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Getting Shit Done Personal Growth

Attended The Yearly Bento

RSVPed Attending The Yearly Bento (2020/2021) – The Bento Society

A new annual tradition: the yearly Bento. A deep experience where we unpack the year that past and plan the year to come.

Reflecting on 2020, looking ahead to 2021:

  • What happened in 2020, month by month?
  • What themes or patterns stand out?
  • What did you learn in 2020?
  • Who were the key people in your life in 2020?
  • Picture that it’s a year in the future and everything has gone your way, even better than you could have imagined. What does that look like?
  • What needs to be true about you to make that future come true?
  • What needs to be true about the people in your life for that to happen?

After all this reflection, we had to explain the conclusions we drew to two strangers and talk about each of us for ten minutes. It was a really helpful part of the exercise. Then that got translated into the Bento format, which I’m still not 100% sure I understand.

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Romance Science Fiction

Read Deal with the Devil

Read Deal with the Devil (Mercenary Librarians, #1)

Nina is an information broker with a mission–she and her team of mercenary librarians use their knowledge to save the hopeless in a crumbling America.

Knox is the bitter, battle-weary captain of the Silver Devils. His squad of supersoldiers went AWOL to avoid slaughtering innocents, and now he’s fighting to survive.

They’re on a deadly collision course, and the passion that flares between them only makes it more dangerous. They could burn down the world, destroying each other in the process…

Or they could do the impossible: team up.

I love the premise of this story more than the actual telling. It was a little slow paced for me — I think the road trip format locked them into a less than ideal episodic format where basically every chapter is them stopping for the evening. Surprisingly a lot happened considering the format, so maybe it happened so quickly it didn’t mean that much? Speeding through them made them feel more utilitarian to the story than they needed to be?

I didn’t especially like the random scattered POVs from the other team members.

I don’t understand what her job was or how she made money off of it if she kept the information she bought rather than selling it on.

That said, I was delighted enough by the optimistic tone that I’ll probably read another book in the series. I really liked having a main character who is so active in trying to do good and build community (even if that was more tell than show since we didn’t really see their interactions with the community). This felt quite different from any other dystopian book I’ve read.

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Writing

NaNoWriMo 2021: Day Fifteen

Took a bye today and read a book instead of finishing writing my own book 😉

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Uncategorized

Five Books

Bookmarked Five Books by Five Books (Five Books)

If you’re looking for the best books on any topic, Five Books has the world’s largest collection of expert book recommendations.

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House

Non-toxic flooring options

Bookmarked Guide to Non-Toxic Flooring 2023 – My Chemical-Free House by Corinne Segura (mychemicalfreehouse.net)

Natural low-VOC, zero-VOC, and formaldehyde-free flooring options. Non-toxic laminate, vinyl, tile, engineered wood, carpet.

It may be time soon to rip up our gross carpet… I want cork but hadn’t considered the binders in it or the coating… 🤔 May also need to recarpet the stairs — wood treads are so loud 🫤 Wonder if a dark color would hide dirt or if it would instantly get spotted with tracked cat litter 😕

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Romance

Read Love is a Rogue

Read Love Is a Rogue (Wallflowers vs. Rogues, #1) by Lenora Bell

Once upon a time in Mayfair, a group of wallflowers formed a secret society with goals that had absolutely nothing to do with matrimony. …

I have read the books that came before this but only had a very loose recollection of the characters and even less the plots. I seem to recall liking them better than this one. I did like it, but found the heroine a bit grating at first and the ending a bit too pat.

Theoretically a gender swapped Beauty and the Beast but seemed pretty mild except for the housekeepers who were very thinly veiled Mrs. Potts and Cogsworth.

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Romance

Read How to be a Wallflower

Read How to Be a Wallflower (Would-Be Wallflowers, #1)

Miss Cleopatra Lewis is about to be launched in society by her aristocratic grandfather. But since she has no intention of marrying, she visits a costume emporium specifically to order unflattering dresses guaranteed to put off any prospective suitors.

Powerful and charismatic Jacob Astor Addison is in London, acquiring businesses to add to his theatrical holdings in America—as well as buying an emerald for a young lady back in Boston. He’s furious when a she-devil masquerading as an English lady steals Quimby’s Costume Emporium from under his nose.

Jake strikes a devil’s bargain, offering to design her “wallflower wardrobe” and giving Cleo the chance to design his. Cleo can’t resist the fun of clothing the rough-hewn American in feathers and flowers. And somehow in the middle of their lively competition, Jake becomes her closest friend.

It isn’t until Cleo becomes the toast of all society that Jake realizes she’s stolen his fiercely guarded heart. But unlike the noblemen at her feet, he doesn’t belong in her refined and cultured world.

Caught between the demands of honor and desire, Jake would give up everything to be with the woman he loves—if she’ll have him!

This took me a little bit to get into, then I enjoyed the middle, but the heroine really bugged me at the end. The clothing contest was funny. I liked the hero once he decided to pursue the heroine, he came across a bit misogynist in the opening scene. Lol that he quit the family business of opium trade for moral outrage but had no problem with the fur trade 🙃

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Websites

Personal website conventions in the East versus the West

Bookmarked Browsing the Eastern Side of the Personal Web by Biko (bikobatanari.art)

This got me curious then: how differently do people over in the East Asian sphere (primarily Japan) handle personal websites compared to the West? Since the Personal Web and its culture in the West at this current time is heavily influenced by social media culture and the people coming from those spaces (for better or worse), I wondered how the differences in culture would impact the mindset between webmasters in the East versus webmasters in the West.

Fascinating deep dive into the differences in approach people take on their personal websites in the West compared with Japanese Neocities pages. The resistance to being linked to is a marked difference that contrasts with the typical IndieWeb philosophy, which invites linking as a means of conversation via Webmention.

Bookmark syndicated to IndieNews

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Business The Internet

Weird online money stuff

STOP THE COMMENTS!!!!! On brands commenting down below and meditating on work and life balances. by Kyle Raymond Fitzpatrick

Showing up in the comments, as a person or a brand, is an opportunity to express politics, humor, services: it’s all a means to steal attention, walking into someone else’s wedding, wearing a white dress with a blue checkmark. For many videos, this behavior places a great burden on regular people, whose non-influencer, personal social media becomes a public forum for commercialization. Conversation dissolves into B2B marketing: the comments section is an expression of the panopticon, that brands are truly always watching, that your phone really is listening all the time. Ads follow you, right into your comments, leeching out the fun for profit… You are not a person: you are potential ad space.

If a brand commented on my website I would delete it. It still makes work for me but at least I could get rid of the garbage.

See also: Performing yourself on social media

Investing commercial products with personal meaning, building identity through brands

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A glitch in the matrix of online shopping; Or: why I reverse-image-search before buying anything by Caitlin Dewey

As furniture and home goods sales have moved online, retail experts told me, more and more stores have sought a piece of the action. But instead of sourcing or creating their own products, many large retailers have relied on overlapping networks of manufacturers, distributors and third-party sellers — creating a baffling (and frankly, shady) shopping environment where many sites sell identical or near-identical items under different names and at wildly different prices.

As a consumer, it’s often difficult to tell whether you’re shopping with the retailer you typed into the address bar … or another, semi-anonymous third-party seller. The brand name rarely clarifies matters, since brands have lost all meaning in the age of Amazon: Is “Evelyn & Zoe” a Walmart line, sourced by professional buyers in Arkansas? Or are “Evelyn & Zoe” the kids of some anonymous drop-shipper reselling lamps sourced from Alibaba?

See also: Carcinization of the built and visual environment

The Homogeneity of Millenial Design

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Could we really pay off each others’ debt? by Joshua P. Hill

“The “new GoFundMe” is how Business Insider describes one of TikTok’s latest trends, where millions of people are watching thousands of videos in an effort to pay off people’s debt.”

One of the hardest things in organizing towards a better future is acknowledging that just because something is good doesn’t mean it’s enough.

See also:

“Audience commodity”

A society subservient to the market

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Meta The Internet Websites Writing

A decentered argument as website

This whole website nicely complements what I was contemplating recently about blogs.

Some relevant pages:

The bookness of books

Toward a nonlinear essay

You won’t find an instruction manual for writing a nonlinear essay in any of the pieces in this collection. And you won’t find a full argument for writing differently in any single piece, either. But my hope is that both of those things will arise out of the whole collection.

On the virtues of hypertext

In other words, the links matter more than the text.

Brown contrasts the glories of the hypertext web with the relative order of the the social media feed. The feed corrals the unkempt wildness of the web and organizes it all into a nice little stream, filtering out all the noise…