please consider helping Lissa, she's been dealt a wretched hand for the next few months. if you can contribute, i'll buy you something of comparable value from my fave trans leather worker @butchsystm / riverqueer dot com
i used to wish someone would step up and do a trans woman version of the whole menswear guy shtick. but no, i see now that you all would simply crucify her. just an absolute omelas child situation. i couldn't wish that on anyone
lot of frustration at my belt post. my advice is really simple
skinny brown dress belt, gold buckle
wider black casual belt, silver buckle
this will cover 90% of your outfits
"we need more sober late-night queer spaces" im being the change. im lighting a candle instead of cursing the darkness. tonight is 18+ night at the science museum and i am prepared to eyefuck anyone who remotely looks like they might have a pronoun
i just introduced myself to someone as beth, while wearing a skirt and a full beat, and got asked my pronouns. please just put me out of my misery now because im not gonna make it through pride month at this rate
i did everything right. no amazon basics skirt, just wool slacks and a sensible sweater. hobbies: cooking, going for walks. i run windows and use a normal keyboard. and yet here we are: my boyfriend is making jokes about "new vegas". this is where respectability politics gets you
(mom voice) ok sweetie go have fun, just remember to engage your core if you're about to be punched in the stomach, and keep your mouth closed if you're about to get slapped in the face. and if she wants to put her cigarette out on you, make sure she spits on you there first
the biggest lesson i took from irl kink spaces: you can't be welcoming to everyone simultaneously. you can uninvite an abuser and deal with the fuss, or you can let them keep showing up, and you might not even notice how many other people quietly stop coming back...