So many women have told me they settled for jobs that were less than they wanted because they’d let them pick up their kids when school ended or not take work home. What if most jobs let people do that? Seems worth considering as we figure out what a return to offices looks like.
Claire Cain Miller
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- When I write about women in male-dominated professions, I often get asked whether it matters for men to be in female-dominated jobs like teaching. So I looked into it, and the answer is yes: it benefits students a lot, as does racial diversity.
- I have been writing about gender and work for a long time. But reporting this suddenly made a lot of things click:
- I did this story because this fact has continued to amaze me: Today, mothers who work outside the home spend THE SAME AMOUNT OF TIME on interactive child care as stay-at-home mothers did in the 1970s.
- There’s something about Kamala in her athleisure and her Converse. Today marks a lot of things, but one that can’t be overlooked is what it means that a woman in her position can just be herself. Pearls, pantsuits and pumps aren’t required to convince people that she’s enough.
- If the other parent can take a day off when a new mother is sick or needs sleep, there's a significant decrease in the likelihood that she'll need to be hospitalized or see a specialist or need antibiotics or anti-anxiety meds
- “Maybe that’s the lesson of Promising Young Woman: that you’d better stay on your toes, and that you’ll have to push back even when people would rather you just drop it. ... The more we idealize women, she told me, the more we rob them of what actually makes them interesting.”I profiled Carey Mulligan, who did not hold back. nytimes.com/2020/12/23/mov…
- A record number of women will be serving in Congress. Amid everything else, it's important to remember that makes a difference. Women govern differently, in the policies they push and the bipartisan collaboration they pursue:
- What parents are doing with their kids this school year has become contentious. But it's worth keeping in mind that for parents of young kids right now, THERE ARE NO GOOD CHOICES. Everyone has been left to figure it out for themselves (& made to feel guilty for whatever they do)
- Most people say it's still easier to be a man than a woman in American society -- except Republican men. nytimes.com/2017/01/17/ups…
- When schools closed, mothers were America's back-up plan. As society reopens, 1.3 million of them are still out of work. We hear a lot about the numbers. We can forget that each of their stories is personal. We owe it to them to listen and look:
- “When paid leave is a right, we’re creating a foundation that helps address mental health outcomes, health care costs & economic strength at the starting line. Instead, we spend a fortune as a country paying into symptoms rather than causes.” Meghan Markle paidleaveforall.org/theduchessofsu…
- Mississippi, arguing that Roe is no longer necessary, said it's easier for women to "pursue both career success & a rich family life." It cited parental leave, child care help & strong pregnancy discrimination laws. But these things don't exist in the US:
- The absolute only explanation is that no one involved in this story has ever lived with a child




