I’m rather disappointed with a lot of people (especially women) that I know. They have spent the last few days on social media discussing how “People are overacting.” or “All rights for all humans are the same as rights for Native Americans, Disabled Americans, LGBTQA+ Americans, Americans of Color, etc.” or “Yeah, Trump said gross stuff - but not to a woman’s face.” or “Women are just as horrible as Trump. They talk about one another all the time.” or “I wouldn’t be caught dead at a march. Those women can’t think for themselves.”
And I just kept thinking: “What am I seeing that they aren’t?” What are people seeing that I’m not seeing? And then, it hit me:
The people I personally know, who are saying the things above, all have certain things in common. These people (especially the women) are - and they would never admit it - are VERY privileged. They are all white (or half-white), their husbands are white, their husbands have great paying jobs, those that do not have spouses are college dropouts who have bounced around, none of these people have mental or physical disabilities or illnesses, they are all straight, and - for the past eight years (aside from maybe having to pay a fine for not having health care) - they have had fairly nice lives. They have worked (or their husbands have been steadily employed), they have bought homes, they have had children, and they have traveled.
The people I personally know who are worried and who have been taking actions - spreading articles, marching, donating to Planned Parenthood, etc. These people all have things in common, too. Many are POC,some are disabled or mentally ill, some have disabled or mentally ill family members, some have spouses in the military, many have family members with terminal illnesses, all are hardworking people, who have had a good eight years. They have worked, they have bought homes, they have had children, and they have traveled.
I am a white woman. I am physically disabled (Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy). I have all kinds of abuse in my past. I have a close family member with a terminal illness. HOWEVER, I understand that, though I have difficulties, I have had a decent life. I have had privileges that others have not.
That is why I am angry and disappointed in so many women I know. I want to fight to keep the rights we have gotten over the last few years/decades. I don’t want them to go away. And, I want those that aren’t as privileged as me to get the rights I’ve always had - and to keep the rights they have fought for.
What’s that old saying? “When they came for the others, I stayed quiet. When they came for me, there was no one to speak for me.” Something like that.
Will the people (especially the women) I know, who are all saying people are overreacting, feel the same way when they no longer have healthcare? When their children get crap public education? When they and their families are drinking dirty water and breathing in smog? Is that when these people will finally react? Because, by then it may be too late.