"teenage pregnancy will RUIN YOUR LIFE"
"being a parent is the HARDEST JOB"
"it's just infatuation, focus on your education"
"enjoy your youth- travel, play, don't tie yourself down, you're only young once"
"being a single mother will RUIN YOUR LIFE"
"don't move for a man,
permanent supportive housing w social workers who visit regularly to keep them from falling too far apart... is expensive but cheaper than cycle of nuisance crimes & jail
really irritates me when hippies / artist types simultaneously sneer at people living conventional risk averse productive lives and yet take for granted the support of friends & family who have more money & resources precisely because they made those choices
the end of a relationship isn't just the end of interaction with the other person but also cuts off updates to the simulacrum of self which the other person has been hosting in their mind.
coping with a breakup by rewriting your simulacrum of ex into a villain is some sort of
i've never ceased to wonder at the social dynamic where if you want to increase someone's loyalty to you, you ask *them* for a favor, not the other way around
i recommend a light alarm clock! gradually turns on and the illumination will wake you up when you're in your lighter phase of sleep not jolt you awake with ringing
how do you cope with the unfortunate truth that some people contribute more than others to our collective survival and wellbeing, and some are in fact a net negative burden?