CONTEXT IN DISCIPLINE
When you lead with instructions, people wait to be told.
When you lead with context, people start thinking…. (Jimmy Khoury) . I got this quote from Jimmy Khoury, one of my connections on LinkedIn and it reminded me of something that happened at home and how I handled it. It reminded me about “context in discipline “
My youngest is turning 14 in a few months. I usually don’t encourage children getting phones early but his older siblings prevailed on me and I let him have one after more than a year of pleading. Well he knows he shouldn’t take his phone to school (that’s an instruction from home and school). I travelled out of town and he called to tell me his phone was seized in school. The principal had it and he was asking me to please get it back.
Of course we talked. I reminded him of the instructions that were laid down and he apologized. However I told him that what he had done is proof he is not yet responsible enough to own a phone. He had a tool to use responsibly but for whatever reason, most likely peer pressure, he had to take his phone to school; maybe to prove something. And I explained to him that a phone is something that should benefit him and not a tool to go against constituted authority or to distract him. I said to him “maybe you’re not ready for a phone yet.” In a few word, I told him that I want him to grow up doing what is right even if he’s standing alone. He doesn’t have to be pressured to follow the crowd.” The phone had obviously become a distraction and I wanted him to get his priorities right. He will get a phone when I see that he is responsible enough to use one. I actually wanted him to think about his choices. What’s your take?
When you lead with instructions, people wait to be told.
When you lead with context, people start thinking…. (Jimmy Khoury) . I got this quote from Jimmy Khoury, one of my connections on LinkedIn and it reminded me of something that happened at home and how I handled it. It reminded me about “context in discipline “
My youngest is turning 14 in a few months. I usually don’t encourage children getting phones early but his older siblings prevailed on me and I let him have one after more than a year of pleading. Well he knows he shouldn’t take his phone to school (that’s an instruction from home and school). I travelled out of town and he called to tell me his phone was seized in school. The principal had it and he was asking me to please get it back.
Of course we talked. I reminded him of the instructions that were laid down and he apologized. However I told him that what he had done is proof he is not yet responsible enough to own a phone. He had a tool to use responsibly but for whatever reason, most likely peer pressure, he had to take his phone to school; maybe to prove something. And I explained to him that a phone is something that should benefit him and not a tool to go against constituted authority or to distract him. I said to him “maybe you’re not ready for a phone yet.” In a few word, I told him that I want him to grow up doing what is right even if he’s standing alone. He doesn’t have to be pressured to follow the crowd.” The phone had obviously become a distraction and I wanted him to get his priorities right. He will get a phone when I see that he is responsible enough to use one. I actually wanted him to think about his choices. What’s your take?
CONTEXT IN DISCIPLINE
When you lead with instructions, people wait to be told.
When you lead with context, people start thinking…. (Jimmy Khoury) . I got this quote from Jimmy Khoury, one of my connections on LinkedIn and it reminded me of something that happened at home and how I handled it. It reminded me about “context in discipline “
My youngest is turning 14 in a few months. I usually don’t encourage children getting phones early but his older siblings prevailed on me and I let him have one after more than a year of pleading. Well he knows he shouldn’t take his phone to school (that’s an instruction from home and school). I travelled out of town and he called to tell me his phone was seized in school. The principal had it and he was asking me to please get it back.
Of course we talked. I reminded him of the instructions that were laid down and he apologized. However I told him that what he had done is proof he is not yet responsible enough to own a phone. He had a tool to use responsibly but for whatever reason, most likely peer pressure, he had to take his phone to school; maybe to prove something. And I explained to him that a phone is something that should benefit him and not a tool to go against constituted authority or to distract him. I said to him “maybe you’re not ready for a phone yet.” In a few word, I told him that I want him to grow up doing what is right even if he’s standing alone. He doesn’t have to be pressured to follow the crowd.” The phone had obviously become a distraction and I wanted him to get his priorities right. He will get a phone when I see that he is responsible enough to use one. I actually wanted him to think about his choices. What’s your take?
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