Pen To Paper by Pamela Frankau – #1961Club

Pen to Paper : A Novelist's Notebook

I’m going to assume it was Brad’s review of Pen To Paper by Pamela Frankau that put it on my radar. I’ve only read a handful of her prodigious output, but I think she can be a brilliant, and brilliantly unusual, writer. She can also be a pretty poor, melodramatic one. And so I was intrigued about how she’d write about the craft of writing – for that is exactly what Pen To Paper is. (Incidentally, Brad’s review dates it to 1962, but I assume that was an American publication date or something – my copy was published in 1961, so fear not re: it’s eligibility for the 1961 Club.)

Well, I say that. It’s nothing like the sort of ‘how to write’ book that might be published nowadays. Doubtless that was the sort of topic suggested to her by a publisher, but Frankau has really written an autobiography through the lens of her writing. We don’t discover much that is personal (except in relationship with her father, more of which later) but we do get to take an entertaining journey through her career, alongside a rather subjective dose of writing advice.

Frankau’s first novel was published when she was still a teenager, and she wrote about one a year after that. She does seem to assume a little knowledge of her oeuvre, but I think you could enjoy Pen To Paper even if it were your first Frankau book. Certainly, most of what she says about writing tends towards the broad rather than the specific – for instance, her habit of the Rough and the Smooth. The ‘Rough’ is her rough draft, written on the right-hand side of notebooks, getting down the ideas and the characters and seeing what happens. The left-hand side is reserved for all sorts of edits and notes and self-recriminations – and the Smooth is the next draft, in which any manner of things may have changed. The idea of redrafting isn’t particularly unusual, but I enjoyed the way Frankau wrote about it, and the leap that is somehow made between a rough smashing-out of possibilities into (say) something as complex and brilliant as A Wreath for the Enemy.

When it comes to details of writing, she discusses such things as first vs third person, how to craft dialogue, when to use adjectives, how to vary sentence length etc etc. These are the bread-and-butter of ‘how to’ guides, but so much engaging in Frankau’s voice than in other people’s. That isn’t because her advice is particularly novel, but because of the tone it is given in: that of an author who has won her spurs, and has the right to a little didacticism, but can also be self-deprecating when need be.

What I found most interesting, though, was when advice turns into memoir. Here she is, writing about sex in books(!):

A scene that I saw with peculiar vividness and intensity before I wrote it once fooled me completely. It was concerned with lust. My character, over whose shoulder events were observed, was a strenuous, priggish fellow who had lived an asectic life. Lust took him unawares. After staring, in an unseemly way and with the crudest thoughts, at a woman whom he was meeting for the first time, he finally picked up a prostitute on his way home. I have made it sound rather silly; but it was an honest scene, a true and necessary stage in the life of the man. I wasn’t writing about sexual desire for my own fun, nor for the fun of excitable readers. Even so, when it was written, I was a little leery of it. Wasn’t it too frank, too violent for its context?

When I chanced to look at it again, about two years later, I was shocked. Not, as yuou might imagine, by discovering that I indeed gone too far. I hadn’t gone anywhere. The exposition of lust simply wasn’t there. What disturbed me in the writing of it had been thought and not said. The words were missing, the scene almost meaningless. Not as much as an overtone… The vivid apprehension in my own mind had deluded me and it was must have been a powerful delusion to last right through the reading of galleys and page-proof.

I suspect this happens far more often than one knows. I may be easy with the words and the words may even, on occasion, be easy with me, but this is not to say that they have passed my message accurately to you.

These sorts of stories from her own experience aren’t functionally illuminating, but they are interesting and do provide some sort of general rule. Though I can’t really imagine anybody picking this up with the intention of using it to write their own novel – this is much more about spending time with Frankau, and better understanding what motivates and informs her writing. Which is, indeed, incredibly idiosyncratic. I work as a writer for a charity, which involves plenty of proofreading, and I felt a pang of sympathy for her proofreader here:

There is the word ‘grey’. To my mind ‘grey’ and ‘gray’ are two different shades of colour. ‘Grey’ has a blue tint and ‘gray’ a brown. So I spell the word according to the colour I want and the printer’s proof-reader changes it back to uniformity throughout. Then I change it again.

On the other hand, I did cheer her on here:

But American spelling will always be a minor trial to the English writer. I have expressed my feelings about ‘airplane’. There’s a clause in my American contract forbidding its use and likewise that of ‘mustache’.

Speaking of Americans, quite a bit of Pen To Paper is Frankau’s prolonged culture-shock at the US. Let’s gloss over her list of comparisons of Brits and Americans (e.g. Americans: slow / Brits: quicker) to an amusing moment that apparently scuppered her reputation across the Atlantic for a good number of years. She was writing her impressions of America for the Evening Standard, back in the days when British people were routinely paid to do such things.

I wrote, among other things: ‘Life in California is very beautiful, very hygienic, very tiring and very expensive.’ The editor, or somebody, left out ‘beautiful’.

Oops! Along the way, Frankau does have plenty to say about publishers, editors etc, including the editors of magazines. While she wrote an extraordinary number of novels, it seems that she didn’t have the same success in the periodicals and journals that were the mainstay of many authors’ earnings during Frankau’s career. While Pen To Paper is not very open about many aspects of Frankau’s personal life, she does go into a lot of detail about finances – and how little she has managed to retain from her profession. She rather self-generously ascribes this to a heart for helping other people out, and to the reluctance of editors to pay her well, but I did also wonder if our definitions of being without money would coincide. Still, she is a lot more open about the earnings of mid-century writing than I’ve seen anywhere except Virginia Woolf’s diaries, and that was illuminating.

And, ah yes, her father. Gilbert Frankau, who was once a big name author. She describes some fraught periods between them, and their apparently very different approaches to writing, and it does sound rather like they didn’t see eye-to-eye on many things. And yet she allots the final 50 pages or so to a memoir of Gilbert, which does feel rather awkwardly tacked onto the end. I imagine she would not have been published as a 19-year-old without his fame, so he is relevant to her literary career – and I would have loved to delve more into the tensions in their relationship, which were rather compelling when they came up – but I could have done without this sudden turn in tone and theme at the end.

But that aside, Pen To Paper is an enjoyable, very idiosyncratic book. It’s definitely more about Frankau than about the craft of writing, but I preferred it that way. She may not have set out to write it as an autobiography, and some of her cards are kept close to her chest, but I definitely ended it feeling much better informed about who she is as a person and as a writer.

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Abbie and Arthur by Dane Chandos – #1961Club

I think my friend Caroline only ever gave me two books. One was A Wreath for the Enemy by Pamela Frankau, and the other was Abbie (1947) by Dane Chandos. Which goes to show that she had exceptional taste, and also knew my taste very well. Sadly, Caroline died eight years ago and I’ll never get to ask her for recommendations any more – but I loved spending a decade in book group with her, and her recommendation legacy lives on: twelve years after I read the original, I finally read the sequel to Abbie.

Abbie and Arthur cover, showing a cartoon car on a blue background

Abbie and Arthur, like the previous book, is really concerned with the extraordinary, monstrous, eccentric Abbie, and told through a mix of her letters and a narrative from the perspective of her nephew, Dane. The ‘Arthur’ of the title is her quiet, put-upon, secretly brilliant husband – he appears just as much in the first book, so it’s really a question of the authors needing to find a variant title, I suppose.

Dane is one of the few people that she cares about. For the most part, she is selfish and domineering, though with a soft spot for husband, nephew and (particularly) any and all of the animal kingdom. Here she is, intercepting a hunt:

“Butcher-in-Chief!” I retorted. “Your horse’s hooves are trampling sacred soil and your old grandmother, could she witness such sacrilege, would turn in her grave not ten yards from where we stand!” (A pardonable exaggeration, I consider, since the pink granite angel which surmounts her must weigh all of five tons.) “Call off your hounds!” I concluded.

He shouted again.

I shouted back:

“The colour of your coat, bloody as it is and matching your speech and, I am told, your politics, merely exaggerates the brutality of your so-called sport. A more appropriate colour for your cowardly pastime would be ywllow, a hue which only your colleagues of the Berkeley are men enough to sport!”

Her moral compass is wonky, though. In the course of this book, she (probably?) burns down the house of a friend in order to persuade her to move nearer, and (probably?) murders someone in the aftermath of an accident at sea. And yet…

What do I mean by ‘and yet’? I suppose I mean that you can’t help loving Abbie, despite all that. The novel plays out on a heightened level where these acts of ludicrous selfishness feel more like pantomime than malice. There is a neighbour with whom she has a lengthy feud – in the previous book, Abbie was thwarted while trying to steal her irises, and now Abbie considers this a theft of her irises – and yet, we are told, Abbie sat up with her for many nights when she was extremely ill. And this act of kindness does, somehow, seem to balance her bizarre excesses of immortality. Which is an impressive feat for an author. Abbie is exhuberant, irrepressible, and the success of the book weighs almost entirely on her character – and succeeds.

But my favourite scenes are when Abbie is outwitted. For the most part, in Abbie and Arthur, this is done by Arthur himself – and he is a star, the Richard to her Hyacinth Bucket, endlessly patient but not above a sharp word now and then, and manages to maintain his own moral path.

Perhaps my favourite moment in the book is a subtle jibe from the authors. If you’re reading this and thinking ‘that reminds me of Aunt Mame by Patrick Dennis’, then you’re not alone. It was published between the first and second Abbie books, and this is how Abbie ends one of her letters – for those not in the know, ‘Même’ is French for (among other things) ‘same’:

PPPS. – I am told that one of your dear Mother’s fellow-countrymen has written a book called, I think, Auntie Même, in which the central character seems to be oddly like me (or so Maud says). See if you can get me a copy (as soon as the book is remaindered), as I wish to look into the matter & sue if feasible.

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Underfoot in Show Business by Helene Hanff

Sad to say, though I have eked them out for years, I’ve now read my final book by Helene Hanff. I bought my copy of Underfoot in Show Business in 2012, but I’ve pictured the lovely new edition from Manderley Press.

Hanff is, of course, best known for the delightful 84, Charing Cross Road, and aficiandos of that book will recognise some of the people and incidents in Underfoot in Show Business – you might recall, for instance, that Hanff made money writing for American detective dramas. Or perhaps you think fondly of Maxine, who snuck nylons onto the desk of No.84 – she figures large in this book. This book actually came first, and it is a bold, brash, delightful announcement of her arrival on the literary scene.

What role did Hanff play in showbusiness? Well, she wanted to make it as a playwright. The book charts her attempts to succeed in this select sphere – and very funny it is too. While she is something of a ball-buster (if I may be permitted some American lingo) in her most famous book, here her humour is very self-deprecating. From the way she frames her stories, we can be pretty confident that she will not make it as a playwright – even though there is definitely early promise. She wins various scholarships and awards, she gets phone calls and meetings with some of the most important people in the theatrical world, and she seems to write and re-write plays at the drop of a hat.

We never get a sense of what her writing for the stage is actually like – Underfoot in Show Business is not that sort of memoir. It’s really just an excuse for Hanff to laugh at herself – and, for good measure, everyone else involved in this strange world. The cheerful insincerity of producers and agents, the breathless optimism of everyone, and that colossal waste of time that dogs everyone’s attempt to ‘make it’. (The book may be 65 years old, and about a time even earlier, but I suspect a lot of things have not changed.)

Producer No.3 was elderly and semiretired but he’d had a legendary career in his day.

“Yours is the first play he’s been interested in in five years,” said my agent, impressed. “He wants to take you to lunch.”

I met the legendary producer for lunch at the Algonquin, where for two hours he talked of his producing days, the great stars and playwrights he’d discovered and the contrasting sorry state of the contemporary theatre. When we parted, he wished me every success and certainly hoped one of these younger fellows would have the sense to produce my play. (Agent’s translation: “I guess he’s broke.”)

Maxine only hovers around the peripheraries of 84, Charing Cross Road, but here she is a star. Flame-haired, vibrant, an excellent actress and totally tone-deaf, Hanff basks in her star-quality and her friendship – while sharing similar levels of disappointment and picking-yourself-up-again. Maxine is not a pseudonym – you can look up Maxine Stuart, to see her successful, if not world-grabbing, acting career. She is such a whirlwind and a breath of fresh air, from using pilfered stamps to pay bills to getting a role in a musical without revealing her inability to sing. You certainly can’t help but love her. Maxine and Helene have the sort of friendship we all long for.

Hanff does eventually get regular writing work for TV, for which she is grateful while still finding and delighting in the ridiculous elements of it. Particularly tricky are the unspoken restrictions of TV detective dramas – the tiny cast meaning the list of suspects is often down to two, and the sponsorship by a cigar company meaning they have to scotch a plot point involving cigarette ash. It’s fascinating.

And when she isn’t working directly in writing, she gets a job reading for a studio – making her way through recent novels, and writing up reports about whether or not they had potential for adaptation. It sounds an other-worldly job, but I do have a friend who did the same thing until she retired a few years ago. While it is only tangentially related to the main thrust of her memoir, I think it was the part I found most interesting and entertaining. And I’m going to leave you with her hot-take on one of the books she had to read…

Well, on the blackest Friday I ever want to see, I was summoned to Monograph and handed three outsized paperback volumes of an English book which was about to be published here I was to read all three volumes over the weekend, and since each volume was double the length of the usual novel I was invited to charge double money for each. I hurried home with the three volumes and after dinner began to read Volume I. And if Monograph’s office had been open at that hour, I’d have phoned and quit my job.

What I had to read, during that nightmare weekend — taking notes on all place names, characters’ names and events therein — was fifteen hundred stupefying pages of the sticky mythology of J. R. R. Tolkein. (I hope I’m spelling his name wrong.) I remember opening one volume to a first line which read: “Mr. Bilbo Baggins of Bag End announced that he would shortly be celebrating his eleventy-first birthday…” and phoning several friends to say good-bye because suicide seemed so obviously preferable to five hundred more pages of that.

I also remember the bill I turned in:

For Reading and Summarizing:

TITLE: Lord of the Rings
AUTHOR: J. R. R. Tolkien
Volume I: $20.00
Volume II: $20.00
Volume III: $20.00
Mental Torture: $40.00

TOTAL: $100

They paid it.

Ha! I’d recommend absolutely anything by Hanff, and Underfoot in Show Business is no exception. What an irrepressible, witty, vital writer. What fun to be able to spend more time with her.

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The Chateau by William Maxwell – #1961Club

Apparently, I bought The Chateau by William Maxwell back in 2009. Worse, I got it through the post, so I was clearly impatient to be getting into it – and I remember that I relatively quickly started it and read about 100 pages. At which point I stalled, and for many years there was a bookmark at the 100-page mark, taunting me.

Thank goodness for the 1961 Club. This was the first book I started for the challenge, and I went in with some trepidation. Although I remembered very little about the plot beyond the premise – a young American couple, Harold and Barbara, are visiting France shortly after the Second World War – I did remember that I found it very slow. Having now successfully got to the end, I haven’t changed my mind on that. The Chateau is slow – ponderously, intentionally, glacially slow – but in a way that, in the right mood, is an extraordinary experience.

Harold and Barbara set off with high hopes for their holiday. They anticipate romance, beauty, and the comradeship of a nation which has recently won a war with theirs. In the opening chapters, we follow their train journey through the country – drinking in the beauty, not yet disillusioned. It is strange that the woman whose chateau they are staying in hasn’t come to the station to meet them, but as they are taken in humbler transport across the countryside, they are beguiled by the prospect of their new, temporary home:

Before long they had a glimpse of the chateau, across the fields. The trees hid it from view. Then they turned in, between two gate posts, and drove up among curving cinder drive, and saw the house again, much closer now. It was of white limestone, with tall French windows and a steep slate roof. Across the front with a raised terrace with a low box hedge and a stone balustrade. To the right of the house there was an enormous Lebanon cedar, whose branches fell like dark green waves, and a high brick wall with ornamental iron gates. To their eyes, accustomed to foundation planting and wisteria or rose trellises, the facade looked a little bare and new. The truck went through the gate and into a courtyard and stopped. For a moment they were aware of much racket the engine made, and then M. Fleury turned the ignition off to save gasoline and after that it was the silence they heard. They sat waiting with their eyes on the house and finally a door burst open and a small, thin, black-haired woman came hurrying out. She stopped a few feet from the truck and noted bleakly to M. Fleury, who touched his beret but said nothing. We must look very strange sitting in the back of the truck with our luggage crammed in around us, Harold thought. But on the other hand, it was rather strange that there was no one at the station to meet them.

Mme Vienot is the woman and their hostess. They are her paying guests – the sort of visitors who are clearly needed to help with the ancient family’s dire financial state, but who have to go through a pretence of familiarity. It puts them in an awkward position. When the house doesn’t have all the provisions that the advertisement declared – hot water, bicycles to borrow – they cannot complain as they would in a hotel. They are, after all, guests of a sort.

Maxwell has crafted such real people. We feel the awkwardness of the mismatch between hope and actuality – and, more than that, their determination to find the best in the chateau. Harold is occasionally indignant; Barbara is occasionally conciliatory. And there is much to love, too. It is still beautiful, it is still France. True, nobody precisely explains the protocol (they are embarrassed to learn, from other guests, that they should have stayed longer after the meal in the evening) – and, true, Mme Vienot is curiously distant and unfriendly, and Americans are not as beloved as these two Americans had presupposed – but this doesn’t entirely spoil the delight they are taking in the adventure. They are young and in love and passionate, and this is not a novel about disillusionment. It is a gentle novel about a culture clash and the triumph of human nature to persist through it.

I found Harold and Barbara fascinating characters. We’re used to novels about two people falling in love, and perhaps used to portraits of slightly jaded or bitter married couples, but it is less usual to come across an established married couple who are still strongly moved by their mental and sensual love for each other. Maxwell’s writing is always beautiful on the sentence level, often subtly weaving in and out of metaphor in a way I find immensely satisfying.

Somebody who matches him, the curves and hollows of her nature fitting into all the curves and hollows of his nature as, in bed, her straight back and soft thighs fit inside the curve of his breast and belly and hips and bent legs. Somebody who looks enough like him that they are mistaken occasionally for brother and sister, and who keeps him warm at night, taking the place of the doll that he used to sleep with his arm around: Barbara Scully. Barbara S Rhodes, when she writes a check.

What helps the couple feel particularly vivid, though, is Maxwell’s humour. He is excellent at capturing a familiar sort of flippancy between two people who love each other – for instance, when Harold is manfully reading aloud from a history book, Barbara interrupts him with “Couldn’t you just read it to yourself and tell me about it afterward?” These lighter scenes were among my favourite, and leavened a novel that could have felt a bit too pensive without them.

They don’t spend the whole time in the chateau. Over their months in the country, they travel out to different cities, and Maxwell details their activities – the privations of post-war life, the nostalgia about a trip from Barbara’s childhood, detailed scenes of their attempts to get to grips with the value of things, availability of food, correct manners etc. Along the way, they can’t truly connect with the French people they meet – always, they are coming up against invisible walls. They aren’t rejected, and many people are amiable, but nor are they embraced.

Perhaps the most moving relationship is with a couple they meet. Harold thinks Eugene has the possibility to be a dear friend…

Eugene began to sing quietly, under his breath, and Harold rode a little closer to the other bicycle, listening. It was not an old song, judging by the words, but in the tune there was a slight echo of the thing that had moved him so, that day in Blois. When Eugene finished, Harold said: “What’s the name of the song you were singing?”

“It’s just a song,” Eugene said, with his his eyes on the road, and pure, glittering, personal dislike emanating from him like an aura.

The painful discovery that someone you like very much does not like you is one of the innumerable tricks the vaudeville magician has up his sleeve. Think of a card, any card: now you see it, now you don’t…

What a true tragedy, cutting more sharply than many more overblown tragedies. How relatable, how piercing. And how quintessentially Maxwell to slide effortlessly from a specific moment to a general truth, done with an elegance that really feels like he is seeing straight through his characters into the heart of the human condition. Perhaps more difficultly, he does the same for happiness:

They should never have left Beaulieu, but they did; after ten days, he went and got bus tickets, and she packed their suitcases, and he went downstairs and paid the bill, and early the next morning they stood in the road, waiting for the bus to Marseilles. It was impossible to say why people put so little value on complete happiness.

What a beautiful paragraph. I’ve highlighted some of the disjoints in the characters’ experience – between what they hoped and what they experienced, between friendships and unexpected emnities – but there is also so much beauty, life and love in this novel. Maxwell is too subtle a writer to weigh the scales entirely on one side.

The Chateau is quite a long novel, and feels longer. As I said at the beginning, it luxuriates in its slowness. In the wrong mood, I was a little bored and wanted more action, less reflection. But in the right mood – and I was in the right mood almost the whole time I was reading it – I absolutely adored the novel. His exceptional writing, his understanding of people, and his generosity in developing characters make The Chateau something special.

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1961 Club: your reviews!

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The 1961 Club has started! Karen and I are asking everyone to read and review books published in 1961 – share your links below, or put your review in the comments.

The Mystery of Banshee Towers by Enid Blyton
Kaggsy’s Bookish Ramblings

A Stranger at Green Knowe by Lucy M. Boston
Calmgrove Books

The Pale Horse by Agatha Christie
Kaggsy’s Bookish Ramblings

Heat Wave in Berlin by Dymphna Cusack
ANZ Lit Lovers

James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl
Literary Potpourri

The Ha-Ha by Jennifer Dawson
JacquiWine’s Journal
Just Reading A Book

Voices in the Evening by Natalia Ginzburg
Book Around the Corner

Marnie by Winston Graham
AnnaBookBel

Underfoot in Show Business by Helene Hanff
Stuck in a Book

A Civil Contract by Georgette Heyer
She Reads Novels
Wicked Witch’s Blog

Life and Love in the Henhouse by Irena Krzywicka
This Reading Life

The Thief and the Dogs by Naguib Mahfouz
What? Me Read?

The Chateau by William Maxwell
Stuck in a Book

Owls in the Family by Farley Mowat
Fanda Classiclit

Tell Me a Riddle by Tillie Olsen
Madame Bibi Lophile Recommends

The Day of the Owl by Leonardo Sciascia
1st Reading

Maigret and the Idle Burglar by Georges Simenon
Kaggsy’s Bookish Ramblings

The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie by Muriel Spark
What? Me Read?

The Winter of Our Discontent by John Steinbeck
Words and Peace

Bel Lamington by D. E. Stevenson
Adventures in reading, running and working from home

The Ivy Tree by Mary Stewart
Staircase Wit

I Was Going Anyway by Robert Switzer
The Dusty Bookcase

Diary of a Mad Old Man by Junichirō Tanizaki
Winston’s Dad

In A Summer Season by Elizabeth Taylor
Somewhere Boy

The Blood of the Lamb by Peter de Vries
Typings
Somewhere Boy

The Girl in the Cellar by Patricia Wentworth
Staircase Wit

 

 

StuckinaBook’s Weekend Miscellany

Hello all! I’m back from my blogging break, with fresh enthusiasm for it. And let’s kick off with a weekend miscellany – which is really just to remind you that the 1961 Club kicks off on Monday! Grab any book, in any language, format etc, first published in 1961 – and together we’ll read and review as many as we can. Can’t wait.

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Alongside that, here is your book, blog post, and link…

1.) The link – I’ve just finished my final Muriel Spark novel, so it’s far too late for me to read an article by James Bailey called ‘Where to start with Muriel Spark‘, but it is interesting nonetheless.

Like A Cat Loves A Bird cover, showing Muriel Spark holding a black cat

2.) The book – talking of which, James Bailey has just published a new biography of Muriel Spark: Like A Cat Loves A Bird. I’m excited to read it at some point, and we do seem to be in a golden era of new Spark biogs (i.e. there is also Electric Spark by Frances Wilson).

3.) The blog post – I’m delighted to learn that Nicholas Royle has written another book about his bibliophilia – Finders, Keepers – and Karen’s review will make you as keen as I am to read it.

#148: Is There A Right Time To Read A Book? and The Dutch House vs The Party

Ann Patchett, Tessa Hadley, and finding the right time to read a book – welcome to episode 149!

In the first half, we answer the question: is there a right time for each particular book? In the second half, we compare Ann Patchett’s The Dutch House and Tessa Hadley’s The Party.

You can support the podcast at Patreon – where you’ll also get access to the exclusive new series ‘5 Books’, where I ask different people about the last book they finished, the book they’re currently reading, the next book they want to read, the last book they bought and the last book they were given

And, of course, do get in touch at teaorbooks@gmail.com with any questions or comments!

The books and authors we mentioned in this episode are:

Honourable Estates by Vera Brittain
Deviants by Santanu Bhattacharya
Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro
Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro
A Jest of God by Margaret Laurence
Richmal Crompton
E.V. Lucas
One Fine Day by Mollie Panter-Downes
Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
Sweet Valley High by Francine Pascal
The Pooh Perplex by Frederick Crews
Winnie the Pooh by A.A. Milne
A Town Called Solace by Mary Lawson
84, Charing Cross Road by Helene Hanff
The Warden by Anthony Trollope
He Knew He Was Right by Anthony Trollope
The Way We Live Now by Anthony Trollope
Barchester Towers by Anthony Trollope
Doctor Thorne by Anthony Trollope
Charles Dickens
Jane Austen
Framley Parsonage by Anthony Trollope
Hotel du Lac by Anita Brookner
A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
Douglas Bruton
The Bachelors by Muriel Spark
Symposium by Muriel Spark

A little blogging break

You may or may not have noticed how little I’ve been posting this year – I’ve always blogged as little or as much as I wanted to, and for some reason I haven’t felt the urge as much in the past few months. And so I’m going to go on a proper blog break (rather than the informal one that I’m already seemingly on!) and I’ll be back for the 1961 Club in April. You’ll also see me pop up with Tea or Books? episodes too, of course.

See you in April – as a reminder…

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The American Way of Death (1963) by Jessica Mitford

Cover of The American Way of Death

I remember being fascinated by The American Way of Death when I had my Mitfordmania in 2008. Eagerly reading everything I could about this extraordinary family, it seemed so strange and unexpected that one of their many achievements was revolutionising the American funeral industry. How on earth did that factor into the lives of English socialites in the mid-20th-century?

I kept an eye out for a copy of the book, finally buying one in 2019. And it might have languished on my shelves forever, only an episode of Lost Ladies of Lit spurred me to take it off the shelf – and, gosh, what an unusual and excellent book it is. If you think that you aren’t interested in the mid-century funeral industry in the US, then let me tell you – you will be.

Here’s how it opens:

O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? Where, indeed. Many a badly stung survivor, faced with the aftermath of some relative’s funeral, has ruefully concluded that the victory has been won hands down by a funeral establishment – in disastrously unequal battle.

Encapsulated in that paragraph is everything you can expect from Mitford throughout this book. The American Way of Death is characterised by a wry humour which makes it a constant delight to read, even when you are infuriated on behalf of those ‘survivors’. She is gently sarcastic in the direction of the bombast of the poe-faced men and women (mostly men) benefitting from other people’s grief, and she is driven by a sort of compassionate, righteous anger.

I have never organised a funeral, let alone one in mid-century America, and I have very little idea of what the process is – except for the bit involving the vicar. One of the features of growing up in a vicarage is that I often answered the phone to funeral directors, and they were always very pleasant and, indeed, jolly. (Incidentally, one of the strangest phone calls I ever took was a lady hoping to arrange funerals for both her parents – neither of whom were actually dead.)

Having said all that, it becomes clear from Mitford’s extraordinary research that undertakers in mid-century America (who were only recently adopting the term ‘funeral director’ that now seems so commonplace) were on the make. They confronted grieving families with the most underhand tactics of the secondhand car salesman, using the language of faith or duty to extort the most money possible from relatives at a moment when they were least able to defend themselves. Mitford spends much of the book exploring and uncovering what these tactics look like, from the layout of coffin (‘casket’) showrooms to the bending of the truth regarding laws around cremation or embalming. Indeed, you’ll get more details of embalming than you could ever have hoped for, including whether it does or does not impede the decomposition process.

Mitford is clearly winsome enough to have got plenty of funeral men to confide in her – sometimes in the guise of a grieving relative, sometimes more openly as a journalist. Alongside, she has done indefatigable research, gathering brochures, conferences notes and more in giving a full picture of the situation. The defences of the profiteers are pretty flimsy, and she exposes them as such:

The guiding rule in funeral pricing appears to be “from each according to his means,” regardless of the actual wishes of the family. A funeral director in San Francisco says, “If a person drives a Cadillac, why should he have a Pontiac funeral?” The Cadillac symbol figures prominently in the mortician’s thinking. This kind of reasoning is peculiar to the funeral industry. A person can drive up to an expensive restaurant in a Cadillac and can order, rather than the $40 dinner, a $2 cup of tea and he will be served. It is unlikely that the proprietor will point to his elegant furnishings and staff and demand that the Cadillac owner order something more commensurate with his ability to pay so as to help defray the overhead of the restaurant.

Mitford has such a way with words, and it is her style that keeps you reading. Being honest, the book can be rather repetitive. We know the premise and it doesn’t take long to get to grips with the broad trend of what’s going on. Her thoroughness means we see the industry from many different angles and perspectives, but The American Way of Death is endlessly interesting because of the compelling way she writes. What could have been a dry thesis often feels like a novel, peopled with bizarre characters – some good, many bad, and plenty of eccentrics.

One of my favourite sections was on florists – and specifically the increasing popularity of ‘no flowers please’ in funeral notices and obituaries. At the time of Mitford’s writing, the florists were up in arms. I have to quote in full this extraordinary letter, written to a local newspaper after a ‘no flowers’ request was printed:

We wish to express an objection to the reporting of an article concerning the death of —— as it appeared in a recent issue of your paper.

At the close of this article you reported, “The family has asked that flowers be omitted and any tribute be given to the Red Cross or to the Mary Endowment Fund.”

We feel it is not clean business or necessary in reporting a situation, for one business to express the opinion that another business can afford to be penalised in the light of charity. We do not believe in doing a good job of reporting it was necessary to include this paragraph, and the omission of this request would not have changed your ability of reporting his passing.

As a member of the Allied Florists of Saint Louis publicity committee, I know the Post-Dispatch has a generous share of our advertising funds, and the encouragement by your paper to ‘kindly omit flowers’ can hasten the day when the funds available for advertising could be so restricted that the newspapers of this community can lose that source of revenue they have been receiving.

It is not of my mind to question the wishes of any personal family. I naturally am puzzled as to why we florists have been selected as a business which can afford to do without a portion of their business at the expense of charity. I have yet to see a newspaper article on a paid obituary notice suggesting the omission of candy, liquor, cosmetics or tobacco, with funds to be forwarded to charity. It is only in the light of what I consider good business that I draw this to your attention.

This sort of thing scarcely needs any commentary! Mitford knows when to give people enough rope to hang themselves.

The American Way of Death is, of course, a snapshot of a particular time. Some of the things feel like they never caught on (does anybody say ‘cremains’ for cremated remains? Certainly I’ve never come across it) while some things feel irreparably embedded in Western culture. Apparently the publication of the book did lead to significant changes in the funeral industry, and a certain amount of outcry, but I suspect the creeping dominance of late-stage capitalism means some of the worst excesses have found their way back.

While the book was written as an exposé, it is so much more readable than you’d expect a 1960s exposé to be. We are no longer reading primarily as a way of understanding a public scandal – but it is fascinating as a cultural artefact and delightful as the work of a very funny, very persistent author. Come for the funeral facts; stay for the dry wit. What an unexpected classic.

#147: Quality vs Quantity and Two Books About Artists

Douglas Bruton, Carolyn Trant, and quality vs quantity – welcome to episode 147 or Tea or Books?!

In the first half, we discuss quality vs quantity in our reading goals (inspired by this Guardian article). In the second half, we debate two books we picked from each others ‘Best reads of 2025’ lists – Blue Postcards by Douglas Bruton and Voyaging Out: British Women Artists From Suffrage to the Sixties by Carolyn Trant.

You can support the podcast at Patreon – where you’ll also get access to the exclusive new series ‘5 Books’, where I ask different people about the last book they finished, the book they’re currently reading, the next book they want to read, the last book they bought and the last book they were given. Sorry that I’m behind with posting those, but more are on their way…

And, of course, do get in touch at teaorbooks@gmail.com with any questions or comments!

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The books and authors we mention in this episode are:

The Spring House by Cynthia Asquith
The Spring Begins by Katherine Dunning
The Party by Tessa Hadley
The Greatcoat by Helen Dunmore [is the novel I was trying to remember!]
All My Sons by Arthur Miller
O, The Brave Music by Dorothy Evelyn Smith
Freida McFadden
If On A Winter’s Night A Traveller by Italo Calvino
The Mushroom Tapes: Conversations on a Triple Murder Trial by Chloe Hooper, Helen Garner, and Sarah Krasnostein
War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy
‘Master and Man’ by Leo Tolstoy
A Winter Away by Elizabeth Fair
Moominland Midwinter by Tove Jansson
The Tenderness of Wolves by Stef Penney
Told in Winter by Jon Godden
The Snow Child by Eowyn Ivey
Winter in Thrush Green by Miss Read
Emma by Jane Austen
Life After Life by Kate Atkinson
The Long Winter by Laura Ingalls Wilder
Dept. of Speculation by Jenny Offill
The Hours by Michael Cunningham
Hope Never Knew Horizon by Douglas Bruton
The Dutch House by Ann Patchett