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	Hi! I'm a sub, no longer that new to this lifestyle (figured based on a few messages that it's time to update this). My goal is to eventually have a regular LT relationship, but not without the D/s aspect. I have realized that is something I can't live without. I want the man to be in control, especially in the bedroom and I want to please him more than anything else. I want to be trained to be all that he wants, to be punished and led with a firm hand, but also cherished. :)

So I have decided to take a break. It's been fun and all, but also a let down to a certain extent. Not so much from others, but from my own expctations.

I do want to leave the Doms out there with a couple recommendations. A number of Doms have told me that they are having problems meeting anyone worth while to have a relationship with that is D/s but also has the potential to extend into an intimate LTR.

The thing is, don't expect them to submit to you immediately if you want anything lasting and worthwhile. And don't forget that they are also women (not just subs) and you need to connect with them emotionally if that's what you are also looking for. I don't think many quality women are going to appreciate just being ordered around and treated like you don't give a shit about them from day 1. But, maybe I'm wrong and maybe that's why I was not successful on here.

Someone told me that most doms aren't very good at understanding subs - they're good at dominating them and ordering them about, not at getting inside their minds and understanding their feelings. I have seen this and I suggest taking some time to give this a try. Good luck all with your searches!

Today is one of those days that I'm tired of waiting for that 'perfect for me' Dom to pop into my life. Actually, 3 months ago I would have said "perfect for me" man. I realize I think I may have added another big challenge to the dating scene by adding this requirement. But, good things come to those who wait right?

Well, now that I've been on here for a few weeks, I think it's time to reflect back. I have met/chatted with some interesting people, some I'd rather not chat with again, others that were interesting but needed to pass and some that I look forward to more contact with.

I admit that I thought I'd mostly meet "freaks" on here and I have been pleasantly surprised. I've met some of the most "normal", great people on here. I've met a lot more "freaks" on other vanilla sites like POF.

Thank you to those who have put the effort in and shared a little bit, or a lot of yourselves with me. I love hearing people's stories and having them share advise that they think a "newbie" like me needs. I am grateful.

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