Good morning to everyone. Grace and Peace be with you.
Has anyone else noticed that the art of communication is slacking? We, as a society, have taken to the screen or complete silence when it comes to the simple act of talking to another person. Where I do not disagree with the use of electronics, obviously, I do believe that they are taking the front row and center stage in acceptable conversation. I believe that even with those who do use ‘old-fashioned’ communication, sometimes forget its value.
In the late eighties and nineties, I think, preschools and educators started using the phrase, “use your words, not your hands,” when de-escalating a situation. A valuable tool for kids to learn how to communicate. Especially if they are in a household with no communication. Many times, we grown-ups shut down and hold everything inside … instead of using our words. A coping mechanism. A desire to keep the peace. The fear of backlash for daring to feel differently. Whatever the case, we make choices on when to speak and when to be silent. Lately, it feels like silence is taking the stage, more and more. When we keep it all inside for too long, the bottle cap is going to pressurize and eventually explode off the top. When that happens, you will have no control over how or when you speak your mind/feelings.
Yes, I will agree that there is a time and place for some conversations. Absolutely. I will also agree that choosing that time and place can be a process. However, ignoring a circumstance in the silence of your mind just creates a playground for the enemy to twist facts and heighten feelings.
Personally, I am pretty much the same as I was when I was a kid. Quiet most of the time, but very clear on where I stand on things. I live this way. I know when I have bottled things up too long, because the severe snarky comes out. I have worked hard to set the standard of work hard, honest, and true, but leaving room for empathy when necessary. I have a temper. Yes. I have a different view most of the time. Yes. My tone is not soft…ever. I have to clarify if I am truly angry or is it just my voice. Yes. All are true. However, the other side is just as true. I have a fun side. A playful side. A compassionate side that gets me into trouble a lot.
Yesterday I was blessed to have a hard conversation with someone who needed to hear my words to be able to make an important decision. We both desperately needed to be on the same page. The time and the place were created by God, and when I saw this opportunity, I grabbed it. The conversation was heard and received by both of us, and now we can call a victory to this piece of the puzzle that the enemy tried to get his dibs in.
Is there someone that you have been avoiding because you do not want to have that conversation with them? Is there a circumstance that is difficult to approach, but desperately needs attention? Is there a problem that is weighing on your heart that you need to release in a one-on-one conversation? Go to God in prayer. Ask him to for his guidance on how to proceed. Ask Him to give you the courage to engage and discuss the situation.
Remember, a conversation is not only your words, your tone, your body language, and your confidence. A condition will not resolve on its own, most of the time, because the other person may not understand your point of view. Take the time to do your part in resolving conflicts with the help of the Holy Spirit. Do not rely on the word you put on a screen to explain where you are. That is what the enemy wants. Put the person back in personal.
Be blessed.
*** Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” – Exodus 14:13-14
Good morning to everyone. Grace and Peace be with you.
Has anyone else noticed that the art of communication is slacking? We, as a society, have taken to the screen or complete silence when it comes to the simple act of talking to another person. Where I do not disagree with the use of electronics, obviously, I do believe that they are taking the front row and center stage in acceptable conversation. I believe that even with those who do use ‘old-fashioned’ communication, sometimes forget its value.
In the late eighties and nineties, I think, preschools and educators started using the phrase, “use your words, not your hands,” when de-escalating a situation. A valuable tool for kids to learn how to communicate. Especially if they are in a household with no communication. Many times, we grown-ups shut down and hold everything inside … instead of using our words. A coping mechanism. A desire to keep the peace. The fear of backlash for daring to feel differently. Whatever the case, we make choices on when to speak and when to be silent. Lately, it feels like silence is taking the stage, more and more. When we keep it all inside for too long, the bottle cap is going to pressurize and eventually explode off the top. When that happens, you will have no control over how or when you speak your mind/feelings.
Yes, I will agree that there is a time and place for some conversations. Absolutely. I will also agree that choosing that time and place can be a process. However, ignoring a circumstance in the silence of your mind just creates a playground for the enemy to twist facts and heighten feelings.
Personally, I am pretty much the same as I was when I was a kid. Quiet most of the time, but very clear on where I stand on things. I live this way. I know when I have bottled things up too long, because the severe snarky comes out. I have worked hard to set the standard of work hard, honest, and true, but leaving room for empathy when necessary. I have a temper. Yes. I have a different view most of the time. Yes. My tone is not soft…ever. I have to clarify if I am truly angry or is it just my voice. Yes. All are true. However, the other side is just as true. I have a fun side. A playful side. A compassionate side that gets me into trouble a lot.
Yesterday I was blessed to have a hard conversation with someone who needed to hear my words to be able to make an important decision. We both desperately needed to be on the same page. The time and the place were created by God, and when I saw this opportunity, I grabbed it. The conversation was heard and received by both of us, and now we can call a victory to this piece of the puzzle that the enemy tried to get his dibs in.
Is there someone that you have been avoiding because you do not want to have that conversation with them? Is there a circumstance that is difficult to approach, but desperately needs attention? Is there a problem that is weighing on your heart that you need to release in a one-on-one conversation? Go to God in prayer. Ask him to for his guidance on how to proceed. Ask Him to give you the courage to engage and discuss the situation.
Remember, a conversation is not only your words, your tone, your body language, and your confidence. A condition will not resolve on its own, most of the time, because the other person may not understand your point of view. Take the time to do your part in resolving conflicts with the help of the Holy Spirit. Do not rely on the word you put on a screen to explain where you are. That is what the enemy wants. Put the person back in personal.
Be blessed.
*** Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” – Exodus 14:13-14
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