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thing I’m pondering today: it actually takes relatively little effort for a thing to become known as “your thing” socially- ive been seeing this take floating around about women preferring image-based social media and men preferring text-based social media but like the inverse is true for porn preferences
- must suck to be a girl named Polly in the bay “hi i’m Polly” “okay okay can i at least get your name first?”
- i think a lot of conflict can be diffused if you can securely hold these beliefs: - i am good and have good intentions - i will unintentionally hurt people
- i hate it when there’s another ripple of ~dating discourse~ re: smart ambitious women struggling to find an “equal” partner
- new hack: sitting down and being like “i am the type of person who finishes the things that i start” and then finding easy open threads and finishing them without judgment makes pride easier to feelReplying to @charmcgii had noticed my lack of pride when achieving goals i’d set for myself in specific contexts, but i’d never linked it to perfectionism x.com/simulatedsnow/…
- lowkey i find feminine men hot for this reason it’s like metamasculinity, rejecting the first level performative masculinity “i’m masculine enough as i am and im not going to perform it for you”reminds me how masculinity is inherently performative. you need to earn it again and again and again and that's incredibly fucked up
- so usually when people talk about weight loss, they think about it in terms of “I want to be in X caloric deficit to lose Y lbs per week” I’ve never seen it framed as “I am going to eat at maintenance for someone of X weight until I reach that weight”
- Replying to @charmcgia lot of the time you don’t even have to be that good at that thing for people to start associating you as the person who does that thing
- Replying to @noampomskythere’s a theory about our bodies being optimized for short bursts of increased cortisol and long periods of low cortisol (and that chronic moderately elevated levels of cortisol cause a lot of health problems)
- Replying to @charmcgie.g. to my tech and tpot friends, trapeze is my thing but to my trapeze friends, trapeze cannot be my thing, because it’s their thing too. oddly right now my thing to my trapeze friends is trivia lmao
