this blue planet into a better place to live in, only to cease living within a fraction of time?

Like leaves on the tree, we wilt, being replaced by younger leaves, generation after generation, and consciously exposed to a variety of religions, not just one. Why did God allow so many religions to co-exist just like the variety of flora and fauna found around us? To confuse? Or that God washes his hands off us the minute we were created, and let us live by free will? But the trees and ferns lives in unison, each minding its own, sharing the same sun and rain, yet they don’t fight unlike creatures and men. It must be because they don’t go in search of food nor are they endowed with legs.

Hence, is God by chance, a man made? Just who separates geniuses and blockheads? God or schools for learning? Because we are altogether sprouting and toiling together under one big umbrella called Mother Earth. Why weren’t we made like trees and ferns? The pretty and the ugly, the good and the bad, the smart and the stupid, the rich and the poor, the responsible and the lackadaisical, the ambitious and the laidback, the orderly and the chaotic, why weren’t we lumped together? And why do God promote the mix between different beliefs, cultures, lifestyles, languages and watch the discordances happening right in front of our eyes instead of encouraging unity? What is Gods mission and vision then? And where do we go from here? To a life ever after within a span of a hundred years or so for each humanoid?

With his magnificence and greatness, he could surely allow only geniuses, stop accidents and war, promote peace, vanishes diseases, and rescue poverty. God can allow only the good to thrive, so why didn’t God make that happen? For what good is the bad? Was it an oversight? Or did we fall from grace? Where was God when we disobeyed? So is God for real or just a myth? We will never know for sure.

Religion divides us. But does all religions point to one God alone? This is another question mark.

We will never know for sure. Because the theologians and religious scholars hardly if ever questions the research about God. Is it because they know the truth? Or that we as lowly humans weren’t endowed with his magnificence, power and knowledge to grasp and accept the truth. Or that the truth is too overwhelming for our simple minds to decipher and heed. So most of us just live and let live, ludicrously falling in line with the system calibrated by governments which were created to ensure order and keep liberal market trends alive to reap us. Again, where was God when weapons, drugs and the love of money began?

Our life is filled with mysteries. Plenty of it. Many claim that it is our soul that gives us life. Without a soul, we are just a lifeless block of meat. And thus our soul activates our body. Thus, is our soul giventh by God? How about our body then? Because when the soul leaves, our body rot. So where does our soul go to? Cleansed and recycled to be flown to another infant? Or back to God? And what does God do with each and every soul thereafter unless there’s a place so huge, it could accommodate generations of dead earthlings, not forgetting there are geniuses as well as gobloks. Do God discards the bad into the fire and saves only the good? Why didn’t God make only the good so that God doesn’t need to build a giant incinerator? Or that he saves all beit good or bad? Which means God collects souls. Then transport them to another world? Are there other life forms that God has planted if we sieve though the billions of stars? Where does God live? Where is heaven and where is hell as most of us are made to believe? Does he have a mission for us or are we to live with eternal uncertainty? Why doesn’t God allow us his magnificence, his knowledge, his power?

As usual, God doesn’t speak back. As we are left to toil on our own.

One possible hypothesis is that the minute we men has achieved through science an acceptable degree of living, God will transport us up like crops in the farm, and had us planted to pollute our universe to start other life forms. And in the end, we would become masters of the universe. Do our souls need oxygen? But why does he want us to evolve when he could have made us a full grown like him right from the beginning? He could have filled the universe up with our kind who looks like him and behaves like him right from the beginning. So why didn’t God? Or could it be that God doesn’t want us to be like him? Therefore the absence of magnificence, knowledge and power. But why? God only wanted to build an army of followers? Who could turn to him and defend him in times of calamity? Do God have enemies? But if we were to be made like God, suffering would not have happened right? So what is our purpose then? God granted us a piece of land to do at will? Like we humans won a special prize or something?
Or that this world is just an illusion and multifaceted which explains how we can be transported into our dreams and back to our sleeping body in split seconds?
Or that we are just an experiment to him?

And the reason why God hides the truth about human existence and our mission is too complex for us to grasp and comprehend let alone decipher. And so, to simplify things, religion had us to believe that there is only heaven and hell, and heaven means being besides God after death and enjoy his glory, and hell means entering the incinerator and be banished forever.

Or that in the end, after humankind has built this world into an acceptable kind that pleases God, maybe our world is up for grabs by the highest bidder? Again, who are the bidders?

Who knows..

⁃ Kris Lee 2026.

Righteous

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The righteous sides the righteous whereas the clowns sides the clowns. The liberty is thus now in our hands to decide who to support when the day comes, by comprehending the utters and loud cries some of them make. By right, some contemptuous mad dogs should be caged.

No Newer Laws

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Please. No newer laws until all your government departments can crop up their website and online operating system. Online user experience quite often gives way to poor flow chart, unclear instructions, slow page loading, and inert to no responses through call waiting applications. It must be equipped with multiple languages application. This reflects on efficiency, convenience and productivity. Clarity of website and leading the user from one page to the next is important. Loading of photos must be fast. Speed is crucial. Bills must be uploaded before sending out emails instructing users to pay. And payment instructions must be clearer than our ATMs. What we see now is departments exploiting internet capabilities to reduce and eliminate workload. Therefore the delay of approvals. What you should also consider is how to reprimand ideal staffs and minimise coffee time. We don’t live on fines each time the fault lies with your inefficiency.

We Are No Fools

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The annihilation of BN from mainstream politics is due to only one factor. Rampant corruption. Unless one is affiliated to the former BN for one or more reasons, every sane citizen irrespective of race or creed longs to see the perpetrators being severely punished, and fast. And the loot returned. We are fed up with the twist and turns. We want to see these perpetrators on its knees. So please, no more wayang, no more sandiwara. We are fed up. And this is how PH got voted Because their leaders was seen to be championing the eradication of corruption. But till today, these pledges weren’t fulfilled. What threatens its delay? If PH wants to regain traction with the citizens and subsequently win the next election, this is it. This issue is the mother of why our citizens loses faith with PH. PH needs to get this mother of issues settled or be left with nothing to its good name. Take this as a concern citizens advice written good intentions. We are no fools.

Moral Compass

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Many Malaysians seems to have lost their moral compass to win the global race. Admitting incompetent students into universities is the main catalyst for our downfall. Awarding contracts based on cronyism , nepotism and ethnic lines is another. So is propping up underserved under qualified citizens to helm important positions. We think along religious lines. We sideline factual history, pretend to believe in false pretences. Not national interest. The result? Wrong diagnosis, buildings fall, the guilty wins legal battles, traffic jams increases. These are all systemic changes designed for failure. But no one thought it important. No one cares about progress and the future. If our leaders can do all these, so can we. Still, they insist they are right. So long as having money in their pockets to secure their own future is everything there is to it. My fortress, my own. We exploit national coffers. Nevermind integrity, ethics and dignity. Will this ever end? Yes it can. But it takes courage.
But no one dares to take on the global stage. We want to win by shortcuts. We want to be jaguh kampongs. We hood wink international bodies. We flex our muscles because we have the numbers to outmanoeuvre others. We seem to think rules can bend in our favour. So long as we have the money and the necessary connections. The result? Our country pays. While they laugh all the way to the bank.

Caning

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Reintroduce back caning. It is part and parcel of disciplining, ala Southeast Asian style. It may sound harsh, but as a former student raised up in that coded environment, we had fun. As alumnis, we had a good laugh years later, over the pranks and mischief we were caught guilty of committing. We don’t harbour ill feelings towards our teachers and/or discipline master. Because we know we did wrong. And whenever we meet them again on the road years later, we became good friends. We even thank them for the sacrifices they make towards our welfare, as makeshift parents responsible for our upbringing. No doubt their job is to teach, and in their frenzied rush to complete their syllabuses on time to prepare us for the exams, disruptive mischievous students somehow deters the progress of the entire class. Personally, I feel it is a mistake to make caning an offence in schools. Without the slashes, we wouldn’t have grown up to be good people and subsequently become good parents. We don’t deserve to be pampered when young. Trees not only depended on the sun and the rain to grow. We need fertilisers and pruning. Bad branches has to go and so are pest and snails, in order that the tree can bear good fruits. Although some parents disallow it, I would say we can strike a healthy balance, by making parents sign letters of undertaking when enrolling them into the school of their choice, if they feel so their child should not be disciplined by caning, but faces expulsion, if the offences is found to be severe, after two summonings from discipline teachers and counsellors in front of their parents. Either that or they take the caning.
Because orderly, there must be discipline, even at the workplace. The performance of every school and company depended on it. We are not stressing on slow learners but mischief by bullies. And gangsterism. Even more vital are discipline in sports, the military or police force. There are rules to follow. Teachers need to be involved to resolve the many challenges facing the school. Even as teachers, their own children are left in the care of other teachers from other schools not their own. None of them ever did complain, nor compare. Teaching methods must be regulated and so is discipline, so that students can evolve. In some schools, cleaning the classroom and public facilities are left to students. To broaden their circumspect of what life’s lessons is all about. Being responsible. It is foolish thinking that some parents thought that raising their child to be clever and smart is about leaving their kids to the responsibility of teachers, and leaving them to entertain themselves by equipping them with the best mobile phones available in the market, then washes their hands off, yet fault the teachers for disciplining, when their own children misconducts. That is escapism. Just my two cents.

Silent Murmurs

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Silent murmurs were heard, the day PMX announces his cabinet, when a nondescript individual was appointed to administrate and lead the most important machine of all, the education department. Although there were cries of foul, our PMX was condescending and unperturbed. Why? No one knows. Names were inserted in, though not due to popular voting counts, and because we submit in to the belief that change would happen in due course, we too hop in the ride. Rudely, it has not proven to be a smooth ride as many of us has hoped for. For what could have been the catalyst of reform, it is obvious that the department is now crippled and deformed by its latest development, all happening within the midst of its compounds. Should Malaysians forget such horror when the enrolment to national schools has hit a record low? And infringement towards the civil rights of another is now making headlines for the wrong reasons? Should we still ride on that train, because the choice of good replacements is few and far in between?
I remembered grousing my concerns as a responsible citizen and wrote an article a hundred days after PMX helm our top executive post, with special emphasis on educational reform policy, not just politics. It was quite detailed in nature, and I remembered tagging every single minister in PMX’s cabinet so that my meek suggestion is considered. The late Steadyku 47 even had it published in his blog. So what happened to the effort? Is it merely rhetoric by a concern citizen with no ranks to support its exertion except some flowery discourse best handled by concern parties dutibound to the department? Who knows? But what remnants has it cause that dillusionment within the cabinet in its entirety is another pointing of fingers bout? My answer would be blame one, blame all. This is a rude yet apt siren reverberating in everyone’s eardrums. The discontent is alarming. It doesn’t take another brainless incident to marginalise those not fit for the job. An anarchy could be the best option for our country if all we have is funds from the PIBG to help implement better safety measures and standards.
It is laughable if our top executives thinks that being in charge of a large pond means the fishes are self sustainable, and its captive breeding only depends on the sun and the rain. It means feeding, cleaning, raising and maintaining a correct ph balance for the fries that the market can absorb its healthy growth for all it’s worth beit kembong, Arowana or Siakap. Just my personal opinion.

Senseless Killing

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Malaysias are rudely jolted by the latest news of some senseless killing committed by a juvenile schoolboy in the vicinity of a co-ed school, over what could possibly be the case of unrequited love. The consequence, a helpless young women succumbing to multiple stabbing wounds. What is particularly disturbing is a written note left on the victim’s body by the same assailant, coded words only gamers could comprehend, then cooly walking away from the scene before injuring others. Only then was he subdued and subsequently arrested.
But what triggers him to commit such crime towards a woman he secretly adores, when he could easily win her over by other civilised means, or at least attempt to? Or could there be other underlying factors such as his state of mental health at that time the crime took place? Was he under the influence of illicit drugs or substances not discounting the misguidance by friends of his own kind? Was he challenged? Or could he be harbouring an inner anger, consistently facing rejection and ignored by his own family members, gradually drifting into a virtual world he created for himself where he finds solace and comfort in? How does a meek introvert morph himself into a trance-like state of fearlessness?
Evidences has left to the recovery of several weapons, all hidden and stashed within the school compound. Are they all his?
The answer is indeed complex.
But whatever it may be, we cannot escape the fact that taking the lives of others is a crime that should not escape punishment.
Pro active measures such as school safety, moral education, juvenile laws and parental accountability must be reexamined in totality to tackle such acts of violence from wantonly repeating. Crime such as these should be dealt with in the harshest of terms. Violence found on and off camera including playing of online games sad to say, must now be closely timed, tracked and monitored by responsible parents and teachers, as artificial intelligence, beit good or bad, has now overtaken the skyline. It is sad news indeed, but even sadder for the parents who lost their kid to a maniac who can’t differentiate between reality and the cyber world.

Handphone

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What about trust?
Love is a complex issue made worse by the invention of the handphone. If one party keeps on checking on their partners handphone, it simply means there is trust issue. Trust is the foundation or bedrock of love. If there is no trust, how can there be love? That said, it also means you don’t love your partner enough, let alone trust them. Everyone lives three lives daily. A public life, a personal life and a private life. A public life is what you do in public that everyone gets to know or see. The perception strangers have on you. A personal life is what only your family or close friends gets to know about. It is what you do in the close confines of your home that only those close to you knows about. For example the worries you share, how you use the fridge, the type of shampoo you use. Things that only those close to you knew about. Like the way you snore. Or when you share your financial difficulties, your education progress, or career setbacks. But there is this inner sanctum in everyone that no personal family and friends knows about let alone penetrate into. Those are things like your thoughts, your fetish, your stress kept hidden, or your uncanny habit of wearing ladies underwear on your head when you sleep, or watching soap operas, or how you sit facing the water tank on the toilet bowl. That is your private life. Embarrassing things which you do that you can’t share, And because inventors understands these three lives each and everyone of us lives through, they invented convenient things for your comfort and reassurance. Those gadgets can ensure us that our private life is safe. That simple button on the phone is called the ‘password’. Breaking that password and you are intruding. Giving away the password means you are a blady goblok. This also means your partner doesn’t love you enough. If trust is invaded, so is love. And if love is invaded, then, it is better to stay single. No one should, or could invade the holy of holies. Because if every couple does that, and one partner compels the other to give it away, I question the love they have for each other. The minute there is a law compelling your partner to reveal the password, I can safely say this world is in big trouble. Love and trust cannot be compelled, neither should there be conditions. Unnecessary conditions, like chains, is tying the freedom of the person you love. Too many conditions and you become a prisoner. Breaking into one’s inner sanctum is an intrusion of privacy that should not have happened, if you truly love someone. Stop being nosy. Because if someone truly loves you, rest assure they know how to conduct themselves towards you, so that you feel safe. And secure. The ultimate unconditional love. So, have more confidence in yourself and your partner you want or already have. Don’t doubt them. And this world would become a better place. The minute one partner ask for it, it is time to work on your relationship. Or let go. Rest all your concerns to God.

Playing The Victim

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As I have predicted, Trump is playing the victim with an intention. He is renegotiating tariff terms with all other countries and whichever country decides not to trade with China gets the best terms. By announcing the new renegotiated tariff, he knows the share market is going to be disrupted. And with the US dollar considerably lower, it will make US more competitive in attracting investments. But blaming China for their own lax mechanism is not fair. China has always been friendly in their approach, unlike the bully tactics other countries receive from the US. The instant reaction is that the citizens suffer in his hands when he craves the market share he deserves. But that will depend on whether US produce can compete in terms of innovation, usability, quality, efficiency and price competitiveness. Already as it is, ten percent of citizens savings had been wiped out overnight. The bottom line is he wants to maintain US as the big brother of the whole world by marginalising the world’s right to stay competitive in trade. That is not fair. A trade war can escalate into a world war if he isn’t careful. But does Trump care? The US may be powerful combating one country but with other countries in the loop, US will have to reckon with two wars. A civil war and a world war is imminent. That is going to be ugly.

Tariff Announcement

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Trump deliberately brought down the worldwide market USA could no longer compete with, with his tariff announcement. With this move, he tries to gather every country back to the starting line of the race track, so he could make his silly move on China, which has overtaken the world economy. His trick is simple. That whichever country negotiating to lower the tariff, Trump will deliberately plant a hurdle, that those countries must first agree to stop trading with China. If one studies his announcement, one will noticed that he tries to portray USA as a reasonable country that only imposes half of what other country imposes, without revealing the previous tariff agreement they had with other countries. It is a deliberate plot to cause worldwide panic. With the backing of all his economists and experts.
The situation today is comparable to a bird watcher (USA) trailing one bird (China) with his binoculars. Wherever the bird flies, whatever the bird eats or drinks, the binoculars follows. And the birdwatcher trails. Running tired, the bird watcher now attempts to kill the bird.

Addendum

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The question to ask is if the addendum is written with an intent, why wasn’t it formally corresponded to the authorities involved? There was no such addendum received. Negative as claimed by our home minister. That includes the ag’s office , prisons board, pardons board and home ministry. Which means it is a leaked document. A document stolen from the custody of the royal secretariat.
So who stole it?
And for what purpose was it stolen?
And can a leaked document otherwise known as royal secrets be accepted as permissible evidence?
An action is a manifestation of an intention. It is only when you intend to do something do you act on it. In this case there is intent not acted upon. Isn’t that deduced as a retracted intention or an intention withdrawn?
The second point is why the addendum when surely the all knowing royal household knew there are proper rules to follow for a convict to apply for house arrest? Don’t the legal team representing the convict knew? And how the king only acted upon the recommendations of the pardons board in which the attorney general is also a party within the board the king must consult? So did the then king not know or ill advised?
Which is why the lower court did not permit the evidence now accepted by the appeals court because there are far too many questions left unanswered?

Flawed Since the Beginning

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“Dear God, you don’t plant a tree in between two young naked teenagers and tell them not to eat the fruit. That is mischievous of you. Because you should know that every teenager is naughty, adventurous, and rebellious. And so they had fun. They did! Just like every loving child of yours would. But the one who wrote the bible termed it as disobedience, or sin. Why?

Had he never been a child before to understand what sin is? Sin is what you do that causes hurt or inconvenience to someone else. How did one bite of the forbidden fruit hurt you or inconvenience you?

But if these teens doesn’t rebel nor display naughty traits, wouldn’t they be classified as abnormal in today’s context? And what may I know do you want them to do inside the garden without clothes on and without tv or pub to go to? They are young, hot blooded, with an awakened libido. You want them to just stare at each other in full glory with gritted teeth and remain indignant towards each other? Because if they were to do as they were told by you, there wouldn’t be you nor me today. Nor Jacob, nor Sarah, nor Moses, nor Isaiah. They did what every natural growing up person would do. There’s no one else besides them. No one married them. It’s just her, and him. Unless you want to count the serpent in. You don’t consider that illegal fornication do you?”

China Dolls ni

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“Out of curiosity, I registered with a dating site, earning myself 20 requests daily. From China doll swindlers trying to do a quick kill, and elderly women expecting to hook up some single handsome rich men. Lol… lol… they are all snapped up long ago dear! Don’t expect handsome men to be monks for life ya?

As the register of marriages gets filled up, the probability of dating single handsome rich men dwindles by the day. Even for those who are not handsome, nor rich.

The reasons why singles remain singles at a mature age are many. Just as many as why leftovers remain leftovers. I am not saying there are no longer decent older men around up for grabs. But for those who remain single, many have fallen in, others have fallen out. To some, it is a choice they hold on to for life. And they won’t let go of that choice. Some value freedom, others, because they do not have freedom owing to family or financial obligations. But for the many who remained single, it is because they suffer from a lifetime of communication difficulties, emotional disconnection, apart from physical and mental anomalies.

If you are older, but still wanted to attract single handsome men, looks like you have to settle for those that were once married. So watch what you write and wish for on your dating profile. If you had never been short of request to chat, if you are older, chances are these men are all married.

Otherwise you will need to continuously spruce up your image, to compete with those China dolls when it comes to looks. Which most men are attracted to. I won’t lie to you. They are your benchmark. Many pretty married women got dumped and cheated by their straying husbands in search of China dolls, no matter how well they take care of themselves.

Sprucing up your looks may win you attention, but that will also earn you countless heartbreaks too. If men are attracted to you physically, you can bet they’ll say anything, including lying about their marriage, just to bed you. For those who are honest and good, are not many. There are, but not many.

The internet has opened up the Pandora’s box that made stray dogs out of men. But men being men, were all born strays. They are all born hunters since primitive ages. Since young, men were designed to make life uncomfortable and silly for everyone. And that’s the truth.

Conclusion- I deregister myself from the dating app for good. Because I have a weakness. I am sapiosexual. I can’t feed on just looks alone. That alone makes me yawn.”

Lenin

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A Russian Jew was finally allowed to emigrate to Israel.

At Moscow airport, customs found a Lenin statue in his baggage and asked, “What is this?”

The man replied, “What is this? Wrong question comrade. You should have asked : Who is he? This is Comrade Lenin. He laid the foundations of socialism and created the future and prosperity of the Russian people. I am taking it with me as a memory of our dear hero.”

The Russian customs officer let him go without further inspection.

At Tel Aviv airport, the Israeli customs officer also asked our friend, “What is this?”

He replied, “What is this? Wrong question, Sir. You should be asking, ‘Who is this?’ This is Lenin, the bastard who caused me, a Jew, to leave Russia. I take this statue with me so I can curse him every day.”

The Israeli customs officer said, “I apologize, Sir, you are cleared to go”

Settling into his new house, he put the statue on a table. To celebrate his immigration, he invited his friends and relatives to dinner.

One of his friends asked, “Who is this?”

He replied, “My dear friend, ‘Who is this’ is a wrong question. You should have asked, What is this?

This is ten kilograms of solid gold that I managed to bring with me without paying any customs duty and tax.”

MORAL Of The Story :-

You can tell the same shit in different ways to fool a different audience, and no one knows your real intention when they are caught up with your story.

(Author Unknown)

What Women Wants

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Seven (7) doors to her heart.

Some say five (5).

There had been disputes concerning ways to win a women to your side.

Here’s mine.

Attention

Attention is being aware of others, besides ourselves, and being the focus of someone’s loving attention. Every woman needs someone who is there to listen to their deepest feelings and needs, and understands her intentions, and fears. Every woman needs that kind of attention to thrive, to be the best they can be. It shows that you care and want her to be around.

Admiration

Admiration is why she grooms herself daily and spends substantial time and savings on skin care and clothes, to look magical to you. When she is constantly admired, she can feel your undivided presence which affirms her self worth, boosts her esteem, and gives her self confidence. It allays her fears and insecurity and warms herself up to you.

Acceptance

In order to be intimate, woman needs to feel safe, accepted, relaxed, and worthy. Trying to challenge her good sense, oppose or challenge her, will not win you love, respect, or understanding. If you accept her for who she is, it means that you are seeing the truth in her within your relationship. That will calm her and give her a sense of stability and safety. It makes her feel homey as she welcomes you into her life and her inner thoughts.

Appreciation

Appreciating her efforts makes her feel good about herself and increases the chances of her love connection with you. Showing her gratitude and validating her efforts reinforces your good relationship. That she knows she can be of help in times of need and contribute to your well being. Women cares when they are in love. Not knowing when to reciprocate her thoughtfulness by showing her appreciation makes her feel rejected.

Affection

As humans, we all need emotional, spiritual and physical affection. It requires some direct behaviors that show us the proof of these things. Affection is often a code word for sex but oftentimes, there can be sex just by being attentive, unexpectedly hugging her from behind, showering her with surprise gifts, sending note cards, dropping her a line when you are busy, these are some keys that makes her feel wanted.

Allowing

Allowing means letting her be who she is, and not trying to control her, change her, cage her, or force her into a mould she finds irrational, intolerable or humiliating. Allowing is the essence of unconditional love. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t set limits in your relationship with her. You can. But setting limits is done to protect your relationship and yourself; whereas controlling is making her do what you want. Acceptance doesn’t make sense without allowing.

Affirmation

Affirming is to express agreement with, or commitment to uphold and support her thoughts and ideas, or her words or actions. To agree or concur with her gives her the emotional support and encouragement she needs, that what she does is all correct.

I stand open to be corrected. But try not to be abusive with your language.

(Author Unknown)

Overcoming Grief

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Grief is a state of loss. An emotional upheaval that one feels beit over a divorce, loss of job, death of a loved one. It manifests in 7 stages, some experts argued 5- but it all depends on our equilibrium, our attachment to that party, the circumstances that brought about the loss, and the severity inflicted by the tragedy. The various stages are sequential but rubbery, with no affixed period, and an aggrieved party may sail across, mixing up or skipping some stages in between, and recover in no time at all. The 7 stages are: shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, upward turn, reconstruction and working through, and finally, acceptance. But to ride through grief, one must know firstly how grief happens.

Religion has been the pinnacle of mankind. It is responsible for our lifestyle, the constant unrest between nations, civic consciousness, moral conduct and governance. It shapes us to become who and what we are today. However, what most people overlooked is the well known mantra of ‘Giving more so that one could receive.’ An extreme example would be “If anyone slaps you on your right cheek, offer him your left also.” Deep, mysterious parable that is. But a powerful one. That is another topic of discussion altogether.

Giving is an act of love, and giving begins with one being emphatic, generous, happy, caring, or simply, being dutiful. No one will give to their enemies where love doesn’t co-exist. And the more you love someone, the more you will give.

But taking or receiving is inevitable. Taking begins with the suckling of our mothers breasts, till one receives education, and finally when one is fit to take on the world. That dependence comes from one’s natural parents, guardians or sponsors. It is this constant state of receiving that one can mistakenly inherit the dogma of entitlement, thus quite often, a receiver will never know when to give back. Even after they grow into successful adults. Sometimes they defer their plans, others went chasing after rainbows. As a result, their caregivers are neglected because giving is not reciprocated. Until that fateful moment of loss arrives.

The receiver is then confronted with guilt, regret, denial , blaming oneself, the “ifs” I were to do this and that, the longing to do more which they did not initiate when their loved ones is still alive, because there exists an imbalance between giving and receiving. If one would have given enough or more than one receives, grief is short lived. But that is a natural frailty of man. To put off affirmations, praises, visits, giving of gifts. All these can be taught, but never will they ever be fully executed.

But managing grief is entirely different. The rites encountered in certain religions helps the aggrieved to let go. They are the hidden gems subtly designed with human emotions in mind. This if one could afford to, a full rite is better than half-baked ones. The action of burning incense is letting go, the serving of meals and drinks and the giving away of sweets to well wishers is letting go, the throwing of gluttonous rice, the offering of candles, the placing of wreathes and flowers on the casket, the singing of hymns, the shouting of mantras, the placing of bones into urns, throwing flowers into the pit, these rituals were all designed with giving in mind. If one couldn’t afford to, the giving away of the deceased possessions to the poor and underprivileged is another way of letting go. And when one gives, one will gradually let go. And the more one let go, the natural progression lightens our heart to recovery.

So it is right to say that hidden beneath all religions, beit right or wrong, our forefathers whom has designed all these sacred rites and mantras had us in mind. To help us heal.

Something Deadlier?

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This Pandemic is mild. Its death rate, tiny. But it spreads quick, and its effects on our lungs, can lead to disastrous complications. Because of that, earthlings began to observe newer habits, just to avoid contacting it. Still, there are many superheroes out there whose ears still hear nothing, and their freedom, not negotiable. If the world could come together, and endure a 30 days total lockdown in every corner of our world , something like an ‘Earth Hour’, can we overcome the problems all at once? Let’s named it ‘COVID 30’. But can UN unite with WHO and world leaders to have an EGM to agree on this common fight? And stop the fattening of wallets of hand sanitizers and face mask producers so we could unmask ourselves again?

Let us imagine, what if something deadlier is concocted into our atmosphere in the near future, whilst this pandemic remains. But one that is not as easily shirked off. Isn’t that a confirmation that biological and chemical warfare is out there blooming now? With viruses coded to attack specifically only on the organs it was programmed or designed to attack?

Because of that, scientists should focus on developing tablets or aerosol sprays that when consumed or applied, seeps into our skin and forms a protective sheen rather than wasting enormous budgets on developing defence and iron domes that can only deflect weapons, but still renders humanoids helpless to vulnerable chemicals and viruses? Wouldn’t that be better than zipping ourselves in two inches thick suits when the real defence is only concentrated between our noses, eyes, mouth and our skin?

Think about it.

Normalcy to return?

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“It is coming to year end.

What most businesses anticipated, that normalcy will return, is clinging on to false hope. Except for businesses that deals with essentials, rental demands cannot cope with the rate of drop in sales, with most abandoning ship to cut losses, many resorting to online platforms. Thus landlords suffer and so are the lenders. That became the new norm. But can those in the non essential businesses, from f&b to travel, to accommodation, to sports, to ego pleasing and the pleasure industry, and many more survives this?

The sad truth is that the new normal already seeped into our lives long ago, when men went a-chasing for success and power, through greed and negligence. And forces the world to its knees, like an injured boxer, succumbing blow after blow, to its slip shot policies thus, the fatal knocks of 911, SARS, Fukushima, and now Covid-19. Where-forth thou is love, kindness, generosity, righteousness, goodness and empathy if one may ask?

They are at the ringside babe! They are at the ringside! Helping the boxer regain his strength with momentous fixes, while praying he will last till the end- instead of succumbing to a knockout…”

Banksy or Wanky

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“There must be an assigned proprietor for a trademark to be endorsed. Whether your pseudonym is Banksy or Wanky, indeed no one knows if you are a groupie, an institution or a delusional whacko. But since you can craft your fame holding onto a mysterious identity, then, you’d surely know how to wiggle your trademark across in other ways.

If the British can glamorise Spice Girls, James Bond and Jaime Oliver, surely you are of no sweat to them. “

Etiquette versus Moral Studies

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“I think moral studies and religion as a subject taught in schools should be abandoned, with social etiquette classes taking centrestage. Personal grooming, deportment, good housekeeping, mannerism and conduct will ensure decency, cleanliness and social comfort at all times. Whilst understanding customs and traditions of other races will benefit harmony better.”

– Kris Lee 2020.

Sexual Promiscuity and the Internet

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“I think the internet has taken sexual promiscuity to a much higher level. The age of gigolos and mama-sans has succumbed to this almost invisible jackpot showcase that churns millions of assorted humanoids shifting through your screen like oranges falling from the sky within just a few clicks, without you making any raunchy effort to hide your ogle. It is a personal shopping experience of the most luscious level gushing across your iris and you don’t need to be at your personal best to connect.

In the midst of it all, it has also created scoundrels out of men of all shapes and sizes, colours, belief and status. Man that you thought was decent but mischievously deceptive, as they hunt for elixir outside the boundaries of their marital union, and many who hid their sexual innuendos in the pretext of scavenging for a healthy melty relationship. Surprisingly, these are the same people who wedge themselves comfortably in between genuine singles who do not lie nor deceive.

But why does the most successful decent looking husband with a loving wife and children would want to risk it all if one may ask? And successful smart woman were also being cheated everyday?

I think that nomadically, men has always been the hunter and because of that, the chase has always interest and excite them. What more the triumph and satisfaction of bringing their prized catch back home. Hence their uncontrollable fetish to hunt for flowers of the prettiest bloom.

I think ego and affirmation comes in close second, after years of being deduced from his stigmata of knighthood and gallantry, to that of a janitor and repairman by their partners.

Away from this league are those with uncontrollable urges for coitus, not like they have genuine worries of any kind, nor their egos bruised, the consequence of being side stepped by their partners expectations.

So, how women pick out these pearls from a cache full of peanuts is where relationship coaches took the first big bite out of dimwits, and the scammers who comes in a close second, happily fattening their wallets playing casanovas to these lonely hearts. For those who pays thousands of dollars for advice, still, not all are lucky. Many are still cheated by decent looking men, whilst the rest are still crowding around their personal computers.

But right now, one thing is for certain. As connectivity improves, the inbox will ring nonstop, thus, it is almost certain that women of today are getting much more adoration, admiration and attention than those living in the bygone era. It is abundance with a capital ‘A’ and no longer a ‘you dump me I have no one else to choose from’ game. Some has their ego hitting the roof that their once placid connectivity is now an oasis flustered with high quality lingeries waiting to line their wardrobes on their upcoming birthdays.

So what does this do to the world?

Well, it certainly gave the words lies, betrayal and deceit a proper place in the dictionary of discreet with lawyers busily wrangling for amicable settlements the world over. It has also become the number one avenue where women cheats. But somehow, women show more success in discreet whereas to the men, many got slapped.

And got slapped hard! “

-Kris Lee 2020.

Believe and Trust

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One has to believe in a person before you can trust them. You can’t say I believe you, but I don’t trust you. Neither is it right to say that I trusted you, but I don’t believe you. That kind of statement is purely unacceptable.

Scrape Defence Budget

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“Why keep the defence ministry when a single virus released through the air can be directed to attack a certain organ, a certain cell, or a certain age group? All your gallant decorations, fighter jets, guns and fighting men is altogether redundant when every soldier has to worry for himself than others he is fighting with. This world has changed. And every country running on a tight budget will now have a breather if defence budget is scraped.”

Burnt Sand

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The seabirds have flown

The grasses have turned brown

What are we but burnt sand

If hearts that bind no longer shine

But wilt in the golden meadow.