My therapist told me that even though we all desire connection, when we experience trauma and betrayal many of us begin to unconsciously value protection over connection. Which can lead to us being alone.
Have you noticed how people don’t reconcile or apologize until they either see you flourishing despite their feelings towards you, life starts kicking their ass, or they’re placed in a similar position they put you in?
Months ago I told my bf I wanted a birthday cake from a particular bakery. Not only did he get a cake from them he designed it as well. Being loved properly by someone just hits diff.