Jack James Reid, LPCC #4195
Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse for Adult Scapegoat Survivors
If you grew up as the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent…
You may still feel like something’s wrong with you — or that your needs don’t matter.
That’s because you had to feel bad so your parent could feel good.
Those beliefs kept you safe then, but they keep you stuck now.
You can recover the compassion, protection, and freedom that were taken from you.
The Three Pillars of Recovery show you how to do that — step by step.
A Path to Recovery that Works!
When adult scapegoat survivors apply these three principles to their lives today, they find compassion, protection and freedom for themselves.
Here’s how…
Pillar #1: Making sense of what happened allows you to compassionately see that all the blame, devaluation, and neglect was never your fault.
Pillar #2: Gaining distance from narcissistic abusers today provides protection from further psychological harm.
Pillar #3: Living in defiance of the narcissist’s rules frees you to live by your own rules.
Now you just need figure out how to put these Pillars into practice in your life today…
Here's Your Plan for Applying the 3 Pillars of Recovery
Step 1: Tools to Break the Scapegoat Spell Today
Scapegoats of narcissistic families are using this book + workbook to finally break the ‘I’m the problem’ spell in their bodies, not just their minds.
Step 2: Liberate Yourself from the Past
This Rise & Reclaim Healing Toolkit helps you see your childhood as the scapegoat clearly — and get relief by learning it was never your fault.
Step 3: Resource Yourself
To recover from this kind of abuse it’s essential to learn and practice self-care. This masterclass teaches you how.
Step 4: Learn & Apply the 3 Pillars
Shows you how to apply the Three Pillars of Recovery in your own life — step by step.
Generate compassion, protection & freedom for yourself.
Step 5: Put the Pillars into Action
Build 8 specific habits to put each pillar into action. Your best bet to Defy the Narcissist’s Rules.
Step 6: Make Recovery Feel Real
Click to see how this live online group class helps you unhook from inherited shame and rebuild real self-trust, one safe conversation at a time.
Not ready for the full journey yet? Start here for free.
An Introduction to Life as the Scapegoat Child
A free e-book to understand narcissistic abuse and how it impacts the scapegoat child.
4 Tactics to Help Yourself Heal
A free e-book that shows you four ways you can start healing today.
A Substack for Scapegoat Survivors
Check out my substack to get what’s on my YouTube Channel in written form.
Know & Challenge the Narcissist's 2 Biggest Rules
A free Webinar to break free from the narcissist’s two biggest rules by finding compassion for the parts of you that still feel defective or undeserving.
A Subtle Yet Key Principle for Healing
It’s easy to get hung up on having to know your good before you start living like you are. This free webinar shows you how to avoid this trap and take actions to help yourself today.
My YouTube Channel for Scapegoat Survivors
Subscribe and watch weekly videos on the process of recovery from narcissistic abuse for scapegoat survivors.
Free Monthly Webinars
A free, live webinar where I explain one of the core dynamics that keeps scapegoat survivors stuck and how to begin changing it.
Academic Publications
Academic journal articles published on the treatment of scapegoat survivors.
Are you a therapist or coach who works with scapegoat survivors?
Learn & Do What Works
Learn how to help scapegoat survivors regain safety, agency, and self-respect using Control-Mastery Theory.
A Free Overview of Control-Mastery Theory
Learn the basics of Control-Mastery Theory in this free six-part video series.
Online Clinical Consultation Group
This weekly 75-minute group is a forum for licensed mental health professionals working to develop expertise in treating survivors of narcissistic abuse. Earn 20 CE’s!
In-Depth Course
Learn how to apply Control-Mastery Theory to conceptualize your cases with scapegoat survivors. This approach helps you customize treatment to best help each client reach their goals in therapy. Earn 3 CE’s!