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Amanda Is Having A Sh*tty Time
@AmandaQuirky
Officially dx autistic; self-ID is VALID; Mom of 2, wife of 1. Accidentally argumentative (sometimes deliberately but less than you'd think).
North East, England
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    Amanda Is Having A Sh*tty Time
    @AmandaQuirky
    May 25
    Insomnia is a serious issue. A few weeks of significantly interrupted sleep and your anxiety can get so bad you forget why you mostly left Twitter, return, call people out for their most rancid takes in your foulest language, and then disappear again after a solid 5-hour nap.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 17, 2023
    This. I hate "we should ban men from gynecology" style discourse. I would *never* have gone for a 2nd smear if the 1st one had hurt like the 2nd one did. 1st one? 19, done by a male GP who wasn't rushing. 2nd? 25, female nurse insisting "it's not that bad" while I cried.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Aug 7, 2021
    Replying to @FrankGourley and @aidenarata
    "and the queen is menstruating" ..... "She gathers an offering..." ????? "...and paints two stripes under my eyes" !!!!!
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 17, 2023
    Replying to @AmandaQuirky
    I think people who don't claim to understand our experiences can be overwhelmingly better at showing us compassion. If you go in thinking "I know what this was like" and then your patient reacts outside your expectations, your ego can get in the way. Distance can be good.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 18, 2023
    Replying to @AmandaQuirky
    *If you come here to make snide comments about the people in this thread who have been assaulted by female HCWs, I will block you. SA by male gynos doesn't mean female gynos should be allowed to physically assault people without our complaining about it. WTAF.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Sep 9, 2022
    Replying to @Peachedcrane and @BevVeatch
    As an American who's lived in NE England for 20 years, it fits. All the rabid right-wingers worship [the Queen/the Troops] everyone of a certain age or income thinks it's just not nice to criticise [ ] and millions of left-wing and/or working-class ppl want to destroy [ ].
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 18, 2023
    Replying to @AmandaQuirky
    *And I also block people for that absurd flavour of misogyny that argues that women can *never* do anything bad and men can *never* do anything good... don't bring that gaslighting bs to a thread with *multiple replies* about women assaulting people!!
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Feb 4, 2021
    Replying to @SteveGrange77 and @jimmymc_88
    It's HER phone battery. HER time. HER mental effort. He has NO RIGHT to it. If another sentient being wants to spend time with you, on or offline, it's a gift. Him framing it as something she owes him, or should feel bad about not doing--even as a joke--is the problem.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 17, 2023
    Replying to @cherryaire
    I didn't want to, initially. My mom strongly encouraged me to go to my 1st smear on her insurance, and her male GP was the only option. But his bedside manner was perfect. And he didn't hurt me (which seems miraculous, since in 21 years I've never had another painless smear).
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 17, 2023
    Replying to @NickAnderegg
    Exactly this. My experiences with men poking around (particularly in my reproductive areas) have almost all been concern, caution, etc. Women tend to just jab their hand/speculum up there and tell me "relax, we all have to go through it".... unbelievable.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Mar 10, 2022
    Who cares, BUT: The rainbow infinity symbol represents all neurodiversity/the neurodiversity movement (arguably suggests neurodivergence). The symbol that we made, that's "just for us" (autistic people) is the gold infinity symbol. Because gold, on the periodic table, is Au.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Jun 6, 2021
    Replying to @bookmanwhb13 and @IrrelevancePer1
    You say "not all men" when we're talking about toxic masculinity and rape culture too, don't you? If you're a boomer you are old enough to know better. Grow up.
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 20, 2019
    As a nation, we effectively just voted to sell off the NHS to American corporate interests, so... Universal Healthcare obviously isn't something enough of us are still passionate about. We lose all the points we accrued, for destroying the NHS just to "get Brexit done."
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    @AmandaQuirky
    Dec 18, 2023
    Replying to @AmandaQuirky
    *It's 4:15 a.m. and my daughter is asleep so I should be too. Do I mute? Check notifications in the morning? Just hope no interlopers hijack the thread while I snooze? Who knows! But my thanks to everyone who's been kind and understanding of other people's pain.
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