This directory does not include people who advertise escorting services. This has nothing to do with how we feel about what is undoubtedly important and essential work, it's because there are already several directories for people who offer escorting, a hybrid of escorting and (usually light) BDSM, sensual-only play, or some other type of adult service. This is a space for people who only practice BDSM.

This is in part because there are clients who are searching for a genuine Domina, classic Mistress, experienced Dominatrix, professional submissive, or otherwise serious BDSM practitioner. When we add other types of providers it dilutes the directory's effectiveness and creates challenges for our potential clients as they have to sift through many listings that are unrelated to their interests.

We understand that some people don't like this policy. Please don't be disrespectful and hostile about it. Just check out another directory that matches your target audience.

We all won't agree on what "serious", "traditional" or "classic" means but I need to have guidelines for this directory to have meaning and purpose. I hope we can all agree on some baseline definitions.

"Serious" is determined by your approach. Do you have a website with your own domain? Does it include the kind of information a client would look for and expect to find for someone she or he is considering to book? Do you come across as professional? If the answer is "no" to any of these questions then you will be perceived as less serious.

"Traditional" or "classic" is based on activities commonly understood to fall under "BDSM" and "kink". This includes bondage (B), discipline (D), power exchange (D/s) or top and bottom scenarios; sadomasochism (SM) and all the ways we express this; as well as things like training, punishment, fetish play, etc. A provider does not need to do all of these, of course, but the expectation is that the majority of what you offer falls under this umbrella.

BDSM as it is traditionally practiced does not include escorting or escort activities. This can include cuddling, kissing, fondling, body slides, GFE (girlfriend experience), or sex. "Sensual Domination" can also indicate escorting activities, so if this is your main service or you offer little else beyond this, then it's likely your request will be politely declined. Don't get me wrong, those things are hot, and many of us love them, but they are usually not included in the professional sessions of traditional players.

If you offer escort services "off the record" that is your business, but if it is "on the menu" then we're sorry it's a no.

I'm not. I'm policing this directory. You can practice whatever you want, however you want!

Absolutely. We welcome anyone regardless of their sex, gender, sexuality, ethnicity, color, religion, nationality, native language, body type, (dis)ability, or legal age.

No. As long as I can use a translator to read it, English is not required.

I can post an ad in any language you'd like.

Our listing types and the details of each can be found on the Get Listed page.

The types of listings and their cost is on the Get Listed page.

We have some electronic choices that anyone around the world can use. If for some reason that is not an option for you, you're always free to mail it to us.

You must meet a few of the professional criteria and place a link to us on your site in an easy to find location.

You need to offer traditional BDSM/kink services or goods in some capacity on a professional level. This means you have a certain level of seriousness and level of presentation.

You also must have your own website with a custom domain, such as BDSMProfessionals.com.

For Providers: Your site must be sufficiently developed to include information about you. This includes detail about what you provide*, from where you session, etc., as is standard for people who are a professional FemDom, Dominatrix, Mistress, Domina, Goddess, Disciplinarian, Ma'am, Master, Sir, and submissive. It also needs to be clear how to contact you for a session. (*If the laws in your jurisdiction prohibit this please indicate so when submitting your request.)

For Educators: Your site must be sufficient developed to include information about you as an educator. It should also include what classes or workshops you teach and from where you offer them.

For Dungeons: If you have a studio for rental, you must have a dedicated site or page on a related site (such as your pro Domme site) that clearly shows your facilities and pertinent information that someone would need to contact you to book.

For Shops: If you are a merchant, whether online or at a physical retail location, you must clearly show what BDSM/kink clothing and/or gear you have for sale, and where/how a person can buy it.

Requiring that providers have their own site and custom domain will drastically reduce the possibility of fraudulent listings. It's not to disenfranchise anyone. It's meant to protect both the pros and the clients. If your site seems suspicious you will placed in a waiting period of 6 months before you are eligible for listing.

Absolutely! I encourage it. For those who get listed before December 31, 2023, I will add you to three different places for the 10 USD/year listing fee. After that, it will be 10 USD for each additional listing.

A guideline for multiple listings is that you reliably session in that location. For example, you're primarily in San Diego but also session in Orange County, or you are in London but visit Dubai four times a year. Something that makes sense when you look at it from the perspective of a client who would like to book a session with you and want to know what they can expect.

If you tend to visit a country or city sporadically and unpredictably, then I recommend posting your visit as a tour. You can do this on our sister forum on FetLife, where there are stickies for touring providers. Of course, it's a good idea to post your tour info everywhere you can, but having a centrally-located and dynamic forum that is tied to this site is helpful as people may feel they can find out the info there more reliably...as long as everyone posts there, of course. (If this site does well in the next year, I'll add a place here for people to post their tour info, so no one has to go to FetLife to view it.)

If you are some combination of provider, studio rental, BDSM/kink clothing or gear craftsperson, or own a BDSM/kink store (online or retail), those can be listed as well.

Please submit a separate entry for each listing you would like. I ask this so that it is absolutely clear what names, locations, websites, and photos go with what listing.

Please complete the form on GET LISTED for each unique entry you'd like on the site.

For example, let's say you're a pro Domme who sessions out of two cities/town and also rents your dungeon...

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ENTRY 1:

Professional Name: Domina ABC

Role: Dominant

City: Poundtown, USA

Website: DominaABC.com

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ENTRY 2:

Professional Name: Domina ABC

Role: Dominant

City: Turdsville, USA

Website: DominaABC.com

ENTRY 3:

Professional Name: Dungeonland

Role: Dungeon

City: Poundtown, USA

Website: Dungeonland.com

There are different reasons why your listing might be declined. If this occurs, you will be told specifically why.

Some different reasons might be:

1. You don't have your own website and personal domain. For example, you submit a link to your OnlyFans or your Twitter/X account. Or you have created a free website without personalizing your domain.

2. You don't seem to be very serious or sincere about offering BDSM. This includes a lack of development on your site. Such as info about you, specifics about what you offer*, your protocol, and how to contract you. Sites that just say "I'm a pro Domme and I offer BDSM sessions" do not reflect a professional and serious provider. (*If laws in your jurisdiction prohibit this please indicate so when submitting your request.)

3. You offer escorting in any capacity. This is no judgement whatsoever of escorting, it's just there are several other sites for people who offer these kinds of experiences. Those of us who strictly provide BDSM would like a space that we don't share with those who offer escorting. In part because it tends to bring us the wrong clients, or confuses people about who we are and what we offer.

4. Your site primarily promotes your OnlyFans or similar site.

5. Your site primarily promotes clips.

6. You have characteristics of a fraudulent or scammer site.

I just tell you why it's not approved and then it's up to you to figure that out. Once you do you can make another request.

If you want serious one-on-one help with your website, or other related business support, please see the question below.

Yes! I offer consulting for the BDSM professional or aspiring professional. However, I do not offer this for free. My rate is a jam-packed 30 minutes for 120 or an hour for 200. Areas of support include:

• developing a business plan

• branding

• marketing

• budgeting

• registering a domain

• setting up email using your custom domain

• websites, start to finish (this does not include my doing your site for you)

• tax reporting (this is general advice about how to file/report, not to be replaced by an accountant)

Why me? I'm an established and well-respected Dominatrix often called "one of the best" by my clients, with a track record for success in these areas. I have an educational and professional background in Psychology (with an aptitude in branding and marketing), finance (including tax reporting), and I began doing web sites and development in 1996. I have a lot of knowledge to share with you that will help you shine!

If you're interested, please use the form on the Get Listed page and I'll contact you. Put "consulting" in place of your location. If you don't yet have a domain or website just put "TBD".

You will be contacted once approved with a request for payment and your profile photo. Though I've been getting to the requests very quickly in most cases, please allow up to 72 hours.

Once approved you will be asked to send payment for your listing and a photo. Payment options will be online or a money order in USD.

Once those are received, I will get to it as soon as I'm able. This is usually somewhere between 15 minutes and 12 hours. But in the event I'm busy attending to my own clients, please allow up to 72 hours for your listing to be posted.

For a Standard Listing (the only one offered at this time), the order is determined by those who complete the whole process first. Meaning:

1. Send complete request.

2. Send listing fee.

3. Send photo.

This means that if someone else in your city asks to be listed after you they may end up in the directory first if they send the fee and their photo before you do.

Your photo should meet the following criteria:

1. Square, not rectangular. This means it's roughly the same length and height. If it's not, I will crop it, while trying to maintain the overall integrity of your image.

2. At least 600 pixels on each side.

3. PNG or JPG format.

4. Not heavily compressed

5. Not show you doing something that might be considered legally risky, such as strap-on or forced bi.

It is recommended you watermark your image. Criminals are on the lookout for photos they can steal and use to impersonate a pro Domme so they can scam people. They are less likely to take yours if your name is on it, and even less likely if you include your website.

No, but you do need a photo of yourself. A photo of your spanking bench or pair or shoes will not suffice. You also cannot use a stock photo. If you prefer not to show your face just blur or crop it out.

I can add a watermark to your image for an additional 10 USD. If you add this to your initial fee please DO NOT add the note that it's for watermarking in the memo field. Leave that blank and include the message with your emailed photo.

When you send your photo, tell me what you'd like it to say, such as your professional name or your website (I recommend the latter), and if you would like a particular font. If you don't indicate one, I will select it for you.

If you need to update anything in your profile, just send me an email at the address used to communicate with me about your listing. Please put "Profile Update" in the subject line. I will update it as soon I can. If I'm at the computer, I'll do it right away. If not, I'll do it as soon as I can.

If you're a person who likes to frequently update your photo, I'm pretty flexible, but maybe try to keep it to no more than once a month. If you took a great shot of yourself and you want it updated right away, I get it. Go ahead and send it!