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melancholyHey yall i need some advice on a guy i really like and i don't know what to do
Name: Kim
Her name: Laura
My age: 28
Her age: 26
Link to original member stats: Here
Together since: 25 October 2009
Time we were long distance: About 5.5 years.
Short distance since: 22 February! I'm currently in the Netherlands to pack up some last bits and arrange the last things, but I am now officially a British resident.
How we finally became local: Laura needed to move out of her old house (the landlord was crap and her and her roommate had had enough), so we decided to simply apply for a place together and found a flat! It all went fast from there, haha, with the application being approved within days and the key being handed over two weeks or so later. I finally dared to tell my parents about my plans (I always felt guilty, even though I shouldn't), and by now I have arranged nearly everything over there. :) It's exciting!
Future plans: First I need to move over all my stuff (or what I want to keep, at least), then I need to find a job (I'm currently self-employed, but I'd prefer a more steady job eventually) and eventually we plan on getting married - we're already engaged. After that: kids! But not too soon, haha.
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Her name: Laura
My age: 28
Her age: 26
Link to original member stats: Here
Together since: 25 October 2009
Time we were long distance: About 5.5 years.
Short distance since: 22 February! I'm currently in the Netherlands to pack up some last bits and arrange the last things, but I am now officially a British resident.
How we finally became local: Laura needed to move out of her old house (the landlord was crap and her and her roommate had had enough), so we decided to simply apply for a place together and found a flat! It all went fast from there, haha, with the application being approved within days and the key being handed over two weeks or so later. I finally dared to tell my parents about my plans (I always felt guilty, even though I shouldn't), and by now I have arranged nearly everything over there. :) It's exciting!
Future plans: First I need to move over all my stuff (or what I want to keep, at least), then I need to find a job (I'm currently self-employed, but I'd prefer a more steady job eventually) and eventually we plan on getting married - we're already engaged. After that: kids! But not too soon, haha.
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I had to stop talking to Sven. It was so hard to do, and so awful. I managed to fall for someone halfway across the world that I had never met in person. I really cared about him too. It was mutual, actually. But he said that he couldn't do an LDR again. He's done it before and said that he's made a personal boundary; he wouldn't ever do that to another person or himself again. I get it. I've done it before, and it's awful. But I knew I couldn't just keep talking to him. So, I called it off. I was very honest, and I explained all this to him. He agreed, and he apologized for letting our conversations get so far. So it's done. Whatever it was. If only Holland were right next door.
Good luck to the rest of you all <3
Good luck to the rest of you all <3
Funny story...I belong to this community from a previous LDR that was eventually a "success." We moved in together, got married, and I entered 2015 a divorced young woman. Everyone hears that you're divorced and the default response seems to be, "I'm so sorry." I reply, "No, you don't understand. The correct response is congratulations." I couldn't be happier now that we're divorced. We were together for 6 years, and it wasn't until 4 years into the relationship that he became abusive. I caught on a bit later than I wish I had, and left that asshole. But enough about him.
So I've been in the dating world for 7 months now. Lot of chatting, lots of dates, lots of "eh." I've had a really hard time connecting with people. Until Sven.
He messaged me via okcupid, and I didn't notice until after I replied that he's in the Netherlands. Fucking Holland! I'm in the US. I'm not sure I could find a further location from me on the planet! So unrealistic, makes no sense, I'm stupid for considering this...yet I can't stop talking to him. We've been skying and emailing every day. He's 6 hours ahead of me, so he' sleeping right now. Makes it more difficult to talk, but we still find time at least once a day. I know this makes no sense, and so does he. I feel stupid and crazy, and I think he does too. I talked about wanting to visit him, and while he's excited for that, he cautioned against it too. He said he's afraid of falling hopelessly in love with me. We're both fucking crazy and I like him a lot.
I'd love to hear anything from anyone who can identify with this. Any tips? Any magic tricks? Anyone invent a portal? Tips for flight travel? Oh what am I thinking...lol.
So I've been in the dating world for 7 months now. Lot of chatting, lots of dates, lots of "eh." I've had a really hard time connecting with people. Until Sven.
He messaged me via okcupid, and I didn't notice until after I replied that he's in the Netherlands. Fucking Holland! I'm in the US. I'm not sure I could find a further location from me on the planet! So unrealistic, makes no sense, I'm stupid for considering this...yet I can't stop talking to him. We've been skying and emailing every day. He's 6 hours ahead of me, so he' sleeping right now. Makes it more difficult to talk, but we still find time at least once a day. I know this makes no sense, and so does he. I feel stupid and crazy, and I think he does too. I talked about wanting to visit him, and while he's excited for that, he cautioned against it too. He said he's afraid of falling hopelessly in love with me. We're both fucking crazy and I like him a lot.
I'd love to hear anything from anyone who can identify with this. Any tips? Any magic tricks? Anyone invent a portal? Tips for flight travel? Oh what am I thinking...lol.
Hey there! It's been awhile since I've posted, and the community seems a little slow, so I thought I'd post something I've been thinking about and get a discussion/some feedback going.
Does anyone else have trouble with combining your ldr with your everyday life? By that I mean this. When my boyfriend isn't here I go about my daily routines, and of course in some fashion he is apart of my life, since we are talking everyday, planning, being in a relationship, etc. However, when he visits, I feel like we kind of retreat into this world of our own where everything revolves around us. We know our time is limited, so we dedicate every second to being together. When he leaves, I sometimes find it difficult to transition back into my routine. Not because I miss him necessarily (although I do) more so because it just feels like my life when he's around and my life when I'm by myself are totally separate.
I also worry about how this will work when we finally close the distance. I'm an independent person who enjoys doing things alone and loves her personal time. I wonder how I'm going to, I guess, meld my relationship into my established way of being? We probably won't feel that need to do every single thing together since I know he'll always be there, so I wonder if it will be awkward going about my life with him around? (especially since we do plan on living together)
Thoughts? Personal experiences?
Does anyone else have trouble with combining your ldr with your everyday life? By that I mean this. When my boyfriend isn't here I go about my daily routines, and of course in some fashion he is apart of my life, since we are talking everyday, planning, being in a relationship, etc. However, when he visits, I feel like we kind of retreat into this world of our own where everything revolves around us. We know our time is limited, so we dedicate every second to being together. When he leaves, I sometimes find it difficult to transition back into my routine. Not because I miss him necessarily (although I do) more so because it just feels like my life when he's around and my life when I'm by myself are totally separate.
I also worry about how this will work when we finally close the distance. I'm an independent person who enjoys doing things alone and loves her personal time. I wonder how I'm going to, I guess, meld my relationship into my established way of being? We probably won't feel that need to do every single thing together since I know he'll always be there, so I wonder if it will be awkward going about my life with him around? (especially since we do plan on living together)
Thoughts? Personal experiences?
Hello, I've been in Lj since 2011, I think,
and I met my girlfriend in one of the communities here.
I used to post and she comments,and that's how we started.
http://mamimima.livejournal.com/2059.html
My name: Maricel
His/Her name: Michelle
I live: Philippines
He/She lives:Germany
My age: 37
His/Her age: 21
Distance: Thousands of miles away
Together since: August of 2011
How we met: Online, here on Lj
We get to see each other (approximately how often): whenever possible
Future plans: Getting married in 4 months hopefully
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and I met my girlfriend in one of the communities here.
I used to post and she comments,and that's how we started.
http://mamimima.livejournal.com/2059.html
My name: Maricel
His/Her name: Michelle
I live: Philippines
He/She lives:Germany
My age: 37
His/Her age: 21
Distance: Thousands of miles away
Together since: August of 2011
How we met: Online, here on Lj
We get to see each other (approximately how often): whenever possible
Future plans: Getting married in 4 months hopefully
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frustratedMy name: You can call me Captain. This is an anonymous blog for me.
His name: I refer to him as Schu in my blog
I live: on the West coast
He lives: on the East coast.
My age: 20
His age: 19
Distance: About 3,000 miles
Together since: officially, September 10th.
How we met: We both used to live in the same state in the central United States. We were both going through some hard stuff in our lives and instantly clicked as best friends. Even with 3,000 miles between us we managed to find a way to fall in love. :)
We get to see each other (approximately how often): as often as possible. Last time was in September. We hope for December but it might not happen again until after the first of the year.
Future plans: I plan to move to be with him in January or February.
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His name: I refer to him as Schu in my blog
I live: on the West coast
He lives: on the East coast.
My age: 20
His age: 19
Distance: About 3,000 miles
Together since: officially, September 10th.
How we met: We both used to live in the same state in the central United States. We were both going through some hard stuff in our lives and instantly clicked as best friends. Even with 3,000 miles between us we managed to find a way to fall in love. :)
We get to see each other (approximately how often): as often as possible. Last time was in September. We hope for December but it might not happen again until after the first of the year.
Future plans: I plan to move to be with him in January or February.
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I've been a member of this community in the past, although only about 2 our of 12 years of our relationship have been long distance. My husband and I were long distance between when he graduated from college and when I did. We were long distance again for a little over a year around a year ago while I worked a job in another state. I was able to come home every weekend, which I know is really quite good, but it was still tough.
When I left that job, I went to work at my husband's company. There's a long story there, but the short version is that it's just killing us as a couple. We love being together a lot, and we love working together, but we are both software developers with similar levels of skill, but they have me answering the phone and doing customer support instead of development, and it is just killing me. I feel like my skills are languishing in this role. I'm so frustrated with how the company is treating me, and especially the way that my husband's team is not sharing the interesting work that is going on with me. I'm angry at him for begging me to take the job here and not doing more when the job turned out (after I started) to be so far below my skill level, and jealous of him all the time, and it is driving us apart. My work is really important to me and I really enjoyed it when I was doing development. I'm looking into going back to my old job, even though it will mean going out of town every week again. Being long distance was rough, but it wasn't as rough as what we are dealing with right now. If I go this route, it would likely be a choice not to see each other during the week for a long time--there aren't a lot of employers in our city for what we do and it could be ages before I find an opening locally.
The thing is, we've been married 8 years, I'm 31 years old, and we're at the point in our lives where we want to be having children. My husband especially is getting tired of waiting for me to be ready to have a baby, and is concerned about declining fertility. I don't think we'd relocate. Our friends are here, my family is here, our house is here, my husband's job is here. So if we did manage to get pregnant, I'd potentially be spending a lot of time long distance from the baby as well. Anyone here do this? How nuts am I for considering this?
When I left that job, I went to work at my husband's company. There's a long story there, but the short version is that it's just killing us as a couple. We love being together a lot, and we love working together, but we are both software developers with similar levels of skill, but they have me answering the phone and doing customer support instead of development, and it is just killing me. I feel like my skills are languishing in this role. I'm so frustrated with how the company is treating me, and especially the way that my husband's team is not sharing the interesting work that is going on with me. I'm angry at him for begging me to take the job here and not doing more when the job turned out (after I started) to be so far below my skill level, and jealous of him all the time, and it is driving us apart. My work is really important to me and I really enjoyed it when I was doing development. I'm looking into going back to my old job, even though it will mean going out of town every week again. Being long distance was rough, but it wasn't as rough as what we are dealing with right now. If I go this route, it would likely be a choice not to see each other during the week for a long time--there aren't a lot of employers in our city for what we do and it could be ages before I find an opening locally.
The thing is, we've been married 8 years, I'm 31 years old, and we're at the point in our lives where we want to be having children. My husband especially is getting tired of waiting for me to be ready to have a baby, and is concerned about declining fertility. I don't think we'd relocate. Our friends are here, my family is here, our house is here, my husband's job is here. So if we did manage to get pregnant, I'd potentially be spending a lot of time long distance from the baby as well. Anyone here do this? How nuts am I for considering this?
I have been married for 3 years now and since then i have been living in a LDR for familiar and job situation.. My husband usually comes to see me every month for 1 week..Also have a baby of 2 years, but i know that my husband just want to be part of the life of the baby he doesn't love me anymore.. don't touch me at all (when i see him).. His salary were raised at the double but the child support never have been in percentages because he will not increase anything because he gave what is fair for him..
I will like to find my true love, somewhere. And hopefully have a happy life..
Thank you for your comments
I will like to find my true love, somewhere. And hopefully have a happy life..
Thank you for your comments
It makes me feel a little sad that nobody posts here much anymore (months at a time.) I'd love to see some re-intro's in the comments for those of you who are still active on LJ and still in LDRs. I'd like to meet you. :]
I need some advice. I moved cross country last summer to live with my boyfriend. I've been on a roller coaster of homesickness lately, but my family members are being assholes. My birthday was last week, and neither of my parents (never married, separate households, they don't speak) even bothered to call Or send a card or anything. My grandma, who was like a mom to me, seems totally unsympathetic to my feelings. When I told her I was homesick, she said "we miss you too, but this was your choice" as if I'd moved to hurt them.
My mom did call me a couple days after my birthday, at 4am completely hammered, and then again in the morning to say I should forgive her for not calling since "the important thing to you is the check I sent". That is obviously not how I feel, I've never had a real relationship with her, because she was so inconsistent in visiting me.
My dad skipped Easter dinner with his family to go to his oxy dealer's house instead. He raised me, and I still haven't heard from him since before Easter.
my question is this: in order to cure my homesickness should I save to go home for a week, or decorate my apartment to make this feel more like home?
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So, it's been 9 long months since I've started this LDR of mine, and.... I guess it's mostly going okay. I've applied to grad school to be in the same country as him, and am waiting to hear back. Hopefully, all should go well, and I should be there in a few short months. :)
The problem is, I feel we're getting distant. The past few weeks, all we've been exchanging are "hi"s and "whats up with you"s, which peter out to nothing. I try and make an effort to make a conversation, but it doesn't really work. He hasn't been affectionate in a while (doesn't even call me by the name he has for me, which is what he always used to call me; this is when I started realizing things were changing), and any attempts I make, are replied to with a "oh, how nice"-sort of sentiment. I recently told him I miss him and his reply to me was hurtful and made me feel stupid. He's told me before that his mechanism to deal with the distance is to shut down that part of his brain and think of me less, which I find nonsensical. He insists filling up my time and "going out and doing things" will make me not think of him either. (It makes me feel so damn ragey when he says things like this. He seems to think that all I'm doing at home is moping about him and missing him, as if I have no life of my own. I already have a full-time job, and go out with friends and family during the weekend. I'm more of a homebody, and prefer to spend time doing things at home.)
I know he's very busy and very, very stressed with school, and the all encompassing soul-suck that is being a grad student. (Also, the weather where he is absolutely miserable, and I think he may have Seasonal Affective Disorder - we are from a sunny and tropical climate) And I completely understand why he may not be his usual self. I've done a lot of growing up in the past few months, and know that he's not ignoring me, but that school is his priority now, and I shouldn't feel bad. But I would really like to address this issue with him, and have no idea how to - I don't want to seem like I'm blaming him, or want more attention or time from him. I just want to feel that old connection we had. I used to think the next time we meet (after I get admission) would be happy and awesome, but now, I'm scared we'll be awkward and weird around each other. (I'm just overthinking, right?)
Any advice on how I should bring this up to him in a non-confrontational way? :/
The problem is, I feel we're getting distant. The past few weeks, all we've been exchanging are "hi"s and "whats up with you"s, which peter out to nothing. I try and make an effort to make a conversation, but it doesn't really work. He hasn't been affectionate in a while (doesn't even call me by the name he has for me, which is what he always used to call me; this is when I started realizing things were changing), and any attempts I make, are replied to with a "oh, how nice"-sort of sentiment. I recently told him I miss him and his reply to me was hurtful and made me feel stupid. He's told me before that his mechanism to deal with the distance is to shut down that part of his brain and think of me less, which I find nonsensical. He insists filling up my time and "going out and doing things" will make me not think of him either. (It makes me feel so damn ragey when he says things like this. He seems to think that all I'm doing at home is moping about him and missing him, as if I have no life of my own. I already have a full-time job, and go out with friends and family during the weekend. I'm more of a homebody, and prefer to spend time doing things at home.)
I know he's very busy and very, very stressed with school, and the all encompassing soul-suck that is being a grad student. (Also, the weather where he is absolutely miserable, and I think he may have Seasonal Affective Disorder - we are from a sunny and tropical climate) And I completely understand why he may not be his usual self. I've done a lot of growing up in the past few months, and know that he's not ignoring me, but that school is his priority now, and I shouldn't feel bad. But I would really like to address this issue with him, and have no idea how to - I don't want to seem like I'm blaming him, or want more attention or time from him. I just want to feel that old connection we had. I used to think the next time we meet (after I get admission) would be happy and awesome, but now, I'm scared we'll be awkward and weird around each other. (I'm just overthinking, right?)
Any advice on how I should bring this up to him in a non-confrontational way? :/
Hi everyone! I was in a LDR for close to 2 years. We've been together now for almost 4 years after I relocated from the US to the UK. I have a blog with my cousins called Three Ladies and Their Babies and I recently posted my story here: http://threeladiesandtheirbabies.wordpress.com/2013/02/26/finding-love-online/
I thought some of you might be interested as you can probably all relate to it.
I know how hard and impossible a LDR can be and I also know how worth it it is when you can finally be together! Stay strong, everyone.
I hope this post is okay. If it's not let me know and I'll gladly take it down.
I thought some of you might be interested as you can probably all relate to it.
I know how hard and impossible a LDR can be and I also know how worth it it is when you can finally be together! Stay strong, everyone.
I hope this post is okay. If it's not let me know and I'll gladly take it down.
My stats. Only difference is he's now in Florida rather than Kansas.
I'm in an LDR with an American guy and I'm in the UK. We've talked about how to get us both in one place and he wants to move to the UK, and we've talked about getting married and going down the fiancé visa and such. The problem is that for him to qualify he is not allowed to use public funds for the first six months or so until he can start working. I live in a council house and receive benefit to pay my rent. Now I seem to remember reading somewhere that if he paid the rent with his own money he would still be allowed to live here, is that correct? If so, could anyone post a link to something saying that? I know that once we were declared as partners I would lose some of my benefit, but if he could support the pair of us by paying our rent and council tax, would that be okay? Do you know if I would still be eligible for my benefits until he started working? Since his income would be £0 apart from whatever money he has to support us, or would my claiming count as using public funds?
Sorry for all the questions, I'm exhausted and about to head to bed, so was hoping someone would have the answers I need or could at least point me in the right direction. Thanks to anyone who can help!
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I'm in an LDR with an American guy and I'm in the UK. We've talked about how to get us both in one place and he wants to move to the UK, and we've talked about getting married and going down the fiancé visa and such. The problem is that for him to qualify he is not allowed to use public funds for the first six months or so until he can start working. I live in a council house and receive benefit to pay my rent. Now I seem to remember reading somewhere that if he paid the rent with his own money he would still be allowed to live here, is that correct? If so, could anyone post a link to something saying that? I know that once we were declared as partners I would lose some of my benefit, but if he could support the pair of us by paying our rent and council tax, would that be okay? Do you know if I would still be eligible for my benefits until he started working? Since his income would be £0 apart from whatever money he has to support us, or would my claiming count as using public funds?
Sorry for all the questions, I'm exhausted and about to head to bed, so was hoping someone would have the answers I need or could at least point me in the right direction. Thanks to anyone who can help!
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My name is Gloria, and what I am looking for is advice and support. I am great at returning the favors also. I am interested in reading entries that are similar to what I am going through. I guess I just want to know that I am not alone with what I am dealing with.
I am in a long distance relationship that started from playing an online game. We were amazing friends for a long time, and our relationship was never a flirty one in the beginning, but feelings developed on both sides, and one day we admitted it, and we began our LDR. Recently, due to complications, we went back to just being friends...and I am having a hard time coping with it.
I just need advice and support. I also read that keeping a journal would help.
Please, if you can relate to me in any way, add me. I will also read your entries and help you out as much as I can also.
Thanks!
I am in a long distance relationship that started from playing an online game. We were amazing friends for a long time, and our relationship was never a flirty one in the beginning, but feelings developed on both sides, and one day we admitted it, and we began our LDR. Recently, due to complications, we went back to just being friends...and I am having a hard time coping with it.
I just need advice and support. I also read that keeping a journal would help.
Please, if you can relate to me in any way, add me. I will also read your entries and help you out as much as I can also.
Thanks!
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Hey guys!
I have a quick question. I am in the last stage of my long distance relationship as my partner and I got married in December. The last hurdle we have to get across is the visa. Does anyone know the process of when/how you know when your visa into the UK has been accepted? I have done my biometrics and I've sent my documents but I haven't heard anything since. I've seen some USA help websites saying they receive an email when the UK border agency have their documents and another email confirming whether they have been granted the visa or not. I have gotten no emails at all and it has been over a month. Should I be worried? Any assistance is greatly appreciated!
P.S I am applying from outside the UK (in New Zealand)
I have a quick question. I am in the last stage of my long distance relationship as my partner and I got married in December. The last hurdle we have to get across is the visa. Does anyone know the process of when/how you know when your visa into the UK has been accepted? I have done my biometrics and I've sent my documents but I haven't heard anything since. I've seen some USA help websites saying they receive an email when the UK border agency have their documents and another email confirming whether they have been granted the visa or not. I have gotten no emails at all and it has been over a month. Should I be worried? Any assistance is greatly appreciated!
P.S I am applying from outside the UK (in New Zealand)
I was browsing our pics from the last time, and I thought I'd do an update.
So... I am in the USA, he is in Russia, in my hometown. We've been together 1.5 years now, know each other for about 12. His US tourist visa was denied twice last year for no apparent reason, and we decided to travel to build up his visa history. We went to Germany and Amsterdam this winter, and booked tickets to meet in Paris in April. As romantic as it gets, I think:)
We spent the whole time living together while I was in my hometown, loved every minute. I learned, finally, that I accept him with all troubles and downsides and I don't think of him as a flawless prince, but as a real man. Most importantly, I decided I can deal with him being a real man, you know. But enough philosophy...we did a photo shoot! Turned out to be 6 hours instead of 2, as I imagined:)
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So... I am in the USA, he is in Russia, in my hometown. We've been together 1.5 years now, know each other for about 12. His US tourist visa was denied twice last year for no apparent reason, and we decided to travel to build up his visa history. We went to Germany and Amsterdam this winter, and booked tickets to meet in Paris in April. As romantic as it gets, I think:)
We spent the whole time living together while I was in my hometown, loved every minute. I learned, finally, that I accept him with all troubles and downsides and I don't think of him as a flawless prince, but as a real man. Most importantly, I decided I can deal with him being a real man, you know. But enough philosophy...we did a photo shoot! Turned out to be 6 hours instead of 2, as I imagined:)
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"Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough. It's for the fearless. It's an emotional long-term investment, it's heartaches and goodbyes and loneliness and sacrifice. It's beautiful, it hurts, it fucking hurts, but it's so god-damned worth it in the end. It's for the wild ones at heart kept in cages''
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So, we're going through a rough patch. It hasn't anything to do with us personally, we're more in love now than ever. We spent a wonderful three weeks together back in August, and got to see each other for a very short visit in early November. We were hoping we could see each other before I started school again, and had formulated plans to meet up on the 9th, even going so far as to book our flights. However, just today we had to cancel those plans.
Unfortunately, he's recently been stricken with some family tragedy. His mother was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer back in late October, and things were going fairly smooth, about as smooth as cancer treatment can go I suppose, when she was suddenly rushed to the hospital because of her inability to breathe or swallow with the tumors in her throat. She is currently in the ICU being kept sedated while they administer radiation.
We just found out today that this Tuesday they're taking her breathing tube out to see if she can breathe on her own, and the tube cannot be re-inserted, so it is literally a life or death situation.
I have a lot of mixed emotions. Of course I'm disappointed we can't see each other, and probably won't until mid-March. But I've assured him that I am capable of waiting as long as it takes, and that being there for his mother is the most important thing. I am also having this sort of grieving of my own that is new for me, where I have never even met this woman but I find myself sobbing at the thought of her being gone, maybe because I know how painful it's going to be for him, and how I can't be there to comfort him. He's been sleeping on the floor in the ICU for a couple days now because he refuses to leaver her side. He told me today that she can hear them, and gives small reactions when asked. He said he told her she needs to get better so she can make dinner for Chinese New Year, and I just found myself crying uncontrollably.
I guess I'm just looking for any input. Suggestions on how to handle it, how to comfort him from far away, and how to comfort myself without taking any of the attention away from him (since the last thing I want to do is burden him with my own emotions). Encouragement, insight, anything is helpful. Have any of you experience a similar predicament?
So, we're going through a rough patch. It hasn't anything to do with us personally, we're more in love now than ever. We spent a wonderful three weeks together back in August, and got to see each other for a very short visit in early November. We were hoping we could see each other before I started school again, and had formulated plans to meet up on the 9th, even going so far as to book our flights. However, just today we had to cancel those plans.
Unfortunately, he's recently been stricken with some family tragedy. His mother was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer back in late October, and things were going fairly smooth, about as smooth as cancer treatment can go I suppose, when she was suddenly rushed to the hospital because of her inability to breathe or swallow with the tumors in her throat. She is currently in the ICU being kept sedated while they administer radiation.
We just found out today that this Tuesday they're taking her breathing tube out to see if she can breathe on her own, and the tube cannot be re-inserted, so it is literally a life or death situation.
I have a lot of mixed emotions. Of course I'm disappointed we can't see each other, and probably won't until mid-March. But I've assured him that I am capable of waiting as long as it takes, and that being there for his mother is the most important thing. I am also having this sort of grieving of my own that is new for me, where I have never even met this woman but I find myself sobbing at the thought of her being gone, maybe because I know how painful it's going to be for him, and how I can't be there to comfort him. He's been sleeping on the floor in the ICU for a couple days now because he refuses to leaver her side. He told me today that she can hear them, and gives small reactions when asked. He said he told her she needs to get better so she can make dinner for Chinese New Year, and I just found myself crying uncontrollably.
I guess I'm just looking for any input. Suggestions on how to handle it, how to comfort him from far away, and how to comfort myself without taking any of the attention away from him (since the last thing I want to do is burden him with my own emotions). Encouragement, insight, anything is helpful. Have any of you experience a similar predicament?
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So, a lot of things have happened in my life in the past year. About 5 months back I got married to my wife. But, to add to that, she's also 7 months pregnant! we had no idea when we got married. But, about 2 months after we got married, we up-rooted and moved to Wyoming. I am currently a student here. It's definitely...a change for me. No one has ever really cared I guess so which brings me to why i'm on here, I have an issue talking about things to anyone. It's all clear in my head, but whenever I say what I'm thinking, its a jumbled mess.
My wife, who I sent back to Michigan to be with family while she's pregnant, thinks I just don't care or don't understand. Which is far from the case. I just never know what to say anymore. She knows this, but that plus distance just makes her sad now. But it still never comes out how I need it to. I used to be so great with words, writing music and all sorts of things like that. But now, when I need it, all I get are blanks. Can anyone offer me any ideas of anything that could help?
My wife, who I sent back to Michigan to be with family while she's pregnant, thinks I just don't care or don't understand. Which is far from the case. I just never know what to say anymore. She knows this, but that plus distance just makes her sad now. But it still never comes out how I need it to. I used to be so great with words, writing music and all sorts of things like that. But now, when I need it, all I get are blanks. Can anyone offer me any ideas of anything that could help?
- Current Mood:
ecstatic
so I was in a ldr for about ten yrs and just last year we broke up due to the distance and finding a way to get him here permanently.I am still very much in love with him but with the reality and stress of visa's and finding a way for him to move here it really put its toll on the relationship.We are still trying to find ways to get him here and he's been trying to find jobs here as well and have them provide a workers visa but he cant find anything because they want US citizens.I think the only definate way for him to come here is to have us get married (im all for it because we have been together for over ten yrs but he doesnt feel comfortable with me financially supporting him until he gets a green card and both our families are very old school as well) or going through an immigration lawyer.Has anyone gone through the lawer route that has been successful? if so then how legit is it and how much would it cost approximately? any info would help! i dont want to lose my soulmate and I just wish we could just get married because it feels like the easiest way to get him here at this point.
Hi, I'm new to this. I kinda need help with something. Apologies if I've taken this to the wrong forum but it's kinda related.
Ok, so we've been together for 8 months, my boyfriend and I. And I'm 5 months pregnant. The problem is we fight such a lot. And because he hasn't been able to support me and our unborn child and I'm unable to work where I currently I am, I'm forced to leave him and move away. We're planning on staying together and we got engaged last night.
However the original plan was for him to get a job, save up and move to be with me and the baby. Now he has just got job that he loves, he doesn't want to leave. And expects me and the baby to move back once I've got the prenatal care I need. I feel like I can't rely on him and while I love him, I want to be able to support myself and baby before I move back. Plus, the job is only part time and the money isn't as great as he's making out. And he has a track record of losing jobs...
Moving back would require we get married, too. And with all the fighting and I guess my lack of faith in the relationship, I'm doubting whether that's a good idea or not. I do love him and at times think the good times we have are worth it all. But I don't know if that's a good enough reason to get married. Sometimes I think maybe we should just for the baby alone. But I doubt whether he can support us. I'm so confused as to what to do. Also, I know communication is key is long distance relationships, and it's currently me doing all the work. I'm staying with family in another state until I move and so far, I've been doing everything I can to stay in touch with him and he comes online on facebook for five minutes at night, then makes an excuse to log off. When I know for a fact he sits up all night, every night, playing games online.
Am I being needy and selfish here? Or do i have every right to question this and expect more from him as the father of my child? I do love him, and I miss him terribly. I think a part of me hopes he'll change when he sees the baby. Even his mum wants him to be present for the birth cos she thinks that's the only thing that will motivate him to do anything. I'm completely lost here. Any advice would be great. Thank you!
Ok, so we've been together for 8 months, my boyfriend and I. And I'm 5 months pregnant. The problem is we fight such a lot. And because he hasn't been able to support me and our unborn child and I'm unable to work where I currently I am, I'm forced to leave him and move away. We're planning on staying together and we got engaged last night.
However the original plan was for him to get a job, save up and move to be with me and the baby. Now he has just got job that he loves, he doesn't want to leave. And expects me and the baby to move back once I've got the prenatal care I need. I feel like I can't rely on him and while I love him, I want to be able to support myself and baby before I move back. Plus, the job is only part time and the money isn't as great as he's making out. And he has a track record of losing jobs...
Moving back would require we get married, too. And with all the fighting and I guess my lack of faith in the relationship, I'm doubting whether that's a good idea or not. I do love him and at times think the good times we have are worth it all. But I don't know if that's a good enough reason to get married. Sometimes I think maybe we should just for the baby alone. But I doubt whether he can support us. I'm so confused as to what to do. Also, I know communication is key is long distance relationships, and it's currently me doing all the work. I'm staying with family in another state until I move and so far, I've been doing everything I can to stay in touch with him and he comes online on facebook for five minutes at night, then makes an excuse to log off. When I know for a fact he sits up all night, every night, playing games online.
Am I being needy and selfish here? Or do i have every right to question this and expect more from him as the father of my child? I do love him, and I miss him terribly. I think a part of me hopes he'll change when he sees the baby. Even his mum wants him to be present for the birth cos she thinks that's the only thing that will motivate him to do anything. I'm completely lost here. Any advice would be great. Thank you!
I've been wanting to post that since I joined this community. I believe it was 2 years and 5 months ago. Finally my husband's visa has been approved and he is coming home! It has been a long trying journey, but we have remained true to each other and have supported each other through it all. I wish the same for everyone on here and I pray you will make it to the end however long your journey because all the work of a long distance relationship is worth it once you finally cross the finish line. And I thank everyone for your advice and helping me through. Good luck everyone!
- Current Mood:
accomplished
When I took over as mod, I thought it would be a good idea to have a review of the community to get some feedback and - most importantly - how we could inject some life back into it. I set up a poll but the response was very disappointing. I don't think my timing was the best because it was the beginning of the summer and obviously people weren't around as much. (Also a short time later, my college decided it would be fun to assign me a hugely intensive summer project so I wasn't around much either!)
Now it's October, the summer is long past and school is pretty much in, I think. This seems like a good time to point you all in the direction of the poll and beg on bended knee for you to take the time to fill it out. Hopefully, there'll be more response this time, so when you've all had chance to complete it, I'll post about the results and any resulting changes. And without further ado, here's the link!
The Great LFA Review
This is your opportunity to have your say about your community.
Now it's October, the summer is long past and school is pretty much in, I think. This seems like a good time to point you all in the direction of the poll and beg on bended knee for you to take the time to fill it out. Hopefully, there'll be more response this time, so when you've all had chance to complete it, I'll post about the results and any resulting changes. And without further ado, here's the link!
This is your opportunity to have your say about your community.
- Current Location:Mod Towers, Modshire
- Current Mood:
hopeful - Current Music:Absolute Classic Rock
Name: Caroline
His/Her name: Jon
My age: 21
His/Her age: 22
Together since: September 12th, 2005
Time we were long distance: We dated while in high school from September 2005 to August 2008, then moved to college 230 miles (4 hours) apart from September 2008 to May 2012.
Short distance since: July 28th, 2012
How we finally became local: We stuck it through the distance through undergraduate school and finally graduated and worked like hell to get our new school plans to work together!
Future plans: My fiance is starting his PhD in physics in one week and should finish in the next 5-6 years; I begin a second bachelor's (this time in nursing) next week and will finish next year. We will marry next December :) Until then, we're loving life with our amazing husky and two cats <3
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His/Her name: Jon
My age: 21
His/Her age: 22
Together since: September 12th, 2005
Time we were long distance: We dated while in high school from September 2005 to August 2008, then moved to college 230 miles (4 hours) apart from September 2008 to May 2012.
Short distance since: July 28th, 2012
How we finally became local: We stuck it through the distance through undergraduate school and finally graduated and worked like hell to get our new school plans to work together!
Future plans: My fiance is starting his PhD in physics in one week and should finish in the next 5-6 years; I begin a second bachelor's (this time in nursing) next week and will finish next year. We will marry next December :) Until then, we're loving life with our amazing husky and two cats <3
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So I guess it's my turn to use this place as ranting ground where I know others can relate. Honestly, I just can't sleep and couldn't think of a better place to write this.
For starters, here's our stats.
I haven't seen him since Springbreak, so mid-March. We usually see each other once a month or every two months, but now it has been 3 and a half months and feels like so much more.
I'm actually supposed to be flying out to NYC on Tuesday to spend 2 and a half glorious weeks with him, but it seemed like everything that could go wrong today, did.
He's been fighting off a cold for days now, and trying to mask it from me, but I could tell over the phone tonight that he sounds deathly ill. I told him I would come and take care of him, but he insists I not because I spent pretty much all of my last semester at school on antibiotics fighting off mono, and he doesn't like the idea of me catching anything and being miserable again.
Then, I crack a tooth, and have to make an emergency call into the dentist tomorrow to do something about it. We briefly discuss putting off the trip another week or two, but realize they're going to charge me an arm and a leg to reschedule my flights. The kicker is that I REALLY do not have the money to deal with any of these things right now. Not my tooth, not these reschedules, nothing.
We said we'd decide what to do tomorrow, since it's late and I know he feels terrible and needs sleep. But now I'm just wide awake and frustrated. He texted me before bed and told me not to worry, that we'll figure it out. That made me feel a lot better, and deep down I know that, but it still doesn't keep me from being a big angry at the world for the moment.I just want to go there and have a wonderful time with him, I just want to SEE him, and all of life's little bullshit incidences feel like happening to us all at once, a day before I get there. He's willing to put some money into my account so I can afford to reschedule, but I'm just stuck in that childish, selfish mode of wanting what I want now, because I waited long enough and have had such a crappy last couple of months. Why the hell does it have to happen when I was so close to being there?
I guess I just needed to vent it out.
For starters, here's our stats.
I haven't seen him since Springbreak, so mid-March. We usually see each other once a month or every two months, but now it has been 3 and a half months and feels like so much more.
I'm actually supposed to be flying out to NYC on Tuesday to spend 2 and a half glorious weeks with him, but it seemed like everything that could go wrong today, did.
He's been fighting off a cold for days now, and trying to mask it from me, but I could tell over the phone tonight that he sounds deathly ill. I told him I would come and take care of him, but he insists I not because I spent pretty much all of my last semester at school on antibiotics fighting off mono, and he doesn't like the idea of me catching anything and being miserable again.
Then, I crack a tooth, and have to make an emergency call into the dentist tomorrow to do something about it. We briefly discuss putting off the trip another week or two, but realize they're going to charge me an arm and a leg to reschedule my flights. The kicker is that I REALLY do not have the money to deal with any of these things right now. Not my tooth, not these reschedules, nothing.
We said we'd decide what to do tomorrow, since it's late and I know he feels terrible and needs sleep. But now I'm just wide awake and frustrated. He texted me before bed and told me not to worry, that we'll figure it out. That made me feel a lot better, and deep down I know that, but it still doesn't keep me from being a big angry at the world for the moment.I just want to go there and have a wonderful time with him, I just want to SEE him, and all of life's little bullshit incidences feel like happening to us all at once, a day before I get there. He's willing to put some money into my account so I can afford to reschedule, but I'm just stuck in that childish, selfish mode of wanting what I want now, because I waited long enough and have had such a crappy last couple of months. Why the hell does it have to happen when I was so close to being there?
I guess I just needed to vent it out.
- Current Mood:
aggravated
It has been some time since there was a last review of the community, and as I'm now Head Mod, I thought it would be a good way for me to get some idea of how you all feel about the community. It has become really quiet in here, although I know that's pretty much par for all of LJ now, so I really want to get feedback from you as to what would make people post and interact in here again. The poll only allows limited characters in a poll text box so if you need more room then please put it in a comment. The answers to the poll and all of the comments on this entry are screened so that only I can see them, this is your opportunity to vent about anything and everything regarding LFA!
There are two sections to this review:
Section One: Say how you feel about the community in general.
Section Two: Give your opinion on the current rules, possible new rules, and other improvements.
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Just to remind you that all responses and comments are for my eyes only, so if there's anything you want to say about the community, any other suggestions you might have for improvement, anything that the Mod should be doing or not doing, then please leave a comment and let me know.
Once you've all had chance to complete the poll, I'll post about the results and any resulting changes. This is your chance to contribute to running of the community, don't miss it!
There are two sections to this review:
Section One: Say how you feel about the community in general.
Section Two: Give your opinion on the current rules, possible new rules, and other improvements.
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Just to remind you that all responses and comments are for my eyes only, so if there's anything you want to say about the community, any other suggestions you might have for improvement, anything that the Mod should be doing or not doing, then please leave a comment and let me know.
Once you've all had chance to complete the poll, I'll post about the results and any resulting changes. This is your chance to contribute to running of the community, don't miss it!
- Current Location:Mod Towers, Modshire
- Current Mood:
cheerful - Current Music:Absolute Radio
Following on from 
lizzie9208's recent post about stepping down as mod:
All paperwork has been signed, keys have been handed over and I've been instructed in the knack of jiggling the back door handle just so in order to get it to lock. I am now firmly ensconced in Mod Towers. Although I've been part of the moderating team here for about 4 years, there's not been much need for moderation lately as there had been so most of the time I've been sitting in the background keeping an eye on things. With the high turnover of members we have, there's probably quite a few of you who have no idea who I am. So I thought I would write an introductory post for the benefit of all.
Hello! *waves* I'm Nathaniel. I'm based in Lancashire in North West England and I had a career epiphany last year which has resulted in my returning to college. I've just finished the first year of an extended diploma course in graphic design which I have enjoyed very much. I'm now looking forward to a nice long summer holiday to forget everything I've learned in order to make room for learning new stuff in September! I've been a member of LFA since 2006 when I was in a UK - US relationship. Unfortunately the relationship ended after almost 4 years, but we're still good friends.
Well, I think that's everything about me. Should you need to get in touch with me for modly purposes or whatever, you can either send me a PM through LJ or you can email me at ganimede@livejournal.com. I'm hoping to post a poll in a few days to get your feedback on LFA, and any suggestions you might have for it. I have a couple of ideas, but I want your input too!
lizzie9208's recent post about stepping down as mod:All paperwork has been signed, keys have been handed over and I've been instructed in the knack of jiggling the back door handle just so in order to get it to lock. I am now firmly ensconced in Mod Towers. Although I've been part of the moderating team here for about 4 years, there's not been much need for moderation lately as there had been so most of the time I've been sitting in the background keeping an eye on things. With the high turnover of members we have, there's probably quite a few of you who have no idea who I am. So I thought I would write an introductory post for the benefit of all.
Hello! *waves* I'm Nathaniel. I'm based in Lancashire in North West England and I had a career epiphany last year which has resulted in my returning to college. I've just finished the first year of an extended diploma course in graphic design which I have enjoyed very much. I'm now looking forward to a nice long summer holiday to forget everything I've learned in order to make room for learning new stuff in September! I've been a member of LFA since 2006 when I was in a UK - US relationship. Unfortunately the relationship ended after almost 4 years, but we're still good friends.
Well, I think that's everything about me. Should you need to get in touch with me for modly purposes or whatever, you can either send me a PM through LJ or you can email me at ganimede@livejournal.com. I'm hoping to post a poll in a few days to get your feedback on LFA, and any suggestions you might have for it. I have a couple of ideas, but I want your input too!
- Current Location:Mod Towers, Modshire
- Current Music:MotD Live: England v Sweden on BBC1
- Current Mood: cheerful
"Missing someone gets easier every day because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will." ~Anonymous
Maybe a bit lame, but it made me feel a little better and I thought I'd share ^-^
X-posted tolocaltoldr.
Maybe a bit lame, but it made me feel a little better and I thought I'd share ^-^
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localtoldr. My name: Sara
Her name: Sarah
I live: Bayville, NJ
She lives: Bronx, NY
My age: 24
Her age: 22
Distance: 89-99mi depending on which route you take on GMaps ;P
Together since: June 11th, 2012
How we met: AnimeNEXT 2011, we were cosplaying Fang & Vanille from FFXIII
We get to see each other (approximately how often): 1x a year, three days.
Future plans: None yet at the moment! We're still a babeh couple, hah~
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Her name: Sarah
I live: Bayville, NJ
She lives: Bronx, NY
My age: 24
Her age: 22
Distance: 89-99mi depending on which route you take on GMaps ;P
Together since: June 11th, 2012
How we met: AnimeNEXT 2011, we were cosplaying Fang & Vanille from FFXIII
We get to see each other (approximately how often): 1x a year, three days.
Future plans: None yet at the moment! We're still a babeh couple, hah~
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- Current Mood: cheerful
- Current Music:Natasha Bedingfield - Again
Just a quick update: D proposed last weekend! :] Unfortunately, we will still be LD until I finish school but it's nice to think that when I'm out we can move in together and be together SD for the rest of ever. Yay :D And because I love it...
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After moderating loversfaraway for nearly 10 years, I've decided that it's time to step down. This community was an integral part of my long distance relationship - not only did I get a lot of support and advice from the members of this community, but I've also gained some friendships, some of whom I consider my closest friends. My long distance relationship became short distance (forever!) back in 2006 when my husband and I got married, so it's time for me to move on.
Nathaniel (ganimede) is going to remain as the moderator. Since LFA doesn't have much drama these days, I don't know if an additional moderator is needed. If Nathaniel sees the need for one, he'll start the vetting process. ;-) I know LFA is in great hands!
loversfaraway for nearly 10 years, I've decided that it's time to step down. This community was an integral part of my long distance relationship - not only did I get a lot of support and advice from the members of this community, but I've also gained some friendships, some of whom I consider my closest friends. My long distance relationship became short distance (forever!) back in 2006 when my husband and I got married, so it's time for me to move on.Nathaniel (
ganimede) is going to remain as the moderator. Since LFA doesn't have much drama these days, I don't know if an additional moderator is needed. If Nathaniel sees the need for one, he'll start the vetting process. ;-) I know LFA is in great hands!So my husband and I have been through the longest part of our visa processes. It was only supposed to take 5 months, but took 6, but after much ado the 1st part of our visa process was approved :)...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) Now we just have to send out a few more documents and go through our interview, which I'm sure we will past because we honestly are in love and true! I'm so excited to finally have part one out of the way though :) I think I did the happy dance through our home 10 times. lol Hopefully we just have a few more months left. I just have to keep praying that everything will turn out well while we wait. :) But for mow yayyyyyyy :D hehe
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I don't post here often, but my husband is in the Navy so he comes and goes a lot. He got back from a seven month deployment in December. We got married in January which is also when we bought a house and when he got shore duty orders! Shore duty means he won't be on a ship for a few years. This doesn't mean he won't still travel for work. We're told he'll still be going away every now and then, but at this point we're hoping it'll be once every few months. Lately he's been gone pretty much all the time. His ship was gone for a month, came back for a few weeks. He got injured while the ship was in port so he got to stay behind this time. They've been gone for almost a month now, and I'm loving it. I mean it sucks my husband is hurt, but he gets off work pretty early. Most days he's home before I've even left for work. It's so amazing spending so much time with him. His ship comes back soon at which point he'll go out to sea with them for not too long, and then they go back out to sea but he'll be staying behind because he starts his leave (vacation) in mid June!
It seems like it was only last week that we were trying to figure out which ship he should go to since he was being denied shore duty orders, and now he's all done with ships for at least the next few years. I'm so happy to have him home more than he'll be away. We've decided o start trying to have a baby sometime while he's on shore duty that way he's more likely to be home for the birth. I feel like our life is really starting now. I mean, sure in three years he'll have to negotiate orders again and he may end up on another ship, and maybe he'll be leaving town more often than we're hoping once he starts with his new command, but fro now I'm considering this a success story.
It seems like it was only last week that we were trying to figure out which ship he should go to since he was being denied shore duty orders, and now he's all done with ships for at least the next few years. I'm so happy to have him home more than he'll be away. We've decided o start trying to have a baby sometime while he's on shore duty that way he's more likely to be home for the birth. I feel like our life is really starting now. I mean, sure in three years he'll have to negotiate orders again and he may end up on another ship, and maybe he'll be leaving town more often than we're hoping once he starts with his new command, but fro now I'm considering this a success story.
Just thought I'd let everyone here know that I'll be seeing my sweetheart in 11 days! 11 mfking days! I have waited too long for this. Though we're only gonna spend 3 weeks together, 2 here and 1 in Maldives, nonetheless we finally meet again.
I am so happy I want to explode!
I am so happy I want to explode!
Hey everyone! Recap: C and D, 1200 miles apart, together 6.5yrs.
I got super busy with two weeks of finals but I'm finally finished my first year of vet school and thus my first year of long distance! I'm home May-August now and we're back to SD until the end of August when I go back. I spend the weekends with him and we still talk every day or night (as an aside, it's so nice to be back on the US phone plan - we can talk whenever instead of only after 9pm!)
We've started to discuss serious things now, instead of just mentioning them in passing - a car, a house, children, etc and it's just wonderfully exciting. Scary too, of course, but it's just solidified in my mind what an amazing guy I have and how lucky I am to be with him. With a year of LD under our belts, I feel like our relationship has matured even more and helped us both mature too. I know this all probably sounds pretty sappy but I can't help it, haha. Hope everyone is hanging in there for their next visit!
I got super busy with two weeks of finals but I'm finally finished my first year of vet school and thus my first year of long distance! I'm home May-August now and we're back to SD until the end of August when I go back. I spend the weekends with him and we still talk every day or night (as an aside, it's so nice to be back on the US phone plan - we can talk whenever instead of only after 9pm!)
We've started to discuss serious things now, instead of just mentioning them in passing - a car, a house, children, etc and it's just wonderfully exciting. Scary too, of course, but it's just solidified in my mind what an amazing guy I have and how lucky I am to be with him. With a year of LD under our belts, I feel like our relationship has matured even more and helped us both mature too. I know this all probably sounds pretty sappy but I can't help it, haha. Hope everyone is hanging in there for their next visit!
Hey guys and gals, I just wanted to share something I made that you might appreciate. I made a mix on 8tracks of songs having to do with long-distance relationships, hope you enjoy!
http://8tracks.com/mondestrunken/long-distance-lover
http://8tracks.com/mondestrunken/long-distance-lover
So I feel so frazzled right now. Not really in a bad or good way, kind of both. Sai's interview should be coming soon we are just waiting for our second letter telling us when, but we are so nervous. It's this moment we've been waiting for for 2 years now and part of me knows they will say yes, but their is still a part of me terrified they will say no to us or something will go wrong like they'll think we are not in a legit marriage or worse they will tell us our certificates are not real. What crap would that be! Everyone thinks we're married, my last name has changed, and everything. Of course, I am thinking of the worse possible scenario, but I can't help it. I'm freaking out. I just don't know what to expect in the next few months! I'm excited, I'm stressed, I'm nervous, I'm about to pee my pants with joy! lol. I just want it to be here and to get it over with so we know what to do next. O_O Anyway, just wanted to express my joyful, excited, freaking out, and scared moment. :/ But on the excited side it should be 2 or 3 weeks when we get the letter telling us whats next!!! :D
I remember a while back, someone linking to the design of this pillow, but have just found this article about it and thought people here would be interested.
For the link shy, it's a pillow that you both have one of. When you each go to bed, the other's pillow will light up and you'll hear his/her heartbeat as they sleep, they get the same when you go to bed, so it's like sharing a bed across distance. It works over oceans and continents and I know when the concept was mentioned in this comm years ago, people wanted to know if it ever became anything, so this is the first I've heard of it being around for sale. They've now raised enough cash and garnered enough interest to produce these pillows!
I apologise if it's been mentioned before, but I know that I will be buying a pair for Scott and I, if for no other reason than to know when he's asleep. It works via wireless signal and the article (and video) says it will work across continents, oceans, countries etc.
Just thought I would share!
For the link shy, it's a pillow that you both have one of. When you each go to bed, the other's pillow will light up and you'll hear his/her heartbeat as they sleep, they get the same when you go to bed, so it's like sharing a bed across distance. It works over oceans and continents and I know when the concept was mentioned in this comm years ago, people wanted to know if it ever became anything, so this is the first I've heard of it being around for sale. They've now raised enough cash and garnered enough interest to produce these pillows!
I apologise if it's been mentioned before, but I know that I will be buying a pair for Scott and I, if for no other reason than to know when he's asleep. It works via wireless signal and the article (and video) says it will work across continents, oceans, countries etc.
Just thought I would share!
- Current Location:Swindon, UK
- Current Mood:
energetic
Recap: I'm 30, living in the UK, he's 33 living in the USA.
So, Scott arrives in the UK to stay on Thursday :D He'll be flying through on Monday off to Denmark to see his friend, and then coming here on the Thursday to stay for a week :D I just got off the phone with him because he told me about this new smartphone app that allows you to call free without having to buy credits or anything. It's called Viber free to download from the app store and like I said, free to use and call. It also lets you send text messages for free which will bring down the cost of my bill by a massive amount.
So excited that it's so close and that I'm going to see him again *squee*
Hope you've all got visits to look forward to!
So, Scott arrives in the UK to stay on Thursday :D He'll be flying through on Monday off to Denmark to see his friend, and then coming here on the Thursday to stay for a week :D I just got off the phone with him because he told me about this new smartphone app that allows you to call free without having to buy credits or anything. It's called Viber free to download from the app store and like I said, free to use and call. It also lets you send text messages for free which will bring down the cost of my bill by a massive amount.
So excited that it's so close and that I'm going to see him again *squee*
Hope you've all got visits to look forward to!
- Current Location:Swindon, UK
- Current Mood:
excited
My name: Jen
His name:Mike
I live: Southern Ontario
He lives: Virginia
My age:35
His age:36
Distance:1000km
Together since: 1996
How we met: university
We get to see each other (approximately how often): 6weeks
Future plans: We are married and hope that this is a temporary situation, we've been living apart for just over a year, and have at least 2 more before we'll be living together again.
- Current Mood:
lonely
Alright, I can't contain myself! It's time to post. I posted here a couple times with questions about flights, currency exchange, etc.
Let me do a really quick introduction.
My partner and I have been together since my last trip from the USA to Australia (where she lives) in November 2011. I was only going there on a "we dated for four months two years back, but we are just best friends now". I fell in love during that week trip, she was exactly how I pictured her. The reason we split years ago was because of the distance and our ages. Both of us are 19 right now, however, her birthday is in April. She asked me to be hers on the beach.
Fast forward to now; we had a trip planned for me to go there in Mid-May since that was when I would have accumulated enough vacation and sick time to go plus there is that holiday day that I could use.
But during a meeting, my boss stated we would be extremely busy in late April and all through May; doing 10-12 hour shifts daily. So if we have vacation, to use it now. I got up the courage to talk to him about it. He said that I can't go in May, my heart broke. I told him I was flexible with leaving. He said if I was willing to do "no-pay" i could go when I wanted. So regardless that I'm not getting paid for a week... My trip went from being on May 15 to April 6th! A whole month and a week early.
The whole day after hearing that I was shaking from excitement. I planned to surprise my partner for her birthday on the 11th, talked to her friends so they could pick me up etc. But the next day I got too excited and told her.. I'm horrible at secrets.
I am just so excited. I get to stay for two weeks this time, while last time was only 6 days. UGH. I've had a count down on my work calendar since 105 days, it got down to 56 when I talked to my boss and currently I only have 9 days left before I leave. I probably sound like a little child due to the excitement. I still have so much to do. Exchange currency at AAA which was suggested here. Get some tylonal pm for the flight. Do laundry and pack. Buy her gifts.
This was all just such a pleasant surprise! Now for the dreadful countdown where I watch the clock waiting to get off work so I can get things ready and go to bed as early as possible every night.
Recap: I'm 30, in the UK, he's 33 in the USA.
So, the plan for his visit in April is still on. He wants to spend time with my dad - Dad had us round to dinner last time Scott was over which allowed him to meet my Nan, who sadly died last year. She had dementia and it settled her mind to know that "that American boy is a good husband to you", I like to think she could see what no one else could, what will happen in the future! Anyway, so Dad's planning to spend some of the weekend he's here with Scott and me. Mum didn't get to meet him last time as she was away, so we're going over to her place one of the other days that Scott's here to have a meal so she can get to see him and bombard him with questions!
There is also a Sci-Fi exhibition going on down the road from me, so we'll be going to that at some point during his stay, and the rest of the time, we'll find something to do! I need to make sure I have gotten all my uni work sorted so I don't have to do any while he's here - thank God for distance learning! It means I can get ahead on both courses and not miss anything by taking the time out :D
In less good news, it looks like Scott's grandfather is dying and so he's not sure how things will work out. Please keep him and his family in your prayers, should you happen to pray!
Now there are 27 days till he arrives and I'm just so excited! Plus I'll have officially quit smoking and finished my NRT by then so I'll be officially a non-smoker :D YAY!
Does anyone else have visits round the corner?
So, the plan for his visit in April is still on. He wants to spend time with my dad - Dad had us round to dinner last time Scott was over which allowed him to meet my Nan, who sadly died last year. She had dementia and it settled her mind to know that "that American boy is a good husband to you", I like to think she could see what no one else could, what will happen in the future! Anyway, so Dad's planning to spend some of the weekend he's here with Scott and me. Mum didn't get to meet him last time as she was away, so we're going over to her place one of the other days that Scott's here to have a meal so she can get to see him and bombard him with questions!
There is also a Sci-Fi exhibition going on down the road from me, so we'll be going to that at some point during his stay, and the rest of the time, we'll find something to do! I need to make sure I have gotten all my uni work sorted so I don't have to do any while he's here - thank God for distance learning! It means I can get ahead on both courses and not miss anything by taking the time out :D
In less good news, it looks like Scott's grandfather is dying and so he's not sure how things will work out. Please keep him and his family in your prayers, should you happen to pray!
Now there are 27 days till he arrives and I'm just so excited! Plus I'll have officially quit smoking and finished my NRT by then so I'll be officially a non-smoker :D YAY!
Does anyone else have visits round the corner?
- Current Mood:
giddy - Current Location:Swindon, UK
Hey everyone, so I know it's been months since I've written anything so I'll give my stats here again:
Name: Nicole Mine (Gower) age: 22 That's right I got married!!!!!!!!!!! :) I may or may not have mentioned that before, but just in case there it is again :D. We got married in his country on Sept. 26, 2011 and I finally met his parents. They were both so nice we did have to have most everything translated, but one day I hope to sit down and speak with them directly. So that leads to stat number two my husbands name.
Husbands name: Sai Mine age: 21
we met each other: August 2009 in college and officially started dating Jan 22, 2010
time we have been apart: almost 2 years now
our future plans: We are currently in the middle of a visa process and are waiting for a scheduled interview date. It should be in another 2 months, so if all goes well and we are approved he will have his green card in 3-4 months tops, if not a new plan or I move to Thailand where Sai and I will work at a school. There's a lotttttttt of little details in this, but that's the ambiguous plan if this one fails.
Also I believe my last update mentioned the war in his country and his closeness too it and I thank everyone who prayed for us. It seems our prayers have been answered on that matter because a month or so later a peace treaty was signed and the ethnic armies quite fighting, not only this, but his country is making leaps forward at the moment, which in itself can be scary because to much change to quick can cause issues, but still praying for the best for his country and for our process.
I just can't believe that years are now months! Let's pray anyway :) I remember my first entry on here where I was lost and scared of time and waiting and how helpful this blog had been to me how other peoples stories of success kept me going forward and peoples words of advice. I hope very soon that I will no longer need to look at this as comfort and help and hope, but I hope that I can be someone else's comfort and hope. I'll try to remember updating a little more often than this next time. :P
Name: Nicole Mine (Gower) age: 22 That's right I got married!!!!!!!!!!! :) I may or may not have mentioned that before, but just in case there it is again :D. We got married in his country on Sept. 26, 2011 and I finally met his parents. They were both so nice we did have to have most everything translated, but one day I hope to sit down and speak with them directly. So that leads to stat number two my husbands name.
Husbands name: Sai Mine age: 21
we met each other: August 2009 in college and officially started dating Jan 22, 2010
time we have been apart: almost 2 years now
our future plans: We are currently in the middle of a visa process and are waiting for a scheduled interview date. It should be in another 2 months, so if all goes well and we are approved he will have his green card in 3-4 months tops, if not a new plan or I move to Thailand where Sai and I will work at a school. There's a lotttttttt of little details in this, but that's the ambiguous plan if this one fails.
Also I believe my last update mentioned the war in his country and his closeness too it and I thank everyone who prayed for us. It seems our prayers have been answered on that matter because a month or so later a peace treaty was signed and the ethnic armies quite fighting, not only this, but his country is making leaps forward at the moment, which in itself can be scary because to much change to quick can cause issues, but still praying for the best for his country and for our process.
I just can't believe that years are now months! Let's pray anyway :) I remember my first entry on here where I was lost and scared of time and waiting and how helpful this blog had been to me how other peoples stories of success kept me going forward and peoples words of advice. I hope very soon that I will no longer need to look at this as comfort and help and hope, but I hope that I can be someone else's comfort and hope. I'll try to remember updating a little more often than this next time. :P
- Current Mood:
happy
Recap: I'm 30 in the UK, he's 33 in the USA
I just spoke to Scott and he's finally nailed down a date, he's coming on the 12th April and staying till the 18th and in his words he just "wants to chill and hang out and stuff" :D Last time he was here, we did a lot of touristy stuff, so this time he just wants to spend time with me :D
I've started the countdown and it's just over 7 weeks!!! To be exact it's 7 weeks and 4 days!!!
Hopefully, he'll be able to do some job interviews for that position he was offered while he's over :D
YAYAYAYAYAY!!!
I just spoke to Scott and he's finally nailed down a date, he's coming on the 12th April and staying till the 18th and in his words he just "wants to chill and hang out and stuff" :D Last time he was here, we did a lot of touristy stuff, so this time he just wants to spend time with me :D
I've started the countdown and it's just over 7 weeks!!! To be exact it's 7 weeks and 4 days!!!
Hopefully, he'll be able to do some job interviews for that position he was offered while he's over :D
YAYAYAYAYAY!!!
- Current Mood: excited
- Current Location:Swindon, UK
My name: Bethany
His/Her name: Eddie
I live: Minnesota
He/She lives: Georgia
My age: 21
His/Her age: 26
Distance: ~2200 miles
Together since: Feb 9th
How we met: We've yet to meet in person, we've been talking online, texting, and calling for a while and started calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend earlier this month.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): He's coming up here for the first time next month :D
Future plans: He's planning on transferring colleges to be closer next year, possibly move in together shortly after that if all goes well.
Share some photos: No pictures of us together yet...give me a couple weeks and I can post some :D
Technically, you could say we're only apart because of college, but since we only recently started thinking this could become serious, so we are long distance until we're sure where it's going.
His/Her name: Eddie
I live: Minnesota
He/She lives: Georgia
My age: 21
His/Her age: 26
Distance: ~2200 miles
Together since: Feb 9th
How we met: We've yet to meet in person, we've been talking online, texting, and calling for a while and started calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend earlier this month.
We get to see each other (approximately how often): He's coming up here for the first time next month :D
Future plans: He's planning on transferring colleges to be closer next year, possibly move in together shortly after that if all goes well.
Share some photos: No pictures of us together yet...give me a couple weeks and I can post some :D
Technically, you could say we're only apart because of college, but since we only recently started thinking this could become serious, so we are long distance until we're sure where it's going.
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