Tag Archives: gaslighting

Are You Feeling It Too?

Posted on November 17, 2023 by janieleeds

Hi Everybody! I know it’s been a long while since I’ve written, but I need a safe space to write, so here I am. Funny how I find writing here is safe when I don’t know anyone in real life … Continue reading →

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When The Narcissist Says Don’t Cheat

Posted on December 17, 2022 by janieleeds

The ex began to tell me, “If you’re going to cheat, leave before you cheat, as it’s disrespectful.” In my mind this came out of nowhere as I would never cheat. I couldn’t understand his sudden obsession with saying this … Continue reading →

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When All Signs Point To Cheating

Posted on December 15, 2022 by janieleeds

I have no doubt the ex cheated on me. There I said it. Or wrote it. There it is – in black and white. And I feel non-plussed by it. There’s no emotion behind it. Except that he’s a lying … Continue reading →

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Part Deux As Promised

Posted on October 13, 2022 by janieleeds

My kid walked away for a few minutes and I settled down after I got my heart and mouth under control after our last conversation. Allowed…that word just did it for me as it did for many of you who … Continue reading →

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An Interesting Evening…

Posted on August 18, 2022 by janieleeds

Fast forward to 2 days before what would have been our wedding anniversary and the kids’ college tuition is due, a deadline that night which sets us all on edge because a) we’re talking about money and b) because kid … Continue reading →

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Silent Gaslighting

Posted on October 16, 2021 by janieleeds

I just made up the term Silent Gaslighting because I think it’s a good way to explain what happened to me in the story below. If there’s a better term, just let me know. My first brush with the silent … Continue reading →

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Gaslighting

Posted on October 14, 2021 by janieleeds

I remember when I was married how I knew to just acquiesce in a fight because I wasn’t going to win. As the ex-wife of a narcissist, before I knew what it meant, I instinctively understood that for my own … Continue reading →

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