DaddyDan

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Female Submissive, 23, RESEDA CA SFV 818, California

Roads... Roads all lead somewhere. Even if the destination wasn't what you thought it would be, there is a destination. I've been on a road for a long time now. Its taken me years of choices and learning from my choices to find out what my destination was to be - or better yet, what I picture my destination being. I don't have much family left and those that are related to me by blood (with my sons as exceptions) aren't in my life. And there are only two of them. I've found that as the picture of my final destination developed more and more, it involved this lifestyle. It involved control. It involved teaching as well as learning. It involved love with expansion, not with limitations. A poly lifestyle, for me anyway, has nothing to do with having multiple partners in bed. That's a pleasant experience, but I cannot fathom being satisfied with that. It is not a sexual thing, and too many believe that that is all there is to it. It is a relationship between several, with love and care going between all. I wish I had all the answers. I don't. I do know that I try to learn from my errors - but that my goal never changes. The destination remains the same.

"Commitment without risk isn't commitment. It's a contract. It's knowing that things can go wrong that puts the meaning into a commitment." Scary, huh?

I am stealing this from someone's profile who borrowed it from someone else's profile, and I am stealing it for very similar reasons - "The key for me personally is knowing my Master is indulging in what he wants and not doing things because he thinks I want him to" It is a hard thing for me to keep this thought in mind because it is a difficult concept. Something I must teach myself and accept, because ultimately it can only strengthen my relationships. Beautiful thought, no?

Where is the bus going? Two people thinking they're on the wrong bus, can't get directions from them. One person is blindfolded and the other is facing the rear of the bus shouting out directions - not so sure they know where the bus is going either. Where is the bus going?

Limitations You see so many profiles listing all of the individuals limitations, or even Hard Limits. I can respect that they are of the mindset that they feel the need to get it out there that they won't do scat, children etc; could be that they are receiving emails with just those kinds of offers and they are trying to redirect any potential person away from wasting their time. One hopes that one wouldn't involve any who are not of the age of consent... not just because it's illegal, but that is what our lifestyle is all about: consent. One person's journal entry did a wonderful job of describing her views on limitations. I'm paraphrasing here, mind you, but she basically said that if you are with the 'One' you are to be with, there would be no need to have limits. Your One would guide the way, and you would find that as he/she led the way, your limits are stretched to new heights, yet were always yours to begin with. This would not cover casual play, obviously. That is an entirely different animal, as the word 'casual' should point out. Personally I've never been able to do casual play; no matter how sweet the offer seemed on the surface, without some sort of connection to the one I'm playing with, it just wouldn't work for me. That, and I find play to be highly stimulating - playing and going away without satisfaction seems far too much a tail wagging the dog scenario for me. When it comes down to it, I feel that a good dom/master/top teaches and leads their submissive/slave, and shows them doors that were within them that they never knew existed. It's up to the submissive/slave to open them Isn't that what consent is all about?

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