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Fatherize

@SaveYourSons

Helping men be great dads. Home of the Fatherize Podcast.

Joined August 2023

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@SaveYourSons
Aug 20, 2024
A couple promises for new followers - Here is what you get from this account: -Real conversations with real dads building real legacies in the real world Here is what you won't ever get (and unfollow right now if this is what you're looking for, there are plenty of people on
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@SaveYourSons
Oct 12, 2023
Dad tip: Stop rushing around so much I noticed a bad habit creeping in a few months ago At bedtime with our oldest, we read two stories every night, then we listen to an audio story Gradually I found myself rushing through the process, getting frustrated with how long it
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@SaveYourSons
Sep 27, 2023
This account exists to help men become great dads Fatherhood requires you to be at your best Physically, financially, mentally, and emotionally That's what this account exists to teach Welcome, we're glad you're here
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@SaveYourSons
Nov 29, 2023
Dad tip: If you're dealing with tantrums, a psychological hack is to use a pattern interrupt We've used it before with our 3 year old and it works like a charm Here's how it works Say your kid is melting down and screaming. Nothing you've tried will get them to stop. One
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@SaveYourSons
Oct 24, 2023
Dad tip: Take your kids with you on errands Yes it may add a few minutes to your total errand time, but you more than make up for that for two reasons: 1) your kids see you interacting with the world, even at a young age. They're laying down a mental roadmap of how you behave
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@SaveYourSons
Oct 9, 2023
Reminder for dads: Stop labeling your kids The other day I was at the grocery store and saw an old friend from highschool The old friend had her 4 year old son with her She introduced the son to me, and he immediately hid behind his mother's leg The mother said: "Oh, sorry
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@SaveYourSons
Oct 4, 2023
Reminder for dads: One of the highest ROIs you can have with your kids, no matter their age, is just talking with them I'm always shocked how many parents never really actually talk to their kids So many parents treat parenting as a transactional relationship. The only time
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@SaveYourSons
Oct 17, 2023
Simple trick for dads of young kids (toddler age): If they don't listen or don't follow directions (which they won't, because they're toddlers...) Stop asking open ended or yes & no questions Here's an example: Say your kid doesn't want to brush their teeth Don't say: "Are
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@SaveYourSons
Oct 16, 2023
Dad hack: What do you say when you're busy but your kid asks to play? If you say "not right now," or "sorry son, I'm busy," you're gonna have a bad time Instead try this: "I can't wait to play with you buddy. I have to work on this thing right now, but in 10 minutes (or
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@SaveYourSons
Sep 19, 2023
Dad Tip: What to do when your kid isn't following directions? Let's use bedtime as an example (bookmark this for later) Let's say your bedtime routine is way too long... Your kids resist and stall and have a hard time going from bath to brushing teeth to reading stories to
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@SaveYourSons
Dec 1, 2023
Dad tip: Something I've been working on that will be a helpful reminder for other dads with young kids Stop immediately helping your kids when they're having a hard time with something I call it the "10 Count Rule" Say your son is trying to put his shoe on (a difficult task
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@SaveYourSons
Dec 23, 2023
Psychology dad hack: Tell your kids they already have the traits you want them to have People, kids included, naturally try to live up to the image you have of them Example: we want our kids to value kindness So I tell my 3 year old all the time “I’m proud of how kind you
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@SaveYourSons
Nov 24, 2023
If your newborn or toddler won’t stop crying, go outside It’s called a “state change” and does wonders for tantrums Just drop whatever you’re doing, pick them up and walk around outside The change in environment and temperature usually means screaming stops immediately
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@SaveYourSons
Nov 9, 2023
Reminder: if your kids show natural talent or aptitude toward something, make sure to praise it (in the proper way, explained below) We call it "fanning the flame" Say they are show a ton of talent in art. Everything they draw is years ahead of their peers. It will mean a lot
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