\n I know this isn't how the Story mode on SF is traditinaly used, but my emotinal state sort of effects my story writing, meaning i just cant muster the energy to write. So please read the following and give me comments on how to deal with this.
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\n\n Over the past six months i have been coming out to most of my friends. Well the one person i never did tell was my best friend because i was afraid of what he would think. So when i did finely find the strength to tell him over an on line game he sort asked me "Why i was gay?". How the hell should i know! he went on to say that "You have a choice to be gay. You don't have to be gay." and i assured him multiple times that it wasn't like i wanted to choose to do this. If i had a choice i would give up my ability to play the piano and cut off my writing hands to be strait, but i can't nessisaroly do that now can i. He then started to freak out because i told him my parents knew and he was worried that they might think he was gay! Who cares if people think you're gay! I told him that they knew he was "as straight as an arrow." but before that he started to say, "It would be best for our friendship if," and he ran out of room to type so i thought the next thing he was going to say was "If people knew i was straight." but no he had to say the one thing that i dreaded most, shattering me into a thousand pieces and turning me into a jittery mess. "If it didn't exist."
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\n\n I feel like I'm in a freaking divorce because now we need to give back each other's stuff.
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\n\n It would really help me allot if my watchers and fans would just give me some words of encouragement. I've found it hard to write in my...present state, so some uplifting words would help me get out of my emotional slump and back to writing.
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\n\n Please read the next "Chapter" to see resolf, or at least a temporary fix :/
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There are several organizations which can provide information to people about how you don't choose to be gay anymore than you choose to be straight. (BTW I really hate the term "straight." What are gays and lesbians? Bent? LOL) Here is a place that provides free confidential counseling http://www.glnh.org/index2.html
Here is a place that talks about the unfortunate stereotypes of gay men and how to counter them http://gaylife.about.com/od/amiga1/a/gaymyths.htm
Please note the only place I have personal experience with is the about.com in other topics. Proceed with caution.
Personally, my Gnostic faith says that people choose to come to Earth in many incarnations to learn and grow as entities, and may spend different lifetimes as male, female, etc. I believe the only "Hell" is right here on Earth - our "battleground" where we learn to fight negativity. Not trying to proselytize, as I don't believe in that, just putting out some information which may or may not help.
Sorry for the rambling, Please take care of yourself and keep writing. It's good for you in many ways, and your readers may find strength and camaraderie in your words. Good luck!
My best friend and I have a close relationship as well and I can understand how it must suck not to have that person around anymore. Especially if you spent a lot of time together. :(
The thing is as well, your not going to start acting differently or doing things differently, just because you came out. Not like your voice is going to become feminine or anything. :/ You might embrace new choices in your new lifestyle, but that still does not change who you are.
Ok sorry for the rambling, but I often just say stuff that comes to mind...sort of without thinking...
Hmmm. There was something else I wanted to say...but I forgot...:/ Sorry, will post it later if my brain starts to function again... :/
And after i rush him to the hospital i would tell him that I'm sorry and he will say, "No, it's my fault, i deserved it." and all that mushy crap. Then maybe, if he wasn't so egotistical and oblivious, we might get together, but i probably wouldn't because having my best friend as my boyfriend is just weird. XD
I have been asked, though, why I find the same sex sexually attractive. All I could really think to say was, "Why are you attracted to the opposite sex?" All she could come up with was somthing like, "Well, that's how the body's made. Women get pleasure from men and vice versa." This view point irritates me, but there's really not much I can do about it. Some people are, unfortunately, rather set in their view of how the world is supposed to work. I can't really think of what you could say to convince someone that it's not a choice, but in all reality, sexual orientation is much like eye colour or height. You can't control it, and it doesn't change who you are. The only difference is who you want as a romantic partner.
It's really irrational of him to sever ties with you over something so... well, superficial probably isn't the best word, but I'm having trouble thinking of something else. I agree with you 100%, though. Who cares if people think he's gay? He tells them he isn't, and if they don't believe him, then they clearly don't know him well and he shouldn't care anyway.
I hope things go better for you in the future. Maybe your friend will come around and make amends, which would be great. If he doesn't, though, my advice is just fondly reminisce about the good ol' days once in a while, but keep moving on with new friends. My best friend from elementary school and I drifted apart when we hit high school. There wasn't really a reason; he was just hanging out with his friends and I with mine. Every once in a while, I think of him, and part of me wishes we were still friends, but I never spend too long on that road. I just call up the friends I've made since and hang with them. And who knows? Maybe one day 5 or 10 years down the line, you'll meet him again by chance in a coffee shop and reconnect. Life can be funny like that.
Either way, don't dwell on it for too long. Sometimes there's nothing you can do, and it might turn out for the best. All the best to you, and I'll say a prayer for you. And if you ever want to talk, drop me a PM or something. I wouldn't mind a new friend.
PS Oops, that got long. Sorry 'bout that.
I really do appreciate what you said. It fills me with hope and reassures me that things will get better. My status has changed to recovering, the worst initial part of the break is over and i am slowly mending the wounds. I'm no crier, but i balled when he rejected me. Honestly i thought that the next time i would cry was at my grandmother’s funeral, but this was unexpected and totally out of character. I will probably take you up on your offer, but i don't really know what to talk about in a PM other than SF related stuff. I'm always in the market for new ideas for stories, why don’t you pitch me something later and we can bounce some ideas off of each other.
I'm glad you're feeling better. I really can't stand it when others are unhappy (well, most others; some people can kind of rot in Hell for all I care...), so I usually do my best to cheer people up. Although that's usually with an inane and ridiculously weird sense of humour.
I can't say from just that context what you specifically think about crying, but just in case, I'm going to say that there's nothing wrong with it. Unless it's over something petty or ridiculous, crying is a legitmate expression of emotion just like laughing, and there's nothing childish or wimpy about it.
If PMing is the problem, my email and MSN address is listed in my profile. If that's just a polite "No, thank you," then that's cool too. I'm not offended. As to story ideas, I guess I'll need to check out some of your stories so I know what you write. I don't think I've read any of your stuff before. However, if you ever need characters, settings, or scenarios, just give me a glimpse of what you want, like genre or a scene or plot detail and I can probably come up with something for you. My problem isn't so much coming up with ideas as it is bringing those ideas to a conclusion... I've kind of lost count of how many stories I have in the works right now... Also, as self-proclaimed Fürher of the grammer nazis, I'd always be happy to proofread, edit, or otherwise revise stuff for you, too. For inexplicable reasons, I enjoy doing stuff like that and have revised countless essays for my friends throughout high school and university.
Wow, another long response... guess you're happy, then, so all's well and good. Anyway, glad you're feeling a little better. *hugs* There, that should help. I love hugs myself (I even wrote a poem about that in one of my journals), and firmly believe that people don't give and receive them enough. Anywho, I look forward to hearing from you again. Fare thee well.
I think its stupid to say god created every one except us or ppl like us (i not trying to be racial or religious sorry if i sound like i am.)
I look at the fact were over populated and its a natural thing that we balance our worlds order because we have so many ppl in the world that are sick or diseased.In fact animals harm the weak and defenseless is a similar balance to protect order.The world order i've seen is way worse then ever before in history.I don't agree with violence in the human race but there is no escape.i believe Being gay,bi or straight may be a choice or something we cant accept but i'm proud of who i am and how much i've lived to see.I support who you are as as bi werewolf.I opened my heart to say this.
I honestly share my experience and out look with you because i feel your pain and i feel like my wisdom might help somehow.
I'm very happy my words helped in some way
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if you ever join let me know i'll be there mostly.
I'm a friend of Nex nice to meet you ^-^
By-the-by we sort of made up today!
Only he has "conditions" some of them i understood, but some were just sort of ridiculous. The first one was fine with me, i couldn't really "touch" him anymore. I never actually touched him before, not anywhere inappropriate anyway. But the one that really ticked me off was that he wanted to make me promise that he would help me become straight!
I said. "Insert person’s name here" how dare you! To even suggest that you would try to change me, simply to make yourself feel more comfortable around me, is unbearably selfish.
He was quiet for a while then he texted me, this conversation was through texts mind you he was still too afraid to talk to me on the phone, and said that we could hang out a while.
I came on line to night to update this post. I may not have gotten my whole friend back, but it's a start, and I'm taking it.
I didn't like his idea to change you though that was selfish of him to ask.
At least you have a new start with your friend ^-^
I'm very happy for you and i'm glad i helped you somehow
The way I see it is that as we were growing into adulthood a number of events in our past that had lasting effects on us shaped our orientation. It could of been anything from an absent father to being molested or being rejected by every girl we ever had a crush on. It could be a mix of those things, and I think it may very well be a mix of things that shapes our orientation. But essentially whatever it was that shaped our Psyche has left it's mark. What's done is done, and people need to accept that.
Look on the bright side too. At least your parents have accepted the fact or are at least not going to abandon you. At least you have a bunch of other friends who accept you as you are.
I wish you well