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Ashe πβ€οΈ
@Ashewyn
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- Is this abuse? Is it happening to you? These are common tactics abusers use to keep you under their control, a thread:
- Replying to @AshewynGaslighting: Abusers will make you second guess yourself, and make you feel like you are going mad. You start not to trust your judgments. "You're overreacting". People who are gaslighted will protect their partner and blame themselves instead. Tactic to create a power dynamic.
- Replying to @AshewynVictimizing: When you confront them about something they did, instead of acknowledging and apologizing, they play the victim. "I hate myself", "I'm a bad person" to gain your sympathy and make you feel bad for making them feel this way. "I'm not good enough for you."
- Replying to @AshewynBlame shifting: Abusers use your weaknesses/habits against you to make you feel inadequate. When you get upset at legitimate problems, they use your past to turn the tables, and before you know it you are apologizing to them, not the other way around. βYou canβt take a joke.β
- Replying to @AshewynIsolation: Abusers don't want you talking to anyone so you don't hear other's perspectives. They control you by isolating you from loved ones, telling you that only they care for you, & ask you to keep things secret. Question your loyalty & cause divides between you and others.
- Replying to @AshewynMinimization: They invalidate your feelings & concerns by belittling your self-worth. They tell you that you're too sensitive, are overreacting, or don't give your concerns any weight and dismiss it. If you have issues with their friends, their response: "that's how they are!"
- Replying to @AshewynSilent Treatment: A very degrading tactic, where they stop responding to you, emotionally withdraw, or withhold intimacy. They do this as a "noble" cause to teach you a lesson, punish you or coerce you into meeting their demands. They force you to fix the situation.
- Replying to @AshewynHoovering: Abusers will try to suck you back into a relationship or keep you from leaving by: declaring undying love, threatening to kill themselves, making future promises, or revealing things that they intended to do. They say something nice and if ignored become mean.
- Replying to @AshewynGrooming: You feel like soulmates, they mirror you, make you feel that what you have is special. Groomers are pretenders, & unbelievably charming. They establish trust to set the ground for abuse. "You're lucky to have me." Victims feel at fault, because the partner is perfect.
- Replying to @AshewynSmear Campaign: They will smear you in front of everyone so you appear to be the unstable one. They are skilled in making people believe them, that people will have difficulties believing your version of events because of their skill in upkeeping image. Makes you feel alone.
- Replying to @AshewynImage Management: Their image is very important to others. Often regarded positively by others and considered trustworthy by many. You are even a poster boy for how great they are. They shift stories so people only see the positive aspects of them. Grounds for future abuse.
- Replying to @AshewynWays to break out of abuse: Reach out to others, nothing is too shameful to talk about. Know your rights. Don't give their tactics legitimacy by acknowledging them. Never accept that you deserve what you receive. You have a voice, say it LOUDLY.
- Replying to @AshewynThis is one form of abuse I still can't put a name to. When abusers overpower you in a conversation, don't allow you to speak, or defend yourself. They shut you up, drive you to tears, or force you to leave the conversation/vicinity so that they "win".