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@amandaperera
Woman of God • Licensed in DBT • Neuroscience, Health, Love • Writer, subscribe to my newsletter substack.com/@amandaperera
Joined December 2009
Fear of communication is trauma based. You either feel like your voice doesn’t matter, you think expressing how you feel is going to bring negative consequences, you’re used to be silenced or invalidated- When a woman is consistently spoken to softly & treated gently, she becomes a new woman. You’re helping her heal her nervous system, you’re helping her heal generational trauma, you’re allowing her feminine energy to flourish, you’re helping her to remember who she is
- Cheating can also be emotional cheating. It is being easily attracted to other people all the time while you’re in a relationship, having “friends” you’re attracted to, following & liking content of people you find attractive, knowing who to move on next with if you ever break up
- When I see a woman glowing, I know that she’s either in love or she’s celibate
- Sometimes women’s insecurities in a relationship have nothing to do with a lack of self confidence/self love. One thing I’ve noticed by unconsciously & unintentionally studying women throughout the years, is that when they feel insecure, most of the time they just don’t feel safe
- I can’t stress enough how unhealthy it is for women to be stressed all the time. It affects our physical and mental health. It affects our hormones. It alters a woman’s physical appearance. It alter a woman’s emotional state. It’s literally poison
- I believe in romance. I believe in a honeymoon phase that lasts forever. I believe in healthy love. I believe that vulnerability is a strength
- Recovery from mental, emotional or physical burnout can take years. Even if you start prioritizing rest and you start living a softer life, your nervous system remembers the burnout and/or the trauma. Understanding this and being gentle and patient with ourselves is key
- Women need consistency. It’s not about being soft with her, treating her right, doing a romantic gesture or reassuring her. It’s about doing those things consistently. If a man does those things, but only once or inconsistently, she’ll never feel safe
- I love being at home. It’s my sacred space. I love spending quality time with myself. Writing, reading, cooking, dancing, candles on, music on, doing lots of self care. As much as I love human connection, I cherish my alone time, my own company, recharging & loving myself
- A woman choosing to be silly and playful is a sign of high intelligence. It means that she could be taking life seriously, but she's choosing to nurture her inner princess bc she understands that will help her stay healthy, pure-hearted & playful, which is the fountain of youth
- The real luxury is being able to have slow mornings. No alarms. No rushing to go to work. No need to hurry up drinking your coffee. You naturally wake up after 8 hours of sleep, you pray, you take another long warm shower, you lotion your body gently (massaging it, loving it),
- When someone is gentle, soft & respects you consistently, that’s when your nervous system starts healing. That’s why some women (and men) have that special glow when they’re being loved right in a relationship. It’s not the love, it’s not the good sex. It’s the emotional safety
