Hi friends and readers,

During a previous session with my therapist, we talked about expectations. If I didn’t take my life coaching program before, I might have to go through a longer process in learning about expectations. However, there is a topic in the life coaching program that touched on happiness and expectations. To summarize, having expectations without managing them can result in a lot of negative feelings and thoughts. At least, that is what happened to me. So, I’ve learned to let go or manage my expectations.

Of course, it sounds ridiculous to a certain extent by not having expectations, especially in a certain expect in life such as health, finance, and future plans. In a way, the first step would be to understand which is under our control and not. Living a healthier life is under our control but not the changes that happened in molecular level that will affect our health. Having a budget and managing our expenses is under our control but not having an accident or having an emergency that needs money. Nothing wrong in making plans for your life like going to the university we want, travel or whatsoever but it doesn’t mean the plan will always go our way. It’s not only about balance but acceptance as well.

How do I manage my own expectations?

Personally, I can manage my own expectations upon the things that I want and towards myself. There is no need to beat myself too much for something that is beyond my control. Of course, it is a whole process that I have to go through. For example, going to an event but it was raining. I had a plan but cancelled it at the last minute. It sucks but it’s how I rewire my thoughts about it.

Yes, it was raining at the same time, I found joy to be in the rain. The canceled plan means I have more time for myself. It’s not just about being positive but the thoughts came naturally. It’s like, you accept that things don’t go the way you want them, then you just think about how to make the best out of it. In whatever situation. Slowly it becomes a way of life.

It leads to living the moment of now

I think one of the biggest beliefs that leads me after I manage my expectations is it helps me to live in the now. Experiencing to live the moment helps me to stay true to the things that deserve my priority and attention. It helps me to focus as well. I lived yesterday and there’s nothing I can do to change anything that happened. Tomorrow is something that I can never be guaranteed by. I might not even have tomorrow.

The biggest asset that I have is today. Today, I can start to plan. Today, I can take my first step. Today, I can take action. Today is where the magic happens!

PS: Pardon me for any jumbling words or sentences in this post. I just got back from work and I’m trying to steal a little bit of my time to share these thoughts.

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