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Expectations

Expectations

Expectation: the act or state of anticipating or looking forward to the coming occurrence; the act of considering something about to happen probable or certain.

 

I confess, my expectations are set really high. I expect more from people than they usually deliver. Why? Because I expect people to act and perform like I do. My standards are high and people know what to expect from me. I used to think I was being taken advantage of because people just assumed I would do something a certain way. I’ve recently come to realize, it’s not being taken advantage of, it’s a set of expectations that people have of me, and they know I will deliver in a certain way.

 

I often refer to that old saying, treat others as you wish to be treated. The only problem with that saying is I expect others to reciprocate in a certain way. When they don’t, it upsets me. It is a hard lesson that I am still learning. I cannot control their actions or reactions, I can barely control my own.  I thought about lowering my expectations of others, but then I would become like them. I want to be different. I want my expectations to be different than what everyone else expects. Therefore, my expectations will continue to be high, and I will learn to deal with the failure of those who do not live up to my standards.

 

I know that sounds superior and arrogant. I don’t mean for it to come across that way at all. I’m really not supercilious. I have a hard time dealing with people who don’t value a high set of hopes. That is the only way I can justify their weakness in not living up to my high expectation standards. Everyone should have hopes, dreams and expectations. Without them, what do you have to look forward to?

 

Dream high, hope big, and expect the best out of everyone.

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My computer caught a virus, a very bad virus.  I was left to write the old fashion way… by hand.  No posting, no social media, nothing.  There is nothing wrong with that.  What did people do before computers?  I’ve been journaling ever since I can remember.  But writing a novel without having the information highway at a fingertip’s click became somewhat of a chore.  (I’ll admit it, I was lazy.)

So, what did I do?  I found something else to occupy my fingertips. A game I downloaded on my cell phone.  It took up all of the time I had allotted for writing.  At first I didn’t admit that I had an addiction problem.  I thought I could stop anytime I wanted to. I was wrong.  The game began to take up more than just my writing time.  It got in the way of everything, including my marriage. There was a problem, but I didn’t want to admit it.

A new computer was purchased, yet the writing didn’t come back as easy as I thought it was going to.  I had been using that as an excuse.  The addiction was more than I thought.  After two and a half months I needed an intervention.  I prayed and God answered.  I admitted my problem to my husband and he said he would do whatever he could to help me.  This is the first thing I’ve written (other than journal entries, which are few and far between) since I deleted the game.  God willing, soon I’ll be back to novel-writing, old fashion letter writing, blogging, cooking, etc.  All the things I used to do before the game took over my life and started to destroy me.

I know some of you reading this will think I’m crazy. I remember what it was like when I quit smoking cigarettes.  Addiction is not limited to drugs and alcohol. I think quitting the game was harder than the cigarettes.  The pull is still there to reinstall the game and pick up where I left off.  All things are good in moderation.   All things can be bad if they are abused. Everything we do comes with a consequence.

I guess the point of this was to get back to writing something, anything.  If you have a problem, the first step into fixing the problem is admitting it.  I admit I’m not perfect and we never will be on this side of eternity.  As long as we keep short accounts with Him, our prayers will eventually be answered and God will see us through all of our trials.