I was studying child development, & when a parent or adult hits a kid throughout their childhood, they can end up developing a dissociative disorder in adulthood. A child cannot physically escape abuse majority of the time, so they mentally go else where and detach mentally in
This is why abusers isolate people. This is why they say that talking about your experience with them is just “gossip”. This is why they want to silence you.
Foreplay and aftercare are the most important parts of sex. Not penetration, not orgasming.. but actually treating the person that you’re with like a human being that you want to please, and not a sex doll.