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Today I removed Aubrey's dad from all available forms of contact. He is grieving the anticipated death of his mom and keeps telling Aubrey she has to be there for him, that she is all that he has. He emotionally manipulates her like she can do anything to emotionally support him. She is struggling with her own grief and inability to process big emotions in a healthy way. Dad is sitting over there threatening to kill himself when Mom dies and Aubrey has started scratching and cutting herself again. So, this is not a healthy way for them to interact.
He contacted me to be a messenger with his mom and tell her to put money on his prison commissary account. I told him no, that I am not comfortable being a messenger to a dying woman by asking her for money. She can't even hold her phone, much less transfer money to an app. He was mad and said "I'm done. I will talk to Aubrey when she's 18." Ok, fine. I am not sure why he thinks she will want to talk to him then. Unless he grows up and stops trying to use her as a crutch or lifeline.

I am scared for Aubrey's wellbeing and state of mind and that's all I have the capacity for. I can't hold up his emotions and stress too. We are all feeling a loss that will effect everyone in different ways. I feel like when this lady finally dies (after threatening to die for 4yrs), I will be released from feelings of obligation. This last traumatic tie to a child abuser will be cut. Aubrey will miss her but we do not have to spend another minute with her manipulation, gaslighting, and commenting on Aubrey's appearance constantly. I hate that Aubrey will miss her but in a few years time, hopefully she will have the perspective that her grandmother was horrible. She was loved but she had no idea how to raise her children or her grandchildren and all of them are struggling as adults/young adults as a result. I hate wishing someone dead but I have been waiting for her to die for a long time. Soon Aubrey can stop wondering "what if she dies" because she will be dead. She can free herself from being there for her grandmother, too, and maybe be a freaking kid.

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Hey friends, I am facilitating the collection of items for the treatment center that Aubrey is in. They have asked for donations of summer and lounge clothes. I set up a Wish List for folks to order from. This is not an Amazon Wish List but if you want to donate, feel free to use Amazon to order items similar to what's on the Wish List. There's a strong need for boys items, especially underwear. Boys are usually dumped there with no family to turn to. It's less often that girls are in that situation. Even if you can order one shirt or pair of leggings, it will benefit a young person in a tough situation.

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Seeking advice! I am in the interview stage for a few positions and am conflicted.

Job #1- a full time position with the County as an Aging Care Manager. The huge negatives in this position is completely phone based so I would be tethered to the desk all day long 8:30-4:30. Positives are that eventually I could move around to other care manager positions that I would enjoy more + county benefits and retirement. The pay is ok and standard for new graduates. I have had 2 interviews already and am waiting on them to make a decision. This office is about 45 minutes away.

Job #2- a full time position with the County as a Forensic Social Worker. This is exactly what I did for 7 years in Philadelphia. I am extremely qualified for this job and it's a mix of office and community work, visiting jails etc. The pay is perfect and on par with what I was making full-time when I was doing juvenile lifer work. This would greatly benefit the family income situation. I am going in person for an interview this afternoon. This office is about 45 minutes away.

Job #3- per diem Geriatric Social Worker. This is the job I trained for all through graduate school. It would be approximately 24 hours, which would mean that I could keep my current part-time job. Some time this week I will be going in to see the facility and discuss the position with the Program manager. It's per diem while 2 staff members are on maternity leave and should become a permanent position later this year. I don't yet know the pay and as per diem I doubt there are any benefits. This would be great experience with older adult case management and would help me get more info about Medicare and insurance systems. The Supervisor is extremely interested in me.. This job is closer to home than the other two.

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Anyone interested in blank cards? I barely send cards and have so many boxes of them. I have mostly modern postcards and a selection of antique cards- mostly France/Europe if I remember correctly. I think I have some linen postcards too. I have lots of cards of art as that was my thing I liked to send. Lol.

Let me know!

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You guys, what the f is happening?? On the 17th one aunt died and on the 19th another aunt died! This is all on my mom's side and way too much for any one family in a year. Five deaths in one year in one family. :(

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All day has been a hurry up and wait game. I went to an 8am appointment and wasn't seen until 9:30. The visit was not even 4 minutes and I was scheduled for a procedure and sent on my way. That made me miss my dentist appointment and I had to pay a $75 fee for that.

I spent the rest of the afternoon dealing with Mom's insurance. She was terminated from PA Medicaid on 2/29/2020. No notice was recieved by us until the pharmacy and doctor office started calling for "updated information." She might qualify for Medicare so I tried to do that online that. I feel like I did something wrong so I called the number for Social Security. Of course I wait for an hour for the representative to say "we can mail you this form" so I did that.

I am really stressed about my mother not having her medications. She's dependent on meds for Bipolar Disorder, COPD and Rheumatoid arthritis, along with some lesser issues. She can't get therapy now, no check ups on her ongoing issues. She had an echo scheduled today by the cardiologist but that's a no-go now. She missing yearly gynecology check up, her next pulmonology, urology, and rheumatology appointments