To be more aware of your slave's state of well being and her needs, other than your own.
Trusting your need will be full met by her in full symbosis.
"Perfect pairing and bonding, slave to master"
Friends First, for only friends can bring you to next level of trust and intimacy in a TPE relationship.
Although passion in any relationship is essential, for me lust is not love, and being equally yoked is essential. The word says live with your wife in an understanding way. One is encouraged not to try and better God's design, trying to rebuild someone is not a sustainable endeavor. I believe the more a wife submit and becomes vulnerable, the more the husband needs to attend to the loving duty of being sensitive to the needs, fears, and feelings of his wife. In other words, a Christian husband needs to subordinate his needs to hers. Her needs were so great that she surrendered her power to get those needs met. Honor the power exchange, take her power and choice but meet her needs.
1 Peter 3:7 (New American Standard Bible) 7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. In 1 Peter 3:7 Peter specifically notes consideration, chivalry, and companionship.
In Eph 5:26 we are encouraged to see our wives the way we want them to be with a positive confession of our vision, not critically tear her down. Eph 5:26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, So yes having a christian submissive is a blessing and a responsibility before God. If he nourishes and cherishes her as he guides her, the he will reap a harvest of great love and affection. We ought not to take a woman's submission, make her vulnerable, helpless, take her dowry, her resources and defraud her leaving her bereft. If you accept her service then you accept responsibility for he well being, the Master is ultimately responsible for the health and care of his submissive.
After some thought and observation I believe that love is very necessary in any BDSM relationship I would establish. Without love it is so easy for the Dominant personality to become selfish and self centered, only taking and not giving.
I am a Christian man, seeking a LTR relationship with a Christian female. Seeking a Godly woman, who is intelligent, physically active, very sweet, very tender hearted. I am a man that is strong but gentle, the same. I am a strong loving and peaceable man that abhor conflict and drama, and will not tolerate it in any relationship I have, trust and communication is all we need. A vibrant faith in God is of paramount importance, "principle of not being unequally yoked". Looking for a woman who needs a strong but gentle man. A 'truly' submissive, emotionally available woman, a rare treasure to find. I can but pray, God would entrust such a woman's heart to my care, because her protection and comfort will be the sure knowledge of my love for her and my surrender to God leading in my life. My wife would never feel less or be less from her submitting herself to my will, rather she becomes my treasure my blessing. Loving her as Christ loves the church and gave His life for her, washing her with the word. Ideally she would be a sophisticated classy submissive woman. Someone I could take to the season opening of the opera, or the symphony. Someone to take to the club or executive functions. Plus I respond to real tears, turns me on or breaks my heart depends on the circumstances. I am an intelligent man, well read and accomplished in my field. Also I am a very active man, I love tennis, motorcycles, SCUBA, bicycling, acrobatic parachute kites, parachute jumping, only the high speed rides at the amusement park. I love music, all kinds, Mozart’s, madrigals and motets, the baroque period, lover of the fine arts. Oh, yes, I love book store, getting starbucks drink, and reading interesting things to each other. I am a very positive person, I love life and love romance ergo my name from that French romantic warrior Cyrano de Bergerac... It's the Jamaican in me Peace
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remember life is poetry and we create beauty with the love we express life is love, and it will ALWAYS cost you to love unselfishly life is growth, worry NOT about the end, just enjoy the journey live the poetry, always, stay the beautiful self you know how to be
When you focus on being a blessing … you are always blessed in abundance. -Joel Osteen
a little slave that is more:
i am more RACK than SSC
i am more cheeky giggles than high protocol
i am more planned than surprise
i am more good than naughty
i am more practical than frivolous
i am more chocolate cake than alcohol
i am more private than show
i am more cat than dog
i am more home than away
i am more literal than abstract
i am more sitting than running
i am more 24/7 than play date
i am more housewife than career woman
i am more pink and white than black and red
i am more 'yes daddy' than 'yes master'
"I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence." ~ Frederick Douglass ~
Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. What we could be experiencing is the intent behind the words. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent - Thurgood Marshall
There comes a time in life, when you walk away from the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. So, love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is LIFE. Getting back up is LIVING.
Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together but do so with all of your heart. Marcus Aurelius
Love is not blind – it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less. Rabbi J Gordon
Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person that about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable. Dr Joyce Brothers
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle
We know that we have passed from death into life, because we love 1 John 3:14
Here is the truth Love ALWAYS costs!!! But the rewards are worth the risk/cost
Those who seek the rewards of love Without paying love's costs Often substitute actions motivated by selfishness
Selfishness is not love...... Metaphorically sucking another person dry is not love.... Loves gives to makes the other person better
Love is a flower which turns into fruit at marriage.
amenable one that means cooperative, acquiescent, compliant, accommodating, obliging, biddable, manageable, controllable, governable, persuadable, tractable, responsive, pliant, malleable, complaisant, easily handled; rare: persuasible, susceptible, susceptive, receptive, responsive;
Things a slave learns in learned this time around: 1. Don't panic 2. Vulnerability is a valuable gift, and abusing that gift will damage the ability to trust. 3. Be truly honest, not an "interpretable" honest.
Women have strengths to amaze men. They carry children, they carry hardships, they carry burdens but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous. Women wait by the phone for a "safe at home call" from a friend after a snowy drive home. Women have special qualities about them. They volunteer for good causes: (1) They are pink ladies in hospitals; (2) They bring food to shut ins; (3) They are childcare workers; (4) Some are executives; (5) Others are attorneys; (6) Others stay-at-home moms; (7) Biker babes; and (8) Your neighbors. They wear: suits, jeans, and they wear uniforms. They fight for what they believe in. They stand up for injustice. They are in the front row at PTA meetings. They vote for the person that will do the best job for family issues. They walk and talk the extra mile to get their children in the right school and for getting their family the right healthcare. They write to the editor, their congressmen and to the "powers that be" for things that make for a better life. They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution. They stick a love note in their husband's lunch box. They do without new shoes so their children can have them. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They love unconditionally. Women are honest, loyal, and forgiving. They are smart, knowing that knowledge is power. But they still know how to use their softer side to make a point. Women want to be the best for their family, their friends, and themselves. They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards. They are happy when they hear about a birth or a new marriage. Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left. A woman's touch can cure any ailment. They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart. She can make a romantic evening unforgettable. Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes. They live in homes, apartments and cabins. They drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin! Women do more than just give birth. They bring joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals. They give moral support to their family and friends. And all they want back is a hug, a smile and for you to do the same to people with whom you come in contact. Women have a lot to say and a lot to give. Pass this on to someone you respect as a woman
I am still processing these thoughts from another Dom to see if I totally agree with them. But it does provoke thought
V1. "There are only two kinds of infractions" I said. "Intentional and accidental and you are responsible for both and you will be punished or disciplined accordingly.
V2. "Punished or disciplined!" she remarked. "Is there a difference?" I said, A punishment is a penalty that is to be used as a deterrent so that a person or group does not intentionally break the rules, laws guidelines or regulations set forth by those in power. A Punishment usually has no redeeming or reformative attributes and is usually harsh and (or) corporal in nature. Anything short of that is a gesture of love that is intended to correct ones bad behavior and that is called discipline."
She said, "Can you give me an example of discipline."
So I elaborated... Discipline would refer to the removing of privileges, stern words or a tactile reminder that what you have done is inappropriate, like a spanking etc..."
V3 "And what would a punishment be?" She asked.
I only have one of those and it's the worse punishment imaginable. I replied.
"And that is?" she continued
The day I release you... I whispered
So how do you recognize the right guy? The first step is to articulate what you want and need. That list is different for everyone. But the second list is universal. And that’s a clear understanding of the qualities of a healthy relationship. As we researched our book, my co-author and I talked to hundreds of women and we’ve observed five universal signs you’re with the right guy:
1. You bring out the best in each other, not the worst. You encourage each other to grow personally, professionally and emotionally, recognizing that change is positive and healthy.
2. You trust each other and can count on one another to do the right thing. There’s no jealousy or second-guessing in the relationship.
3. You have play well together and have fun together. Playfulness adds spice, and laughter is an aphrodisiac.
4. You share common core beliefs and values. Connecting on an emotional and spiritual level can be just as powerful as a physical connection.
5. You communicate with each other out of care and concern instead of judgment and criticism. Think about it this way: What’s your tone of voice like when you’re critical and judgmental? It’s hard to have a harsh tone when you speak out of care and concern.
Do you have these qualities in your current relationship? If not, it’s time to pay attention to your gut feelings. Deep down, you know whether or not he’s right — or wrong — for you.
Keep in mind that loneliness, lust and butterflies can cloud even the smartest woman’s judgment. But a solid understanding of what a healthy relationship with Mr. Right feels like will help you clear your head so that you’ll say “so long” to Mr. Wrong — and recognize the right guy when he comes along.
The prettiest Lie is worst than the ugliest truth
Pregnant Hormonal Changes in Consensual Sadomasochistic Activity
Studies shows that cortisol levels are raised by those playing a bottom role in S & M activities. The bottom role appears to have frequently included spanking, whipping, and things likely experienced by many women in DD relationships.
"A mother's excessive Cortisol can reach the baby in the womb and raise the baby's set point for blood pressure forever. This baby, when reach adulthood, is likely to suffer from high blood pressure." and "Many mothers during pregnancy face extremely stressful circumstances. They are confronted with such unhealthy situations as the break-up of their marriage, physical or emotional abuse, . . . No wonder some will later become hyperactive, underactive, inattentive, or temperamental and exhibit poor self-control."
"Maternal stress during pregnancy is also found to cause of asymmetry in coordination of ears, fingers, feet, elbows, etc. As a result, I.Qs of such children are found to be lower. Maternal stress is also linked with imperfections in the developing nervous system which can lead to problems of perception, thinking, and memory."
Wealth without enjoyment is little consolation. Your real riches in life are riches of the heart and mind. Satisfaction comes when you appreciate what you have. While success is getting what you want, true happiness is wanting what you get. It's not how much you have, but how much you enjoy that truly matters. Riches lie within you, not in your material possessions.
You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage, and with the best that you have to give..Eleanor Roosevelt
I've learned it's better to find out who a man is than to tell him what type of man you want him to be. Be patient and see for yourself what he is made of Be honest with your assessment, that truth is your gift to yourself
Confidence and arrogance are not the same. Dominant and domineering are not the same.
In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
The most benevolent gift we can give another is to become the embodiment of truth rather than its keynote speaker
10 Good Signs!!
1. They seem to want more time with you. 2. They remember small things you share and make certain to mention them to let you know they are listening. 3. They are considerate and thoughtful to make sure you are onboard with dates and adventures. 4. They like to be close to you and somewhat affectionate (sometimes difficult for men, but when they do it, you know). 5. They are comfortable laughing around you. 6. If you are walking down the street, they want you to be near to them (not in front, back or a person away. 7. They share with you about their friends. 8. They want to know more about you and your life. 9. Although it doesn't have to be a year into the future, but they seem to want to plan something with you, days to a month or so, in advance. 10. They really want to introduce you to their friends and family.
Love the Way You Lie Lyrics
by Eminem feat Rihanna
*Chorus – Rihanna
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that’s alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear my cry
Well that’s alright because I love the way you lie
Love the way you lie
*Verse 1 – Eminem
I can’t tell you what it really is
I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now there’s a steel knife in my windpipe
I can’t breathe but I still fight all I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right it’s like I’m in flight
High off on love, drunk from my hate
It’s like I’m huffin’ paint and I love it
The more I suffer, I suffocate
Right before I’m about to drown, she resuscitates
Me, she fuckin’ hates me, and I love it, Wait!
Where you going? I’m leaving you.
No you ain’t. Come back. We’re running right back
Here we go again, it’s so insane
Cuz when it’s going good, it’s going great
I’m Superman with the wind in his back
She’s lois lane when and it’s bad, it’s awful
I feel so ashamed, I snap “Who’s that dude?”
I don’t even know his name
I laid hands on him, I never stood so low again
I guess I don’t know my own strength
*Chorus – Rihanna*
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that’s alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear my cry
Well that’s alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
*Verse 2 – Eminem
You ever love somebody so much,
you could barely breathe when you with ‘em?
You meet, and neither one of you even know it hit ‘em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling, yeah them chills used to get ‘em
Now you gettin’ fuckin’ sick of lookin’ at ‘em
You swore you’d never hit ‘em, never do nothing to hurt ‘em
Now you’re in each other’s face spewing venom in your words when you spit ‘em
You push, pull each other’s hair, scratch, claw, bit ‘em
Throw ‘em down, pin ‘em, so lost in the moments when you’re with ‘em
It’s the fate that took over, it
controls you both
So they say, you’d best to go your separate ways
Guess that they don’t know ya cuz today,
That was yesterday, yesterday is over and it’s a different day
Sound like broken records playing over
But you promised her, next time you’d show restraint
You don’t get another chance
Life is no nintendo game, but you lied again
Now you get to watch her leave out the window
Guess that’s why they call it “window pane”
*Chorus – Rihanna
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that’s alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear my cry
Well that’s alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
*Verse 3 – Eminem
Now I know we said things, did things that we didn’t mean
And we fall back into the same patterns, same team
But your temper’s just as bad as mine is
You’re the same as me
When it comes to love you’re just as blinded
Baby please come back, it wasn’t you.
Baby it was me.
Maybe our relationship isn’t as crazy as it seems
Maybe that’s what happens when a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is I love you too much, to walk away though
Come inside, pick up your bags off the sidewalk
Don’t you hear sincerity in my voice when I talk?
Told you this is my fault, look me in the eyeball
Next time I’m pissed, I’ll aim my fist at the drywall
Next time? There won’t be no next time
I apologize, even though I know it’s lies
I’m tired of the games, I just want her back. I know I’m a liar
If she ever tries to fuckin’ leave again,
Ima tie her to the bed and set this house on fire
Just gonna
*Chorus – Rihanna
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well that’s alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear my cry
Well that’s alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
Do not challenge me to a battle of wits & come to fight unarmed.
Poly phrase:
"I don't use primary/secondary terminology, since I don't see my
relationships as hierarchical." English translation: "You're a secondary."
Poly phrase:"For me sex is about energy, so breathing and heart connection are more important than ejaculation." English translation: "I'm more sophisticated than the guy over there, please sleep with me instead."
Poly phrase:
"I see polyamory as being more about relationships and intimacy, while swinging is just about sex, and sex without intimacy is just not where I'm at
right now."
English translation: "I'm more sophisticated
than the guy over there, please sleep with me instead."
Poly phrase:
"The most important thing to me is keeping agreements." English translation: "If you start seeing
someone else and I'd feel unsophisticated just saying that I'm jealous, then
I'll reinterpret one of our agreements until I'm able to say you broke
it."
Poly phrase:
"Even secondary relationships for me aren't just about sex." English translation: "Secondary relationships
for me are just about sex."
Poly phrase:
"Right now the most important things to me are building poly
family and intentional community." English translation: "I'm getting concerned
that I won't always be able to easily find new partners, plus I'm tired of
driving from place to place, and oh yeah, I'm more sophisticated than the guy
over there, so please sleep with me instead."
Poly phrase:
"In our household the most important things are open communication and
open process." English translation: "Expect to be abused
with passive-aggressive 'I' statements."
Poly phrase:
"I don't feel that we communicate on the same level, and that you aren't
supporting me emotionally." English translation: "I'm tired of you but it
would make me seem less sophisticated and hence reduce my opportunities for
further sexual relationships in this community to actually say that so bluntly,
so I'll make this about vague failings on your part instead."
Poly phrase:
"I think we should each have veto power." English translation: "I want to reserve the
right to veto each of your partners, no matter how much they respect our
existing relationships, so that you're de facto limited to monogamy while I
play the field."
Poly phrase:
"I think that we should focus on each other for a while." English translation: "I'm having more trouble
finding partners than you are, time to clip your wings!"
Poly phrase:
"I want you to always feel OK telling me what's really going on in your
life, and asking for what you need in this relationship."
English translation: "Ask for what you need,
and express hurt feelings, at your peril."
Poly phrase:
"I'm not angry at you, I'm angry at myself, for not having recognized
sooner that we weren't right for each other."
English translation: "I'm angry at you for
not making my life perfect, but rather than taking responsibility for setting
and meeting my own goals I find it more satisfying to shift the blame to you
while superficially appearing to do the opposite."
Poly phrase:
"Out of respect for our primary bond, we normally only see other people
together."
English translation: "MAYBE THIS TIME I'LL
FINALLY GET TO HAVE SEX WITH TWO WOMEN AT ONCE OMG OMG OMG THAT WOULD BE
L33T!!!!! "
Poly phrase:
"I think we need to process the end of our relationship and get
closure."
English translation: "I'd like to kick you while
you're down."
Poly phrase:
"We obviously need to work on our relationship."
English translation: "We're through. I just
want to vent a little more so that I can feel a little more self-righteous once
you know it's over too, OK?"
Poly phrase:
"The idea of line marriage has always appealed to me."
English translation: "The idea of having sex
with people younger than me has always appealed to me."
Poly phrase:
"So, which conventions do you like to attend, what kind of books do you
like to read, what are your spiritual beliefs, and what is your ideal
occupation?"
English translation: "Which science fiction
conventions do you like to attend, who is your favorite fantasy author, what
form of neo-paganism do you ascribe do, and where in the computer industry
would you like to work?"
Poly phrase:
"I'm needing to do some inner work, and instead of dating anyone would
rather just work on my relationship with myself."
English translation: "I'm tired of you, but
since I don't have anyone else lined up right now I might as well get some
mileage out of the personal growth angle."
Poly phrase:
"Well, I'm only theoretically poly, but I already have plenty of
firmly-held beliefs about how it could be done in real life!"
English translation: "Hi, I'm an idiot."
Poly phrase:
"Swinging would be way too crass for me. I'm more about relationships and
emotional intimacy."
English translation: "I've always wanted to
go to New Horizons, could someone give me a ride there and guest me in, as long
as I don't have to ask publicly?"
Poly phrase:
"All of my partners are equally important to me, and they're all
primary."
English translation: "I'd rather not
explicitly spell out what the hierarchy is, but trust me - you'll know when you
run into it."
Poly phrase:
"Our friendship is more important than anything else."
English translation: "Once you've told me
that we're done fucking, you'll never hear a word from me again."
Poly phrase:
"I'm willing to take this slow as well."
English translation: "I intend to act like a
SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guy) and put as much pressure on you to put out as
possible."
Poly phrase:
"I've had to do a lot of work on that issue myself in my other
relationships, and I'd be glad to help you with it if you want."
English translation: "I've tried blaming all
my other partners for my shit and they won't put up with it anymore."
Poly phrase:
"I really admire the way you are able to speak up for your boundaries in
your relationships."
English translation: "If I'm going to get you
to sleep with me, I'll have to be a cagey, manipulative bastard."
Poly phrase:
"My other partners and I share a lot of interests but we do a lot of
things separately, too."
English translation: "None of my current
partners will let me have anal sex with them. Will you?"
Poly phrase:
"My partners and I follow our own unique spiritual path."
English translation: "Please join our
cult."
Poly phrase:
"I've learned so much from all of my relationships."
English addendum: "...so I know not to tell you
about my OSOs/mental illness/contagious diseases until after you're emotionally
involved with me."
Poly phrase:
"I expect and give honest communication."
English translation: "I will bludgeon you
with my opinions whenever I feel like it and if you can't take it then you must
have a problem with 'honesty.'"
Poly phrase:
"I wish we could all just get along."
English translation: "Give me what I want and
no one gets hurt."
Poly phrase:
"Have you read "The Ethical Slut"?
English translation: "If you don't have sex
with me, you're a prude and aren't evolved."
Poly phrase:
"Age is just a number."
English translation: "I will not fuck women
who are my age or older."
Poly phrase:
"Do you do Tantra?"
English translation: ""If you don't have
sex with me, you're a prude and aren't evolved."
Poly phrase:
"Poly people are more evolved than mono people."
English translation: "I'm a virgin."
Poly speak:
"It's a shame you're limiting yourself and your love."
English translation: "Why won't you fuck
me?"
Poly phrase: I've
told my poly partner about you and she's very excited to meet you so
we'd like to have you over for dinner soon. Would you like to join the two of
us for that?
English translation: Due to how hot I said you
were my poly partner feels very threatened in her status as my primary,
and she is obsessively compelled to check you out in person so she can look for
some ammunition with which to veto any potential relationship you and I could
have. Would you mind bringing a body guard?
And
this slightly more pleasant alternate:
Poly phrase: I've
told my poly partner all about you and he is so excited to meet you
that we are both hoping you'll have dinner with us soon.
English translation: I've told my poly
partner how attractive you are and we both hope to eat you for dinner soon.
Poly phrase: Being
poly
has made our sex lives even more WONDERFUL because while my primary partner and
I REALLY love playing with each other, we also WELCOME the opportunity to meet
interesting new people, and open to the presence of other special lovers in our
lives!
English translation: Being poly has given
my partner and I a very WELCOME excuse to have sex with new people which is
WONDERFUL because we're REALLY sick of each other!
Poly phrase: Our
relationship could be characterized as a primary polyamorous connection which
will organically evolve over time. Both of us are too sophisticated, open,
level-headed, and rational to tolerate putting any limits on other people or
ourselves
English translation: We're each other's booby
prize. Both of us are too selfish, poorly groomed, dysfunctional and crazy to
find any other people to tolerate us.
Poly phrase: I
don't know if our connection has each and every quality necessary for a
successful primary relationship, however I would like to explore this further
because I do care about you very much and really cherish our friendship.
English translation: I know I'd love to have sex
and explore how orally talented you are right now because I'm very horny,
however I don't like you enough to really spend much time with you.
Poly phrase: I am
seriously interested in working out our secondary relationship in such a way
that would make both of us happy. I'm wondering if we could both try to create
more room in our lives for each other? I'm hoping you're thinking something
similar.
English translation: It was fun being fuck
buddies. Maybe we'll do it again in a few months? Or not.
Poly phrase: My
primary partner and I have totally worked out our jealousy issues regarding the
play parties we attend. I get thoroughly wet when I watch him share pleasure
with other people! Loving communication and listening are our life's
priorities.
English translation: My partner makes me feel
totally psycho at every play party. I thoroughly punish him with my sublimated
rage later when we're at home! Passive-aggressive behaviors and messages are
our favorite
Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies - - Aristotle
D I F F E R E N C E S
B E T W E E N
L O V E A N D L I K E
In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster
But in front of the person you like , you get happy.
In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring
But in front of the person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter.
If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.
In front of the person you love, you can' t say everything on your mind
But in front of the person you like, you can.
In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy
But in front of the person you like, you can show your ownself.
The person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes. You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.
When the one you love is crying, you cry with them
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.
Author unknown.
According to the above...it is both.
A wise man once said:
"Life is all about timing... the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable becomes available, the unattainable... attainable. Have the patience, wait it out It's all about timing."
Some cogent advice from kimmylane,
a Female Submissive, in a successful 4 year RT 24/7 LTR
In life there are always lessons. One lesson that I have learnt is that a lot of people want what we have, what they see in us. I do wish all, that they find a relationship like ours. Be patient and
think positive, it may be out there. A key point to remember is, be who
you are, do not try and be something that someone wants you to be. You
and your partner will inspire each other, the bond will be formed. Simply put, learn who and what you are first and foremost. Then, and only
then, will you be able to move forward and find a a real life
relationship as it was meant to be.
Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being.
- Goethe
"Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it." - Soren Kierkegaard
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn Well that's all right because I like the way it hurts Just gonna stand there and hear me cry Well that's all right because I love the way you lie I love the way you lie Eminem
This happens when they have wormed their way into your soul
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” ~Dalai Lama
profile of a Dom I am very aggressive. (Demanding and controlling) yet very patient, gentle and caring my instinct is to nurture, protect and teach. Willing to protect what belongs to him, one who will hold a hand and lead the way in light and dark. Guide and teach you so the both of us can be proud of our work. I am extremely open-minded and nothing shocks me or offends me. I am drawn toward someone that is intense beyond the imaginable. One who savors bringing joy to the one she serves, and desires more out of life than existence? Someone strong, obedient, and discipline one who has the ambition to be collared; one who craves the power of a strong man who is very strict but yet gentle and compassionate. I try to keep a good balance between body, mind and soul. I know no one is perfect, everybody has his or her own strengths and weaknesses. I do believe this is the key to any relationship.
Submission is not about being used; submission is about being of use. Submission is not about what is done to you, submission is about what you do for others " "Strong men simply need women. This will never be understood by weak men. A strong man needs a woman at his feet, who is truly his. Anything else is less than his fulfillment.
Some people enter our lives and leave almost instantly. Others stay, can forge such an impression on our heart and soul, we are changed forever.
Author Unknown
A woman is a amplified responder, she receives everything deeply into herself and she responds, multiplying the good or bad. What ever you give her she will multiply. If you give her sperm she will give you a baby If you give her a house she will give you a home If you give her groceries she will give you a meal. If you give her a tender love she will give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges whatever is put in her. So if you give her anger and abuse..you get..... yeah..give her crap and get a ton of sh..
"Don't just Leave a Mark on her skin ... Leave a Lasting Impression on her heart.... as you won't get a second chance to make a first impression"
I would rather you hurt me with the truth, than hurt me with a lie.....
"I'm not everybody, but I am somebody; I can't do everything, but I can
do something; That that I can do, I ought to do it; And by the help of
God, I WILL DO IT!"
When you do random acts of kindness..:).... "Keep
smiling, it makes people wonder what you're up to"
“Be who you are, say what you feel, because those that mind don’t
matter and those that matter don’t mind.” Being honest with others, as risky at it can be at times, helps strengthen my ties to ...................“those that matter,” Dr Suess
Ms relationships burn so passionately hot, that they often burn themselves out. care MUST be taken in the initial stages of relationship, to slow things down allowing foundations to develop
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't
feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We
were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not
just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're
liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates
others."
What am I supposed to do when the best
part of me was always you.
I'm falling to pieces
They say
bad things happen for a reason, but those wise words won't stop this
bleeding
Cause you've moved on while Im still grieving
Now
I'm try'na make sense of what little remains
Cause you left me
with no love and no love to my name
I'm still alive but I'm
barely breathing
Cause when a heart breaks, it don't break even,
and Im falling to peices.
Don't Yuck up , someone else's Yum !
If a man doesn't introduce you to his friends, he's probably hiding a relationship.
"a girl who does what she is told is valuable a girl who does not have to be told is priceless"
Some history...what I am like.... Then a few months ago, I was approached on Collarme by a man that stated He was interested in owning me. We talked and the more we talked and the more he found out about my past horrors, he told me that he had prayed hard about it. Yes, He is a man of God. And that scared me half to death. I had been through that and was cautious. He told me one night that God had shown Him that I needed a teacher and a guide. That drew me very close to Him, because He wasn't concerned with having sex with me. He wasn't concerned anymore with owning me. He was concerned about healing me and showing me that things that happened in the past were not my fault. He showed me scripture that backed up what He told me. He will probably never know what a difference He has made in my life. I feel He gave me back the parts of me that I thought would be broken forever. I'm not broken anymore. I'm healed. I know without the slightest thought that I AM a true natural slave with a slave mentality. Any woman is not truly an altogether slave until she is owned by a Master that she trusts without the slightest doubt. I trust this man with my life. I know that he is concerned about me as a slave. As a woman. As a child of God. So, to all the men out there who want to be "dom" or "master".. please learn what it means before you screw up another woman who would have otherwise been an excellent sub or slave.
My Quiet Spirit
Listening
only to Your hypnotic seductive words.. It was easy to become lost
in Your control. But Your actions betrayed Your words.. Did You
really seek to own me heart and soul? You had the true total slave
for the taking.. My willing submission was Yours to hold. My
silent tears of Your rejection You did not see.. Your desire for more
to control had turned You cold. You will awake one day alone and
empty. You'll wonder about the true one who knelt at Your feet. You
will despise Yourself for being blinded.. By the lust for many whose
fire held no heat. You chose to follow the phantoms of what might
be.. But never was, never will be. You pushed away the Quiet
Spirit of the one who is.. and always will be.. there for Your
eyes to see. ....slave2degree
If you search for tenderness it isn't hard to find. You can have the love you need to live. But if you look for truthfulness You might just as well be blind. It always seems to be so hard to give.
Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you.
I can always find someone to say they sympathize. If I wear my heart out on my sleeve. But I don't want some pretty face to tell me pretty lies. All I want is someone to believe.
Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you.
I can find a lover. I can find a friend. I can have security until the bitter end. Anyone can comfort me with promises again. I know, I know.
When I'm deep inside of me don't be too concerned. I won't as for nothin' while I'm gone. But when I want sincerity tell me where else can I turn. Because you're the one I depend upon.
Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you.
"You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel, and don't find love, let love find you, that's why it's called falling in love, because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall.
We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.....
Tales of a Hoodrat!
She said that she was molested when she was 4!
She watched men pound her to the floor and the cops knocking down the door!
You see her pimp in a Caddy!
It’s her uncle, her brothers Daddy!
A pencil is used for Education but her Uncle said used it for Penetration!
She will use you and abuse you!
And try to confuse you!
She is a trick to every man dick!
Believe me this bitch is sick!
You see a Cowboy shoot his rifle!
But I tell you she is Trifle!
She said give me $200 to bury my babies Daddy!
And don’t worry about my Uncle in that Caddy!
She’s a slut in a hut she wants you to bust a nut!
So watch out that you don’t get cut!
You keep messing with these Bitches you are going to keep getting stitches!
Oh bring me a tissue this girl got issues!
I asked her about the toys in her play den!
She said it is because she don’t trust men!
It is all across the nation but with her she is high into Masturbation!
Dial 1 (800) Booty Call Camp!
This Hoe is a Tramp!
You heard of a Gangster but this one here is a Skankster!
Hood Rats have a story to tell!
They don’t know whether they are going to Heaven or Hell!
This is “The Tales of a Hood Rat” and that’s, that!
Written by Caleb
"Shush girl
Shut your lips
Do the Helen Keller and talk with your hips"
Not to know is bad. Not to want to know is worse. Not to hope is unthinkable. Not to care is unforgivable.' [Nigerian saying]
"A tyrant must put on the appearance of uncommon devotion to religion. Subjects are less apprehensive of illegal treatment from a ruler whom they consider god-fearing and pious... they do less easily move against him, believing that he has the gods on his side." -- Aristotle
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind. -- William James
Faith over Fear.... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley,
"I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not."- Kurt Cobain
“Nothing in the world can take the place of
Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful
men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan ‘Press
On,’ has solved and will always solve the problems of the human race.” -
Calvin Coolidge
A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided. Tony Robbins
If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.
In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently. Tony Robbins
some call it training..
from a friend's profile
"CRITICISM" "When someone belittles you, he is only trying to cut you down to his size."
"BLAME" A man can fail many times but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody."
"Superior people talk about ideas; average people talk about things; little people talk about other people"
" PREJUDICE" "No man can hold another man in the gutter without remaining there himself." -Booker T.Washington
"Some idiots think they are thinking when in reality the are merely rrarranging their prejudices."
Watching you walk out of my life hasnt made me bitter or cynical about love, but rather it has shown me that IF i wanted so badly to be with the wrong person, IMAGINE what it will be like when the right one comes along....
Hard work will outperform talent When talent does not work hard
To be completely woman you need a master, and in him a
compass for your life. You need a man you can look up to and respect.
If you dethrone him it's no wonder that you are discontented, and
discontented women are not loved for long. Marlene Dietrich
"For what purpose is there in life that a man has lived
even one day as to not have touched meaningfully and constructively loving everyone he interacts with? To have shared each interaction with true
character, honesty, kindness and softspoken strength."
Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are! copied from kimberly
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
-Lao Tzu
"If we don't take chances, we'll always wonder what could have been. If you want something, you have to go for it."
“I am a success today because I had a friend who believed in me and I didn't have the heart to let him down...” -Abraham Lincoln
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”
-Dr. Seuss
We'll be friends until we are old and senile... Then we will be new friends all over again!!!
Live for the moments you cannot put into words!!!
Got faith...then hold on
I see you are playing STUPID again... and hey it looks like you're winning too.
A pseudo Haiku for a friend
The gift entire, herself..... her last gift, she...obeyed "take only what you can carry"
INSTALLING
A HUSBAND
Dear Tech Support,
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0to Husband 1.0and noticed a distinct slow down in
overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewelry
applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.
In addition, Husband 1.0uninstalled many other valuable programs,
such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs
such as
NBA 5.0, NFL 3.0 and Golf Clubs 4.1. Conversation 8.0no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.
Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.
What can I do?
Signed,
Desperate.
DEAR DESPERATE,
First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.
Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.htmland try to download Tears 6.2and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0update. If that
application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the
applications Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.
However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6. 1 is a very bad program that will download
the Farting and Snoring Loudly Beta.
Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that
will eventually seize control of all your system
resources.)
In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall
the Boyfriend
5.0-program .These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.
In summary,Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does
have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might
consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We
recommend Cooking 3.0 and Hot Lingerie 7.7.
Tech Support DEAR DESPERATE,
First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.
Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.htmland try to download Tears 6.2and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0update. If that
application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the
applications Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.
However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6. 1 is a very bad program that will download
the Farting and Snoring Loudly Beta.
Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that
will eventually seize control of all your system
resources.)
In addition, please do not attempt to
reinstall the Boyfriend
5.0-program .These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.
In summary,Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does
have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might
consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We
recommend Cooking 3.0 and Hot Lingerie 7.7.
Tech Support
Now smile you are only desperate wife, you could be a slave.
Love is Hard won and Oh so easily lost......
When you write your own praise Lie about the money you raise Brag about the good you do Knowing you are out for no one but you Pushing schemes Falsifying dreams Pretty words Meanings in the absurd The voice of many but not truly speaking for any
the worst thing he can do is
make me fall for him with no intention of catching me !!!
McQuillan walked into a bar and ordered martini after
martini, each time removing the olives and placing them in a jar.
When the jar was filled with olives and all the drinks
consumed, the Irishman started to leave.
"S'cuse me", said a customer, who was puzzled over what McQuillan had
done,
"what was that all about?"
"Nothin', said the Irishman, "me wife just sent me out for a jar of
olives!"
***********************************************
An Irishman arrived at J.F.K. Airport and wandered
around the terminal with tears streaming down his cheeks.
An airline employee asked him if he was already homesick.
"No," replied the Irishman. "I've lost all me luggage!"
"How'd that happen?"
"The cork fell out!" said the Irishman.
***********************************************
An Irish priest is driving down to New York and gets stopped for
speeding.
The state trooper smells alcohol on the priest's breath
and then sees an empty wine bottle on the floor of the car.
He says, "Sir, have you been drinking?"
"Just water," says the priest.
The trooper says, "Then why do I smell wine?"
The priest looks at the bottle and says,
"Good Lord! He's done it again!"
***********************************************
Two Irishmen were sitting in a pub having beer and watching the brothel
across the street.
They saw a Baptist minister walk into the brothel, and one of them said,
"Aye, 'tis a shame to see a man of the cloth goin' bad."
Then they saw a Rabbi enter the brothel, and the other Irishman said,
"Aye, 'tis a shame to see that the Jews are falling' victim to
temptation."
Then they saw a Catholic priest enter the brothel, and one of the
Irishmen said,
"What a terrible pity... one of the girls must be quite ill."
***********************************************
Two Irishmen, Patrick & Michael, were adrift in a lifeboat following
a dramatic
escape from a burning freighter. While rummaging through the boat's
provisions,
Patrick stumbled across an old lamp. Secretly hoping that a genie would
appear,
he rubbed the lamp vigorously. To the amazement of Patrick, a genie
came forth.
This particular genie, however, stated that he could only deliver one
wish, not
the standard three. Without giving much thought to the matter, Patrick
blurted
out, "Make the entire ocean into Guinness Beer!"
The genie clapped his hands with a deafening crash, and immediately the
entire
sea turned into the finest brew ever sampled by mortals.
Simultaneously, the
genie vanished. Only the gentle lapping of Guinness on the hull broke
the stillness
as the two men considered their circumstances. Finally, Michael looked
disgustedly
at Patrick whose wish had been granted. After a long, tension-filled
moment, he
spoke: "Nice going Patrick! Now we're going to have to pee in the
boat!
***********************************************
Murphy was staggering home with a pint of booze in his back pocket
when he slipped and fell heavily. Struggling to his feet, he felt
something
wet running down his leg.
"Please Lord," he implored, "let it be blood!!"
An Irishman had been drinking at a pub all night.
The bartender finally said that the bar was closing.
So, the Irishman stood up to leave and fell flat on his face.
He tried to stand one more time; same result.
He figured he'll crawl outside and get some fresh air
and maybe that will sober him up.
Once outside, he stood up and fell on his face again.
So he decided to crawl the four blocks home. Arriving
about an hour later, he stood to open the front door.
Again, he fell flat on his face. He crawled through the
door and into his bedroom. When he reached his bed
he tried one more time to stand up.
This time he managed to pull himself upright, but he
quickly fell right into the bed and was sound asleep as
soon as his head hit the pillow.
He was awakened the next morning to his wife standing
over him, shouting,
"SO YOU'VE BEEN DRINKING AGAIN!"
Putting on an innocent look, and intent on bluffing it out
he said, "What makes you say that?"
"The pub just called; you left your wheelchair there again."
An Irishman moves into a tiny hamlet in County Kerry, walks into the pub
and promptly orders three beers. The bartender raises his eyebrows, but
serves the man three beers, which he drinks quietly at a table, alone.
An hour later, the man has finished the three beers and orders three
more.
This happens yet again. The next evening the man again orders and drinks
three beers at a time, several times. Soon the entire town is whispering
about the Man Who Orders Three Beers.
Finally, a week later, the bartender broaches the subject on behalf of
the
town. "I don't mean to pry, but folks around here are wondering why you
always order three beers?"
"Tis odd, isn't it?" the man replies. "You see, I have two brothers, and
one
went to America , and the other to Australia . We promised each other
that
we would always order an extra two beers whenever we drank as a way of
keeping up the family bond."
The bartender and the whole town were pleased with this answer, and soon
the Man Who Orders Three Beers became a local celebrity and source of
pride to the hamlet, even to the extent that out-of-towners would come
to
watch him drink.
Then, one day, the man comes in and orders only two beers. The bartender
pours them with a heavy heart. This continues for the rest of the
evening.
He orders only two beers. The word flies around town. Prayers are
offered
for the soul of one of the brothers.
The next day, the bartender says to the man, "Folks around here, me
first of
all, want to offer condolences to you for the death of your brother. You
know-
the two beers and all."
The man ponders this for a moment, then replies, "You'll be happy to
hear
that my two brothers are alive and well. It's just that I, meself, have
decided to give up drinking for Lent."
*************************************************
The French President is sitting in his office
when his telephone rings.
'Hallo, Mr. Sarkozy!' a heavily accented voice
said. 'Tis Paddy down at the Harp Pub in County
Clare, Ireland. I am ringing to inform you that
we are officially declaring war on you! We voted
to reject the Lisbon treaty!' 'Well, Paddy,' Sarkozy
replied, This is indeed important news! How big is
your army?'
'Right now,' says Paddy, after a moment's calculation,
'there is myself, me Cousin Sean, me next door neighbor
Seamus, and the entire darts team from the pub. That
makes eleven!'
Sarkozy paused. 'I must tell you, Paddy, that I have
100,000 men in my army waiting to move on my
command.'
'Begoora!' says Paddy. 'I'll have to ring you back.'
Sure enough, the next day, Paddy calls again. 'Mr.
Sarkozy, the war is still on. We have managed to get
us some infantry equipment!'
'And what equipment would that be Paddy?' Sarkozy
asks.
'Well, we have two combines, a bulldozer, and Murphy's
farm tractor.'
Sarkozy sighs amused. 'I must tell you, Paddy, that I
have 6,000 tanks and 5,000 armored personnel carriers.
Also, I have increased my army to 150,000 since we last
spoke.'
'Saints preserve us!' says Paddy. 'I'll have to get back
to you.'
Sure enough, Paddy rings again the next day. 'Mr.
Sarkozy, the war is still on! We have managed to get
ourselves airborne! We have modified Jackie McLaughlin's
ultra-light with a couple of shotguns in the cockpit, and
four boys from the Shamrock Bar have joined us as well!'
Sarkozy was silent for a minute and then cleared
his throat. 'I must tell you, Paddy, that I have 100
bombers and 200 fighter planes. Laser-guided,
surface-to-air missile sites surround my military
bases. And since we last spoke, I have increased my
army to 200,000!'
'Jesus, Mary, and Joseph!' says Paddy, 'I will have to
ring you back.'
Sure enough, Paddy calls again the next day. 'Top o'
the mornin', Mr. Sarkozy! I am sorry to inform you that
we have had to call off the war.'
'Really? I am sorry to hear that,' says Sarkozy. 'Why the
sudden change of heart?'
'Well,' says Paddy, 'we had a long chat over a few pints
of Guinness and packets of crisps, and we decided there
is no way we can feed 200,000 prisoners!
A man stumbles up to the only other patron in a bar and asks if he
could buy him a drink.
"Why of course," comes the reply.
The first man then asks: "Where are you from?"
"I'm from Ireland," replies the second man.
The first man responds: "You don't say, I'm from Ireland too! Let's have
another round to Ireland."
"Of Course," replies the second man.
Curious, the first man then asks: "Where in Ireland are you from?"
"Dublin," comes the reply.
"I can't believe it," says the first man.
"I'm from Dublin too! Let's have another drink to Dublin."
"Of course," replies the second man.
Curiosity again strikes and the first man asks:
"What school did you go to?"
"Saint Mary's," replies the second man.
"I graduated in '62."
"This is unbelievable!" the first man says.
"I went to Saint Mary's and I graduated in '62, too!"
About that time in comes one of the regulars and sits down at the bar.
"What's been going on?" he asks the bartender.
"Nothing much," replies the bartender. "The O'Malley twins are drunk
again."
Murphy and O'Brien, regimental engineers, go out into the woods,
they come across a clearing and see an abandoned well.
Murphy said 'I wonder how deep that well is?'
O'Brien said, 'There's one way we could figure it out'.
Murphy says, 'What's that?'
O'Brien says, 'We drop something down it, we time how long it takes
to hit the bottom, you multiply that times 32 feet per second squared,
the rate at which objects fall in a vacuum, subtract a little for wind
resistance and we've got the depth of the well'.
Murphy says, ' What are you going to drop down it?' Then O'Brien
looked all around and he saw this big heavy log lying on the ground.
Next he squats down by the log and, using his legs correctly, he gets
it up onto his shoulders and staggers over to the edge of the well,
tips it up, drops it into the well and they start to count, 'One
hippopotamus, two hippopotamus, three .................... '
SPLASH!!!!
Murphy said, 'Three seconds!'
O'Brien said, 'Quick, multiply that times 32 feet per second squared!'
'288 feet!', Murphy said. 'Subtract a little for wind resistance, let's
say
18 feet. The depth of that well is 270 feet deep'.
As he finished the calculation Murphy shouts, 'LOOK OUT!!' and he
pushed O'Brien backwards as a speeding goat ran between them and
jumped head first down the well.
Murphy said, 'Begorra, I've never seen anything like that'.
Just then a farmer walks into the clearing and said, 'What's going on
here lads?' O'Brien says, 'We just figured out the depth of this well to
be
about 270 feet deep and then the strangest thing happened. A goat ran
between the two of us and jumped head first down into the well.'
The farmer says, 'Thank heaven it wasn't one of my goats.'
Murphy says, 'How do you know it wasn't?'
And the farmer says, 'Because all of my goats are tethered to big heavy
logs.'
Slaney phoned the maternity ward at the hospital. "Quick!" He said.
"Send an ambulance, my wife is goin' to have a baby!" "Tell me, is this
her first baby?" the intern asked. "No, this is her husband, Kevin,
speakin'."
A Kerryman went to London and found himself in the Underground
late one night. Seeing a notice "DOGS MUST BE CARRIED ON THE
ESCALATOR", he moaned to himself, "And where am I going to find
a dog at this hour of the night?"
“Live the life 'U love, love the life 'U live.
Remember, there's only one life to live.”
Maybe. . we were supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting
the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we
will know how to be grateful for that gift.
Maybe . . when
the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we
look so long at the closed door
that we don't even see the new one which has been opened for us.
Maybe ..
. . it is true that we don't know what we have until we lose it, but
it is also true that we don't know what we have
been missing until it arrives.
Maybe . . . the happiest of
people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just
make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Maybe .
. the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after
all, you can't go on successfully in life until you let go of
your past mistakes, failures and heartaches.
Maybe . . . you
should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go, be
what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to
do all the things you dream of, and want to do.
Maybe . .
.. there are moments in life when you miss someone -- a parent, a spouse,
a friend, a child -- so much that you just want to pick them from your
dreams and hug them for real, so that once they are around you appreciate
them
more.
Maybe . . . the best kind of friend is the kind you
can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk
away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
Maybe .
. you should always try to put yourself in others' shoes. If you
feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the
other person, too.
Maybe . . you should do something nice for
someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone.
Maybe .
giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love
you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their
heart; but, if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.
Maybe .
. . happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those
who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they
can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched
their lives.
Maybe . . you shouldn't go for looks; they can
deceive; don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone
who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Maybe .
. you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials
to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope
to make you happy
Maybe . . . you should try to live your
life to the fullest because when you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling but when you die, you can be the one who is
smiling and everyone around you crying.
We'll be friends until we are old and senile... Then we will be new friends all over again!!!
Live for the moments you cannot put into words!!!
Got faith...then hold on
I see you are playing STUPID again... and hey it looks like you're winning too.
This comes from 2 math teachers with a combined total of 70 yrs. experience
Here is a little something someone sent me that is indisputable mathematical logic. It also made me Laugh Out Loud. This is a strictly mathematical viewpoint.....it goes like this:
What Makes 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%? Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give over 100%. How about achieving 103%? What makes up 100% in life?
Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:
If: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
and K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
But, A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
And, B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T 2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%
AND, look how far ass kissing will take you. A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G 1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%
So, one can conclude with mathematical certainty, that While Hard work and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, it's the Bullshit and Ass Kissing that will put you over the top.
’REMEMBER SOME PEOPLE ARE ALIVE SIMPLY BECAUSE IT IS ILLEGAL TO SHOOT THEM'
Slave and sub missives stay away from the soap bubbles. You know, the ones that are rich with the big jobs, take pictures from their mansion, and promise the world, all shiny and nice looking until you try to meet or take it to the next level. "soap bubble" =>someone shiny for a minute who disappears when you reach out to touch…:)
Sooner or later you do what you are. You're born with a gift to fulfill your purpose. You can get good at something along the way. Because you practices at it so long, it’s habitual skill. But that’s just what you're good at, Your gift, is what you do resoundingly well effortlessly. don't take this ability or excellence in your gift granted. Do not betray it, do not let anyone entice you to corrupt your gift. For to betray your gift is to live life without purpose. For to betray your gift is to have success without fulfillment. For to betray your gift is to betray yourself. That in the universe is a sad, sad thing
Instant Relationship, can instantly be broken TAKE THE TIME!!! The heart that loves will stand the test of time It has the strength to wait, for true love because it has no fear of time. The heart knows only that when it finds rue love, it will love and will do so for ever. With true love you can pack a lifetime of loving in months rather than years,. Without love you can spend a lifetime trying going from one misery, pain filled day to another
Love and affection is a NEED we all seek to fulfill. Some will pay any price to secure it. You can find it in a Ms or Ds relationship But higher intense all consuming love comes with the higher risk of hurt and abuse Choose prayerfully carefully!!!
Delay is a deadly form of denial delay in facing the truth delay in communicating about issues delay in leaving after you realize you should
When someone hurts you, truly hurts you they've shown the power they have over your life.
Forgive them, really and truly forgive them For if you do not forgive them... they will continue to wield that power over you.
"In every marriage more than a
week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is
to find and continue to find grounds for marriage." Robert Anderson from his
play Solitaire/Double Solitaire "The
greatest conflicts are not between two people but
between one person and himself." Garth Brooks in
Country Music WHAT'S A MARRIAGE BUT A RELATIONSHIP, TWO PEOPLE ENTER INTO INTENDING IT TO LAST FOREVER.
"He that refuseth to be refourmed, dispiseth his owne soule: but he
that submitteth him selfe to correction, is wyse." ~ Proverbs 15:32
Some say love it is a river That drowns the tender reed Some say love it is a razor That leaves your soul to bleed Some say love it is a hunger An endless aching need I say love is a flower And you its only seed
It’s the heart afraid of breaking That never leans to dance It’s the dream afraid of waking That never takes the chance It’s the one who won’t be taken Who cannot seem to give And the soul afraid of dying That never leans to live
When the night has been too lonely And the road has been too long And you think that love is only For the lucky and the strong Just remember in the Winter Far beneath the bitter snow Lies the seed that with the sun’s love In the Spring becomes the rose
be very clear on what your needs are. and communicate that early in the start of a relationship. Do not waste time, being unequally yoked by someone not having the same life vision, life goals, that you do. What you have to give, he must want to receive.
The Invitation
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dream for the adventure of being alive. It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon... I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
----Oriah Mountain Dreamer
always remember, you choose.... you choose what life experiences will mean to you you choose whom will be significant in your life You choose whom you will give yourself to totally you always choose.....until you surrender
"The more we take, the less we become" From a sarah mclachlan song
A sword is only as powerful as it's master A slave's surrender is as complete as her Master's dominance.
translation It's not the slave's fault if you cannot Dominate her.
Your life is about change, growth, discovery, movement, transformation; continuously expanding your vision of what is possible, stretching your soul, learning to see clearly and deeply, listening to your intuition, taking courageous risks, embracing challenges at every step along the way. You are on the path exactly where you are meant to be right now… So embrace the journey, welcome your destiny.
And from here, you can only go forward, shaping your life story into a magnificent tale of triumph, of healing, of courage, beauty, wisdom, power, dignity, and love.
Do not be in any kind of relationship where the ethos isn't reciprocal, ergo, you should make yourself available to be simply "harvested" or "cannibalised" in any kind of destructive, exploitative or abusive relationship.
"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that
what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for"
-Epicurus-
No one can imagine what damage was caused by the betrayal of your trust, and the breaking of you spirit
if you turn bitter, you let the evil ones win. your Victory is to recover yourself and live. Live to become sub/slave your heart desire You win by not giving up, not be defeated
you can't change what was done to you you can change what you do about it and what you make it mean in your life So do not allow bitterness and unforgiveness to cloud your natural warmth and generosity of spirit. Let yourself be part of creating love and beauty in the world. Master C.
For Now For now be my friend,
Accept me as the person I am.
Don`t Force me to shut you out...
For now try to understand,
Don`t tell me lies that will confuse
Me further......
For now be patient,
Inside me is a beautiful person,
Just give me time......
For now let me know you care,
Meet me half way and I`ll walk
with you from there.....
You can never know too much In Knowledge/Wisdom is...........safety In Knowledge/Wisdom is...........understanding In Knowledge/Wisdom is...........clarity In Knowledge/Wisdom is...........wealth In Knowledge/Wisdom is...........power
"It takes a
minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and a lifetime to forget them." ~Author Unknown~
You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose..." "I am responsible for my rose," the little prince repeated, so that he would be sure to remember. From The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
"people too weak to follow their own dreams, will always find a way to discourage yours"
Please do not whitewash your inherent faults with your acquired virtues. I would have the faults; they are like mine own.
Sand and Foam, Kahlil Gibran; 1926
Went to the season Opening of the Opera saw "Cosi Fan Tutte" It was beautifully sung, the sopranos were in full voice and great stage presence, the base, baritone and tenor could have projected more". But I am venting because they have gone the way of the MET with these minimalist sets, a couple of chairs and a bed for "Cosi Fan Tutte". I hope the trend changes, it is after all the Grand Opera
“You are what I never knew I always wanted.”
A true
friend gives freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeable.
wm.penn
Always remember that beauty and class can exist with passion.
Being your slave, what should I do but tend Upon the hours and times of your desire? I have no precious time at all to spend, Nor services to do, till you require Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you. Nor think the bitterness of absence sour When you have bid your servant once adieu. Nor dare I question with my jealous thought Where you may be, or your affairs suppose, But, like a sad slave, stay and think of naught Save where you are how happy you make those So true a fool is love that in your will, Though you do anything. he thinks no ill.
William Shakespeare Sonnet 57
That god forbid that made me first your slave I should in thought control your times of pleasure, Or at your hand th'account of hours to crave, Being your vassal bound to stay your leisure. O, let me suffer, being at your beck, Th'imprisoned absence of your liberty; And patience, tame to sufferance, bide each check Without accusing you of injury. Be where you list; your charter is so strong That you yourself may priviledge your time To what you will; to you it doth belong Yourself to pardon of self-doing crime. I am to wait, though waiting so be hell, Not blame your pleasure, be it ill or well.
William Shakespeare Sonnet 58
"Everything we do
individually to become more coherent and compassionate will reverberate
in the field like ripples on a pond. Like begets like. As you sow, so
shall you reap"
-Bruce H. Lipton, PH.D.
“Two things are wanted by a true man, danger and play. Therefore, he
seeks a woman, as the most dangerous toy.” Friedrich Nietzsche
"The eye of the master will do more work than both his hands." - Benjamin Franklin
As long he is healthy and HWP It's not as important how he looks as compared to How he LOOKS AT you.
Here is input from traceoflace that had revaluating... Different styles of Domination, by traceoflace.
One of the greatest things about websites such as collarme is the ability to be friend others and learn about how different Doms tick. How they view submission and how they coax/demand submission.
I have two Doms friends who are an absolute joy as friends and as mentors. One has a more subtle style. He earns a women submission through her love and devotion. No real rules are given because he knows if she cares about him, she will take care of his needs. He has almost a horse whisperer type quality to him... slowly earning and coaxing a submissive into surrender.
The other is more the lion tamer. He has a strong drill sergeant, no nonsense approach, that makes me mind my every P and Q. While my stubborn will tends to butt heads with him, he always wins, and that tends to solidify his position as Alpha to me.
Its always fascinating how different personalities can evoke different levels of submission in different areas of a subs life? Naturally finding a personality that fits you is much harder. The more fragile sub would easily be broken under a harsher Dom, while the more free sprited sub, would likely never settle down long enough to appreciate the quiet magnifigance of a gentleman Dom.
That does not make anyone more "REAL" or "FAKE" simply different needs, different type of training that meshed with the right personality can make or break a relationship. by traceoflace
M/s is supposed to be an intensive dance of power and emotional exchange that meets the needs of BOTH Master and slave, creating something intensely beautiful. If a Master has to crush his slave to feel he is in control of her, then he is not really in control, he is only subjugating her. Power is when the cage door is open and the bird/slave does not flee, but is bound to him by her NEED for him, her need for his strength, covering, protection, and the fullfillment that he gives her. My slave she has to come to terms with this. Strong but gentle, Caring without being needy. Peace
"Never Give up on someone that you can't go a day without thinking about"
A quote that embodies moi'
"We will either find a way, or make one." Hannibal
Things To Always Remember & One Thing To Never Forget
your presence is a present to the world from the divine; you are Unique creation, one of a kind, there is noone like you. No one cn REPLACE you your life can be what you want it to be, take the day's one at a time, each day brings its own challenges. Count your blessings not your troubles; you will make it through what ever comes along, never give up, always get back up, always recover your ability to trust. Within you are so many answers, understand yourself, have courage and accept life, be strong. Realize that it is never too late to achieve a dream. Do ordinary things, in extra ordinary ways. Do random acts of love and kindness. Have happiness, hope and health; take the time to wish and dream and hope. And do not ever, ever forget, for even a moment how very special you are....a valuable unique human being
Truly, What would you attempt to do If you knew you could not fail.
The willow knows what the storm does not: That the power to endure harm outlives the power to inflict it. - Anonymous
As I look on the many successful relationships on CM, profiles that have had the same masters and slaves for years, my faith in the lifestyle is renewed and I remember the saying....
The difference between truth and fiction is that FICTION has to make sense.
Some of the relationships would be unbelievable but I have seen some of them discovered and developed. Peace to all.
Hating me does not make you right Hating me does not make you strong Hating me does not make you smart Hating me does not make you beautiful So stop Hating me do work on yourself
A sub that made me laugh.....lol Look, if you want to torture me, spank me, lick me, do it. But if this poetry shit continues just shoot me now please. ~ Lori Petty in Tank Girl
Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others. - 15th century Aztec
"I want to strip you naked and see your inner self, the one you keep hidden because you think it’s not beautiful. I want to show you secret parts of myself. And I will transgress the rules to have you, because my desire is too strong to permit anything else." --Filthy Gorgeous Things
Familiarity, the first myth of reality: What you know the best, you observe the least.
Devotion, the second myth of reality: The faithful are most hurt by the objects of their faith.
Conviction, the third myth of reality: Only those who seek the truth can be deceived.
Fellowship, the fourth myth of reality: As the tides of war shift, so do loyalties.
Trust, the fifth myth of reality: Every truth holds the seed of betrayal.
Magic, The Gathering
JUST BE...
Thoughts of a slave in a very long term relationship Suffice to say, my perception on the shortness of bdsm relationships is predicated on the problems associated with people artificially attempting to hurry the process of getting to know each other up to the point that they, in essence, helped their relationships burn out much faster than they might have otherwise done. It also was about the idea that as we did that, we gave each other no time to internalize and develop an appreciation for the people we were meeting and so... at the first crisis, there was no well of intimacies and years-built reliances to pull from and poof... there went the relationships.
We in essence, were burning out our relationships by demanding so much from them that they could not measure up or keep up.
Add that to the whole infatuation addictions so many of us have (where we just love the newness of relationships but have no respect for or patience for or appreciation of the commonalities and calmness of long term relationships that we keep on running from one person to another to pursue and feed our infatuation addictions. And I said I wanted no part of that. New relationships can be heady experiences but nothing beats the feelings of knowing someone and loving them and serving them for years. Sure there are up and down times... but the up times are celebrations and the down times are opportunities to dig deep and be reminded of just how fortunate we are.
julie
Poem on Self Love
One day, I loved myself. I don't know where the love came from or why it chose to show up on that particular day I guess it's time had come And, once it arrived, I saw my truth I could see myself, and I was beautiful One day, I had no imperfections One day, I had made no mistakes I felt such joy, love, and pride That I would swear my heart filled with the color purple And, inside it carried dancing stars, sparkly gold and pearlescent white Twinkling and winking in rhythm to its strong, strong beat I smiled until my cheeks were numb I danced in the living room to my favorite song I realized that on all days previous, I had been a liar Telling myself that I was flawed, that I didn't deserve what I wanted That life would be a struggle because I wasn't perfect The pain of all the wrong doings I had done upon myself came to me And they asked for my healing And I forgave them They didn't matter now I was grateful and humbled and awed
I had started my life
The direct quote from a slave in a very long term succesful Ms relationship.
"""I know his top priority in our relationship is my welfare, physical and emotional, and that anything he asks of me during or outside of sessions is with that in mind. """
Try not to be a Master that control to be perfectly right it leads to delusion Do not be a Master that control to prevent failure, it keeps you from the freedom and flexibility to achieve success
the hardest part of new Ms relationship is going slow at first to find out out if YOUR NEEDS matches HIS WANTS
Security for a woman is paramount, emotional, physical, financial security. This is even more so for a slave who is abandoding her self to a man's control taking great risks for a great reward, she needs to KNOW she will be safe. If this man is nor more disciplined than her, she will not respect him, and eventually the initial attraction will not be enough, and the relationship will go vanilla. Prevent this from occuring by honest transparent COMMUNICATION.
we should strive to create beauty with our lives, and love is the paint.
Food for Thought, hmmm A submissive's Bill of Rights
You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You have the right to respect yourself as well. You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness. You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later.You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns.Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable. You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES. You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong. You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships. You have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as through they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to the One. It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less. You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed.Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has to make them aware before they can help. You have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart. http://www.collarspace.com/htmlarea/smileys/0088.gif">
There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.
Life Is a Gift
So you talk to each other on the phone and you meet and he is .... you meet and she is .... SO you forgot the connection who the person was on the inside, you give up the hope and dreams and ...
love again dies
"The trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit." "He that can have patience can have what he will. " "All things come to him who waits - provided he knows what he is waiting for." "Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish." "Who would not rather trust and be deceived?" "Trust everybody, but cut the cards." "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough." "It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust."
The Root of a Successful Master/slave relationship
"You want to know why somebody is failing consistently in his Master/slave relationship. It's because he's unwilling to take responsibility for anyone other than himself."
People who do not take responsibility for others have failed Master/slave relationships as well as failed jobs, failed businesses and failed friendships.
Because they are unwilling to take responsibility for their slave/mates or spouses, they say things like:
"I was so stupid to collar you!" "I was so stupid to marry you!" "He's your kid, not mine." "You're really getting fat." "You can't communicate." "My wife maxed out the credit cards, so she can pay them, I won't."
They externally place blame on everything but themselves and refuse to see themselves as part of an organic whole.
A Master/slave relationship is miserable when the Master/slave are unwilling to be responsible for or support each other. They manipulate, argue, fight, blame, criticize, scream and cry. The Master/slave relationship ends in release/divorce. The Responsible Master/slave relationship
"The willingness to take responsibility for somebody other than yourself is at the root of every successful Master/slave relationship."
When you take responsibility for someone else, you accept their actions as your own. You care for the person, guard the person, help the person and are interested in the well being of that person. You accept the person as he or she is and see them as they are going to be.
When you are willing to take responsibility for your Master/slave/mate, your languaging sounds like:
"We made a good decision to get together. Our commitment is real." "We made a good decision to get married. I think we'll make it better and better." "He's our child and we love him." "If that's the career choice you want to make, I'll support you on it." "Should we work on losing weight together? How about if we both start exercising and eating better." "We'd better fix this problem before your parents finds out." "Oops! We forgot to watch the car's oil. I'll get it fixed tomorrow." "We need to fix our communication. It would help if we turn off the TV and listen to each other." "We maxed out the credit cards and we'll pay them off."
A Master/slave relationship is joyful when the Master/slave, husband/wife take responsibility for each other. They create a happy home for themselves and their children. They stay in love. I know how can a slave be responsible, lets not let labels get in the way of reality. You are not in a relationship if both parties are not relating to each other. In any interaction if there is not an exchange, and only one side takes then the relationship is doomed to failure, it last only as long as the slave has something to give, when she is emptied out, the parasite moves on to another host. Neither parties were in a relationship, there was no exchange, just an empting.
You can be pretty hard core as long as both people are relating to each other, needs of both parties are being met.
Life may not be the party you hoped for, but while you're here you should dance.... live life just don't endure, choose to create joy in your life
"How you treat me is your karma. How I react is mine." Quoted from the book, Unfinished Business by James Van Praagh.
If man wants you to clean his house,
tell him he might want to consider hiring a maid."
The term "Slave Labor" is should not be primacy in the beginning
Your gifts of time and energy deserve a real exchange,
not just where you get nothing of value,
otherwise you will surely be taken advantage of.
I am sure you already know how to clean a house.
It is not about the house,
before you start giving yourself away
ask yourself what is the exchange?
You are giving him power, your surrender
What was put back into you so you do not get
hollowed out and he moves on to the next victim.
Every slave I know or owned has an exchange, a need a hunger.
*It's of incredible importance to listen or
thy tongue will keep thee deaf. -Indian Proverb
Only in the dictionary does success come before hard work
Submission starts in the mind.
Surrender comes from the heart.
...the body freely follows.
* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust.
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness.
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success.
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation.
* If you plant faith in God , you will reap peace.
So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.
The problem with the internet is there are so many people consumed by searching for an idealized dream, when they eventually find it, they have a hard time believing it is real and often sabotage it. They realize that they now have to live up to the expectations they projected online and the expectation they have for themselves. They begin to fear that reality will not, or cannot meet the fantasy. They begin to fear, because they are living or will be living the dream without a guarantee. It is here that many decide to settle for the thrill of the chase as they discover it is safer to search for a dream they cannot have than to live a reality that can fail. They connect then disappear. Me I live the, "better to have love and lost than to not have loved at all" philosophy, so I choose to dance…. Heavily Modified words of Sir Magic
" God determines who walks into your life. It's up to you to decide
who you let walk away,
who you let stay,
and who you refuse to let go."
Challenge your preconceptions
Or
They will challenge you
Judge a slave by her nature and character she has
Do not judge her by what she lacks
For Broken, betrayed, Denied Hearts
The hardened heart Had began to soften Stopped before the start As before and often
What I once happily thought And dreams to we would share Turned again to naught Without thought or care
Futures were beheld her eyes The warm smile on her face Crafts reality out of lies Again in this cold dark place
Facta, Non Verba... --- Deeds, not words ---
Combination therapy eases fibromyalgia symptoms Tuesday, March 03, 2009 NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - A review of previous clinical trial results shows that a multifaceted approach can be effective for treating fibromyalgia, German researchers report. Fibromyalgia is characterized by pain, fatigue and difficulty sleeping. It's a somewhat mysterious condition with no clear-cut cause. Dr. Winfried Haeuser told Reuters Health that German guidelines recommend "multicomponent treatment" of fibromyalgia -- "at least two components: patient education or psychological therapy and exercise as second-line therapy for patients whose symptoms and restrictions in daily life are not sufficiently reduced by a single therapy, such as medication." To investigate how well this strategy works, Haeuser, of Klinikum Saarbruecken, and her colleagues examined pooled evidence from nine clinical trials of multicomponent therapy involving more than 1100 patients. The researchers report the results in the medical journal Arthritis and Rheumatism. The findings, Haeuser explained, "demonstrated that multicomponent treatment was superior to monocomponent treatment in relieving pain, depressed mood and fatigue and improving physical fitness." However, she and her colleagues found, "There is strong evidence that the positive effects of multicomponent therapy on the key symptoms of fibromyalgia syndrome decline with time." The longest follow-up was for 15 months. The researchers conclude, "Strategies to maintain the benefits of multicomponent treatment in the long term need to be developed." SOURCE: Arthritis and Rheumatism, February 15, 2009.
What does your partner hungers for? Look at what he/she offers you the most look at they are most generous with. By in large people tend to give What they hope/expect to get back.
no one wants to take the time for the slow process of discovery. Instant relationship no roots, quick misunderstandings, quick death.
If you fight fire with fire you usually end up with ashes
You don’t love a slave because she is beautiful...
She is
beautiful because you love her...
Proverbs 23:7. Solomon wrote, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
Reminiscing on how wonderful the performance of Anna Netrebko as Lucia in the recent MET opera production of "Lucia Di Lammermoor". Go see it!
"Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself." -Anais Nin
Down here the river, meets the sea
And in the sticky heat I feel ya' open up to me
Love comes out of nowhere baby, just like a hurricane
And it feels like rain
And it feels like rain
Lying here, underneath the stars right next to you
And I'm wondering who you are and
How do you do?
How do you do, baby?
The clouds roll in across the moon
And the wind howls out your name
And it feels like rain
And it feels like rain
We never going to make that bridge tonight baby
Across lake Ponchartrain
And it feels like rain
And it feels like rain
So batten down the hatch baby
And leave your heart up your sleeve
It looks like we're in for stormy weather,
That ain't no cause for us to leave
Just lay here, in my arms
Let it wash away the pain
And it feels like rain
And it feels like rain
My new favorite opera: Lucia Di Lammermoor... Passion like I have not seen
As we grow up,
we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us
down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break
others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall
in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take
too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've
never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second
chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what
they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring
rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the
sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts.
Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live
in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second
of happiness you can never get back.
Just Think What If...
Every day was treated like a new beginning?
Where grudges, bitterness, unforgiveness, and worries died the moment your head
hit the pillow. And at the time you had awaken to a new morning your mind would
be renewed, not lacking knowledge or wisdom from the past, but building on what
has been made from prior situations and circumstances.
Each person you'd come into contact with you'd treat like it had been the first
time you'd met them and your first impression persona was at the top of it's
game. Being kind, loving, unconditional in terms of your friendship in how
things are done to show thanks. What if, we did things without having
presumptuous intentions of wanting to be thanked for what we had done.
What if, we shared our gifts just out of love and never had the expectations of
wanting to be loved in return, because we had the reassurance of knowing we're
already loved regardless of what we do.
What if, our confidence was placed in something bigger then ourselves so that
our dreams weren't limited to our own fears and insecurities.
What if, faith, intention and believing was reality?
"To be the source of pleasure is to be the cause of an addiction." -C. Williamson
HUMOR This is the fairy tale that should not
be read to little girls... :) Once upon a time ~~~~~~~~ In a land far away, ~~~~~~~~ A beautiful, independent,
Self-assured princess ~~~~~~~~ Happened upon a frog as she sat
Contemplating ecological issues
On the shores of an unpolluted pond
In a verdant meadow near her castle. ~~~~~~~~ The frog hopped into the princess' lap
And said: ' Elegant Lady,
I was once a handsome prince,
Until an evil witch cast a spell upon me. ~~~~~~~~ One kiss from you, however,
And I will turn back
Into the dapper, young prince that I am ~~~~~~~~
And then, my sweet, we can marry ~~~~~~~~ And set up housekeeping in your castle ~~~~~~~~ With my mother, ~~~~~~~~ Where you can prepare my meals, ~~~~~~~~ Clean my clothes, bear my children, ~~~~~~~~ And forever feel Grateful and happy doing so. '
~~~~~~~~ That night,…….
~~~~~~~~
As the princess dined sumptuously
~~~~~~~~
On lightly sautéed frog legs
~~~~~~~~
Seasoned in a white wine
~~~~~~~
And onion cream sauce,
~~~~~~~~
She chuckled and thought to herself:
~~~~~~~~
I don't fu***ng think so.
Gorean Mantra of a slave
"He is Master, and I am Slave.
He is owner, and I am owned.
He commands, and I obey.
He is to be pleased, and I am to please.
Why is This?
Because he is Master and I am slave"
“Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.”
~Guillaume Apollinaire~
The one with the power in the relationship is responsible for direction and health thereof. I will not abandon a slave IF a relationship ends. I have just as much responsibility for her emotional/physical well being as in its ending as I did when we are fully together as one.
What you want is not necessarily who you are. What you believe determines who you are
A thought for Doms, A slave mother can only be happy as her saddest child. No matter what you do. Look after her child and you are looking after your slave. Peace
Some thoughts
Great love involves great risks
Approach love with reckless abandon
The best relationship is one in which... Your love for each other Exceeds your need for each other
A loving atmosphere in your household is the foundation for your life's health and harmony
When you lose...don't lose the lesson
Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful blessing
Learn and understand the rules... so you know how to break them properly
Don't let a little dispute past fears showing up in the present injure a great relationship
When you realize you've made a mistake Take immediate steps to correct it
Spend some time alone with yourself everyday
Silence is sometimes the best answer
Live a good honorable life In old age you will be able to relive it and enjoy it again.
Judge your success by what you had to sacrifice in order to achieve it.
I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some
come from ahead and some come from behind. But I've bought a big bat.
I'm all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with
me!
Dr. Seuss
Count how many good teeth you had.
So you now know how many good teeth you have.
Did you notice something?
For the vast majority, the number of good teeth FAR outnumbers the bad.
You have far more good teeth but it's the bad teeth that get all of the attention. One bad tooth can cause us so much pain that we forget about all of the good.
So it is with life. One bad relationship and we think all Dom/subs are bad.
One bad experience with a member of a different race. religion or culture and we think all who are different from us are bad.
A company can have a thousand employees and we can have one bad experience with an obnoxious employee and we think the whole company is bad.
One bad apple doesn't spoil the whole bunch but it will eventually spoil the whole bunch if you don't remove the bad apple. Infection spreads.
Some things you have to extract to keep it from spoiling the whole bunch.
A child had to get his two front teeth extracted to prevent further pain and to even prevent the spread of infection to the rest of his body.
Extraction of things in our lives is often necessary but seldom pleasant.
He was so fearful, he had to be sedated, strapped down, and numbed. He still hollered.
Eagles fly high but have you ever noticed eagles don't have a lot of stuff strapped on their backs.
Some of us haven't reached the heights that we are destined to reach because we haven't extracted some things. It's too much on our backs and in our spirits.
You know what things they are.
You know what things in your life need extracting. We all have them.
Extraction hurts but the continuing pain of decay hurts even worse and for much longer.
I counsel quite a few people.
More often than not, they will have major problems by the time they schedule counseling. As I listen to their situation I can often see things or a different perspective on the thing that they cannot. Many are helped through counsel.
Even though I can often see things that they cannot, most of the stuff that they need to change, THEY ALREADY KNOW!
"I know I need to do this" "I know I need to change that" "I know this is wrong" "I know I shouldn't feel this way" "I know I should leave this relationship" "I know this is not good"
"I know I should. . . "
Many already know the things in their life that need to be extracted.
So do you.
The problem is not the knowledge in many instances. It's the pain of extraction.
Pulling anything with deep roots is a problem.
The closer anyone is to the child and the further they are from maturity, the more sedation, straps and numbing they will need. A child will even endure the pain for months or years until the tooth eventually falls out from the decay.
Often we endure the pain far longer than necessary until it falls out and has nearly knocked us out.
Learn the lesson of extraction.
For though we may have far more good teeth, This is a lesson we all need to know.
Finds friends, clergy, counselling to help you lift youself over the mountains of life.
Sometimes what you need is not really a lift. You just need to remove some things.
Just as a hot air balloon is mired to the ground with sandbags often so are we.
It's not that we don't have the wind to fly, we've just got too many sandbags. Some need to be extracted and then we can fly. So extract those toxic people from your life extract those toxic thoughts/emotions from your life Let the love flow
I received this heartfelt question from a submissive, about the comments from a dom I have included below. She is quietening her soul, truly bravely seeking to find her source.
This was my answer: I realize this is how some Masters & Doms feel. but
the fact that a man can feel this way disturbs me. I also realize that
this treatment is the heart desire of some slaves and that too disturbs
me. I am not the arbiter of all that is good about BDSM, but if a
behavior does not edify, does grow, make better more fulfilled and
complete, then that behavior is wrong.
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Sometimes
I don't want to be responsible. I want to be a little reckless. I want
to take the sub that I want, and press her to the wall, my forearm on
her neck, ripping her clothes away. I want to pull her hair, and bite
her neck, and suck her breasts, and bite her nipples. I want to turn
her around and slap her as hard while I have her in a choke hold. I
want to force her to her knees and make her suck me hard and furiously,
gagging intermittently. I want to roughly throw her over a chair or
other available device, plunge my dick into her ass and, pulling her
hair back, ride her like a bucking bronco, coming hard and long and
deep in her ass, before pushing her away, wiping my dick in her hair
before simply walking away from her spent form on the floor. I don't
want to know her name, where she comes from her, "style of submission",
her thoughts on D/s or even if she's a submissive at all. I don't care
if she belongs to some one else, if she loves me, if she even fucking
knows me. No toys, no negotiations, no contracts, no love, no care, no
sensitivity, no aftercare, no care at all.
A soul connection is a resonance between two people who respond to the essential beauty of each other's individual natures, behind their facades, and who connect on this deeper level. This kind of mutual recognition provides the catalyst for a potent alchemy. It is a sacred alliance whose purpose is to help both partners discover and realize their deepest potentials. While a heart connection lets us appreciate those we love just as they are, a soul connection opens up a further dimension -- seeing and loving them for who they could be, and for who we could become under their influence. This means recognizing that we both have an important part to play in helping each other become more fully who we are.... A soul connection not only inspires us to expand, but also forces us to confront whatever stands in the way of that expansion.
John Welwood
" True Dominance begins in the mind, which is then translated to the soul. Once the mind has been thoroughly seduced. The body will respond accordingly." ...
This is part of my core values
"Humanity first, BDSM roles second."
I am amazed that there are girls that accept brutality as normative.
sizzling whip strikes hot fiery glow on willing flesh fading to farewell **** body sings, not heart she kneels to an empty throne aching to belong
without belonging what is commitment? with it - trust and surrender ************************ petals bruised and torn eyes twinkle still and gleam tears fall, sparkling clean **** dimpled, freckled cheeks lips parted gently, smiling will she meet your eyes? ************************* Haiku of slave zephyrish
If you keep trying…
to find perfection in your relationships
you end up alone!!!!
Wisdom from journal of a female slave.
The value of a man or woman resides in what he or she gives, not in what they are capable of receiving.
- Good Friends are Hard to Find , Harder to Leave, and impossible to Forget - Most People Are Only Alive Because it is Illegal to Shoot Them
You can still be a dominant personality and feel love.
i carry your heart with me
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)i am never without it(anywhere i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done by only me is your doing,my darling) i fear no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true) and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart) by ee Cummings
"I postpone death by living, by suffering... by giving, by losing."
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
- Anais Nin
Pride is a blossom of ashes Bitter in the mouth, Sharp to the nose, Stinging in the eyes, And blown away on the first winds from the mountains Plant
no Pride lest you harvest shame.
Once a Hero, E. Moon
Success is not always measured by what we have achieved. Sometimes success is measured by the obstacles we have overcome.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you. Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight. Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jelaous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give the world the best you´ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
*(said by Mother Theresa)
A little humor A man walks into a restaurant with a full-grown ostrich behind him. The waitress asks them for their orders.
The man says, "A hamburger, fries and a coke," and turns to the ostrich, "What's yours?"
"I'll have the same," says the ostrich.
A short time later the waitress returns with the order "That will be $9.40 please," and the man reaches into his pocket and pulls out the exact change for payment.
The next day, the man and the ostrich come again and the man says, "A hamburger, fries and a coke."
The ostrich says, "I'll have the same."
Again the man reaches into his pocket and pays with exact change. This becomes routine until the two enter again. "The usual?" asks the waitress. "No, this is Friday night, so I will have a steak, baked potato and a salad," says the man.
"Same," says the ostrich.
Shortly the waitress brings the order and says, "That will be $32.62." Once again the man pulls the exact change out of his pocket and places it on the table. The waitress cannot hold back her curiosity any longer. "Excuse me, sir. How do you manage to always come up with the exact change in your pocket every time?" "Well," says the man, "several years ago I was cleaning the attic and found an old lamp. When I rubbed it, a Genie appeared and offered me two wishes. My first wish was that if I ever had to pay for anything, I would just put my hand in my pocket and the right amount of money would always be there." "That's brilliant!" says the waitress. "Most people would ask for a million dollars or something, but you'll always be as rich as you want for as long as you live!"
"That's right. Whether it's a gallon of milk or a Rolls Royce, the exact money is always there," says the man..
The waitress asks, "What's with the ostrich?"
The
man sighs, pauses and answers, "My second wish was for a tall chick
with a big butt and long legs who agrees with everything I say."
words from a female slave...I thought they would help others
Two of my favorite quotes are: "I am perfect with all my imperfections" and "I do not seek a mate to complete me, instead I seek someone to share in my completeness". I try to go into each connection with a clean slate--everyone deserves that because it would be wrong of me to start your score in the negatives because of past experiences with someone else. Now don't get me wrong, just because I show someone kindness and love, doesn't mean I will allow a person to do as they wish. So many just don't get the idea that words must be fortified with actions.… Words without their respective actions can be construed as a lie. Peace
Thoughts of a former slave of mine. """A WOMAN'S HEART SHOULD BE SO HIDDEN IN GOD, THAT A MAN SHOULD HAVE TO SEEK HIM FIRST TO FIND HERS~""" I totally agree. valuing a slave/sub comes before desiring to posses her
Strong by unknown songwriter
Bet you thought that I'd be broken
Mascara streaking down my cheek
Devastated out the doorway
In a daze, a state of disbelief
Bet you like that, seeing me get mad
But baby I won't satisfy your needs
I've already been there, done that
I'll be fine, even if you leave
Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
I don't need you anymore
Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
And don't you know….
That you, were the one that made me strong
You made me stand up on my own
With every cruel intention
You help me find my independence
It's all because of you
That I have the strength, I do
To turn my pain to passion
Instead of crashing
Boy I'm thanking you
Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
Boy I'm thankin you
Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
Looking back on how you changed me
Every time you try to put me down
Even though you really hurt me
Underneath, myself is what I found
Take a look inside these eyes now
Say the things you wanna say to me
Cause I've already spread my wings out
And you’re the one, the one who set me free
Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
I don't need you anymore
Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
And don't you know
That you, were the one that made me strong
You made me stand up on my own
With every cruel intention
You help me find my independence
Yea It's all because of you
That I have the strength, I do
To turn my pain to passion
Instead of crashing Boy I'm thankin you
For all the tears I cried
For All the sacrifice For all the drama,
cuz in the end It made me stronger
So trust me I'll be fine
Baby I'll survive Without you
If I want, but I want you to know
That you were the one that broke my heart
But I won't fall apart No I'm still moving on
Cuz babi you, were the one that made me strong
(made me strong)
You made me stand up on my own (on my own)
With every cruel intention
You help me find my independence (independence)
Yea it's all because of you (oh you)
That I have the strengths, I do (do)
To turn my pain to passion (passion)
Instead of crashin (crashing)
Boy I'm thanking you (you)
One that made me strong
Boy I'm thanking you One that made me strong
Boy I'm thanking you Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
Boy I'm thankin you Ahh ha ha ha ahh oh
A WOMAN SHOULD by Ms. Mayo Angelou
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .... something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .. a youth she's content to leave behind....
A ! WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..... a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry..
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .... a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without; ruining the friendship...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... that her childhood may not have been perfect..but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. . whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table.. or a charming Inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... What she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month...and a year...a lifetime goal/purpose
Simple but true fact in our lifestyle.... AVAILABILITY BUILDS TRUST
Yes you are the dom, but when she is vulnerable and learning to look to you for security, pleasure, and significance. If you are not available; you force to find other means than you. you force her to think there are others you force her to think she is but a dalliance you force her to think...... her worst fears are true... --------AVAILABILITY BUILDS TRUST--------
Listen ladies, if a man wants you... If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your spirit and intuition to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what truly makes you happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle!!! If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, so why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything cuz' he WILL use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior, change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he's MORE important than you are...even IF he has more education or a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. YOU come FIRST!!! He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You shouldn't be the one doing ALL the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage so deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals so look for someone complimentary...NOT supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him MISS YOU sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him he'll take you for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past
Why are you saying that...motivation? "One of the main reasons we gossip or complain is to make ourselves look better by comparison....When I point out your faults , then I'm implying that I have no such faults, so I am better than you are. Complaining is bragging, and nobody likes a braggart.
Here a bit of sobering news: The faults you notice in others are because they are resident in you...hmmm
The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that "SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE FAIL MORE" They just get up after each lesson on how not to do it
Anyone can overpower; not many can INSPIRE.....
Be wary of lovers
promising the stars
in the hand of man
they could become
trinkets of painful scars
---dodinsky---
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Too late
even
if you find your voice, sometimes it does not matter anymore when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~ dodinsky ~
One’s qualifications to pontificate
Remember we are not a certified statistician, Remember we are not a certified psychologist, Remember we are not a certified sociologist, We speak from our own experience and whatever small research we have done. However passionate our convictions borne of experience, it is not inclusive It does to represent everyone else’s life experience, and is not always cogent.
So anything anyone says should be treated as THEIR opinion.
And is only authoritative and applicable to your life if the circumstances apply
Above all else, always tell yourself the truth the most destructive lies are the ones you tell yourself. Finally be true to who and what you are.. Master C
No one
falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one
stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE
One night , after the couple
had retired for the night, the woman became aware that her husband was touching
her in a most unusual manner. He started by running his hand across her
shoulders and the small of her back. He ran his hand over her breasts, touching
them very lightly. Then, he proceeded to run his hand gently down her side,
sliding his hand over her stomach, and then down the other side to a point below
her waist. He continued on, gently feeling her hips, first one side and the
other.
His hand ran further down the outside of her thighs. His gentle
stroking then started up the inside of her left thigh, stopped and then returned
to do the same to her right thigh. By this time the woman was becoming aroused
and she squirmed a little to better position herself. The man stopped abruptly
and rolled over to his side of the bed.
"Why are you stopping?" she
whispered.
He whispered back, "I found the remote.
Profound comment “I put icing on places that were wounded, so they looked good and tasted pretty. But I really didn’t deal with them until I had no choice but to deal with what was going on in my marriage”. Jill Scott.
…….True Master.......
A Man who displays sensitivity will be a Master who is sensitive to you.
A Man who displays humility will be a Master who will show you respect.
A Man who is not afraid to cry will be a Master who understands your tears.
A Man who is quiet will be a Master who will hear your quietest whisper,
A Man who knows fear will be a Master who will not leave you to face yours alone.
A Man who will listen to a child will be a Master who will always work to understand your words.
A Man who can stand alone will be a Master who will not crush you under His weight.
A Man who controls Himself with ease will be a Master with the ability to control you in the same way.
A Man who does not have to prove His point will be a Master with many worthwhile points to share.
A Man who never makes demands will be a Master who treasures anything you give.
A Man who doesn't run after you will be a Master you will never need to run away from.
A Man who is calm will be a Master who can weather your storms.
A Man who has walked the path to peace will be a Master able to guide you along that path.
A Man who does not shout will be a Master who will never deafen you.
A Man who knows Himself will be a Master who will have time to know you.
A Man with an open mind will be a Master who never stops learning.
A Man who never stops learning will be a Master who never stops growing.
A Man who always seeks to be the best He can be for you is the only Man truly worthy of being called Master.
Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.
60 Minutes Correspondent Andy Rooney (CBS) As I grow in age, I value
women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why: A
woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, "What are
you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 40 doesn't want
to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something
she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting. Women over 40 are dignified.
They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an
expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot
you if they think they can get away with it. Older women are generous with
praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women
get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her
younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you
right off that you are a jerk if you are acting like one. You don't ever have to
wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of
reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart,
well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants
making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.
For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for
free?", here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage.
Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a
little sausage! Andy
Rooney is a really smart guy!
After my husband and I had a huge argument, we ended up not talking to each other for days.
Finally, on the third day, he asked where one of his shirts was.
"Oh," I said, "So now you're speaking to me."
He looked confused. "What are you talking about?"
"Haven't you noticed I haven't spoken to you for three days?" I challenged.
"No," he said, "I just thought we were getting along."
The US government today announced that it is changing its emblem from the Eagle to a Condom because it more accurately reflects the government's political stance.
A condom allows for inflation, halts production, destroys the next generation, protects a bunch of pricks, and gives you a sense of security while you're actually being screwed.
The Teacher
After being interviewed by the school administration, the teaching prospect said, "Let me see if I've got this right.................
"You want me to go into that room with all those kids, correct their disruptive behavior, observe them for signs of abuse, monitor their dress habits, censor their T-shirt messages, and instill in them a love for learning.
"You want me to check their backpacks for weapons, wage war on drugs and sexually transmitted diseases, and raise their sense of self esteem and personal pride.
"You want me to teach them patriotism and good citizenship,sportsmanship and fair play, and how to register to vote, balance a checkbook, and apply for a job.
"You want me to check their heads for lice, recognize signs of antisocial behavior, and make sure that they all pass the state exams.
"You want me to provide them with an equal education regardless of their handicaps, and communicate regularly with their parents by letter, telephone newsletter, and report card.
"You want me to do all this with a piece of chalk, a blackboard, a bulletin board, a few books, a big smile, and a starting salary that qualifies me for food stamps.
"You want me to do all this and then you tell me... "I CAN'T PRAY?"
A successful rancher died and left everything to his devoted wife.
She was a very good looking woman, and determined to keep the ranch, but knew very little about ranching, so she decided to place an ad in the newspaper for a ranch hand.
Two men applied for the job. One was gay and the other a drunk.
She thought long and hard about it, and when no one else applied, she decided to hire the gay guy, figuring it would be safer to have him around the house than the drunk.
He proved to be a hard worker who put in long hours every day and knew a lot about ranching. For weeks, the two of them worked, and the ranch was doing very well.
Then one day, the rancher's widow said to the hired hand, "You have done a really good job and the ranch looks great. You should go into town and kick up your heels."
The hired hand readily agreed and went into town one Saturday night. However, one o'clock came and he didn't return.
Two o'clock and no hired hand.
Finally he returned around two-thirty and found the rancher's widow sitting by the fireplace, waiting for him.
She quietly called him over to her.
"Unbutton my blouse and take it off," she said.
Trembling, he did as she directed.
"Now take off my boots."
He did so, slowly.
"Now take off my stockings."
He did.
"Now take off my skirt."
He did.
"Now take off my bra."
Again with trembling hands he did as he was told.
"Now," she said, "take off my panties."
He slowly pulled them down and off.
Then she looked at him and said, "If you ever wear my clothes to town again, I'll fire you on the spot."
A distinguished young woman on a flight from Ireland
asked the Priest beside her, "Father, may I ask a favor?"
"Of course. What may I do for you?"
"Well, I bought an expensive woman's electronic hair
dryer for my mother's birthday that is unopened and well over the
Customs limits, and I'm afraid they'll confiscate it. Is there any way
you could carry it through customs for me? Under your robes perhaps?"
"I would love to help you, dear, but I must warn you: I
will not lie."
"With your honest face, Father, no one will question
you."
When they got to Customs, she let the priest go ahead of her.
when official asked: "Father, do you have anything to
declare?"
"From the top of my head down to my waist, I have
nothing to declare."
The official thought this answer strange, so asked,
"And
what do you have to declare from your waist to the floor?"
"I have a marvelous instrument designed to be used on a woman, but which is, to date, unused."
Roaring with laughter, the official said, "Go ahead,
Father. Next!"
We choose our joys and
sorrows long before we experience them.
-Kahlil Gibran
"Who gossips to you will gossip of you."
If size doesn't
matter......why are there no 4 inch dildoes??
Q: What's the definition of
irreconcilable differences?
A: When she's melting down her wedding ring to cast it into a bullet.
A man does not insist
on physical beauty in a woman who builds up his morale.
After a while he
realizes that she is beautiful---he just hadn't noticed it at first.
Q: What's a feminist's
definition of well-informed?
A: Somebody with opinions exactly the same as theirs.
A man walks into the toy store to get a Barbie doll for his daughter. So he asks the assistant, as you would, "How much is Barbie?"
"Well," she says, "we have Barbie Goes to the Gym for $19.95, Barbie Goes to the Ball for $19.95, Barbie Goes Shopping for $19.95, Barbie Goes to the Beach for $19.95, Barbie Goes Nightclubbing for $19.95, and Divorced Barbie for $265.00."
"Hey, hang on," the guy asks, "why is Divorced Barbie $265.00 when all the others are only $19.95?"
"Yeah, well, it's like this ... Divorced Barbie comes with Ken's house, Ken's car, Ken's boat, Ken's furniture ..
A professor was discussing the high glucose levels found in semen.
A young woman raised her hand and asked, "If I understand you correctly, you are saying there is as much glucose in male semen as in sugar? "
The professor responded, "Yes, that's correct", adding some statistical data to his lecture.
Raising her hand again, the girl asked, "Then why doesn't it taste sweet?"
After a stunned silence, the whole class burst out laughing. The poor girl turned bright red as she realised exactly what she had inadvertently said.
She picked up her books and, without another word, began to walk out.
However, as she was heading for the door, the professor's reply was a classic. Totally straight-faced, he answered her question: "It doesn't taste sweet because the taste- buds for sweetness are on the tip of our tongue and not in the back of your throat."
A pair of Irish ditch diggers were repairing some road side damage directly across the street from a house of ill repute when they witnessed a Protestant Reverend lurking about and then ducking into the house. "Would ya look at that Darby!" said Pat. "What a shameful disgrace, those Protestant Reverends sinning in a house the likes of that place!" They both shook their heads in disgust and continued their work.
A short time later they watched as a Jewish Rabbi looked around himself cautiously and then darted into the house when he was satisfied no one had spied him. "Did ya see that Darby?" Pat asked the other in shock and disbelief. "Is nothing holy to those Jewish people? I just can't understand what the world is coming to these days. A man of the cloth indulging himself in sins of the flesh. Tis a shame, I tell ya!"
Not long time had passed when they saw a third man, a Catholic Priest, lurking about the house looking around to see if any one was watching and then quietly sneaking in the door.
"Oh no, Darby look!" Said Pat removing his cap. "One of the poor girls musta died!"
There was this Christian lady that had to do a lot of traveling for her business, so she did a lot of flying. Flying made her nervous, so she always took her Bible along with her to read and it helped relax her.
One time, she was sitting next to a man. When he saw her pull out her Bible, he gave a little chuckle and went back to what he was doing.
After awhile, he turned to her and asked, "You don't really believe all that stuff in there do you?"
The lady replied, "Of course I do. It is the Bible." He said, "Well, what about that guy that was swallowed by that whale?"
She replied, "Oh, Jonah. Yes, I believe that, it is in the Bible."
He asked, "Well, how do you suppose he survived all that time inside the whale?"
The lady said, "Well, I don't really know. I guess when I get to heaven, I will ask him."
"What if he isn't in heaven?" the man asked sarcastically.
"Then you can ask him." replied the lady.
Wise enough to admit ignorance, powerful enough to admit defeat, and strong enough to submit. I choose to live by choice, not by chance; to make changes, not excuses; to be motivated, not manipulated; to be useful, not used; to excel, not compete. I choose self esteem, not self pity. I choose to listen to my inner voice. Auhor Unknown
~Don't let one cloud obliterate the whole sky.~
- Anais Nin
There is a world of difference between:
taking a sub
and
Taking from a sub
I walked into a Blimpie's with a buy-one-get-one-free coupon for a sandwich. I handed it to the girl and she looked over at a little chalkboard that said "buy-one-get-one-free". "They're already buy-one-get-one-free", she said, "so I guess they're both free". She handed me my free sandwiches and I walked out the door. They walk among us and many work retail.
==================== A friend of mine bought a new fridge for his house. To get rid of his old fridge, he put it in his front yard and hung a sign on it saying: "Free to good home. You want it, you take it." For three days the fridge sat there without even one person looking twice at it. My friend decided that people were too untrusting of this deal. It looked too good to be true, so he changed the sign to read: "Fridge for sale $50." The next day someone stole it. They walk among us.
==================== One day I was walking down the beach with some friends when one of them shouted, "Look at that dead bird!" Someone looked up at the sky and said, "Where?" They Walk among us!
==================== While looking at a house, my brother asked the real estate agent which direction was north because, he explained, he didn't want the sun waking him up every morning. She asked, "Does the sun rise in the north?" When my brother explained that the sun rises in the east, and has for sometime, she shook her head and said, "Oh, I don't keep up with that stuff." They Walk Among Us!!
==================== I used to work in technical support for a 24/7 call center. One day I got a call from an individual who asked what hours the call center was open. I told him, "The number you dialed is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week." He responded, "Is that Eastern or Pacific time?" Wanting to end the call quickly, I said, "Uh, Pacific." They Walk Among Us!
================= My colleague and I were eating our lunch in our cafeteria, when we overheard a staff member talking about the sunburn she received on her weekend drive to the shore. She drove down in a convertible, but "didn't think she'd get sunburned because the car was moving. They Walk Among Us!
==================== My sister has a lifesaving tool in her car designed to cut through a seat belt if she gets trapped. She keeps it in the trunk. They Walk Among Us!
==================== I was hanging out with a friend when we saw a woman who's nose ring was attached to an earring by a chain. My friend said, "Wouldn't the chain rip out every time she turned her head?" I explained that a person's nose and ear remain the same distance apart no matter which way the head is turned. They Walk Among Us!
==================== I couldn't find my luggage at the airport baggage area, so I went to the lost luggage office and told the woman there that my bags never showed up. She smiled and told me not to worry because she was a trained professional and I was in good hands. "Now," she asked me, "has your plane arrived yet?" They Walk Among Us!
==================== While working at a pizza parlor I observed a man ordering a small pizza to go. He appeared to be alone and the cook asked him if he would like it cut He thought about it for some time before responding. "Just cut it into 4 pieces; I don't think I'm hungry enough to eat 6 pieces." Yep, They Walk Among Us!
==================== They walk among us, AND they breeed!!!!.
Think before speaking
FIRST INCIDENT:
I walked into a hair salon with my husband and three kids in tow and asked loudly, "How much do you charge for a shampoo and a blow job?" I turned around and walked back out and never went back My husband didn't say a word... he knew better.
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. SECOND INCIDENT: I was at the golf store comparing different kinds of golf balls. I was unhappy with the women's type I had been using. After browsing for several minutes, I was approached by one of the good-looking gentlemen who works at the store. He asked if he could help me. Without thinking, I looked at him and said, "I think I like playing with mens balls"
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THIRD INCIDENT: My sister and I were at the mall and passed by a store that sold a variety of candy and nuts. As we were looking at the display case, the boy behind the counter asked if we needed any help. I replied, "No, I'm just looking at your nuts." My sister started to laugh hysterically. The boy grinned, and I turned beet-red and walked away. To this day, my sister has never let me forget.
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FOURTH INCIDENT : While in line at the bank one afternoon, my toddler decided to release some pent-up energy and ran amok. I was finally able to grab hold of her after receiving looks of disgust and annoyance from other patrons. I told her that if she did not start behaving "right now" she would be punished. To my horror, she looked me in the eye and said in a voice just as threatening, "If you don't let me go right now, I will tell Grandma that I saw you kissing Daddy's pee-pee last night!" The silence was deafening after this enlightening exchange. Even the tellers stopped what they were doing. I mustered up the last of my dignity and walked out of the bank with my daughter in tow.
The last thing I heard when the door closed behind me, were screams of laughter.
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FIFTH INCIDENT: Have you ever asked your child a question too many times? My three-year-old son had a lot of problems with potty training and I was on him constantly. One day we stopped at Taco Bell for a quick lunch, in between errands It was very busy, with a full dining room. While enjoying my taco, I smelled something funny, so of course I checked my seven-month-old daughter, she was clean. The realized that Danny had not asked to go potty in a while. I asked him if he needed to go, and he said "No" . I kept thinking "Oh Lord, that child has had an accident, and I don't have any clothes with me." Then I said, "Danny, are you SURE you didn't have an accident?"
"No," he replied. I just KNEW that he must have had an accident, because the smell was getting worse. Soooooo, I asked one more time, "Danny did you have an accident ? This time he jumped up, yanked down his pants,
bent over, spread his cheeks and yelled
"SEE MOM, IT'S JUST FARTS!!"
While 30 people nearly choked to death on their tacos laughing, he calmly pulled up his pants and sat down.
An old couple made me feel better, thanking me for the best laugh they'd ever had!
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SAVING THE BEST FOR LAST INCIDENT: This had most of the state of Michigan laughing for 2 days and a very embarrassed female news anchor who will, in the future, likely think before she speaks. What happens when you predict snow but don't get any! We had a female news anchor that, the day after it was supposed to have snowed and it didn't, turned to the weatherman and asked: "So Bob, where's that 8 inches you promised me last night?" Not only did HE have to leave the set, but half the crew did too they were laughing so hard!
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Now, didn't that feel good?
Pass it on to someone you know who needs a laugh and remember
we all say things we don't really mean, so think before you speak !
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A woman decides to have a face lift for her 50th birthday. She spends $15,000 and feels pretty good about the results.On her way home, she stops at a news stand to buy a newspaper. Before leaving, she says to the clerk, "I hope you don't mind my asking, but how old do you think I am?"
"About 32," is the reply. "Nope! I'm exactly 50," the woman says happily. A little while later she goes into McDonald's and asks the counter girl the very same question. The girl replies, "I'd guess about 29." The woman replies with a big smile, "Nope, I'm 50." Now she's feeling really good about herself.
She stops in a drug store on her way down the street. She goes up to the counter to get some mints and asks the clerk this burning question. The clerk responds, "Oh, I'd say 30." Again she proudly responds, "I'm 50, but thank you!"
While waiting for the bus to go home, she asks an old man waiting next to her the same question. He replies, "I'm 78 and my eyesight is going. Although, when I was young, there was a sure-fire way to tell how old a woman was. It sounds very forward, but it requires you to let me put my hands under your bra. Then, and only then can I tell you EXACTLY how old you are."
They were on the empty street until her curiosity gets the best of her. She finally blurts out, "What the hell, go ahead."
He slips both of his hands under her blouse and begins to feel around very slowly and carefully. He bounces and weighs each breast and he gently pinches each nipple. He pushes her breasts together and rubs them against each other. After a couple of minutes of this, she says, "Okay, okay...How old am I?" He completes one last squeeze of her breasts, removes his hands, and says, "Madam, you are 50." Stunned and amazed, the woman says, "That was incredible, how could you tell?"
The old man says, "Promise you won't get mad?"
"I promise I won't, " she says.
"I was behind you in McDonald's!"
Sample pool heavily weighted white males. Scientists have determined that the average time of intercourse lasts 4 minutes. The average number of strokes is 9 per minute, making the average intercourse 36 strokes long. Since the average length of a penis is about 6 inches, the average girl receives 216 inches of penis or 18 feet of penis per intercourse.
If the average girl does it 3 times a week, (that makes 156 times annually) 156 x 18 feet of penis makes 2808 feet, or just over a half mile of penis per year. If a girl starts having sex at 16, and since the average life span of a woman is 75, you could say that you could be getting 2808 feet of penis x 59 years of sex makes 165,672 feet, or 55,224 yards, or a little over 31 miles of penis in your lifetime.
Anyone whose getting more than that, well,yer just a big ol' slut
"Seduce her mind and you can have her body, Merge with her soul and you have her for ever."
The master searches for the slave …as...the slaves searches for the her master to bring alive the "two backed beast" from Shakespeare play.
The two back beast lives when a master and slave fuse intensely in making love all you see are their two backs, consuming animal passions oblivious to all and letting nothing in.
A beautiful rose, a man with a maid love, a hawk on the wind
have you noticed the most beautiful thingss
are sometimes the most precious, delicate and crushable,
like the petals of a rose or a trusting heart
Reputation or Character. Do you agree?
"The circumstances amid which you live determine your reputation; the truth you believe determines your character.
Reputation is what you are supposed to be; character is what you are.
Reputation is the photograph; character is the face.
Reputation comes over one from without; character grows up from within.
Reputation is what you have when you come to a new community; character is what you have when you go away.
Your reputation is learned in an hour; your character is built in a lifetime.
Reputation grows like a mushroom; character grows like the oak.
A single newspaper report gives you your reputation, a life of toil gives you your character.
Reputation makes you rich or makes you poor; character makes you happy or makes you miserable.
Reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone; character is what the angels say about you before the throne of God." (William Hersey Davis)
So, which one could you choose? Reputation or Character?
WHY PARENT DRINK.....
the boss of a big company need to call one of his employees about an
urgent problem with one of the main computers, he dialed the employees
home phone number and was greeted with a child's whisper.
"Hello"
"Is your daddy home?" he asked
"Yes" whispered the small voice
"May I talk with him?"
the child whispered "NO"
Surprised and wanting to talk to an adult, the boss asked "Is your mommy there?" "Yes"
"May I talk with her?"
Again the small voice whispered "No"
Hoping there was somebody with whom he could leave a message, the
boss asked " Is anybody else there?"
"Yes" whispered the child "a policeman"
Wondering what a cop would be doing at his employees home the boss
asked, " May I speak with the policeman?"
"No he's busy" whispered the child
"Busy doing what?"
"Talking to Mommy and Daddy and the fireman" came the whispered answer
Growing concerned and even worried as he heard what sounded like a
helicopter through the earpiece on the phone the boss asked "What is
that noise?"
"A hello-copper" answered the whispering voice
"What is going on there?" asked the boss, now truly alarmed
In an awed whispering voice the child answered, "The search team
just landed the hello-copper."
Alarmed, Concerned, and even more than just a little frustrated the
boss asked "What are they searching for?"
Still whispering, the young voice replied along with a muffled
giggle:
"Me"
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Three little ducks go into a Bar..............................
So, what's your name?" the bartender asked the first duck.
"Huey," was the reply.
"How's your day been, Huey?"
"Great. Lovely day. Had a ball. Been in and out of puddles all day. What else could a duck want?" said Huey.
"Oh. That's nice," said the bartender. He turned to the second duck, "Hi, and what's your name?"
"Dewey," came the answer from duck number two.
"So how's your day been, Dewey! ?" he asked.
"Great. Lovely day. I've had a ball too. Been in and out of puddles all day myself. What else could a duck want?"
The bartender turned to the third duck and said, "So, you must be Louie?"
"No," she said, batting her eyelashes.
"My name is Puddles."
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Did you know that eagles mate for life?
Well one day Harry the eagle waited at the nest for Mary his darling of 10 glorious years. After a while when she didn't return he went looking and found her. She had been shot. Dead!
Harry was devastated. After about six minutes of mourning he decided that he must get himself another mate but since there weren't any lady eagles available he'd have to cross the feather barrier.
So he flew off to find a new mate.
He found a lovely dove and brought her back to the nest. The sex was OK but all the dove would say is "I am a DOVE, I want to love! I am a DOVE, I want to love!"
Well this got on Harry's nerves so he kicked the dove out of the nest and flew off once more to find a mate.
He found a very sexy loon and brought her back to the nest. Again the sex was great but all the loon would say is, "I am a LOON, I want to spoon! I am a LOON, I want to spoon!"
So out with the loon.
Once more he flew off to find a mate. This time he found a gorgeous duck and he brought the duck back to the nest. Again the sex was great, but all the duck would say was.....well, you know......
No, the duck didn`t say THAT!!!!! That's an awful thing to think!
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The duck said, "I am a DRAKE you made a MISTAKE !!!
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Two friends, one an optimist and the other a pessimist, could never agree on any topic of discussion. One day the optimist decided that he had found a good way to pull his friend out of his contstant pessimistic thinking. The optimist owned a hunting dog that could walk on water! The optimist decided to take the pessimist and the dog out duck hunting in a boat. They got out into the middle of the lake, and the optimist shot down a duck. The dog immediately walked out across the water, retrieved the duck and walked right back into the boat! The optimist looked at his pessimistic friend and asked, "Well, what do you think about that?!" The pessimist replied, "So, your dumb dog can't swim, can he?!"
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An atheist was taking a walk through the woods. "What majestic trees! What powerful rivers! What beautiful animals!" he said to himself. As he was walking alongside the river he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him. He turned to look. He saw a 7 foot grizzly charge towards him.
He ran as fast as he could up the path. He looked over his shoulder and saw that the bear was closing in on him. He looked over his shoulder again, and the bear was even closer. He tripped and fell on the ground. He rolled over to pick himself up but saw the bear right on top of him, reaching for him with his left paw and raising his right paw to strike him.
At that instant the atheist cried out: "Oh my God!..." Time stopped. The bear froze. The forest was silent.
As a bright light shone upon the man, a voice came out of the sky: "You deny my existence for all of these years, teach others I don't exist, and even credit creation to a cosmic accident. Do you expect me to help you out of this predicament? Am I to count you as a believer?"
The atheist looked directly into the light, "It would be hypocritical of me to suddenly ask You to treat me as a Christian now, but perhaps could you make the BEAR a Christian?"
"Very well," said the voice. The light went out. The sounds of the forest resumed. And then the bear dropped his right paw, brought both paws together and bowed his head and spoke:
"Lord, bless this food, which I am about to receive from thy bounty through Christ our Lord Amen."
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I will seek and find you . I shall take you to bed and have my way with you I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exhaust you to the point that you will be relieved when I'm finished with you. And, when I am finished, you will be weak for days. All my love,
signed:
The Flu
Now, quit thinking about sex and go get your flu shot!
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A skinny little white guy goes into an elevator, looks up and sees this HUGE black guy standing next to him.
The big guy sees the little guy staring at him so he looks down and says: "7 feet tall, 350 pounds, 20 inch private, 3 pound left testicle, 3 pound right testicle, Turner Brown."
The little white fellow faints and falls to the floor.
The big guy kneels down and brings him to, shaking him. The big guy says, "What's wrong with you?"
In a weak voice the little guys says," What EXACTLY did you say to me?"
The big dude says, "I saw your curious look and figured I'd just give you the answers to the questions everyone always asks me. I'm 7 Feet tall, I weigh 350 pounds, ! I have a 20 inch private, my left testicle weighs 3 pounds, my right testicle weighs 3 pounds, and my name is Turner Brown."
The small guy says, "Turner Brown?...Sweet Jesus, I thought you said, Turn Around"
"A true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best. At other times you can be as modest and dignified as your persona requires." Robert Heinlein
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The submissive CHOOSES when and where to submit, within reason. The
submissive CHOOSES what is not to be done to her, again within reason.
The submissive CHOOSES when it shall cease if it becomes too much too
fast too hard--that is what safe words are for.
The slave is told what to do, when to do it, where to do it, how to do
it and with whom. If the order is disobeyed, the slave is disciplined.
The entire world of the slave is decided upon by the Master, with her
input or lack thereof completely at his discretion. She has no voice
in anything unless he allows her to have one.
The slave's only choice, after deciding that this person is her
Master, is to obey or disobey.
[My Thoughts your behavior rather than your words determine who you are.
If you act like a sub then you are a sub, surrender and obey as a slave
then you are a slave
Regardless of he motivation that dictates your behavior, whether fear or love ]
You cannot punish your way to a better relationship.
For two things to come together they both have to be mallable and active.
Spoke with a sub today explained this to her.
If you go into the forest looking for weeds…
What will you find…..helllooooo weeds
If you go into the same forest looking for Flowers
What will you find…yes..lots of wild flowers.
Look for the good in your circumstances and your relationship.
What you look for flowers or weeds, is what you will find.
What You Focus on Will Grow: Is It Faith or Fear?
What you focus on, grows. Every once in a while check your Desire Creation lists and make sure you are visualizing what you want. Think for a moment on the definitions below.
Faith is believing that what you cannot see will come to pass. Fear is believing that what you cannot see will come to pass.
When you are full of hope and faith and enthusiasm, it is because you are imagining future scenarios. When you are fearful or in despair, you are also imagining future scenarios. It all depends on what you are imagining!
To eliminate fear from your life, stop imagining fearful future images.
Your DOM/Master will come, do not settle for someone unworthy
You do not receive things so that you can feel good, you have to feel good so that you can receive things. !!!!!!!!! *
Forgiveness can indeed be difficult. Yet in the long run, it is far easier to forgive than to live with resentment or continuing retribution.
Through forgiveness, you can move away from the pains of the past. With forgiveness, you can achieve real freedom.
There are always opportunities to benefit from the value of forgiveness. You can forgive yourself, you can forgive others, and you can forgive even when you don't know exactly who to forgive.
Because forgiveness is not about who is to blame or who is at fault. Forgiveness is mostly about letting go, completely and permanently, within yourself.
Forgiveness is recognizing the reality that what has happened has happened, and that there's no point in allowing it to dominate your life. Forgiveness refreshingly clears the slate and enables you to move positively forward.
Carrying around a load of resentment can be an enormous and unnecessary burden. Forgive early and often, and you'll considerably lighten your load.
The trivial annoyances, even though they are virtually meaningless, can overwhelm you if you let them. Choose not to let them. ~*~ Be diligent about the things that truly matter, and be very flexible about the things that don't. There's no sense in wasting your precious time arguing or agonizing about something that doesn't really make a difference anyway. ~*~ Learn to let go, and to rise above the petty squabbles. You'll end up with much more time and energy available to work on the really important things. ~*~ Instead of carrying around your frustrations like so many trophies, choose to leave all the small, insignificant ones behind. You won't impress anyone by constantly complaining, and it won't add value to your life, so let it go. ~*~ You have much more meaningful and important issues upon which to focus your time and energy. Spend your moments truly living. ~*~ Get in the habit of letting go of the small, meaningless matters. And delight in the freedom, effectiveness and peace that you create for your life.
: When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these guidelines make life work better.
1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process as "success."
4. A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it: then you can go on to the next lesson.
5. If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention.
6. You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.
7. "There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better than "here."
8. Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.
9. Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life, or someone else will.
10. You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract; therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students.
11. There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best.
12. Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust.
13. You will forget all this.
14. You can remember any time you wish Author unknown
"We are what we repeatedly do, therefore, 'excellence' is not an act but a life habit. a life path..."
I have always remind the participants of this principle during counselling sessions.
"The one with power in the relationship is responsible for the direction and health of the relationship."
simply put the one with the power is driving the car(directing their lives together)
remember the japanes proverb "Discipline Sharpens Pleasure"
"slaves do more to avoid pain than the promise of reward"
"The spankings will continue until the attitude changes" er... muttering <this is not working she likes it too much> ok "the spanking will NOT continue until the attitude changes"
"to get what you've never had, you must do what you've never done!"
The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back. ~Abigail Van Buren~
So how does he treat waitresses and street people?
Any inherent kindness or unselfishness in him?
"Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks"
If he says it and he says it a lot, believe him, it's who he is, it is a reflection of his nature. No matter how unpleasant and disappointing it is to you.
"As a man thinks in his heart so is he"
If he thinks it and he thinks about it a lot that who he is and that's the passion that controls him, it's who he is. No matter how unpleasant.
Seeing him as he is NOW, not how you WISH him to be,
if you give yourself to him, do not expect him to change, and trying to change him later is a recipe for disaster.
"Command presence...It calmly directs...It lovingly inspires... it never loses control and yells." Peace
The Belt, The Kiss, The Crop, The Bliss.....
I would NOT recommend mistaking my kindness for weakness.... So look into My eyes, and tell Me what do you see.... Do you see the reflection of the person who means the world to Me? I'm looking at the stars and I'm thinking of My dreams.... I'm looking at you and hope you will forever be next to Me.
It is unwise to be too
sure of one's own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might
weaken and the wisest might err. ~Mohandas Gandhi~
A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully, and before it blossomed, he examined it. He saw the bud that would soon blossom and also the thorns. And he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns?" Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and before it was ready to bloom, it died. So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The GOD-like qualities planted in us at birth grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects. We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential. Some people do not see the rose within themselves, someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns and find the rose within others. This is the characteristic of love, to look at a person, and knowing their faults, recognize the nobility in their soul, and help them realize that they can overcome their faults. If we show them the rose, they will conquer the thorns. Then will they blossom, blooming forth thirty, sixty, a hundred-fold as it is given to them. Our duty in this world is to help others by showing them their roses and not their thorns. Only then can we achieve the love we should feel for each other, only then can we bloom in our own garden....(something I should constantly remain aware of) credited to ~EMD~
Mangoes
By
♥Master C ♥
Slave are like
mangoes, they come in two flavors.
There are those slaves that always have a Master.
As soon as they are released or a relationship ends. They quickly acquire another. Then………. There are those slaves who have few Masters. And they are very cautious and selective. The End of a relationship is mourned and closure is achieved. Before exploring starting something new. Well….…. Mangoes are like that, :) it is the Jamaican in me. There are mangoes that are easy to get at, minimal effort. Low hanging fruit, or fruit lying on the ground. But there is that yummy unpicked hard to get at. Rosy, perfect fruit at the top of tree, out on a limb. Very hard to get at, but ultimately very much worth the effort So ladies, not having a ‘velcro’ master is not a loss
Rather look
for the master who is patient with your caution
He understands
all the lies you have experienced
Be filled with
hope he will come
Someone who
truly sees the value in you.
Anyway
By
♥
Mother Teresa ♥
People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish
ulterior motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you win false
friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today will be
forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you
vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building
may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. People really need help but
may attack you if you help them. Help people anyway. Give the world the
best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best
you've got anyway.
Master, no more
As the Master of the House entered the room He saw what was
not there... Her clothes, her books, her private things... Even the
walls were bare. No submissive greeting did call to him, No lowered eyes or
bended knee... No offered breasts or upturned ass Those things he never again would see The one thing his eye did see, Had been left there
for him to find. An envelope and
folded note That she had left behind. He opened up the letter there To read what he knew it would
say, And looked once more
upon her tiny hand written words In the light of the ending day. When we met there in that chat room Your words were honey sweet They flowed into my
heart and soul, Like a freezing child who had been given heat. You learned all there was to know about me, While I knew nothing
of you You brushed off my questions, called them unseemly and
crass And implied that I was rude. And soon did I fall under your spell As potent as any a wizard
could weave. I turned my back upon career, family and friends All of
them I did leave. To come and kneel before you To serve you as your slave. i answer the dark voices deep within my soul To seek out
the Life that I did crave. For you did I suffer the torments of the Damned And often more
than that as well... To be worthy of the collar you had placed upon my neck. But, you have not proven to be worth this sort of hell. You have tormented me with cane and oar For your amusement did I suffer the paddle, the flogger and
crop But where once I found honor in serving you, I now know
that this must stop. Last night was the final straw, As my pleas for mercy fell
upon deaf ears I saw you rejoice at the sight of my battered and bleeding
flesh, raw And drank deeply of my tears. I shall no longer live this way, You who call yourself a Lord...
My journey continues alone this day, This dark river shall
i forge. The Master opened the envelope And found within the collar.
He knew he would. With tight clenched fists and bright red eyes Long in the
empty room he stood. ...Then with a sigh he turned to leave And unto his computer
go... A new screen name...a new profile... And then he chuckled
low He felt in his heart no great loss. There were many more on line. Lonely, begging, needing subs He knew quite well
their kind. And once again the hunt was on, That all begins on line. The sweet flowing words, the velvet touch Bind later
the body, but first, the mind. To use them well then use them up And then to cast them in
his wake He knew the collar would soon be filled As he logged on,
and leaned back to wait, hunter for the prey. .......He waits there still, even now, on line... The innocent IM cast forth as bait To find his victim and
lure her in Unto a honeyed, bitter fate......
"Its Not What People Call You, that matters.
It's What you Answer To That really
counts"
You can find that specail someone. Do not give up nothing is impossible Somethings just take longer that 's all
OK ladies for those of you feeling guilty for things you HAVE to or compelled to do to survive. You are not a parasite! a parasite survives at the expense of another. No rather, you are surviving in spite of someone best effort to destroy you.
In that case Survival is your highest morality. God takes no pleasure from watching the beauty of his creation butchered.
Wether physically or emotionally
THE OLIVE TREE
A confused sub came before a wise Master who adored her. She felt that to submit to him would mean she would open her heart to unbearable pain should he ever leave her. She hungered for him and needed him, but was ready to walk away in panic. The gentle Master knelt her before him and started a tale of love and devotion. As she looked up at him his arms began to widen and open like a large tree stretches its branches to the sky. At that moment the Master appeared rooted to the floor and his impressive size towered above her like a giant tree. Then he began to speak...
I'm here for you... now and always no matter how far time and space takes us... Whether you walk away from me today or you stay and serve me I will not turn from you. I am as patient as time itself; I will take not from you unless you give freely and completely of yourself, but I give onto you regardless-- for my love is unconditional... Like the olive tree that can both feed you and shade you, I am there seemingly eternal to your short life on this earth. If you need my fruit to feed your hunger I will give you all the fruit you need. If your skin grows dry and loses its luster, the oil from my fruit will restore it and make it glisten. When you need comfort my leaves will gently caress your face with the slightest breeze. When you need discipline my branches will correct you when the wind blows strong. If you just need my shade to protect you from the sun, my branches will shade and protect you. If you need warmth at night my fallen branches will fuel the fire to keep you warm and safe. If you need a refreshing breeze my leaves will fan you and cool you. You are my gardener. When you submit to me, you tend that which keeps me vibrant and full of life. When you kneel under me and till the soil, you give breath to my roots. When you water me, my sap flows strong through me raising my limping Branches. When you soil yourself collecting fertilizer with your bare hands, you strengthen and humble me with your devotion. Although my life will go on, life would not be the same without you. Your dedication and unconditional care for me keeps me vibrant and nurtures my very core. The sustenance and protection I give you seems little reward for your servitude. Still the gardener serves the tree from her heart and the tree gives to her heart all that he can! I am planted firmly on the ground and cannot follow you if you walk away from me.... But be assured I will survive. One hundred years later and two of your lifetimes; I will still be there, waiting for you in the same spot to offer you all that I do now. Stay with me and be my gardener. You cannot get lost in me for we are complementary to each other. I am your devotion, and you give meaning to my existence. Apart we live life and survive; together we bloom eternally!
... As the Master finished his last words the sub cried herself to sleep at his feet. That night, he stood planted there like the olive tree offering her his unconditional love and protection as she slept. As she would tend to him with her devotion the next day... and everyday thereafter!
If you offer to your Master turmoil, He will learn to avoid you.
If you offer your Master tranquility, He will grow to love you.
A Man will not love a woman for the stress she causes, but the stress she alleviates.
"What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments,
but what is woven into the lives of others." by Pericles
Kneel and come to Me child for I am your destiny.
you have but to acknowledge it
toyourself to cut the chains and fly free.
The Teacup
A couple vacationing in Europe went strolling down a little street and saw a quaint little gift shop with a beautiful teacup in the window. The lady collected teacups and she wanted this one for her collection, so she went inside to pick up the teacup, and as the story goes the teacup spoke and said:
"I want you to know that I have not always looked like this. It took the process of pain to bring me to this point. You see, there was a time when I was just clay and the Master came and he pounded me and he squeezed me and he kneaded me and I screamed: "STOP THAT". But he just smiled and said, "Not yet".
Then he took me and put me on the shelf and I went round and round and round and round...and while I was spinning and getting dizzier and dizzier I screamed again and I said, "Please get me off this thing...please get me off!!!" And the Master was looking at me and he was smiling as he said, "Not yet".
Then he took me and walked toward the oven and shut the door and turned up the heat and I could see him through the window of the oven and it was getting hotter and hotter and I thought, "He's going to burn me to death". And I started pounding on the inside of the oven and I said, "Master, let me out, let me out, let me out", I could see that he was smiling as he said, "Not yet".
Then he opened the door and I was fresh and free and he took me out of the oven and he put me on the table and then he got some paint and a paintbrush. He started dabbing me and making swirls all over me and I started to gag and I said: "Master, stop it . . . stop it . . . stop it please...you're making me gag". He just smiled as he said "not yet".
Then very gently he picked me up again and he started walking toward the oven and I said, "Master, NO! Not again, pleeeease". He opened the oven door and he slipped me inside and he shut the door and this time he turned the heat up twice as hot as before and I thought, "He's going to kill me", and I looked through the window of the oven and I started to pound saying, "Master...Master, please let me out...please let me out...let me out". I could see that he was smiling but I also noticed a tear trickle down his cheek as I watched him mouth the
words, "Not yet!"
Just as I thought I was about to die, the door opened and he reached in ever so gently and took me out, fresh and free and he went and placed me on a high shelf and he said: "There, I have created what I intended.
Would you like to see your yourself?" I said, "Yes". He handed me a mirror and I looked and I looked again and I said, "That's not me, I'm just a lump of clay".
He said, "Yes, that IS you, but it took the process of pain to bring you to this place. You see, had I not worked you when you were clay, then you would have dried up.
If I had not subjected you to the stress of the wheel you would have crumbled.
If I had not put you into the heat of the oven you would have cracked.
If I had not painted you there would be no color in your life.
But, it was the second oven that gave you the strength to endure.
Now you are everything I intended you to be - from the beginning."
And I, the tea cup, heard myself saying something I never thought I would hear myself saying,
"Master, forgive me, I did not trust you. I thought you were going to harm me, I did not know you had a glorious future and a hope for me.
I was too shortsighted, but I want to thank you. I want to thank you for the suffering. I want to thank you for the process of pain. Here I am! I give you myself - fill me, pour from me, use me as you see fit. I really want to be a vessel that brings you glory within my life."
Master
Ask what I didn´t say.
Tell me what I didn´t ask...
What would you say if you could say anything you want.
A man character is reflected in the keeping of his word If keeping his word is not a priority then…….. integrity and honesty to him is not a priority, but situational A man should clearly say what he means And Mean what he says Master C.
“As women have become more masculine in their psychological signals (ie their behaviour and the things they say) men have become less psychologically attracted to them (ie romantic love). Given that today’s women are rowdy, man-bashing, and forever reminding us of their strength and independence etc, we are now less and less likely to feel the spiritual/psychological attraction which leads to romantic love and then oftentimes commitment. So, by and large, all that is left is the physical attraction to the woman's body. i.e. Sex”
Darren Blacksmith: Feminism and the Death of Romantic Love
Advice I gave a friend to pass on. If someone acts and speaks as if you are worthless to them, then do not explain their behavior away, BELIEVE them and get away from these people. In life great rewards are balanced out by geat risks, but the rewards are worth it. People will typically do more to avoid pain rather than to get gain. This is an end game strategy, you cannot live your life in fear. Master c.
Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly
Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably..
And never regret anything that made you smile.
For those in the lifestyle Remember kids are video-recorders with legs...
Only by the faith in the Divine, that sometimes… Sometimes in life, you find a special friend; Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who loves you unconditionally Someone who ‘gets you’, and can love and scratch the places that itch Someone who makes no judgments about you Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop; Someone who makes you believe again that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you when a door was slammed painfully that there really is an unlocked window just waiting for you to open it. Sometimes…..
Under my hand
Under my hand
Your lessons are taught
Your heart soars
Your tears are gently brushed aside
Under my loving hands
Your body blooms
Your soul deepens
Your mind grows
Under my hand
Your slavery flourishes
Peace and serenity becomes
Under my hand
The woman in you blossoms
All when you are taken under my hand.
Life is about deciding which bridge to cross and which to burn. Some bridges/past connections/friends/habits must be burned while other are crossed into new horizons, new possibilities.
Because doing the same thing the same way all the time but one day expecting the result to be different is one definition of insanity.
Embrace change, take chance, live life, don’t just exist waiting to die.
Be victorious by shaking off being betrayed/abandoned, being misunderstood.
Celebrate life by living with joy and laughter in spite of what others tried to do to destroy you. Rise up and live!
Did you know that eagles mate for life?
Well one day Harry the eagle waited at the nest for Mary his darling of 10 glorious years. After a while when she didn't return he went looking and found her. She had been shot. Dead!
Harry was devastated. After about six minutes of mourning he decided that he must get himself another mate but since there weren't any lady eagles available he'd have to cross the feather barrier.
So he flew off to find a new mate.
He found a lovely dove and brought her back to the nest. The sex was OK but all the dove would say is "I am a DOVE, I want to love! I am a DOVE, I want to love!"
Well this got on Harry's nerves so he kicked the dove out of the nest and flew off once more to find a mate.
He found a very sexy loon and brought her back to the nest. Again the sex was great but all the loon would say is, "I am a LOON, I want to spoon! I am a LOON, I want to spoon!"
So out with the loon.
Once more he flew off to find a mate. This time he found a gorgeous duck and he brought the duck back to the nest. Again the sex was great, but all the duck would say was.....well, you know......
No, the duck didn`t say THAT!!!!! That's an awful thing to think!
The duck said, "I am a DRAKE you made a MISTAKE !!!
~~ Beauty of a Woman ~~
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart, The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives, The passion that she shows.
The beauty of a woman, with time, only grows.
Author Unknown
Submissive's Creed I am a Submissive Woman. I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship. I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life. I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength. I look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am I more complete than when He is with me. I know that He will protect my body, my mind, and my soul with His strength and wisdom. He is everything to me, as I am everything to Him. His touch awakens me and His thoughts free me. Only in serving Him do I find complete freedom and joy. His punishments are harsh, but I accept them thankfully, knowing that He has my best interests always foremost in His mind. If He desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to Him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought Him happiness.
However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship. The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship. My body is His, and if He says I am beautiful, then I am. No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in His eyes, and because of that I hold my head high... ...for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me? If He says I am His princess, then I am that...regal and graceful. And if I see laughter at me in the eyes of others, I do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong? If He says I am his toy, his slut, his tramp, then I am that... as wanton and dirty as He wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master.
My mind is His, to expand, to explore, to know as only he can. I have no secrets from Him...for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being more perfectly His. Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself...and I do not want walls. His lessons are not always ones I would seek on my own, but they are lessons He has decided I need, and so I learn from Him. My soul is His, as bare to His touch as ever my skin could be when I kneel naked at His feet. Never a moment goes by when I do not feel His presence, be He miles away or standing over me. If I were to ever displease Him, His displeasure would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any lashes could be. The anguish of my soul that I feel when I disappoint Him is harder to bear than the physical anguish I feel when His belt caresses me with fire.
I spend my days knowing that the energy and thought He puts into our relationship is as much for my benefit as for His, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that W/we do together. His part is much harder than mine, and I know this and am grateful that He cares enough about me to spend His time and energy so freely on me. I have the easier job: to feel, to experience, to let myself go and abandon everything to Him. I am His pleasure and His RESPONSIBILITY, and He takes both seriously. I am a submissive woman. I am proud to call myself that. my submission is a gift that I do not give lightly, and can only be given to One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold. Only to He who has that strength will I give myself fully, because I am strong and proud.
I am a submissive woman. always on my knees
All MEN are MALES
All MALES are not MEN.
In absolute monarchy, any leader can be a fool,
but in absolute democracy, any fool can be a leader.
My modification of an old song
Cute little slave girl Browsing through the profiles Detecting all the fake doms and............. Bopping them on the head.
What you BELIEVE IS your REALITY
Control/TPE is a double edged sword.
You need compassion to wield it,
strength to control it,
and love to guide your hand.
Master C original
Never make someone the
Central Priority of your life
When you are only an
Option to them
The constant readiness of a slave for
her master's bidding...
naked...
body open...
bearing the marks of his attention...
eyes downcast...
quivering for the first touch or
command...
kissing the whip in his hand...
desiring both his caress and his
punishment.
People what you sow you reap What goes around comes around with interest God teach how to forgive, teach me to live, give me the strength to try. No more memories, no more silent tears, no more gazing across the wasted years. Help me say goodbye, and to live and try again. Help to see true beauty not in the face or the body but in the light and love of the heart--- Amen.
With the privileges comes responsibilities With the acceptance of a woman’s power Comes responsibility for her.
Not only am I amazed by the doms who do not know or care to know the difference.
I am more amazed by the subs/slaves who, living in a rosy fantasy world spin explanations of indefensible, abusive, parasitic, misogynistic behaviors by DOMS. They accept ridiculous explanation stories because emotionally the alternative, I guess are too painful to face. I see sub/slave accepting the disappearance and no contact of their doms, because they are off saving the world at NASA or great international business deal, or great international banking merger. It truly defies logic and can only at times be viewed as a form of mild psychosis, a break with reality.
How many times will man lie to you, abuse, betray you and you get up and take some more.
I much better respect and would trust a sub/slave who told herself the truth, cried and mourned over her loss, than someone who denies reality and is still swooning over a dom of their own fertile imagination.
Usually if it looks like BS, smells like BS, you probably should not taste it to see if it is in face BS because it is BS. Remember if it looks lke a rabbit, hops like a rabbit, has fur like a rabbit, then it is a rabbit. Love yourself enough to heed these words
“Defeat isn't bitter if you don't swallow it”
So do not despair history is replete with victories and success that came after many failures.
So if you are deeply wounded so wounded, you say “I will never trust again” GET UP AND TRY AGAIN
So if you have been lied to for the last time and you say “I will never believe again” GET UP AND TRY AGAIN
So if you are so broken , and they say “you will never worth anything again” GET UP AND TRY AGAIN
You can only be defeated if you swallow the lies, the hate and abuse some loser brought into your life.
Rather throw out a bad experience like the bad emotional garbage it is and move on
"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough." "It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust."
Master C
“We swallow greedily at
ONE GULP a LIE which flatters us
But only sip drop by
drop, a truth which is bitter to us””
Diderot
I hear and see so much online talk about the lack of integrity Of both masters and slaves, dominant and submissives Expressing with great angst, great pain and regret At the death of the dream birthed at the passionate start of the relationship.
People rarely change and the elements that attracted you Are most likely what you are struggling with now. Because WE CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE. PEOPLE CAN ONLY CHANGE THEMSELVES
Men get in trouble primarily from making egocentric decision If you call yourself lord J and she says you are the creator and you start to believe this, you are making a egocentric. If you see a swimsuit model, 30 years younger than you And you believe she wants nothing from you but your love you are being egocentric.
Women get in trouble primarily from not trusting their instincts. If you have to always convince yourself that your partner is not lying then he/she is lying, trust you instincts.
“People can be induced to swallow anything,
provide it is sufficiently seasoned with praise” Moliere
“The naked TRUTH is always better than
the best dressed lie”
THE WEDDING TEST
I was a
very happy man. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been dating
for over a year, and so we decided to get
married. There was only one
little thing bothering me...It was her
beautiful younger sister.
My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two,
wore very tight miniskirts,
and generally was bra-less. She would
regularly bend down when she was
near me, and I always got more than a nice
view. It had to be
deliberate. Because she never did it when she
was near anyone else.
One day her "little" sister called
and asked me to come over to check
the wedding invitations. She was alone when I
arrived, and she whispered
to me that she had feelings and desires for me
that she couldn't
overcome. She told me that she wanted me just
once before I got married
and committed my life to her sister.
Well, I was in total shock, and couldn't say a
word.
She said, "I'm going upstairs to my
bedroom, and if you want one last
wild fling, just come up and get me."
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched
her go up the stairs. I
stood there for a moment, then turned and made
a beeline straight to the
front door. I opened the door, and headed
straight towards my car.
Lo and behold, my entire future family was
standing outside, all clapping!
With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law
hugged me and said, "We are
very happy that you have passed our little
test. We couldn't ask for a
better man for our daughter. Welcome to the
family."
And the moral of this story is:
Always keep your condoms in your car.
So you think you're mind's made up
Cause he sold you a bill of goods
Now you think he is everything
And to fall for his lines,yes you would
His standard of living
His social rating
Girl there's nothing he can't afford
He made you think I ain't it
But when it's love, I can give you more
Chorus:
He won't love you
He can't love you
He'll never love you baby like I do
He won't love you
He can't love you baby
He'll never love you baby like I do
Like I do.
Like I do.
Diamond rings excite you
Expensive furs warm you through and through
But all these put together can never thrill you as much as I do
Now he can make you a movie star
Put your name up in lights
But these things do no good
When you need good loving
Chorus:
He won't love you
He can't love you
He'll never love you baby like I do
He won't love you
He can't love you baby
He'll never love you baby like I do
Like I do.
Like I do.
Social rating ain't nothing baby
I can promise you love and with help from above I'll make you happy girl
Buy you diamond rings
Give you pretty things
He'll never love you baby like I do.
Social rating ain't nothing if you can't get good loving
Don't let him blow your mind with his fast talking lines
He'll never love you like I do.
Like I do.
Like I do.
The Spinners Jerry Butler
Submissive or slave:
All have one basic human need for love and significance.
Love Languages(The way one receives or perceives love)…..
Words of affirmation and praise…
Acts of service or helps
Meaningful gifts with no strings
Exclusive Quality time
Physical Touch and affection…..
Absence of any expression above starves a relationship of nescessary dynamic.
truly believe that:
When we encounter people lacking in so many ways
That they are so..so..so far from being right....
They are not even close to wrong...lol
They just make no sense, plain crazy...
(quickly now...run away from them!!!!)
Peace is not the abscence of conflict
. . . .
Rather It is a state of mind
I truly believe that:
The way we love God the most
Can be measured by the way…..
We treat those around us or…
Those that are powerless before us
(Corné Bekker, paraphrased)
The Art of Letting Go is to.......
Forgive and Realize That
You have your WHOLE life to live.
Life is loving somebody who desires/values your love!!!!!
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Mediations
Joy is Love’s Strength
Peace is Love’s Serenity
Long-Suffering is Love’s conduct
Goodness is Love’s character
Faith is love’s humility
Temperance is Loves Victory
Peace
Master C.
ILLUSION OF A PAPER SHIELD( Called a slave Contract)
Glenn Marcus a sadist was accused by an ex slave of holding her against her will, torture, forced labor and ancillary behaviors associated with the lifestyle. Long and short of it, convicted of forced labor and another charge, acquitted of obscenity (web-related), defense submitted contracts, corroboration of consent, etc. The Marcus case sets precedence and provides ample proof and that the courts and juries will uphold statute, that you can neither consent to assault (BDSM, S&M) nor contractually relinquish constitutionally protected rights and privileges. A contract represents the meeting of the minds of the involved parties as set forth in the conractural language, holding TWO or more parties to obligations as well as privileges). So unless the contract spells out and an exchange of monies goods and/or services that are not by nature, otherwise prohibited, you are still legally exposed to being charged, with violating laws on the books. Contracts between Master and Slave that provides clear vision of their future and nature of relationship has its purpose, communicating intent. its presence in a court of law is irrelevant, and provides a Master NO protection.
Master C.
I was asked to make it in everyday language...well ok. You cannot sign or enforce a contract that gives some the ok to do something the law says is illegal. Your slave can always call the cops on you, and have you arrested no matter what contracts you have. Peace
A mother gave counsel to her daughter going through some really hard times.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
This Tome was to prevent Identity theft. Credit card bills always tells what hotel you stayed in.
In this lifestyle there is often cause to use a hotel/motel. Here is what's on that plastic key! MOTEL KEY CARD
Ever wonder what is on your magnetic key card?
Answer:
a Customer's name
b. Customer's partial home address
c. Hotel room number
d. Check-in date and out dates
e. Customer's credit card number and expiration date!
Do not leave your card the info stays on it until overwritten by the next customer. Take plastic cards with you and shred at home.
I read this and it so reflects my heart: "respect the woman, desire and use the slut, cherish the little girl, and then You will have the mind, the heart and the soul of a woman a true gift from God.
A THREE MINUTE MANAGEMENT COURSE
Lesson One
An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing. A small rabbit
saw the eagle and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing"?
The eagle answered, "Sure, why not". So, the rabbit sat on the ground
below the eagle and rested. All of the sudd en, a fox appeared, jumped
on the rabbit and ate it.
Management Lesson
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high
up.
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Lesson Two
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to
the top of that tree", sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the
energy".
"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull,
"They 're packed with nutrients".
The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him
enough strength to reach the low est branch of the tree. The next day,
after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally
after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the
tree. He was promptly spotted by a farmer who shot him out of the tree.
Management Lesson
Bullshit might help get you to the top, but it won' t keep you there.
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Lesson Three
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, the bird
froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying
there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird
lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was.
The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy
and soon began singing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing
and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat dis covered the
bird under the pile of cow dung and promptly dug him out and ate him.
Management Lesson
(1) Not everyone who craps on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of crap is your friend.
(3) And when you're in deep crap, it's best to keep your mouth shut!
This ends your three minute management course!
Here is a short allegorical story to understand the Pain and Gain Principle....I found it quite simple but yet very effective... I trust this will help us in the lifestyle understand and overcome pain in our lives.
Story – Become a Lake.....Be the Lake
The old Master looked on his student with concern over his inability to forgive and get past a betrayal. The old Master instructed the unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it. "How does it taste?" the Master asked. "Terrible," replied the boy.
The Master then asked the young man to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and when the guy swirled his handful of salt into the lake, the old man said, "Now drink the water from the lake."
As the lake water dripped down the young man's chin, the Master asked, "How does it taste?" "Good!" remarked the boy. "Do you taste the salt?" asked the Master. "No," said the young man.
The Master sat beside this troubled young man, took his hands, and said," The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains the same, exactly the same. But the amount we taste the 'pain' depends on the container we put it into. How much of our life we use to put the pain in context
So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of perspective.....
What is required is to change our paradigm and make a shift in our focus. Too often we are more focused only on the pain, and miss out on the gain and lessons the pain brings.
Stop being a glass. Become a lake! Failure is not permanent, pain of failure can be overcome....unless we give up, lose heart, lose hope and stop trying, stop living.
Let us sit down and make a List of all our Pains, our salt. Also, let us analyze the containers we have been using and how today we can make a shift and gain from it.
"The greatest aim of Education is not Knowledge but knowledge in ACTION"
Live your life intentionally...Today & Tomorrow.......
Master C.
If I never met you, I wouldn't like you.
If I didn't like you, I wouldn't love you. If I didn't love you, I wouldn't miss you. But I did, I do, and I will
Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more but those giving more.
Being happy does'nt mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look behind the irraitation and imperfections.
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...Robert Heinlein
"Such is the irresistible nature of truth that all it asks, and all it wants, is the liberty of appearing." ~ Frederick Douglass
What I have found out…from life experience
In life we all have needs; Physiological needs, Need for Physical and Emotional Security, Need for love and nurturing, Need for Social acceptance in the group, Affirmation of Ego’s sense of significance and self-esteem and finally self-actualization self-fulfillment of core needs from Id(our inner child).
So we all have desire for significance and love, but trust is everything. It is the foundation on which love can be sustained and grow.
The communication of significance is expressed differently for a Dominant as compared to a submissive personality.
This desire for significance is shared in varying degree of fear ameliorated by the
level of trust existent in the relationship. Truth sometimes hurts but if there is trust, the truth can always be lovingly shared.
There is in Proverbs a saying
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful''
Remember your messages to yourself, “your self speak” because the "The soul sets its own horizon...".. When you cry to a friend 'You are robbing me of my illusions!', you are just being helped to see the truth. So let us love with our words
“When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise” (Prov 10:19). At other times, it will be necessary to say the words
in love to the one who has offended, even if the words bring confrontation.
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy”
(Prov 27:6). In any case, the question that governs our behavior is not,
“What do I want to do?,” but “What would love have me do?”
My enemies come with laughter and poke fun at the tender places of my heart.
when I recoil in pain, they say, I'm just playing. and I am convinced.....for a while. But then I tell myself the truth.
There is a colloquialism, a folk wisdom that sub/slaves should be mindful of when entering this lifestyle.
“Be careful what you pray for because you just might get it.”
I smile at some of the responses I have received and the discussions I have had. yes I am real, and no i am not new to the lifestyle. You can be a dominant personality without having a need to push down and crush a slave. I rather wish to guide and grow my slave to be the best she can be, her service to me motivated by respect and love.
