She wants a travel buddy who will be there for her while she does time-consuming, expensive hobbies and dresses them up for theme parties.
They want a wife and a mother for their kids.
It doesn't matter if you're behind the idea. She organized it. It's on her.
All you're doing is the typical thing of refusing to accept that women have accountability for anything they do.
The best part is that the women also demand authority in the relationship while rejecting any hint of responsibility. They essentially want everything, while promising nothing.