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Considering getting my septum pierced... thoughts?

Just took the love language quiz ( http://www.5lovelanguages.com )... 

My score: 

11 Physical Touch

8 Words of Affirmation
6 Quality Time
1 Receiving Gifts
4 Acts of Service

This girl is going to see TOOL next month.  So excited!!!

A remake on a classic, tonight.... 

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Heart of Master
Taken from a talk given by Master Steve to OCLA. Used with permission.

A Master ...
... is an individual born with a spiritual sense of presence and connectedness. No one can make an individual a Master except that individual his or herself — in their own growth process, becoming centered and growing into a state of connectedness in the universe. A Master is an individual who feels incomplete without the love and service of an individual with heart of slave.

A Master may or may not be involved with SM. A Master has a "special connectedness" in the journey of spirit that they allow the slave’s heart to "share". Many Masters do this sharing without knowledge and direction, without purpose or goal, and sadly — sometimes without trust in their own intuitive spiritual nature.

It is also easy to confuse the sexual and spiritual aspects of Mastery — though these are closely related and overlap in the most intricate manner. A Master without this connectedness can do best by loving and nurturing the heart of slave, but provides at best a poor signpost of direction.

SM activities can be one tool to allow a slave to completely let go of any limits or blocks in becoming connected with their heart of slave. SM without love inhibits the spiritual growth of the heart of slave — and is simply brutality. Pain without direction becomes a "lost journey" for the heart of slave.

The most advanced and spiritually connected man of Mastery whom We have ever met is a man named SlaveMaster. He has developed his training process to a rare and exceptional quality. We strongly encourage any unattached man who has heart of slave to consider applying to him for direction and training. His articles have appeared in The Leather Journal and other magazines, and his website is www.bornslaves.com.

HEART OF A SLAVE

A slave is an individual born with a slave spirit. No one can make an individual have this spirit; nothing can be done to create this state in an individual's being. No one trying hard or wishing for this sense of spirit can develop it within themselves and no Master can cause it to occur.

A slave is an extraordinary human being who is born with this slave spirit - as much as they are born to breathe, or have gifted talents like design or music. A slave is extraordinary, rare and most often confused until they discover their slave spirit heart. Most slave’s wander through life feeling unfulfilled - as if they have a "dark hole" in their spirit - a hole that can be temporarily filled with an abundance of sex, work, addictive behavior or other whole-life-consuming factors.

Slaves often have a sense of the spiritual (some become clergy), but feel this sense of spiritual awareness to be disconnected from their desire for a Mastery/slavery relationship. A slave has a right to feel joy and pride in their slavery and in service to a Master. Slave is often confused seeing Dominance as Mastery; SM as completion; or fetish focus as the fulfillment of this "dark hole" in their spirit. Many can find enough fulfillments in these areas to develop a sense of wholeness (often a quiet longing exists - although for what, the slave doesn't know).

The heart of a slave can be actualized only when the spiritual journey occurs that connects this "dark hole" in the spirit to the whole spirit and then to the universe. It is a process of a painful and trusting leap of faith that causes this connectedness to occur - a truly spiritual journey. The heart of a slave can only be complete in service to a Master and it is within this service that the spiritual journey occurs. Slavery is not about a "hard dick or clit experience", although hard dicks and clits happen and are enjoyed. Slavery is the completion of a spirit in search of "connectedness" in the universe.

Author: Master Steve of Butchmann's abt 1993.

Just got home from SWLC... what a weekend.

“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them” 
― Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island

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Ah, Satie... j'adore

A Slave's Prayer

Allow me the Serenity to serve Him in peace

Allow me the Love to show Him myself

Allow me the Tenderness to comfort Him

Allow me the Light to show us the way

Allow me the Wisdom to be an asset to Him

Let me be able to show Him each day my love of service to Him

Let me open myself up to completely belong to Him

Let me accept my punishments with grace

Let me learn to please Him beyond myself

Grant me the power to give myself to Him completely

Give me the strength to please us both

Permit me to love myself in loving Him

This haunts me tonight...

“The First Tenet of Mastery is to never, ever forget your slave is with you because she does not want control.  It is so easy to forget, but you must not let it happen.” “That is the essence of her decision to accept your collar and surrender control of her life to you.  It does not matter the degree of control in your relationship compared to others. That is not at all important. But she has offered you control and you have accepted that responsibility. Please use it.” “There will be a tendency over time, to drift away from this very core Tenet and the reason you are together.  Please never default power back to your slave by neglecting your responsibilities.  As a slave there is nothing more lonely and desperate than to feel neglect from your Master.   She does not want power.  It is yours.   Use it.” “Remember too, as the love deepens between you and your slave, it becomes more difficult to ensure structure and provide guidance. This love and dependency is beautiful and I know in my heart I serve well helping my Master, so he can depend on me.  Encourage that and please believe, it does not nullify in any way your control.  The style of mastery you develop will be compassionate and strong and not diminished by loving your slave.   You have control and she wants you to have it, every moment of every day.  Believe in her, do not forget what brought you together.” “As the vanilla pressures push inward on you both, it is difficult to live and maintain your structure as the days, months and years go by. Always remember, she made the decision to be with you because she does not want control, and trusts you to exercise this responsibility.  Make your decisions and do not fear the consequences.  She will understand and be grateful.”

“The second “Tenet of Mastery” is learning to handle your own errors without defaulting power back to your slave.” “This I am told is the most difficult of skills for a budding master to learn, and it takes years to truly master the art and techniques.  But, I believe it is worth learning.  From your slave’s perspective it is a critical skill.” “We know what happens when I am disobedient.  I am punished.  Being disobedient is not something I ever make a goal, or consciously do, but when I am, I look forward to my punishment.  It serves many wonderful purposes for me.  It cleanses, releases, re-teaches and provides the structure I need and yearn for Sir.  But, when my Master errs, then what happens? How he handles it affects me deeply and I am very sure it affects Master too.” “You will make mistakes, and how you handle these errors will largely define you as a dominant. I have heard some Masters snivel and say ‘Oh baby, I am so sorry, I will not do that again’ and then watch in pain as power flows back to his slave, something she does not want.  It is not the way to handle an error; and it is not something a slave ever wants to hear.” “You of course, will develop your own style as time goes on, and if I may be so bold to suggest a better way than the snivel-style.  What has always been effective because it touches my slave soul, is when Master cares enough to sit me down and explain his actions and say… ‘Pet, I made a mistake.  I understand the mistake made, cannot undo it and cannot promise it will never happen again.  But, what I can promise is it was not caused by malfeasance of my heart towards you.  If you expect a Superman-Master that will never err, then you have learned nothing I taught.  You are living in a fantasy world to think so.  I am human.  I love you and will continue to love you.  You are my treasure.  But while I understand and will be diligent in the future, this mistake in no way abrogates your responsibility as my slave. Do you understand?’ “By taking this, or a similar approach, he has told me what I already know, that he made a mistake. He is a man, a Master and accepts his responsibility.  That is all a slave asks for Sir.   We do not need an apology.  We understand when you locked the collar on, to accept your errors and humanity. You have acknowledged and explained, that is all we need.” “It is a huge relief deep in our souls to know you will not allow power to revert back to us just because you are human and erred.  We do not want that.  We want the power structure maintained.  That is the First Tenet again.  We want only to be your slave, understood as one, and appreciated as one.  That you have once again expressed how important we are, is icing on the cake.  It stirs my heart when Master does that.” “Sir, one last point; by taking this approach, you create a personal freedom to make the decisions we entrusted to you when offering ourselves.  We know you will make mistakes.  We do not like it, but we would in your shoes too, undoubtedly many more in fact.  Do not let fear of your errors paralyze your ability to decide.  Please be courageous.  Your slave trusts you are wise, that is why she knelt in the first place.”

“The third Tenet is very simple, perhaps the simplest of all really. “Just love women.” “Be honest and secure enough in yourself, to show you do.” “That is it, just love what we are and represent.   Not just the sex and our sexuality, but everything that makes us uniquely feminine.  Men and women are very different.  If you love us for our femininity, our love for crying at old movies, our love of flowers and our need to talk about feelings, then you are far ahead of the game and on the road to great mastery.  It must be genuine though.  It cannot be contrived.  Love us for who we are, show compassion and interest and if you enjoy our company, let us into your soul and heart.  We can offer so much joy to you.” “Misogynists have no place in the realm of mastery and responsible, serious slaves have built-in radar to detect latent misogyny.  Just love women.”

~ Devil In The Details I (Devil In The Details – The Art of Mastery – A Mentoring Trilogy). LT Morrison. Kindle Edition.