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Male Dominant, 43, San Diego, California
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About ZenRiverOtter
I think my user name says a lot about me. Zen is the way I feel about spirituality. The River Otter is sort of a spirit guide for me. I have loved watching them play since I was a kid and has always been my favorite animal. I was meditating one day then just knew to make this name my user name. I feel my life is whole and fulfilling. I have friendships and the joy of seeing my children grow up, my daughters are ages 8 and 10. I´m honest, sincere, protective, resourceful, affectionate, respectful, funny, a good listener, cleaver, witty, sexually savvy and certainly not judgmental. (WOW I´m all that, I must have like, 2 bags of chips here someplace) I'm an old hippie in touch with his inner nerd, as well as, a dirty old man in touch with his inner pervert. I am a dominant lover it's just in my nature.
When I was active in the D/s lifestyle years ago I would not have considered making a profile expressing how I feel, let alone posting poetry. (ok, so it's Jr. High level poetry but still mine) However, I was not very spiritual then, I am now. In the past I felt that “real men” don't express their feelings. Now I am looking for a woman that can hold her own in the world, able to express herself intellectually, be a partner and keep her desire to be dominated in the bedroom rather than me feeling pressured into controlling every aspect of her life. I am looking for a woman that will communicate with me. One that enjoys the submissive lifestyle rather than one that thinks that is all she is meant to be or ever aspires to become. I want to be able to respect my Sub as she respects my Dominate nature. I am looking for a woman that will explore and learn about spirituality together. In the past I only aspired to be called “Sir” or “Master”. Now, I want my Sub to be “My Lady” and for her to refer to me as “My Lord” or “You're Grace” when we are in our bedroom play. For the Sub that I choose will be a Queen in her own right. I spend a lot of my time homeschooling my children and have not had much time for flirting or looking for a soul mate, girlfriend or play partner.
Understand that I am single at this time and a Red Blooded American Male that will certainly engage in a One night Stand, Friends With Benefits or just occasional casual encounters with No Strings Attached sex. But if that is all you are interested in then be a woman with No Strings Attached. If you are in an open door or cuckold relationship I will want to hear that from them. I like how this website allows us to list if we own or if a woman is being owned right at the top of our profiles. I will only initiate a friendship request with those I have messaged with or had some interaction with such as commenting on a writing or picture. Please do the same with me ok?
My interests and hobbies outside of D/s:
Is making pizza from scratch a hobby? Well I think it is, family and friends all agree to do there part when I engage in this hobby. I play a little guitar (poorly) mostly children´s songs for my biggest (and only) fans. I have a lot of interests, beach, travel, swimming, horse back riding, theme parks (we have lots of good ones here in Florida) canoing/kayaking, just going to one of our many nature parks. I also like reading and do some writing. In my writing of erotic stories and poems seems that I am no good at writing about, well, characters, or plots for that matter, but in writing what I know, I wrote a lot of detailed sex! (Ladies be sure to check out “The Art of Eating Pussy” you won't be disappointed) I have also been known to be crafty, I can make bindings out of whatever happens to be close by. I enjoy history and human culture. I am fond of quotes from famous (and infamous) characters in history. Here is just one example:
“ If at first, the idea is not absurd, then there is no hope for it.” - Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)
Just some of my favorite books:
I just finished reading Jim butcher´s The Dresden Files. (I thought the TV show was good but these book are awesome) I have the latest in George R.R. Martins Song of Ice and Fire, A Dance with Dragons but in knowing how that guy just can´t finish a story I am in no hurry. (the TV show is very good) Anything (and I do mean anything) by Terry Pratchett (especially Disc World) Hey, the Harry Potter series is good. Niel Gaiman books are always good. (he even wrote a Dr.Who episode this year) I could go on and on but not before saying J.R.R. Tolkien ROCKS! (sensing a pattern here?) Okay then. How about this for diversity. Barbara Ehrenreich´s Bright-Sided, "How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America" is a must read for all who know the power of positive thinking. Pragmatism has served me well when my “positive thoughts" would have lead me to disaster. Another in a long list of “must reads” for me is Eckhart Tolle´s The Power of Now for understanding of just how the mind works in the pursuit of spirituality. See! See! Not just a dirty old man, I am an old hippie with an inner nerd!
Update for January 24th 2012
All the books listed here I have read last year (some, like Tolkien are a reread) These days I spend much more time reading news on our current political situation and Occupy. I have not even had a chance to read a novel.
A few of my favorite movies:
Batman Begins! Finally a move that really understood Batman.(I have liked all the super hero movies) Firefly kicked ass! (Fox needed their asses kicked for canceling those cowboys in space) . All the Star Treks (yes, even the odd number ones). Make any move out of the books I like and I am there. Thank God New Line Cinema gave Peter Jackson the go ahead for all three Lord of the Rings. Don´t go much for the “B” movies (well, ok, Bruce Campbell) but I like most any Sci-fi or fantasy movies (yep, defiantly a pattern)
Update for January 24th 2012
Since my children are still quite young most of the movies I have seen are well, kids movies. The most adult(ish) movie was Green Lantern. (you should have heard my girls say “ahhww” at the end when GL kissed the girl, it was sooo cute)
Favorite TV Shows:
Dr. Who I know, I know, it's a British kid show, but I like it. Most of the shows I like get canceled. The only news I go for is The Daily Show. I like thinking, so I will watch a cop show for the “who done it” aspect. (oh, snap, I just thought of a whole bunch of other books I like) Is Mad Men coming back? Burn Notice is still going but I think it's on it's last legs (Sorry Bruce) Since I tend to kinda zone into whatever happens to be on a television, I keep my contact with it limited. I will watch documentaries. (hey, if I am going to zone out I may as well learn something)
Update for January 24th 2012
I have even less time for T.V. then I did before my involvement with the Occupy movement. Of course I will still make time for Doctor Who.
Update July 13, 2012
With homeschooling I'm finding more time for novels (but not much for movies and T.V) so I finally read the latest in George R.R. Martins saga. I've enjoyed Kim Harrison's “Rachel Morgan” series. The best book I've read in a long time go hands down to Kevin Hearne's “Iron Druid” and eagerly waiting for the next installment.
OK, seriously, enough about me (can't believe your still reading) What about you? Go ahead, introduce yourself, wisper into my ear, um, in-box (you know that message thingy) I'm listening. |
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Spanking
Many tools I'll use for your spanking A fist full of hair is mine to be yanking Before I turn you over my knee A studded fur paddle you present to me Your clothing I'll tear and forcefully rip Along with a crack of my fine leather whip Latex whips make sensual swishing My lenient mercy you will be wishing A riding crop with hard snap and popping Reduces you to squirming and hopping My belt from my pants is readily available Your appetite for pain is clearly insatiable When my hand strikes hard, open and bare It makes your ass checks so rosy and rare Submission is what brings on your pure glee As you yield yourself fully to me
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The Art of Oral
Finished your bath already? Yes, I remembered your e-mail last year saying that is your favorite bath oil. No it wasn't a trick, not really. My brother-in-law thanks you for your gift advice and my sister buys that brand all the time now. You look like you recovered from that immediate ravishing I gave you upon arriving from your long trip to get here. Now dry that wonderfully wet , naked body. I've had my shower in the other bathroom and with a fresh shave, I am ready for you.
I have some pillows in the left corner of the bed. One on top of the other and a third leaning on that stack. A fourth pillow is on the center of the bed. Sit your sweet ass on the center pillow. Kick back, get comfortable, relax laying diagonally on the bed so I have plenty of room here between your legs. We can 69 another time. Right now I want you to relax and enjoy.
At first I get right over top of you but with out touching you at all. Holding myself up like a solder ready to do a 100 push ups. My arms on either side of your shoulders. I gaze into your eyes and hold. I see a kindred spirit there deep inside your eyes. I reach my neck down and kiss you firmly on the lips all the while holding myself up. I kiss your chin, neck, left shoulder, neck again, right shoulder. I kiss my way back and down to the top of your cleavage. I move my arms down a little so they are now on either side of your beautiful breasts. I lower my knees to the bed right between your knees. I kiss each nipple then gently bite and kiss my way down your stomach stopping at your mons. As I nuzzle and nip at your mons, I settle down between your legs and my hands touch you for the first time.
I massage and stroke your hips. Glide down your bikini lines feeling all around yet never touching your vulva. I move my firm hands down your legs to your knees, pressing them flat on the bed while describing vividly every sensual aspect of your sweet pussy. I reach under to the back of your knees then massaging your calves all the way to your ankles. I hold your feet, rubbing the balls of your feet lifting them into the air and move your legs toward you, knees on either side of your belly. You are now in the perfect missionary position. I see you looking hungrily at my stiff cock and bite your lips but we are not going to fuck yet. No, not just yet.
I want to see you masturbate yourself. I will learn much about how to touch and please you by watching. Yes, thats it, wet your fingers and play with that pretty pussy. Now think naughty thoughts. Your vivacious vulva has many nerve endings. Thousands in that hidden clitoris alone, but all they really do is stimulate the one, true, erogenous zone. Your mind. Think of all the naughty and nasty pictures you've seen on the Internet. Think of every fantasy you ever had and fulfilled. Think of every fantasy you have yet to explore. Remember the first time you were ever completely satisfied. Remember your fist dildo, think of your favorite dildo. I move my face so close to your cunt that your fingers now feel my hot breath and you reach to my mouth but I only lick and moisten your fingers some more and tell you to continue. Now verbalize, tell me about the kinkiest thing you've ever done and really liked. I am listening and will remember for later use. Tell me of the kinkiest thing you've ever done but didn't enjoy so I'll know to stay away from that or better yet, I'll think of a way to make it enjoyable for you. Tell me of your favorite positions. Talk dirty baby, you know I love it.
Now I reach the two fore fingers of my right hand to your panting mouth and command you to suck them like they were my throbbing cock. Thats it, get them good and wet. Now think of your darkest fantasy. That one you have never told anyone about. That really dark one that you often try not to think about yourself because of how nasty it is When I see your finger go back to your clitoris I pull my fingers out of your mouth and place the two on your one. I will take it from here.
As you remove your hand I press gently on your clitoris in a circular fashion. I move to the top of the clit and start a slow down stroke. My fingers slide tightly on either side of your clitoris pausing briefly, then continue on between the inner and outer labia slowly. I do it second time, then a third but this time I continue down to circle your anus and back up again, parting your inner labia. I play here only the briefest of moments then separate my fingers, spreading your lips and exposing your wet and tight little vagina to me. I nuzzle my nose on your clitoris and breath in your wonderful aroma. I reach my left hand around your right leg and softly squeeze your mons. The fingers of my right hand stoke inside your inner labia, circling though not yet penetrating your vagina. I place my mouth to your clitoris and start licking, gathering up your sweet pussy juices with my fingers and moving the wetness to your ass hole then back fore more juice. All the while I lick and flick your clitoris.
My left hand slides up to play with your breasts and pinch your hard nipples. The fingers of my right hand massage your ass hole. My warm tongue slides down the right side of your clit. Down between the inner and outer labia. Back up separating the lips, stroking and gathering the juice coming from your vagina. My tongue goes back to your clitoris and I retract my tongue, kiss your clit and you can hear me swallow your deliciousness with a yummy sound. My tongue back to your clit, circle and down the left side to repeat over again. Left side, right side, up the middle and swallow, I could do this all night but I won't. Now I move my hands to cup your ass. While licking and flicking your clit again I place my thumbs on the creases where your legs join your pussy. Massaging the creases and squeezing the outer labia together. I move my thumbs to your inner labia and spreed then wide. My fingers dig into your ass. My mouth moves down puckering to kiss your vagina while my nose nuzzles your clit as my mouth gets buried in your vulva.. Now its tongue fucking time.
My left thumb moves to massage your anus. My right hand reaches up to grab and fondle your breasts. My tongue enjoys working its way inside you. My tongue goes clockwise then counterclockwise. In, out, in, out and all around. I feel your legs squeezing my head then opening wide again to allow the penetration. My right hand slides down your belly to give your mons a squeeze again. My hands on your top and bottom somewhat holding you but allowing your needed movement. Your legs flailing around. My nose presses against your clitoris. I tongue fuck you and your squeals of pleasure are music to my ears. Be loud baby, be proud.
When I sense you're getting up there toward orgasm, I'll take my tongue out of your drenching vagina, make my lips into an O and take the clit into my warm wet mouth. I'll start to suck gently and watch your face for reaction. The index finger on my right hand goes back between your lushest pussy lips. I suck your clitoris harder as I see you are enjoying it. My index finger now probes deeper in your vagina than my tongue did. The middle finger of my left hand replaces the thumb on your ass hole and gets wet from all the juice that has flowed down from your pussy's excitement. Sucking your clit in and out of my mouth as my tongue keeps rhythmic timing to greet your clitoris each time I suck it in. The finger inside you is now rubbing your G spot and has you move, no longer with any restriction, I move with you. I have to adjust my knees and position myself better to stay with you.
Now the middle finger joins my index finger and this allows me to probe ever deeper inside. The O my mouth has formed around the little flower bud of your clitoris widens, pulling away the foreskin completely away from your clit allowing my tongue to flick and circle. The middle finger of my left hand works its way inside your ass hole. The fingers stroking your pussy are exploring the vagina, always coming back to the G spot. The two fingers give a rhythmic timing to alternately thump the G spot then rub. My lips pucker onto your clitoris now that they have persuaded the foreskin away. The finger up your ass is sliding out as the two fingers in your creamy cunt are siding in. A double yet alternating penetration then begins to fluctuate then begin to synchronize. My mouth and tongue wildly fucking your clitoris. Please hold back your orgasm! Please let me continue forever!
Then it happens, I knew it couldn't last. Your fingernails begin to dig into my scalp. The vaginal muscle expands then quickly convulses tightly on my fingers gushing a new flood of juices. Simultaneously your anus clamps hard as you scream thrusting your pelvis high. I manage only barely to keep the suction on your clitoris with the help of your hands hard on my head. You collapse back on the bed gasping for air, body quivering. I have managed to stay with you, but have stopped all movement. First I release the firm grip my mouth had on your clitoris. Our breathing is now in sync and deep. Your scent is magnificent. Hot heavy breath flows over your sensitive clitoris. I slowly remove the long middle finger from its entrenchment. Your ass tries a weak attempt to hold it in then relaxes. I keep my two fingers inside you till you regain control of your breathing. Your pussy resists removal but coincides the inevitable.
I rise up. I've managed not to ejaculate, just barely, but you see the precum oozing down my dick. I lay down beside you and pull you close and kiss you ever so passionately. We talk a little about the different places we can fuck in the two days you have left before your long journey home. I caress and pinch your nipples and we consider not even leaving this bed. But I have promised you a fantastic sunset at the beach, besides, there is this spot I know ... You tell me you're ready to fuck now.
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I did not write this I just agree with it. It was reposted on another website and the original author is unknown.
A Submissives Bill of Rights
You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being.
You have the right to respect yourself as well.
You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness.
You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.
You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later.
You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable.
You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES.
You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong.
You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an
active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.
You have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissive s have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as though they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to the One. It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.
You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissive's are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less.
You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed. Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has to make them aware before they can help.
You have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart.
Author Unknown
I would only add about the “failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES “ that it is the Dom's responsibility to insure, through listening and understanding to what has been said with vigilant observation, that a sub never has to say no. I would not “blame the victim” There are times where a subs mind may “freeze up” and can't honestly say "no". A sort of safety mechanism. Yet the body language is often there when the mind can not be.
“With great power comes great responsibility” (Stan Lee – creator of SpiderMan)
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