Generally the problem can be solved by:
-taking a long walk
-doing something with your hands
-someone holding you
-dancing wildly
-a body of water
-a fire
Great post on the role of romantic partners and what is meant to be shared. With a society learning new blueprints for connection and shifting away from the ideas of “finding the one” / “they complete me” , creating an honest container in your relationships is how we approach
We may not be able to heal the current rift between the sexes until we abandon the cultural notion that our romantic partners need to be able to see, accept, welcome and love all of us. It's obviously not true, no matter how much we try to will it into existence. Relationships
As someone with cptsd who thought she wouldn’t be able to maintain connections,
there’s undoubtedly a wicked side to people-pleasing, being avoidant, dissociation, performing connection from fawning behaviors, etc etc. But often people who haven’t experienced it try to speak on