Tag Archives: marriage pattern

Your First Fight Will Be Your Last

Posted on February 23, 2020 by janieleeds

I had an interesting conversation with a friend who’s divorced the other day. She’d read an article that discussed how when you remember back to the first fight you had with your partner (and you were now broken up/separated/divorced) you … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged conditional love, fuel source, marriage pattern, narcissist abuse, silent treatment, trust | 10 Comments

When You Are Scared To Speak Up

Posted on October 17, 2018 by janieleeds

After more than two decades of marriage, it became easier to allow my former husband’s happiness to matter more than my own. It was an unhealthy pattern. And I blame myself for allowing it. I didn’t speak up because I … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged advice, bad behavior, don't rock the boat, ex-wife of a narcissist, make peace with who you are, marriage pattern, unhealthy relationship, what we do to keep the peace | 18 Comments

It’s Not About You With A Narcissist

Posted on July 11, 2018 by janieleeds

I wasted years – Y E A R S – not getting over the fact that my former husband left me. I desperately went over our past trying to figure out when it all went wrong. I shouldered the blame … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged bad behavior, ex-wife of a narcissist, family, former husband, lies, marriage pattern, narcissist, narcissist abuse, NPD, toxic relationships, truth | 16 Comments

Don’t Let Technology Disconnect You

Posted on August 30, 2017 by janieleeds

Marriage Tip: You already know this, don’t you? When you’re sitting there at the kitchen table with your spouse, you shouldn’t both be on technology. Make an effort! Talk to each other. It’s when you disconnect so completely that the … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, love | Tagged communication, connecting with your spouse, give more than you take, marriage pattern, men and women, relationships, save your marriage, selfish | 8 Comments

Interesting Movie Message

Posted on August 28, 2017 by janieleeds

The other night, while flipping through mindless TV channels, I came upon a movie which normally I wouldn’t have watched, but the title intrigued me. It was called The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. The description was: A … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged dating after divorce, healing after divorce, marriage pattern, power, relationships, sex after divorce, single mom, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom | 12 Comments