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how do you find self-love?
you dig. you isolate and you ache from being lonely. you heal. you accept, you look in the mirror and see god.
malanda.
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malanda.
@overlyxclusive
writer • filmmaker
Joined March 2011
- clear out your phone before the year ends. delete conversations you no longer need, photos and videos that require effort and energy. some memories loop you in a pattern. detach from hoarding moments that no longer serve your elevation.
- in your 20’s find a balance between hustle & rest. you don’t need to have a love life or a soulmate figured out. go travel the world. battle your demons. set up a business, find people who value your heart & yours will attract. don’t live in the past, you have so much more to see
- when people love you they find joy in making life easier for you
- intimacy is about safety. the peace you feel in someone’s presence. the ease in their voice even when you disagree. someone’s attentiveness when you are struggling. their language when they speak about you. someone’s curiosity to learn you and the surrender when it comes to you.
- the intimacy of being understood, chosen, accepted, preferred, regarded, heard, care about, fought for, believed is incomparable.
- ‘did you eat’ is a love language. underrated intimacy. you don’t understand care until someone really cares.
- emotional maturity is being able to stay connected when conversations get difficult. be attentive, offer presence. do not weaponize the love in your relationships to escape accountability. give assurance, create space for growth. compassion is a lifeline for lasting connections.
- i want a slow burn love— a seep into my bone love. can’t wait to show me out to your mama love. we were designed to fit love. we can definitely go the distance, can’t wait to fall in love to every version of you in different seasons kinda love.
- for creatives— it takes years to develop your craft. do not romanticize the idea of an ‘overnight success’. be a student. grow organically. get really good. hate your work. start over. find new ways to express the same ideas. the student becomes the master. your time will come.
- a communicating partner softens insecurities. it takes a lot of courage to share the parts of you that are still in pieces. the version of you still searching for a home— and to find it in someone is a miracle. someone who is not afraid of your scars or the darkness.
