Okong' Okuna (@XivTroy) / X

Okong' Okuna

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Okong' Okuna

@XivTroy

~ I have no master, except my enterprise. I have no enemies, except my indiscretions: and my only claim to relevance is sanity ~

Joined June 2016

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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Jan 9
Please find more on my substack. I will be posting daily: Laughter, reflections, and life. Nothing fancy :) open.substack.com/pub/okongokuna…
Pyrate
@CEOLandshark
Jan 7
You see how much traction this gains.. There's a reason. This is one of the biggest problem points the "could-be" people of the world are facing. High potential but burnt out. Completely fucked up context, almost helpless. There's no way they can win, it seems. And it's true.
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Jul 25, 2025
A friend I'd not spoken to in almost 4 years called. We talked & laughed for over 30 minutes. Said we needed to grab a meal soon. Then towards the end he asked; "Before I forget... how did you get over your heartbreak back then?" That's how I discovered he was getting divorced.
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Apr 10, 2024
When I was 16, we tried to incite our pops against mom because we felt she was being too strict. He called a meeting, said, "I met your mother long before I met you guys. You will leave this house & it's she that will remain here with me. So shape up or ship out."
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Aug 18, 2020
My last relationship taught me that there are people who are sincerely predisposed to the simple life: To sleep & wake up to their partners; to go to their small job & its trifles; to raise kids, to go to church on Sundays. & later die as quietly as they lived. And that it's okay
Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Apr 23, 2023
I've dated long enough to know that there are 2 kinds of women: Those who watch reality Tv, and those who watch crime documentaries. Pick the crime documentary junkies every time.
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Jul 13, 2020
My big brother brought his gf home last year. She was an immediate hit. Said little, laughed much. A Master's degree student & banker. She would join my mom & her sisters in the kitchen. My old man would call us (me & my brother). This is what he had to say:
Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
May 26, 2023
I got new neighbors. Very noisy girls. I unsuccessfully asked them to lower their music severally. Unsuccessfully informed caretaker. So today, I'd had enough. I put on Spotify, tweaked the Sony system to 100, & left. My phone is ringing like nonsense. Unsuccessfully.
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Feb 6, 2025
I've dated single mothers who were amazing people. Probably still will. But my honest opinion is, if you're going to, date them for purely irrational, sentimental reasons like love. Logically, it's the most self-defeating thing you'll ever do. Especially, when you don't have kids
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Apr 29, 2024
It's the knowledge that I could be alone if I wanted. But I picked my person, because of a value/connection I could not find with someone else (or alone). And that sustaining that value demands responsibility on my part. That I made the decision to be with her. It's not a prison.
nanie
@prett_nanie
Apr 28, 2024
For the men that don’t cheat …. What’s your secret? 😕
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Nov 19, 2023
Back in campus, I was so broke I pretended to be vegan because I could not afford beef once the whole semester.... I had a very close female friend, one of those artsy, dreadlocked tomboys from wealthy families. One time she invited me to her room, and they were cooking beef...
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Aug 17, 2023
Fundamentalism. Especially in the educated, middle-class circles. Dating was once a curiosity-driven, gracious affair. Now it is a trauma-informed, rigid vetting system. You don't get the benefit of the doubt. No clean slates. No grace: just caution. And we can't agree to
Kay Réion
@iamkayreion
Aug 16, 2023
What’s the worst part of dating in this generation?
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Jul 25, 2025
Replying to @XivTroy
And with that, we said our goodbyes. Conventionally, one would be upset that he only looked for me in trying times. But friendship manifests differently to me. Friendship is not a roll call to be signed daily. I will give it when you need it, according to my capacity.
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
Jul 25, 2025
Replying to @XivTroy
No preamble. No weeping. I t occured to me he had mourned already in the quiet of his mind. And, in calling, he simply wanted to be heard, by someone who would understand... without needing clarification. So I said in all earnestness, "Time, brother. Only time."
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Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
May 26, 2023
Just got home & switched off the music: it's so quiet I can hear the sausages I had digest in my tummy. I'd even forgotten we had crickets chirping at night. Now we wait for tomorrow: Lessons will be learned Episode 2.
Okong' Okuna
@XivTroy
May 26, 2023
I got new neighbors. Very noisy girls. I unsuccessfully asked them to lower their music severally. Unsuccessfully informed caretaker. So today, I'd had enough. I put on Spotify, tweaked the Sony system to 100, & left. My phone is ringing like nonsense. Unsuccessfully.
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