Tag Archives: advice

I’m Now Seeing A Younger Man Once A Week…

Posted on October 4, 2018 by janieleeds

Did I get your attention? I’m laughing because for those of you who know me, you’re wondering what I’m up to and for those that maybe don’t know me, you’re thinking – cougar? LOL Cougar…in my dreams…more laughter…hmmm….nah…. But no. … Continue reading →

Posted in addiction, finding happiness at 50, women 50 | Tagged advice, changes, cougar, dating after divorce, gym, hate to exercise, increase self-esteem, personal trainer, quit smoking | 15 Comments

When Your Kid Wants To Come Home From College

Posted on September 19, 2018 by janieleeds

My kid went to University in August and started falling apart. How the hell it happened in the blink of an eye is beyond me considering I think I have a good grasp on my kids normally. But this turn of … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love, Uncategorized | Tagged advice, changes, counseling, ex-husband, health, helping your kid to succeed, home, homesick at college, homesick freshman, relationships, single mom, University transfer student | 14 Comments

It’s Not Our Anniversary Anymore

Posted on August 30, 2018 by janieleeds

The other day I realized it would have been our wedding anniversary. Well, I guess I should call it my unniversary since I am divorced over a year now. I wonder if my former husband even realized the date. I … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged advice, anniversary after divorce, ex-wife, family, former husband, gratitude, life changes, marriage, relationships, unniversary | 16 Comments

Single Parenting College Bound Kids

Posted on August 28, 2018 by janieleeds

We’re coming down to the last few days before the kids go to college. I have been decidedly absent from nagging. I have written a list of what needs to be packed. I have gently reminded them of last minute … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged advice, changes, empty nest, family, home, packing for college, relationships, single mom parenting, stop nagging | 6 Comments

Why Smoke?

Posted on August 7, 2018 by janieleeds

Well, so far, day 5 is going good. I’m still too stuffed up with this cold to smoke which helps tremendously. But I know that I am a work in progress in the whole quitting smoking arena. I think many … Continue reading →

Posted in addiction, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged advice, breaking bad habits, cigarettes, guilt, health, quit smoking, relationships, shame, smoking after divorce | 4 Comments

Where Do I Go From Here With The Narcissist?

Posted on August 2, 2018 by janieleeds

Once you’ve identified the narcissist in your life, almost all that you thought you knew and would have bet your life on knowing for sure goes out the window. And if that’s not enough of a bitter pill to swallow, … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love | Tagged advice, changes, ex-wife of a narcissist, family, family of narcissists, forgiveness, healing after divorce, healthy relationships, let go of the past, NPD, present, relationships | 6 Comments

Be An Observer

Posted on July 31, 2018 by janieleeds

If you’re thinking that my advice to be an observer in your life story with the narcissists is hooey, I understand. It wasn’t until I understood what it meant that I realized what a great tool it is to healing. … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration | Tagged advice, changes, friendship, get out of your own way, healing, help with narcisissts, narcissism, observer, relationships | 11 Comments

When You Realize He’s A Narcissist

Posted on July 25, 2018 by janieleeds

If you’ve just realized that there’s a narcissist in your life, you might feel nauseous like I did. Your mind may be going in all directions and those pesky a-ha’s are probably stabbing you with horrifying accuracy because you’re remembering … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, Uncategorized | Tagged advice, ex-wife of a narcissist, healing, hindsight, narcissist abuse, NPD, recovery | 16 Comments