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I am a Dominant White Male with over 20 years in the D/s lifestyle.
Also Known As: LE
I am 5'10" Tall.
I weigh 145 lbs.
I have Short Brown Hair.
I have Steel Blue Eyes.
I have a Mustache and Goatee
I have 4 Tattoos and No Piercings
I Smoke Cigarettes and do not Dring Alcohol
I do not do any Drugs, not even over the counter meds.
I am in good Physical health and Disease Free
I have a great deal of Drive and Stamina.
I do have limits and they include te following:
Anything illegal under the laws of the United States
Scat
Anything that by design brings blood
serious harm including but not limited to; broken bones, cutting, needles, knife play, gun play. (I know that knife and gun play do not have to cause harm in a sexual play scene, but I do not take chances with the health and safety of those I am with
or anything with animals.
I am not into, nor wil I put up with any games or bull****
If I suspect that you are out to play them then I will not respond after I suspect it other than to say goodbye.
If you are bisexual it is a plus but not a requirement.
I seek a girl that is younger than Me and in relatively good shape.
Race is not an issue.
Now if you are a sub or slave or are curious about My lifestyle then feel free to contact Me.
Once you reply I have no problems making contact with you or allowing you to contact Me by phone or any online messaging system so that we can discuss the possibilities.
I am real and have a cam to prove it, but just because I have a cam does not mean it is for play. it is primarily for verification of identity. |
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It has occured to Me after watching the rooms and I mean really watching the rooms... Do you know what I have seen?
girls "climbing up to the rafters" News Flash for you climbing girls!!!!
Rafters hold up a roof and the roof is attached to the Rafters.... so you are not climbing anywhere. and you would not do it in real life so why not get real with yourself and everyone else. Get Real!!!
people "flying" around the rooms. again get real, you may think you are a pixie or a bird or something like that and may even play those roles in a scene, but do not say you are doing something that you can not actually do... Get Real!!!
girls that disregard the most basic of good manners and behaviour towards Dominants, EVEN thier own Dominant. yeah girl, try that in real life with a REAL Dominant and then tell Me how it works out for you.... Get Real!!!
Dominants letting their girls/boys, do anything they please. if they do correct they do so like they are afraid the girl/boy will leave and never come back... if she/he does this, then she/he was never Yours to begin with, Get a BackBone... Get Real!!!!
Look, I have been in this lifestyle for 24 years real life and it was not so long ago that you could go onlne to a Lifestyle site and chat with those that KNEW what it was all about and knew that all knew thier place. NOT ANYMORE!!!!
they are full of those that simply want to play fantasy games and ongoing roleplay... nothing wrong with this but damnit, be fucking honest about it! say it up front! put it on your profile! EVERYONE PREACHES HONESTY an NO LIES an most I have seen in the rooms are doing exactly that do not get Me wrong, there are many good and real Lifestylers/kinksters/BDSMers here and I am quite sure all of them are as fed up with the ongoing players and gamers that want to claim something that is not true about themself and then go on to deceive everyone else so that they get what they want not even thinking that what they want might be even better if they were honest as were everyone else. then those loking for FUN could find FUN with someone else looking for FUN, and those seeking something real can find something real with someone else looking for something real.
OHHHHH I forgot, those out to get what they want and fuck the world as long as they get it are going to flame Me and tell Me to go fuck off and stop crying. well I am not crying I m simply stating the truth and those that are real and see what I do will applaud what I am saying.
And the DRAMA I see in the rooms is blown way out of proportion, look if you want DRAMA, then you have no place in the lifestyle and all you are doing is showing that you are one of those out to play games. Those that are REAL in the lifestyle that have been hurt are grown enough to know that all they can do is learn from it and go on, if they were cheated on, then the partner can not be trusted and they leave the relationship, cut and dry. if they are lied to... same thing, no trust? no relationship!
So to repeat to EVERYONE!! GET REAL!!!.
Or Go HOME and tell your spouse or significant other what you want in the bedroom and learn together and find your happiness.
Bob King AKA Lord Eumann AKA LE |
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I found a blog on the subject of what it is to be a slave which I reproduce here titled "So you want to be a slave?" which to my mind explains what a slave should concider when entering a 24/7 Master/Slave relationship very well. and if you are thinking about a 2/7 relationship with Me you should really understand this as this is what defines My ideals of a 24/7 Master slave relationship.
I decided to write this article because I have seen so many submissives come into the lifestyle expecting everything to be dream-like and perfect. I don't wish to ruin anyone's dreams, or turn them from the activity, but what I wish to do is to explain how things really are. Being a slave can be, and is for me, a wonderful life. It's everything I wanted it to be. It is also more than I ever expected, and had someone explained the realities to me prior to my decision, it would have made my transition so much easier. For the purpose of this article, I am addressing issues related to being a 24/7 slave. These comments are from my viewpoint, which is that of a female slave with a male Master. By no means do I wish to exclude Domme's or male slaves. For them, I cannot comment from personal experience. This is just my view from a real-time experience. First, there are a few things you need to discover for and about yourself. Do you wish to be in this type relationship 24/7? Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes. Maybe you want to role-play at only during certain times. There are many ways this activity can be done, but you have to figure out what is right for you. Second, you need to learn to be honest with yourself. Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a "maybe". Search inside yourself for what you really want, and when you find it, be honest to anyone you talk to. Don't agree to something long-term that you know you will not be able accomplish. Ask yourself some hard questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate so you can base your decisions on reality, and not someone else's dreams of how it should be. Are you prepared to surrender 100% control of your life to someone else? 24/7 slaves do this. Role-playing would mean entering into this relationship only for the time agreed upon that the Master would have the total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal. Do you enjoy country music? Maybe you love Rock and Roll. Consider this. The Master whose collar you will eventually wear may only like classical or another type of music that you don't enjoy. Are you prepared to give up those selections and only listen to His music? This type sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy. For myself, I love old love songs of any type, and my Master is into Hard Rock. Because of His preferences, I rarely get to listen to my songs. But, when I am a good girl, at times, He does permit me to listen to my choice of music, as long as I get my assigned tasks and chores done. Note, I said, "permitted to". Something as simple as listening to the radio is a reward for me. It is not a given that you will be permitted to enjoy even this little pleasure whenever you wish. These limitations can apply to many areas of your life such as TV, choices of food or friends, just about anywhere anything! Is there a certain style of clothes you love? Certain colours and scents you wouldn't be caught without? If your Master doesn't approve of them, you may be wearing a totally different style with colours you never would have dreamed of. He may lay your clothes out for you every morning. Are you prepared to abide happily by His choices? If He asked you to wear something very skimpy to someplace simple like the grocery store, could you do this without hesitation? I am lucky in the fact that my Master lets me chose my own clothes most of the time. But at anytime, should He decide that He wants me to wear something else, I am to change immediately. Trust me, He does exercise this right. I have learned to always ask Him what He would like me to wear if we are going someplace special. Are you prepared to change your hairstyle, length, or color to please your Master? All of these will belong to Him, once you accept your collar, as will everything else that once belonged to you. You will no longer own anything. From the time you take His collar, everything will be His. It will no longer be "your" car or "your" clothes, but "His", on loan to you as He sees fit. If He should so choose, you will not be permitted to wear clothes at all. This will be HIS choice, not yours. Remember, you will have given up all rights to make these choices for yourself. You have a favourite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide whether you sit on furniture or on the floor. He will have the say if you are to cross your legs, or sit with them spread wide-open. You will have to ask permission to even climb into bed, or sit on a chair. Most slaves are allowed a cushion on the floor that they do not need permission to sit upon, but very little else. You will even need permission to eat at the table with your Master. It's been a long hard day at work. You get home and want nothing more than to relax in a tub and go to bed early. Well, you won't be able to. Being tired, ill, or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks. You are still required to do them: prepare His meal, and go to bed when HE tells you to. Retiring for bed usually occurs at a set time, even if you are not ready to go. There will not be an "I am too tired" or "I don't feel well": nothing of the kind. Unless your Master has excused you from your tasks and chores, you will remain responsible for making sure His needs and wants are filled: no matter what. It is your job to inform your Master of your physical health status. One of your main jobs will be to take care of and protect His possessions. You being are the most prized one He owns. As long as you let your Master know how you are feeling, He will make sure that your tasks will be appropriate to your capabilities. Many come into this lifestyle looking to be used sexually, to service their Master at His whim. They never consider other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be of service to your Master, and not to be serviced for yourself. However, being readily available to Him, at ALL times, is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" doesn't work in a D/s relationship. In order to provide Him pleasure, you must also express to Him the pleasure of the moment for you as well. NEVER make your Master feel this is a chore to you: something you would rather not do, but will only because you have to. If your Master tells you to do something, it will not be up to you to question Him. You will be required to respond with no questions asked. At a later time (if this is permitted in your relationship), you may ask Him for permission to speak on an equal level. If He gives permission, this will be your opportunity to ask your questions. However, it is important to ask in a way so as not to question His authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity. Do you feel being a slave is to be coerced: forced into servitude? Do you think you couldn't do this unless you were? Then think again. Slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will. This is not the day of forced slavery; it is a matter of choice. YOURS! You are the one who will decide to give over your power to your Master. You will be doing this, not because you are forced to obey, but because you need to. Yes, during the course of your relationship there will be times you will be forced to do something, but it will never be something that goes against who you are. Your Master may feel obeying this command will help you to grow into the best person you can be, or will help you break out of an inhibition you have. How is your temper? Are you quick to fly off-of-the-handle when you are upset? On the other hand, are you laid back, accepting anything and everything, and then go off to sulk because your feelings were hurt? A Master does not wish to have a doormat for a slave nor does He desire to be told how things should be. Learning when and how to say things will become very important in your relationship. If you do not tell your Master when something is bothering you, then you have no right whatsoever to become upset. However wonderful and omnipotent He may seem, He is not a mind reader: unless you tell Him, He won't know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell Him. Your self-discipline is very important in this relationship. Do you tend to put things off until the last possible moment? You won't be able to do this when you are owned. There will be chores and tasks your Master will assign that He expects to be done in a timely fashion set by Him, not by you. Your Master's wants and needs will be put before your own. Self-discipline is similar to self-control. Your ability to follow complete assignments made by your Master will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your own actions well enough to be able to remain within the boundaries set for you by Him. If He says you can't do something, simply, you can't. Doing it anyway and not telling Him doesn't make it right. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, what you don't know CAN hurt you, as well as the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this type relationship. As to wants and needs of your own: do you know the difference between the two? If not, I strongly recommend you figure them out before entering into servitude. Sometimes the two are hard to distinguish, but it will become important that you do so. Your Master will ensure all your "needs" are taken care of, but the "wants" will be His to allow or not, as He sees fit. Needs are the necessities of life that are required in order for us to remain mentally and physically healthy. They allow us to grow emotionally and spiritually. If you can survive without something, then it is a want. Wants are usually given as a reward for good behavior. In order to be a slave, there will be many things you have to learn to accept within yourself and adapt to. Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your Masters pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner He should desire. In order to do this, you will have to learn your Master well. Find out what pleases and displeases Him. By this, I do not mean just sexually. You will learn that sex is but a small part of your relationship. Learn to anticipate His every need and desire without being pushy. His needs and desires will encompass intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to Him. Remember - physical does not equal sexual. Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favorite foods, textures, clothing, and colors as examples. It will be your job to make sure His physical pleasures are met in everyway. Think of the five senses, and make His environment pleasing to all of them. Never forget - the most pleasing thing in His environment should be you. As His slave, it will be up to you to figure out what pleases your Master. He should not have to ask constantly for the basic things - you should have learned them. If His glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure not your own. Just because He does not notice and praise you doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. Look at His smile. Is He comfortable? If He looks happy and content, then you have done well, and should bask in His content. Always remember that you do this for Him and not for your own satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy. As I said in the beginning of this article, I am not trying to scare you away from the world of D/s. My goal is to make sure that, when you enter our lifestyle, you do so with your eyes wide open, fully knowing what to expect. The road will not be an easy one. You will have to re-learn much of what you once took for granted: things you just did without thinking, like simply sitting in a chair. These are habits we never even think about anymore. That is, until we find a Master. Everything else you learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one where you are taken care of. Most decisions are out of your hands and in those of your Masters. But, many choices will still be left up to you. Most Masters want a slave who is smart, has a sense of humor, and a will of their own. There is no pleasure in owning a doormat who just sits or is only walked upon. He will become bored very fast. Being yourself is the best advice I was given, and I have found this to be absolutely true for me. You will find being a slave everything you dreamed of and so much more if you enter this life knowing more of what to expect. If you are meant to be in the lifestyle, you will find that, where you were once only walked through life, you will be gliding on air. Parts of you that never were complete will then become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside. It is my hope that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering this lifestyle. Never forget that, one of the most important requirements for existing in this lifestyle is honesty. Honesty with yourself first. However, you will find that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will find yourself at peace and able to enter your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept your Masters collar, you give up all your rights. Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours. Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive. You give up all rights in your life. Slave isn't just a word; it's a way of life, a defined action. Be well, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I have come to love being in it. |
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Defining Absolute and Total Power Exchange
By Master Eso © 2004, 2005
As there are many different opinions and perceptions, and the subject as to what actually defines Absolute and Total Power Exchange or Absolute Slavery, comes up frequently, I will try to define it here, as good as I can using of course my own dreaded common sense, perceptions and experiences.
An absolute Master/slave commitment is one in which the Master holds the absolute and total power over his slave. The agreement between both parties must be a consensual one, in which the slave consented to give her Master all of her personal power, when she accepted her Masters collar. Once the slave has consented to give her Master all of her power, absolutely, total and unconditional, then no further consent is required from there on in, as the Master now holds the absolute power and responsibility over his slave.
A slave has no rights, other then the privileges granted to her by her Master. A slave has no limits other then the boundaries set for her, by her Master. A slave is her Masters property. A Master may do with his slave as he alone sees fit. Absolute and total means 100% and that entails absolute and total submission, obedience and unconditional surrender on the slaves part. A slave cannot release herself from her Masters collar and service, without the explicit agreement and approval of her Master. A slaves only purpose it to serve and please her Master, as/or defined by each individual Master.
As a slave is her Master's property, a Master is completely responsible for his slave's behavior, action and deed, care and safety, health and wellbeing - physically and mentally, and ultimately her life in accordance with God's Law, and/or his own morals, values, standards, ethics and principles.
Any Dominant/submissive commitments which are not Absolute and Total, or in other words are less then 100 %, simply are not APE/TPE, not consensual slavery, but something else.
An Absolute Master and slave relationship or Absolute and Total Power Exchange however is not role play, a past time or a weekend hobby. It is a ultimately binding commitment.
Neither sadomasochism, nor physical or corporal punishment, nor bondage or any other commonly associated activity with BDSM is a requirement of Absolute and Total Power Exchange, except Discipline and Dominance and submission. In fact, not even sex or romantic love or even any kind of love as some will argue, is a requirement of APE/TPE.
The only real requirement for an APE/TPE is absolute commitment along with the usual requirements so often mentioned, such as absolute submission, obedience and unconditional surrender.
Sadomasochism, Sex, or what is commonly understood as scening or play, is usually, even in those APE/TPE commitments that do incorporate these elements, only a small, but not unimportant part of an Absolute and Total Power Exchange commitment.
Naturally, the exact arrangement and composition of an APE/TPE commitment is as usual depending on the individual Master, his interests, needs and wants as well as influences such as time, resources, energy and daily life.
Unfortunately, there are also those who for whatever reason, do not have the slightest intention of Absolute and Total Power Exchange or of ever submitting, obeying, and surrendering unconditional and absolutely, and some even profess themselves to be “teachers” and “mentors”, who now “redefine” Absolute and Total Power Exchange, as simply “doing the best one can or want”, so APE/TPE will fit into their role play relationships. This however is not Absolute and Total Power Exchange. It is simply something else.
That naturally leaves us with the question, when is a APE/TPE commitment really absolute and total or 100%, in a world in which we live, that is actually and spiritually relative and not absolute.
I am afraid the only way to really know if the commitment is absolute and total, is after the fact, in other word after the relationship has ended, for whatever reasons, like release, dissolution or death.
That would leave us only with the mindset of an individual and the depth and intention of his/her commitment. An individual has to belief beyond the shadow of a doubt that they are absolutely and totally committed.
But as absolute and total commitment seldom happens over night, an individuals intention, mindset, determination and goal to work towards Absolute and Total Power Exchange, must then also be a criteria of determining whether one is in an APE/TPE commitment or relationship or not.
I think, Absolute and Total Power Exchange, Absolute Slavery, Consensual Slavery and Absolute Power Transfer, are virtually identical in nature. Although some might argue that it is not really a Power Exchange, but a Power Transfer, I will argue that it is indeed an exchange.
The slave voluntarily gives all her personal power and ultimately her responsibilities to her Master, who in turn voluntarily accepts what is given to him and takes on the power over and the complete responsibility for his slave, and in turn gives his slave “no power” and “no responsibility”. To me this is a classic exchange, as opposed to a transfer.
Just imagine a slave transferring all of her power and responsibility to her “vanilla” partner, who is not prepared or willing to accept that power and responsibility. A chaos would result from this, and the slave ultimately would not be able to survive, unless the slaves partner, would agree to accept that power and in turn allows or gives the slave “no power” and “no responsibility”.
Of course, I could be wrong in my belief that it is indeed an exchange. However, I do not see that it actually matters in the end, as long as the commitment is based on “absolute”, “total”, and 100%.
Anyone wishing to use this article on their site or mailing list may do so as long as the article remains unchanged and my name and email address remain on them. Giving credit where it belongs. MasterEso@esodom.com |
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