HAPPINESS IS YOUR TRUE NATURE !

Three Day Quote Challenge-Day 3

 

Quotes are like mini books. A few lines convey lot of information and sometimes it is very profound.

DAY 3 QUOTE :

 

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Every one in the world is seeking happiness but it seems to be ever elusive. Are we looking for it in the wrong places and directions? OR Is it that we are confusing happiness with pleasure?

In this day and age when hype and hypocrisy are almost the norm, most often we look for instant gratification. We assume that it will make us happy. We look for constant external stimulation to keep us in perpetual state of happiness and feel overjoyed by the external gratification we receive.  BUT this feeling is short-lived,temporary. We get engulfed and entangled in the ever expanding web of negative pride, false flattery, become trapped in our false identities and exhaust ourselves in the rat race.

And that leads us to the burning question : what causes this?

Most often the problem is the subliminal messages-the mainstream media, the wider culture, society and the marketers beam into our psyche. We become victims of borrowed perceptions. We start believing the fake claims that are made although they are false, contrived and manipulated.  

We live in an overwhelmed world with more than we can handle. We soon become aware of the imperfections of the material world we inhabit.

Let us stop for a few moments, to consider and reflect ! To cast aside illusions and get to the heart of reality. True happiness lies in the satisfaction when we are connected to our inner core, when we are in total sync with our true nature; we have to look within us and ponder deeply. External gratification is only an” Escape Mechanism” from the dissatisfaction and confusion in the deeper recesses of our mind, and that is no match for true happiness.

Let us find some middle ground which is not too idealistic for the real world and search for our corner of eternal, long lasting happiness. I am sure it lies somewhere within each one of us. To recount my own experience, i have had short glimpses of this nectar, at times, during meditations…when time almost stands still, it is a blissful state and i am consciously aware of that moment. I long to revisit that experience again and again…it is so intense. May be this is the stuff which qualifies as true happiness. I am still working my way towards it !

 

What do you think ?  What have your experiences been ? I’m  really interested in knowing, please share !

 

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The Rules Are:

  1.  Post three consecutive days.
  2.  You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3.  Challenge three different bloggers per day.

 

Today,being the last day of the challenge i leave it open to all the bloggers who ever wish to take up this activity. I want to share this wonderful opportunity with all the bloggers in my list.

I sincerely thank Stella from giggles and tales for nominating me !

Dear bloggers- i hope you will take up and enjoy this activity.

Have fun and happy blogging 🙂

 

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Three Day Quote Challenge-Day 2

DAY TWO OF THE QUOTE CHALLENGE

 

Hi friends !

Quotes are like mini books. A few lines convey lot of information and sometimes it is very profound. They are easy to remember and hence follow.I am looking forward to posting quotes and nominating bloggers for this activity.

 

DAY TWO QUOTE :

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IF YOU CAN BELIEVE IT, YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT.

Several great achievers have said that your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words,  your words become your actions, actions become habits, habits become your values and your values ultimately become your destiny.

 Thoughts have lot of power. Many universal laws are based on this premise, like the law of attraction and law of manifestation. When we worry, we use our immense power of thoughts and imagination negatively. WE imagine the worst, and as we imagine it, we invite it to us. When we are positive and excited about something, we imagine the best, we invite the good and the best into our life.

 

I sincerely thank Stella from giggles and tales for nominating me !

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The Rules Are:

  1.  Post three consecutive days.
  2.  You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3.  Challenge three different bloggers per day.

 

My day 2 nominees are the awesome bloggers –

Aesantos

Stacilys

Sheryl

Dear Nominated bloggers please give this activity a try. You’ll love it !

 

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Quote Me

“Let me, O let me bathe my soul in colours !

 

THE DAILY POST- Photo Challenge

VIBRANT

 

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Winters bring along monotony in the nature and surroundings. The resplendent golden sunshine is sorely missed. Heart craves for the vibrant cheer of colourful spring.

I took this pic while decorating the venue for a kids’ birthday party. The different hues of the colourful balloons take me down memory lane to reminisce over memories of wonder filled childhood days.

Hope these colours make winters a little more tolerable 🙂

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Three Day Quote Challenge-Day 1

DAY ONE OF THE QUOTE CHALLENGE

Hi friends !

Quotes are like mini books. A few lines convey lot of information and sometimes it is very profound. They are easy to remember and hence follow.I am looking forward to posting quotes and nominating bloggers for this activity.

I sincerely thank Stella from giggles and tales for nominating me !

 

DAY 1 QUOTE :

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This quote means that one who has no values to stand for can fall for anything. This is so true. I have always believed in this. i have come across several instances in my life where the correctness of this saying was proved beyond doubt.

Our integrity is the most important aspect of our life. It is almost like a foundation,upon which the structure of our life is built. If we can stand true to our values, we can be true to our inner selves. We should stand strong for what we believe in. This helps in building strength of character.

 

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The Rules Are:

  1.  Post three consecutive days.
  2.  You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3.  Challenge three different bloggers per day.

 

My day 1 nominees are:

i m a bloggertoo

lovehappily

small town girl

 

Dear nominated bloggers- i hope you will take up and enjoy this activity.

Have fun and happy blogging 🙂

 

 

 

LOVE IS BETTER WHEN YOU LAUGH TOGETHER!

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“We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh”

~Agnes Repplier

 

 

Laughter or GSOH (Good Sense Of Humor) is a very important ingredient in any close relationship. In matters of the heart, it is more so and cannot be overlooked at any cost.

 

Humor often serves as an ice-breaker. It helps in making two people comfortable with each other. In the starting phase of any romantic relationship, a sense of humor helps a person to relax in the presence of a new person by reducing awkwardness, stress or tension. This results in speeding up the process of closer psychological bonding. A person looks forward to meeting the partner who is jovial and witty in anticipation of good and cheerful times together.

 

Attraction, admiration and appreciation can bring two people together in the beginning but  humor injects new life into the relationship and  ‘keeps’ them together and makes the relationship stable and long-lasting.

 

It is said that ‘A woman will always love a man who makes her laugh’ and rightly so. Seems like women instinctively understand the value of a witty suitor and are hardwired to appreciate humor.

 

When two people can often share a good laugh together, this shows they are intellectually and emotionally on the same page. Also there are no pretensions what so-ever. It means you don’t have to be always on an artificial “alert” mode in the front of your partner but can relax and not hesitate to show your goofy-side sometimes and have fun.

 

The resulting comfortable environment leads to open-hearted, free,uninhibited interactions filled with joy. It helps in bringing the couple closer. Therefore, it is no coincidence that the couples who ‘laugh together’, stay together. They are more accepting of each others’ mistakes and forgive readily.

 

In love relationships, humor also helps to develop trust in the partners as it is noticed that when someone can indulge in impromptu, unplanned sessions of good laughter, this indicates that he is not calculative, not hypocritical or has not put on a false persona. He is not afraid of showing his true nature and self. This builds a lot of trust, which is the most important thing in any relationship. Without it no relationship can move forward or stay stable even if all other positive aspects are over-abundant.

 

The person who enjoys a good laugh is stress-free and helps in bringing the stress level of the other person down. Take lack of humor as ‘red flags’ in any relationship. If your instincts warn you,trust them!

 

Laughter is contagious. The good cheer spreads to the other partner as well, making both partners calm, happy and positive minded. They can make light of virtually every situation. This keeps the relationship fresh and lifts your spirits.

 

When one has a good sense of humor, it often means that the person does not take himself extra seriously and can enjoy the funnier side of life.Humor helps to cope with the ups and downs of worldly existence .

 

On a personal note, I remember there had been this particular difficult phase when I was ill and had to undergo surgery, the continuous good cheer and sense of humor of my partner acted like a soothing balm on my distressed nerves. It helped greatly in keeping the atmosphere light. I was able to cope with the fear and pain in a better way to overcome the challenge with the constant supportive dose of  his witty jokes and one-liners.This helped to divert my mind away from the problem and suffering.

 

There could also be a scientific basis for this as medical research has proven that “Sometimes, just lowering the stress level of the body can help immensely with the perception of pain.” Laughter lowers the stress level and also helps in release of natural pain killers in blood.

 

Based on my experience,I can say-When someone takes care of you with a smile on his face along with musical strains of laughter in his voice, ‘REJOICE’ as this is the greatest gift you will ever receive.

 

It is said that “HAPPINESS isn’t a destination. It is present in the journey.” Any relationship is a journey. Laughter makes this journey much more worthwhile, happy and long-lasting as new bonds are formed and amends are made on the way when you have funny anecdotes to share with each other.

Learning to laugh a little more just may save a relationship and cement it forever.

Keep the punch-lines coming!

 

 

“This post is a part of #LoveAndLaughter activity at BlogAdda in association with Caratlane.”

RELIVING THOSE MOMENTS!

If I Could Turn Back Time

If you could return to the past to relive a part of your life, either to experience the wonderful bits again, or to do something over, which part of you life would you return to? Why? #DailyPrompt

 

Some moments become the most positive influence in our life which we want to revisit again and again.We cherish the lessons and gifts these moments brought us- forever.

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Sometimes unfounded fears are the reasons which stop us from taking those chances that you lament later and revisit those moments once in a while .

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We fail to understand why certain events happened the way they did.We  tend to analyze and over-analyze them looking for some plausible conclusions and reasons even after decades have passed by.

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Was it all really so beautiful as we visualize it in our mind’s eye after ages or is it so only in the illusions we build as a result of filtering mechanism applied to our stock of memories .

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As we grow and become more mature,we are armed with new understanding of issues providing us new view-points.Then, are our interpretations about the past accurate and exact or influenced by selective perceptual defense mechanism.Thus presenting before us the rosy visions we want to imagine?

Perhaps yes ; Perhaps no!

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If I Could Turn Back Time

From Despair to Hope- An Insightful Experience

It was the first day of the last month of the year 2015. The sky was heavily cast; it had been raining intermittently over the past few weeks. The previous month had seen 17 days straight of rain much more than the normal. No one in Chennai was in a mood to welcome anymore rains.

 

The sun seemed to be trapped behind the strong shadows of heavily laden clouds ever trying to break free and smile with its sunshine.

The rain which had started as a drizzle in the morning hours soon turned into a heavy downpour, gaining more vigour by each passing hour. By afternoon, the constant rain had caused water-logging on most roads and parts of the city. Unprecedented rain brought the city to a halt. Evening saw the rain literally crashing down from the skies with unforeseen rage and fury.

 

The rain that started on December 1 continued till December 2. By midnight land in more than 4km radius around the Adyar River, which flows through the heart of Chennai had got submerged under water. The situation was similar in most other parts of the city, especially near the overflowing lakes, ponds, and rivulets. The excessive rain caught many unaware, asleep and helpless. It became a struggle to stay afloat and safe.

 

Power and communication networks were down as most power stations were inundated with water. The only sources of information were the humble radio sets. Rain had broken 100 years record in those 24 hours. It was a dreadful night. Sound of raindrops had always been very soothing and calming to me, but the rain that night may have permanently ruined it for me. After the non-stop 24 hours, sound of the rain which was always musical for me, felt like harsh lashes on my eardrums. I had never seen rain in such a furious form. It was no doubt nature in one of its angriest moods.

 

Thousands of people were stranded, flights and trains were cancelled, streets were water-logged, flooded hospitals had to be evacuated, many lost all their belongings and had to move to temporary shelters. The destruction around was scary, painful and demoralizing. Normal life as we know it was totally thrown out of gear – No power, communication, drinking water, milk, food, fuel supply, lives lost, homes flooded, people stranded. Some had to gather themselves on the rooftops to save themselves from the raging water below.

There was a sense of gloom and despair all around brought about by nature’s fury. The rain darkened not only the city of Chennai, but also the hopes of its people.

 

But soon, the helplessness and despair gave way to courage and determination.

On the brighter side, nature’s most furious form brought the most humane side of Chennaites to the fore. People came together in most commendable ways- the Hindus, Muslims, Christians, rich, poor, north or south Indian all came together to help their fellow beings. The citizens rose like a phoenix from the ashes (here, water) to face the challenge.

 

Instead of waiting for outside help from administration or other sources and wasting critical time, almost everyone started doing their individual share by providing shelter, food, water, clothes, and medicines to neighbours, even strangers to save lives. Everyone worked with single-minded vision to help and rescue those who were suffering and needed help. The volunteers worked hard to reach those in need. The emotion of selfless service and compassion kept them moving in-spite of the bruises, cuts and swollen feet caused by being in stagnated dirty water for 18-20 hours. The youth of the city came out in large numbers to help; they risked their own lives to fulfill the call of their conscience.

 

All boundaries of religion, caste, wealth, or language were broken by the spirit of humanity. People were offered shelter and food in temples, mosques, and churches without any discrimination or bias. Regular people offered food and shelter to strangers they had never known before the calamity.

I can recount one such incident myself.

When we had only a litre of drinking water left, a neighbourhood grocer who had already run out of stock somehow managed to procure a can of water and provided it to us at 10pm in night, that too at the normal cost. He was not bound by any duty except humanity. He did not discriminate in helping even though we were North Indians or did not speak his language.

 

As a society, Chennaites came together and stood united to face the worst rains of the century. People who had networks helped others by contacting rescue teams and mass mobilizing relief efforts through social media groups. Relief camps saw common people in huge numbers coming out to volunteer for any help; forgetting and overcoming their own struggles, loss and misery.

 

It was the common unknown citizens who turned out to be the real heroes because they were able to overcome adversities and show courage. Their helping and self less ‘never-say-die’ spirit needs to be saluted.

 

The overriding all – encompassing emotion was of brotherhood and oneness of all, desire to help fellow brethren. The Only incentive was contentment and satisfaction in their hearts. At the end of the day, we are all humans with the inherent goodness in each one of us.

Some great stories of courage, humanity, selflessness and altruism were presented before the world during these times, which will forever keep us encouraging and give us hope in the coming future.

In today’s world, when we more often hear the stories of hate, violence, intolerance, greed, this display of generosity and compassion is highly reassuring and worth emulating for everyone.

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Personally, this was a learning and very inspiring experience for me. Few of the practical lessons I will always remember from 2015 are:

1] To be resilient, adaptive, brave and face all struggles and challenges in life with courage and determination. My confidence to fight adversities has increased by learning from these brave hearts.

2] My hope for a better world has amplified. All is not gloomy. There still are good souls around us who care and have empathy for others. Let us all strive to encourage and increase this tribe.

3] My trust in fellow humans in my city increased manifold, thus helping to enhance the sense of safety and security I feel here. There is an assurance that I am surrounded by some good humans who will help if the need arises and not remain mute spectators. This also encourages me to do whatever I can for the benefit of the society.

4] To be optimistic. Even in the most difficult circumstances, one should not let negative thinking shatter one’s confidence and hope, leading to impaired judgement. In such times, keep yourself occupied in some constructive activity. Negative thoughts overpower us when our mind is vacant. You can overcome all difficulties and emerge victorious in life. Never give up hope. You can do it!

5] Respect nature. No one can mess with nature. We have to replan the infrastructure and stop the illegal construction which is wrecking havoc on natural water bodies. We all have to learn to live in harmony with nature. It is now not a matter of choice but urgent need and the only way ahead.

6] Not to have any sense of false pride or conceit. In front of Mother Nature’s fury, all were equally helpless. All the material possession or luxuries can’t give any true happiness and contentment compared to the satisfaction received by helping others. We should strive to remain connected with our inner core which carries the inherent goodness called the ‘divine spark’ in spiritual parlance, because what ultimately helped us to surmount all difficulties and overcome the devastating event were the collective basic human values.

I look forward to 2016 with renewed trust and hope for a better world where we all can co-exist peacefully in harmony with nature.

“I’m sharing my #TalesOf2015 with BlogAdda.”

 

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Useful Tips To Keep Baby’s Skin Healthy And Safe !

Look who’s talking??

(A baby advising his mom)

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Hi ! Mommy,as you already know it’s been only a few weeks since I have arrived and I am still trying to adjust to this outside world.It is so different from the comfortable,safe and quiet environment  I was in for nine months.

There is too much noise and light.It seems so strange and weird at times.But I am slowly learning to adjust and to enjoy it all.

I really love it when you smile at me with so much love in your eyes and the way you care for all my little or not so little needs-be it food ,sleep,clothing even at the most unearthly hours.I can feel how precious  I am to you and how much importance you give to my comfort,safety and happiness.

Mom! I enjoy a lot when you give me a body massage with the lukewarm oil.I am sure you have checked that this oil is safe for babies’ skin and is suitable according to the climate or region.The massage is so soothing .It increases the blood circulation in my body and will thereby help in making me and my bones strong and healthy.The oil makes my skin so smooth and shiny.I also sleep blissfully after a nice massage.

I know you use only natural baby friendly soaps and body washes while giving bath to me.It is even better if they are organic as well.The chemicals in low quality synthetic soaps can be too harsh for my sensitive skin which can cause dryness and itchiness as the chemicals can strip off the natural oils from my skin.These chemicals can be harmful to my body systems if absorbed through my skin,as the skin also acts like a sponge.

Please don’t forget to apply a good quality baby moisturiser to my skin after the bath.This helps to maintain the hydration of the top layer of my skin and thus helps my skin to be soft and glowing.Don’t let me play in water for too long as water can rob off the natural oils off my skin.

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Sometimes,when you make me wear new clothes I become very restless and agitated.You too become very anxious and worried on seeing me in such a bad mood.Do you know what troubles me ?It is those clothes that are not comfortable at all as the fabric is not soft and it causes lot of irritation on my skin.Always make sure that the material of my clothes is ultra soft and preferably natural like cotton, as my skin is still so delicate.Wash even the brand new clothes before use.

Use only gentle natural liquid soaps to wash my clothes as the chemical in other detergents can be harmful to my skin.My clothes should always be clean and hygienic to keep disease causing germs at bay and ensure proper skin care and overall good  health.

And mumma,you know what i hate the most?

It is being stranded helplessly in a wet or ill-fitting diaper.The worst part is I cannot even properly communicate my discomfort and uneasiness to you.I can only cry and howl to gain your attention and eagerly hope that you’all understand my misery soon enough and rescue me from the unease.

I know how my screaming drives you mad at times! So please be extra careful and cautious in selecting the correct diaper.

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Look for these points while choosing the right diaper:-

a)It  should be made of highly absorbent material so as provide optimum dryness for the longest time.The humid environment can result in skin infections.It should be super soft to feel comfortable enough even when wearing it for long time.

b)The diaper should be of proper shape,designed according to the shape of my body and it should fit me perfectly.The sides of the diaper should be stretchable,thereby providing maximum comfort and be easily wearable.

Too tight diapers which do not fit properly can cause redness and rashes on my skin.This is very uncomfortable and results in me being very cranky.You may find me difficult to handle in such a situation.Mommy you can consult my   pediatrician and apply the rash cream  recommended by the doctor ,to soothe my agitated skin area.

c)Select a diaper which has wetness indicator.This will help you to conveniently notice as soon as the diaper is wet.Thus it can be changed without any delay.This will ensure dryness and proper hygiene to keep skin problems away.

Following the above mentioned tips will make my skin healthy and I will remain a happy and content baby.Hence ensuring your happiness as well !

Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is#SoftestForBabySkin and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy. ”

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