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I'm super excited to announce the release of my new book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. It comes out July 10, but you can preorder now! Learn more here: ow.ly/qzJK30jxkWf
Justin Lehmiller
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Justin Lehmiller
@JustinLehmiller
Social psychologist, sex researcher, author, pinball wizard. Kinsey Institute Senior Research Fellow. Host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast.
Joined December 2011
- When it comes to sex fantasies about mythical creatures, women (esp. straight women) are pretty much just into vampires, whereas men are into a much wider range of creatures. Here's a look at #Halloween themed sex fantasies and the psychology behind them:
- No--a million times, no. Using a condom is a sign that you care about the sexual health of both you and your partner(s). Condom use should be viewed as a sign of healthy sexuality, not sexual shame.
- "Violence is mostly morally driven. People are violent because of their morality, not in spite of it." ow.ly/ZDKh30n6FUS
- Just sat behind @PeteButtigieg on a flight from LAX to Detroit. While he sipped coffee and read every single word of the @nytimes AND a book, I drank whiskey, played Candy Crush, and watched The Devil Wears Prada. One of us might have a little more discipline on airplanes.
- I'm working on a book chapter on non-monogamy in LGBTQ+ relationships and am struck by the fact that most studies I've come across on this topic have lumped infidelity and consensual non-monogamy into the same category. Repeat after me: These are NOT the same thing!
- In Colorado, expanded access to low- or no-cost contraceptives and reproductive health care led to a 54% drop in teen pregnancies, a 63% drop in teen abortions, and a 14% drop in the number of women in their early 20s without a high school diploma.
- For a long time, people (and the field of psychology) have equated "uncommon sexual interest" with "sexual disorder." However, just because an interest is uncommon doesn't mean it's unhealthy. We shouldn't judge sexual interests based on whether they're statistically common.
- Sexual violence predates online porn. In fact, it was an even bigger problem before online porn came into existence. This isn't to say that porn has decreased sexual violence--but the pattern doesn't support the popular idea that porn causes violence.
- Porn is often blamed as the reason a lot of young adults aren't having sex. However, the data show that porn users are actually more—not less—sexually active than non-users. So maybe porn isn't the real issue...
- Conscientious people have a tendency to plan and schedule everything—including sex. While that might sound unsexy, it turns out that people high in conscientiousness have fewer sex problems, more satisfying sex, and maybe even more sex than other people. ow.ly/afzb30nIeo7
- 66 years ago this week, the first media reports dropped on Alfred Kinsey’s book Sexual Behavior in the Human Female. They sent shockwaves around the world & the book was labeled “obscene” because it suggested women were more sexual than previously assumed. lehmiller.com/blog/2019/8/19…
- Forced sex fantasies (also known as "ravishment fantasies") have a very rich psychology behind them and people may have these fantasies for wildly different reasons.
- “The most consistent sex will be the love affair you have with yourself. Masturbation will get you through childhood, puberty, romance, marriage and divorce, and it will see you through old age.” RIP Betty--you will be missed!
