“Can you come to my office, please? I have some feedback I’d like to go over with you.”
It’s one of those meetings no one likes to hear.
Most people do not know how to deliver constructive criticism. On the other hand, most people don’t know how to respond to it. Have you been a deliverer or a receiver of constructive criticism? I find I’m usually on the receiving end. I struggle with accepting it and more so knowing how to respond to it. Typically I’m a reactor not a responder. (I am working on that).
One thing I don’t like is people who try to soften the blow with their canned empathy statements. Don’t tell me how you understand and how you’ve been in my shoes before. YOU HAVE NOT! Just tell me the issue and let me take care of it. Usually I know what the issue is and that’s my problem I have with acceptance. I want to lash out at the deliverer because I’m mad at myself for having been told something I already knew I had to work on.
What are your thoughts about constructive criticism? How do you deliver feedback? How you respond to feedback? Drop some comments below. I’d love to hear.
Cheers,
CRACKERBERRIES 
It’s hard sometimes, but I’ve learnt to accept it. Sometimes, you’d suprise yourself and find hidden gems, you’ve been searching all along!
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I am also not good with constructive criticism. I feel criticism is criticism. Rather call it as few minuses ….or setbacks…or things on which one can work. I also completely feel weird when some one acts as if they were in my shoes and know better.
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I try to administer constructive criticism as much as I can. When I was a business manager one of my employees suggested that I do better at offering more constructive criticism. I agree that it’s a good thing to do, but sometimes I have found it to be difficult. Still I’m trying to be better though now in my retirement I don’t have the opportunity that much.
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Good question – I don’t like giving it when I’m a manager and I dont like getting it when Im an employee. But yes we need to be able to take it and at times giving it. Though I wonder if giving “sound advice” that doesn’t go at someone’s ability or character may be a better tactic.
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Any criticism is hard to hear, no matter how nicely it is delivered.
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Criticism!! Easier to give than take, ha ha . I think i am a reactor too ! And its difficult to be on the receiving end , no matter how it is conveyed. Whenver there is a “you are doing yada yada well” discussion, one is kind of mentally preparing for what other things may follow !!
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I remember going for a promotion in teaching. I was told I was like a dead fish in the interview. I compared notes and found the other interviewee was told the same. It did knock my confidence considerably but tried again a number of times.
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Constructive criticism is important. Not just in our offices as part of our work, but at any place for that matter, wherever we interact with people. It could be at home with our family or out on the streets with strangers. What is most important is how we deliver that constructive criticism, as much as what the criticism is all about.
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