Pleasure, Gbro. Understanding this can lift an enormous weight off our shoulders. Before I grasped it I went nuts over the fact I could not understand why someone would do "that," whatever "that" was. Someone doing something as mundane as cutting in line on the road or at a store would make me go nuts. Now, now knowing "that alkie is doing what alkies do," allows me to easily let go. (Non-NTs would have an easier time of it without understanding, but NTs have a need to understand, and I'm one of those.)
Parents and governments are the biggest enablers, which makes helping alcoholics find their bottom challenging at best.
Pleasure, Gbro. Understanding this can lift an enormous weight off our shoulders. Before I grasped it I went nuts over the fact I could not understand why someone would do "that," whatever "that" was. Someone doing something as mundane as cutting in line on the road or at a store would make me go nuts. Now, now knowing "that alkie is doing what alkies do," allows me to easily let go. (Non-NTs would have an easier time of it without understanding, but NTs have a need to understand, and I'm one of those.)
Parents and governments are the biggest enablers, which makes helping alcoholics find their bottom challenging at best.