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Reality Check

 

True empathy involves reality.  I don’t know about you but I can tell when someone is just saying something to be nice (‘bless their heart’) and when someone is saying something because they really are sincere.  Sometimes the gift of discernment isn’t always fun discerning.  I think I mentioned back in the beginning that being able to empathize with someone involves life experiences. If we haven’t experienced something someone else is going through, how can we possibly understand it?

I know this reads like I’m regurgitating what I’ve already expounded on.  Let’s visit the reality checks of Empathy.

  1. Try to put yourself in their shoes.
  2. Remember we all put our shoes on the same way.
  3. Respond as if you were going through same thing.
  4. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.
  5. With differences of opinion, refer to reality check #4
  6. Remember a few words mean a lot more than an emoji.
  7. Be real, sometimes a hug is all that person needs
  8. Remember we are all God’s creation, good, bad, or indifferent.
  9. There isn’t always a resolution.
  10. Reassurance can be the hope that someone needs.

I will be happy to have A-Z’s of empathy over.  It’s not easy coming up with all these posts.  I’d much rather be writing about fun things like balloons and kittens or circus freaks and bluegrass festivals.  Hey!  I’m being honest.  How’s everyone doing?  Stay real.  Be back tomorrow with a little sunshine and smiles.

Cheers,

   

Reflections on Reality and Relationships

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Hello fellow bloggers, writers, and readers. Today as I sit down to write my daily challenge I’m facing the same sort of nearing the end of the journey roadblock jitters that I confronted last year at this time. I don’t want the challenge to end because I feel like I won’t be inspired enough to make myself write daily. Time to face reality and accept the fact that this challenge was just a jumpstart to a life style change. Kind of like dieting. Ha, no such thing. If you want it to work, it’s not a diet. It is a lifestyle change. That is what real writing, blogging, reading is. That’s what real relationships are. A lifestyle change.

As I reflect on my past posts, I see pride, embarrassment, shame, sadness, humor, spiritual growth. I think about relationships I’ve had and lost over the years. I’d like to take the blame for the failed relationships, but the truth of the matter is, they dissolved because I’m not one to sugarcoat the truth. I say it like it is and I say what I mean and mean what I say. I’ve persevered through ridicule, humiliation, hate and discontent, yet I’m still here blogging away. Why? Because it makes me happy to write. Because I get satisfaction when someone recognizes and shares in the same trials of pain or happiness that I have.

Reflecting on relationships for me always brings regret into consideration. I often wonder why so many relationships have failed. I’ve tried reconciliation with many relationships to no avail. What recourse should I take when the reaction to my request is not what I expect?

Relationships come and go throughout our lives. People we meet at church, in the neighborhood, people we’ve known all of our lives. The one thing that I can honestly say about any relationship is they are work. They don’t just flourish without care and consideration. Family relationships are the hardest because they are always there no matter what. Those are the ones that get hurt the most because we tend to think that very thing “they are always there no matter what”. One day they won’t be there. Don’t take any relationship no matter how trivial, for granted. If there is someone out there that you appreciate and are thankful for them coming into your life, thank them, let them know.

I’d like to say thank you to each and every one of my readers, followers, and fellow bloggers. It’s hard out here sometimes. Yet you persevere. You keep on keeping on. I appreciate you and your devotion. Have a great day and see you tomorrow!

R