lesbians finding roles in LESBIAN relationship dynamics that are affirming to them is never going to be equivalent to patriarchal heterosexual gender roles!
βwhy are you a lesbian and dating someone who looks like a manβ well men look like a a shitty and worse version of a butch lesbian so write that down,
I just think! that gay is an umbrella term in a way that lesbian is not and never will be. the idea that βgay is to men what lesbian is to womenβ is just incorrect on multiple levels