This is like the inverse of my daughter who, completely unprompted tells me "daddy, chinese people look like this!", as she pulls back her eyes. "Daughter," I tell her, "you realize you're Chinese?"
What, exactly, do you want men to do? We canโt birth the baby for you. Literally all we can do is work more hours to make more money, but then youโd complain that weโre โnot helping with raising the kidsโ cause weโre at work instead of home.