35014: kv: introduce new "max outstanding size" setting to txnPipeliner r=nvanbenschoten a=nvanbenschoten

Fixes #32522.

This change creates a new cluster setting called:
```
kv.transaction.write_pipelining_max_outstanding_size
```

It limits the size in bytes that can be dedicated to tracking in-flight
writes that have been pipelined. Once this limit is hit, not more writes
will be pipelined by a transaction until some of the writes are proven
and removed from the outstanding write set.

This change once again illustrates the need for periodic proving of
outstanding writes. We touch upon that in the type definition's comment
and in #35009.

Release note: None

35199: log: fix remaining misuse of runtime.Callers/runtime.FuncForPC r=nvanbenschoten a=nvanbenschoten

Fixes #17770.

This commit fixes the last user of `runtime.Callers` that misused
the stdlib function by translating the PC values it returned directly
into symbolic information (see https://golang.org/pkg/runtime/#Callers) [1].
Go's documentation warns that this is a recipe for disaster when mixed
with mid-stack inlining.

The other concern in #17770 was this comment: #17770 (comment).
This was discussed in golang/go#29582 and addressed in golang/go@956879d.

An alternative would be to use `runtime.Caller` here, but that would
force an allocation that was hard-earned in #29017. Instead, this commit
avoids any performance hit.

```
name                 old time/op    new time/op    delta
Header-4                267ns ± 1%     268ns ± 0%    ~     (p=0.584 n=10+10)
VDepthWithVModule-4     260ns ± 3%     255ns ± 1%  -1.87%  (p=0.018 n=10+9)

name                 old alloc/op   new alloc/op   delta
Header-4                0.00B          0.00B         ~     (all equal)
VDepthWithVModule-4     0.00B          0.00B         ~     (all equal)

name                 old allocs/op  new allocs/op  delta
Header-4                 0.00           0.00         ~     (all equal)
VDepthWithVModule-4      0.00           0.00         ~     (all equal)
```

[1] I went through and verified that this was still correct.

Release note: None

35203: closedts: react faster to config changes r=danhhz a=tbg

This approximately halves the duration of

`make test PKG=./pkg/ccl/changefeedccl TESTS=/sinkless`,

from ~60s to ~30s.

Touches #34455.

Release note: None

Co-authored-by: Nathan VanBenschoten <nvanbenschoten@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Tobias Schottdorf <tobias.schottdorf@gmail.com>