Author of How Mamas Love Their Babies and ENJOY ME AMONG MY RUINS 🐛; contributor to #WeToo, The Rumpus, Vice, Tits and Sass, Autostraddle; writing a novel 🫠
I’m getting back into sex work. Here’s why:
—medical bills exceeding 20k
—not enough $ to take my ex to court for child support
—I hold a PhD but make less than min wage
—I have a child
It is willfully ignorant— and downright mean— to talk abt prohibition but not poverty.
Today I heard a male prof ask a female student to smile for him. Then he said “C’mon! You know I only come here to see that smile!”
I stepped in.
He cornered and threatened me.
But please, go on abt the “inherently dangerous and patriarchal” aspects of the sex industry.
So my university promised to pay me for moderating an event on exploitative prison labor and after I did all the, ahem, labor, my uni said it’s actually against policy to pay me LOLLLLLL
But please tell me more about how my sex work is bad & I should do ReAL wOrK 🤷🏻♀️
Men writing women:
“She was delicate; her virginity was the most salient part of her.
Then she became a cock sucking fiend, that little bad girl mmmm yummy yummy bad girl
I saved her, naturally.
Now mine is the only cock she sucks.
It’s the greatest love story ever told.”
It’s so interesting how “daddy issues” describes a woman’s personal struggles with an absent, neglectful, or otherwise abusive father but is meant as an insult against *her.*
Twice in the sex industry I gave a portion of my earnings to a (feminist) friend to help keep me safe. Under current federal definition, she’d be considered a pimp.
If you can’t conceptualize the nuances of sex work, you should take a fucking seat and shut your cakehole.
Dear ppl who’ve never been pregnant,
YOU CAN GO INTO LABOR IN ANY TRIMESTER; “SECONDS BEFORE LABOR” DOES NOT INDICATE THE AGE OF THE FETUS.
Signed,
A mother who had an abortion
Notice how it’s “sex with a porn star” and not “had an affair.” The subtext is that mere proximity to a sex worker sullies a man’s moral character. It’s christofascist purity bullshit and it’s absolutely bipartisan.
Ppl in crisis so often just need someone to come over and like ... do the dishes.
We don’t need flowers and we don’t wanna talk and we certainly aren’t “distracted” from our shit lives with tales of all the drama at your yoga studio.
A woman was 10$ short on her grocery bill and the cashier *refused* to let me pay it “‘cause this chick needs to LEARN, needs to do WIC better!”
Welcome to this obscene world where poor ppl punish other poor ppl and sell out to fascism.
“Sex work is degrading and humiliating” say folks who steal our stories, twist our words, profit off our lived experiences, and then refer to us as disembodied orifices.