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Keeper

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Keeper

@KeeperAI

Engineering love at first match. 1 in 10 today. Dating apps: 1 in 10,000.

NYC

Joined April 2022

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Keeper
@KeeperAI
Sep 19, 2025
Finding someone to marry is harder than ever. We used to marry for practical reasons and grow into love. Now we hold out for a soulmate. That’s good! Marriages today are much happier. But soulmates are extraordinarily rare, and too many people are struggling to find theirs.
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
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Why are women guarded on first dates? A few % of men are genuinely dangerous. A night with one of them is enough to make a woman screen every man for the worst case from then on. So she shows up careful, scripted, and a little cold. Normal people graduate out of dating. The
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
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Your first date should have two venues. Have a drink, then walk to a second spot for food or another round. Changing locations makes the night feel longer. It feels like two dates instead of one. Talking about something that happened 2 hours ago feels like an inside joke. You
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
Jun 10
We used to marry people we wouldn't have considered on first meeting. The town kept serving them up, year after year, until you noticed there was something about them you only saw with time. We replaced that with a system where the first impression is the only impression. Then
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
Jun 9
You only end up with a gold digger if you want a woman only for her looks. If you’re compatible beyond looks and money, you both feel it. If all you see in her is her looks, odds are there’s nothing else in it for her either. The only thing left is money. Not complicated.
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
Jun 8
You don't need a partner. You also don't need friends, music, or good food. Need was never the test for anything worth having. The depth two people reach is bounded by how much of yourself the relationship lets you put into it. When I'm single, I'm lonely in a way a fuller
Building Great Marriages
@dovidfeldman
Jun 8
Ok, so women don't need men, and men don't need women. Is that a reason not to get married? Because in the past you couldn't do it on your own, and now you can? Just shows you have no clue what marriage is about in the first place. 🤷
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Jake Kozloski
@jakozloski
Jun 7
Replying to @KyleArundel @CurtTigges and @Noahpinion
Keeper is still low n. We haven’t hit the automation level required to clear our quality bar at scale, so the median user today is just sitting on a waitlist. Unlike all of our competitors, we won’t offer a match we don’t believe can lead to marriage. This approach has
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
Jun 6
I've had success on every dating app. But only on Bumble have I met more serious girlfriends. The reason is that I'm too good at talking to women. On Hinge I can cold-message girls I have no business with and talk my way into the date. Bumble's mandatory double opt-in means
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
Jun 5
Looksmaxing is what you get when every other way for a man to prove himself is taken away. Women cover their own costs now, so income is table stakes, not a differentiator. Costly signals, like homeownership, are out of reach for the median guy. So the status competition
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Wes Myers (itl)
@realwesmyers
Jun 4
Thursday is the best night for a first date. It's close enough to the weekend that if the date is going well, it doesn't have to end. It can run long, and "what are you doing this weekend," can lead naturally to a quick second date. But it's still a weeknight, so a bad date can
strange hinge messages
@hingestrange
Jun 4
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Jake Kozloski
@jakozloski
Jun 1
Couples who idealize each other a little, who see their partner as somewhat better than the partner sees himself, stay together longer and report more satisfaction over time. Not delusion. A small, generous overestimation. The people who see their partner with perfect accuracy do
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Jake Kozloski
@jakozloski
Jun 1
The case against marriage is always made by pointing at bad marriages, which is like making the case against surgery by pointing at the ones that killed someone. A good one is among the best things that happen to a person and a bad one among the worst. The entire game is getting
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Jake Kozloski
@jakozloski
Jun 1
There's a finding called the Michelangelo phenomenon: the right partner sculpts you toward the person you were already trying to become. Not who they want you to be, who you aspired to be. A good marriage isn't two finished people. It's two people drawing the ideal self out of
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